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Explaining Sex To Children 1
#26886645 - 08/18/20 12:28 PM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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I specifically would like to hear from parents-
When and how do you tell a child about their sexuality? Does it depend on the individual's maturity level? Something you allow and expect the school system to address? Perhaps there are varying degrees of when and what you explain, depending on age/mental aptitude?
How do you feel about your kids playing with a doll that has a button where the vagina would be, that makes excitement noises when pressed?
https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/511106-hasbro-pulls-trolls-doll-over-complaints-of-inappropriate https://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/26112572/fpart/71/vc/1#26112572
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I told my kids they used to live in my balls and got shot out my dick (like a slide) into mamma's belly 
We try and be honest about everything
Didnt really count on them repeating the story to our old lady neighbor in the elevator the next day, but whatever
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: Tripsurfer]
#26887270 - 08/18/20 06:35 PM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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My old man took me on a drive past the cow pastures to explain the differences in gender but not the process or outcome to 4-5 yr old me. After some time of hearing both parents regretting their choice to have a baby I put it together that 2 humans doing that is how i was made as opposed to what I genuinely believed for years I deposited out of a nightmare into reality.
Def wouldn't leave it entirely up to the school. I was lucky to have some insightful teachers, but also got some useless ones. I think the most important lessons were on harmonious relationships and understanding contraceptive options, as opposed to this is a peen, this is vajeen as the whole curriculum year after year
The toy sounds horrendous. Get that kid some legos or something more creative.
Also for sure give them the stranger danger talk before letting them go out alone. I grew up in an very affluent neighborhood in a capital city and would get harassed by creeps in vans looking for "help finding their dog" or "just wanna give you a ride to school/whereever" type shit on my way to school and to parks. Creepy fucking teachers too. I was lucky in that i assumed all adults got off smacking/isolating kids anyways, just learned in a different way than verbal communication.
TLDR: take time and attention to educate your kid what is normal and to be aware of danger and how to avoid it, and to voice up when facing difficulties. As opposed to what my folks did, punishing the kid for being curious about anything and not wanting take the time to explain anything, leading to a kid/person that doesnt know much and doesnt like asking questions.
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: Shroomigan]
#26887288 - 08/18/20 06:48 PM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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Just deliberately forget a vanilla porn vid on your laptop and let your kids walk in the room once you're not there.
They'll figure it out.
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I find the whole 'C'mon kids, lets go and have a talk about the birds and the bees' thing cringey as fuck.
They way I've done it is just be really open with my kids when they ask a question, and that goes for anything not just sex. It inevitably comes up, and when it does, I'll answer any questions they have. I tend to probe them a bit during the conversation, get them to explain it to me, correct their mistakes and elaborate a bit.
Imo doing it this way makes it more organic and less weird for them. I don't want to just drop a huge awkward bomb in their laps and then run off.
Kids have the internet these days, so if you think they're ready for the talk, chances are they were ready a few years ago.
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: brk]
#26887503 - 08/18/20 09:25 PM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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I just plan sex with my wife so that my kid walks in on us. It asserts dominance and teaches sex.
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It's all about finding the right time. Some kids know about Santa pretty young, I think I was 6 or so when I found out. They didn't actually talk to me about it for years. Which is mostly normal but if they had just paid attention and talked to me they would have known. But I think for a lot of kids 10 seems to be pretty average or at least a cutoff for when Santa starts disappearing. And I think that's important because it kind of parallels these "things I'm not telling you" and how kids pick things up over time. Personally I caught my parents. Doing it and putting the Santa presents out. But a lot of kids hear stuff. When I first heard the word "humping" and the ensuing conversation, I was in line at school, I think I was in grade 1 or even kindergarten. I remember the kid's face and his "OH YEAH YOU DONT KNOW ABOUT HUMPING???" attitude. but I didn't really *know, know* until probably idk fucking 10-11. Like you get an idea, and then you find porn and

And I think because of that, you want to just kind of drip feed them information. Little bits at a time just satiating curiosities and teaching them stuff like about animals. I think if a kid is smart enough they mostly fit this stuff together on their own. It's just about finding the right time and not saying too much
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Quote:
birdeatingspider said: How do you feel about your kids playing with a doll that has a button where the vagina would be, that makes excitement noises when pressed?
A good friend of mine works for Hasbro on the call center. She told me about this. Amazing the amount of vitriol that's come from consumers on this one.
A definite marketing gaff, that's for sure, but does it really seem that it's sinister?
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That's just it, why in the fuck would it not be noticed and moved to the most obvious place, like the fucking BACK of the doll? Seems really really weird.
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The official explanation is that the button is not meant to be pushed with a finger.
It's supposed to activate when the doll is put in a seated position. Oversight for sure, but possibly inocuous.
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: natedawgnow]
#26888145 - 08/19/20 10:37 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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How convenient of an explanation, and almost seemingly planned.
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Jsb, I understand you have reason to participate as you know someone at Hasbro. But I'm not ready to interact with you.
Agreeing with trex. There were too many hands on this doll, passing it through production. Quite a convenient narrative.
This thread depicts that the child's maturity level, and parents discretion are the factors as far as when sexuality is explained. And has validated that I am not isolated in this belief.
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They probably didn't run enough focus groups that included parents. The first person to make the connection is really going out on a limb though. So it's possible it occurred to someone but they didn't want to be the one to say it.
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: psi] 1
#26888210 - 08/19/20 11:13 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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In my opinion the real oversight is not including a description of the button and its function on the box itself. They include descriptions of the stomach button but not the butt button which makes it look extra sketchy.
As I stated in the other thread, all childs toys are fucked up for the most part.
Homemaking wares for girls and blue collar job themed toys and cowboy and indian tropes for boys
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: natedawgnow]
#26888252 - 08/19/20 11:52 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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anyone remember the harry potter broomstick that vibrates, yeah, kids put it between their legs to fly and it would start vibrating
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: gopher]
#26888259 - 08/19/20 11:55 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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I remember that! I was telling my mate that and he didn't know about it. Also those slutty Bratz dolls, disgusting. WTF?
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: gopher]
#26888264 - 08/19/20 11:59 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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Explaining sex to a child is quite easy. Children don't have sexuality, and a toy is just a toy. Adults have sex, there's nothing taboo or weird about it. The parents of the world need to get the fuck over it. There's no need to go into intense detail with the explanation, it's not going to help anything. Sex is something that takes experience to learn. Give them the basics, explain that it's natural to do, offer to give advice if they need it, and emphasize safe sex practices. Then put the bread in the oven and continue on with life.
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Re: Explaining Sex To Children [Re: christopera]
#26888274 - 08/19/20 12:04 PM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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And don't buy them slutty bratz dolls and vibrators.
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Yup, agreed. By focusing so intently, the way that parent groups do, brings so much more shame and negative connotation to the subject.
But I understand their thinking, albeit dogmatic and fanatical. Who doesnt look back on childhood with nostalgia.. All because of the innocence factor.
Yah, you can't weld the world into a protective bubble. Sex sells, amd therefore it is everywhere. But imo, kids shouldnt be introduced a. By a toymaker who didnt even mention the button, B. Without the home and family involved.
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