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I don't think I'm going down a good path 1
#26903371 - 08/28/20 12:47 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was kicked out of my mothers house when I was 16. Been in and out of the mental hospital totaling over 4 months of being a prisoner I mean patient. Lost all friends and family Can't seem to find a permenant place of living. Moving out tomorrow AGAIN super nervous drinking again i drink a lot usually vodka. I just pay my friend to get me absolute vodka and he thinks im weird for drinking it straight out of the bottle and sometimes i get called a drunkerd but im only 18. Any suggestions?
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 8
#26903376 - 08/28/20 01:00 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Stop drinking.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: koraks]
#26903382 - 08/28/20 01:04 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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no. drinking is an essential action that humans need to partake in for them to survive and reproduce.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 4
#26903387 - 08/28/20 01:07 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lets break things down 1 by 1.
1. First off, drinking wont fix any of your problems. Are you addicted to drinking or are you drinking just because? Genuinely, if you stopped drinking right now, would you have physical withdrawals or are you just drinking in the last couple weeks because you're depressed/anxious?
I'm not saying you should just abstain from all drugs/alcohol for the rest of your life, but maybe consider drinking to socialize occasionally instead of doing it to drown out your emotions. You can see that it's not doing you any favors, but continue to drink heavily despite that. After one or two drinks many people tend to lose impulse control and that's when you start drinking too much.
You're friend is right. You'll meet plenty of people who can outdrink you, but drinking straight from the bottle changes the game for the vast majority of people. There's no control, there's no measuring, no ceremony to it. You're not sipping, you're more likely to go overboard and blackout or develop a real addiction to it.
Would you be incredibly burdened by not drinking for a month while you figure your shit out? Answer that and act accordingly.
2. Why are you having issues finding a permanent place to live? Are you not paying rent? Difficulty getting along with roommates? Or are you couchsurfing? What is the cause for moving out?
3. What are you doing for work?
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 3
#26903388 - 08/28/20 01:08 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: no. drinking is an essential action that humans need to partake in for them to survive and reproduce.
You're hardly surviving and aren't in a good position to reproduce currently. Real talk.
Edited by PatrickKn (08/28/20 01:09 AM)
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 3
#26903393 - 08/28/20 01:19 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: no. drinking is an essential action that humans need to partake in for them to survive and reproduce.
Bullshit and you know it. Drinking isn't helping you at all. You asked for advice; putting down the bottle is the obvious first step.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: koraks]
#26903406 - 08/28/20 02:03 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have to move out because I am renting from a friend right now who then rents from the owner. She is officially moving out at the end of the month so I have to as well because there is another person who is going to rent here next month. She isn't living here but is at her parents so I just paid her to stay here instead of going through the owner pretty much. I honestly wouldn't mind if I didn't have alcohol for a month or even two months, it's just something I do when I can. When I do drink though I drink a lot and I have no problem with drinking an entire bottle and sometimes even two entire 1140ml vodka bottles but that only happens maybe 2-3 times a year. I don't work either, the government pays me and I have a couple grand saved up for first and last months rent and emergencies and stuff like that
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam]
#26903407 - 08/28/20 02:04 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's mostly my parents fault for the abuse when I was younger and still to this day but more mentally and not physically. I wish I was normal but sadly it just isn't that way and I've come to accept that now.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 1
#26903428 - 08/28/20 02:51 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: I have to move out because I am renting from a friend right now who then rents from the owner.
Too easy. Wasn't a permanent setup from the beginning. Find a more permanent setup.
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Kelazam said: I honestly wouldn't mind if I didn't have alcohol for a month or even two months, it's just something I do when I can. When I do drink though I drink a lot and I have no problem with drinking an entire bottle and sometimes even two entire 1140ml vodka bottles but that only happens maybe 2-3 times a year.
As you get older it takes your body longer to break alcohol down, and your tolerance decreases with time. You might be able to take a whole bottle or two now and think you're the shit because of it, but getting into the habit just because you can isn't going to end well. Have worked at a brain injury care facility many years ago and there was a dude there in his 30s who drank a bottle of tequila in one night and gave himself lifelong brain damage because of it to the point that he needed to live in a nursing facility long term.
Even if you don't drink everyday and it's only a few times a year that you go crazy, any time you drink to blackout you're doing minor damage that makes your body less able to withstand damage the next time you drink heavily.
Just food for thought. You're not missing out on any spectacular experiences by not drinking the whole bottle. Drinking is much more enjoyable if you can have a couple drinks and enjoy yourself instead of getting sloppy and regretting it the next day. When I was younger I'd do the same with the binge drinking until drinking to sloppiness became a regular habit. I stopped drinking and doing all drugs for a whole year at one point, and started exercising regularly and sleeping good, and all my habits were reset and more maintainable afterwards.
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I don't work either, the government pays me
School, disability, COVID?
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: PatrickKn] 2
#26903432 - 08/28/20 03:01 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dudes 18, has a couple thousand dollars and thinks he has it bad. People out here about to turn 28, 38, 48 ect and they worse off than you. You have years not to be in this situation again. Take my advice and stay off drugs and alcohol. You are guranteed to fail if you are abusing them.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Shiithead]
#26903439 - 08/28/20 03:11 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quit drinking for awhile if you quit All together it be better But just take a long break try and patch up your life a bit only social drink don’t drink alone
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 1
#26903474 - 08/28/20 04:40 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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You need perspective. It's been two years of your life and you're letting that make you feel like you've failed or something. It's two years. You're still a child to most of us. You're not even a complete adult yet, you're not an adult adult until 25-30.. that's perspective. You have all the time in the world to better yourself and your life. I'm serious. You're supposed to be finding yourself right now. Don't you think that's the point in the thread anyway?
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam] 2
#26903484 - 08/28/20 04:53 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: It's mostly my parents fault for the abuse when I was younger and still to this day but more mentally and not physically. I wish I was normal but sadly it just isn't that way and I've come to accept that now.
There comes a point in a person's life when they have to stop making excuses. I always cringe when adults say shit like this. Yeah our pasts define us but as grown humans we walk our own path. That means you have to let go of the idea that someone "fucked you up" and embrace the idea that it's your fault if you don't correct it. See how one lives in the past and the other looks forward to the future?
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam]
#26903613 - 08/28/20 07:11 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: no. drinking is an essential action that humans need to partake in for them to survive and reproduce.
Not if it's killing you.
You're 18. That's a good age to quit self-destructive habits before they get any worst.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: I AM SWIM] 1
#26903629 - 08/28/20 07:25 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: It's mostly my parents fault for the abuse when I was younger and still to this day but more mentally and not physically. I wish I was normal but sadly it just isn't that way and I've come to accept that now.
There comes a point in a person's life when they have to stop making excuses. I always cringe when adults say shit like this. Yeah our pasts define us but as grown humans we walk our own path. That means you have to let go of the idea that someone "fucked you up" and embrace the idea that it's your fault if you don't correct it. See how one lives in the past and the other looks forward to the future?
Yep, the blame game is a rough game, you always lose. One must learn to forgive and stop blaming when your responsibilities are your own. I am a person from a single parent household (mom) and she wasn't the best, but I got over it and stopped blaming her for my decisions. Drinking that much now without much repercussion seems like a good idea, but later on you'll regret it and not in a good way. You are headed down a hard rocky road and you have time to get back on track.
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Shiithead said: Dudes 18, has a couple thousand dollars and thinks he has it bad. People out here about to turn 28, 38, 48 ect and they worse off than you. You have years not to be in this situation again. Take my advice and stay off drugs and alcohol. You are guranteed to fail if you are abusing them.
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Kelazam said: no. drinking is an essential action that humans need to partake in for them to survive and reproduce.
Bullshit and you know it. Drinking isn't helping you at all. You asked for advice; putting down the bottle is the obvious first step.
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Kelazam said: no. drinking is an essential action that humans need to partake in for them to survive and reproduce.
Not if it's killing you.
You're 18. That's a good age to quit self-destructive habits before they get any worst.

Plus, you were 15 when you registered?!
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: I AM SWIM] 3
#26903633 - 08/28/20 07:27 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Do you have a case worker? Look into mental health of America, or an organization like that. Someone who can help you get your shit together. You need to get on the list for section 8, or some other housing subsidy program, otherwise you will be stuck couchsurfing. There are programs out there to help people on disability, your disability money on its own will not generally be enough to survive on. Stop drinking too, at least untill you find some footing, it's just going to slow down your progress.
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam]
#26903649 - 08/28/20 07:45 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kelazam said: I was kicked out of my mothers house when I was 16. Been in and out of the mental hospital totaling over 4 months of being a prisoner I mean patient. Lost all friends and family Can't seem to find a permenant place of living. Moving out tomorrow AGAIN super nervous drinking again i drink a lot usually vodka. I just pay my friend to get me absolute vodka and he thinks im weird for drinking it straight out of the bottle and sometimes i get called a drunkerd but im only 18. Any suggestions?
Change path
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26903665 - 08/28/20 08:01 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Plus, you were 15 when you registered?!
Oh snap

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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Kelazam]
#26903667 - 08/28/20 08:03 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: I don't think I'm going down a good path [Re: Niffla] 1
#26903677 - 08/28/20 08:10 AM (3 years, 4 months ago) |
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You are 18. You are still being flooded with all kinds of cool chemicals. It's your life, you can do whatever you want but this is what I would do:
1. Stop drinking a lot(you can still drink or whatever just do it in moderation)
2. Start looking for ANY job. Fuck pride if you need money NOW then start applying.
3. Fuck the government.
4. Get a vehicle if you do not have one already. You can find a beater that will still get you from point A to point B for under a grand.
5. Look on the bright side of things because being down all the time literally will do nothing for you.....and quite frankly is annoying to everyone else.
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