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#26860328 - 08/03/20 09:08 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hello everyone,
I met 3 very cool girls last night and they all gave me their number. I would like to reach out to all of them and have an idea how to do so for 2 of them, but the 3rd is the reason I am making this post.
Last night I met them while they were out because one of the girl's birthday was at midnight, which means her birthday is today. We talked for awhile and I left before it was her birthday but I said happy birthday and all that stuff before I left.
I want to reach out to her because she gave me her number and it being her birthday seems like an easy text to make but I wonder if I should text her happy birthday because I already did that thing last night.
How do you think I should approach this? I haven't been a social person lately so I am a bit in my head.
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Frank Rizzo
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Just send her a Happy birthday text, it's a perfect excuse to send a simple text right off the bat just keep it simple and only respond if she engages a conversation if she doesn't follow up in a couple of days...
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koraks
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Can't hurt to say happy birthday again. Or something like "I hope your birthday is turning out to be a great day for you". Don't overthink it.
Btw, as I understand, all 3 were going out together and they all gave you their numbers? Keep in mind they'll talk, so if you approach all 3 of them, they'll know about it, which obviously creates the risk of this thing backfiring on your ass bigtime. But I assume that you've thought about this.
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Re: Advice [Re: koraks]
#26860376 - 08/03/20 09:33 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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Cool. Thanks for the replies.
Koraks, I don't plan on reaching out to all 3 today. We talked on various things and 2 are professionals that talked about what they do and kinda pitched their services to me. One is a dentist. I haven't been to a dentist in over a year so if I touch base by getting my teeth cleaned and then it goes nowhere, at least I got my checkup. The other is a dietician and she was talking about some cutting edge technology that I never heard of. I'm into health and fitness so if this is something that might benefit me, I'll reach out to her before I incorporate it into my life. These are situations that would occur probably over the next few weeks.
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Federick
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I think that the ideal thing could be to wait at the end of the day and send him a message, asking how he spent his day.
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birdeatingspider
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Texting is by far the easiest way to let someone know you're thinking of them. Especially if there is some social anxiety at play, pretty low impact on you, no?
And if you are aware that you're in your head, know that most likely you're over thinking it.
Keep in mind, she gave you her number because she wants to hear from you, and this is a perfect oppurtunity to reach out and have something to say.
I second the 'Hope your day is turning out great' suggestion.
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I sent her one text and she texted back and that was that.
I feel bad about letting this one go without attempting to see them again. One girl seemed perfect. She was attractive and cool and I felt good talking with her, but I don't know how to open up a dialogue now. She was talking about a technology and gave me her number somewhat under the guise of being an ambassador for the product. It's a product I do not want to invest in atm, because it's pretty expensive without health insurance. At the end of the day, I'm not sure if she gave me her number because she was interested in me, or if she was interested in getting me to purchase the technology. I think she was into me because we talked about a lot of things and the technology was the conversation that led into getting her number, but I don't know because I suspect pretty girls use their assets to charm guys into buying whatever they're selling.
If you were in my situation, would you open a dialogue with her? It's been 5 days now. I don't know if there's a goldilock zone of talking to girls after you get their number or what. I'm bummed that I don't seem to have the where-with-all to navigate situations like this better.
Coincidentally I've been seeing commercials on youtube of "coaches" teaching people how to talk to girls and get them interested in you, but I haven't looked to much into them yet, but it's now on my radar because I feel like I'm letting so many good situations pass me by because I don't act on them.
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Don’t overthink it. Just do something and see where it goes - if there is mutual interest then something will happen; however, if that’s not the case - she probably was just lackadaisically giving out her number / trying to sell something.
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Tonight two of the girls showed up at my work. I work in a restaurant and our first interaction was there. I was busy so I didn’t talk to them much after seeing them and then said a few words before I left. I figured leaving and saying too little would be better than inserting myself into their night or trying too hard to make conversation.
These girls are both pretty and cool. How should I go about trying to go out with both of them? I texted one a few weeks ago but didn’t say much more than “happy birthday.” I think I’m going to text her something about letting me know if they ever wanna get together soon, but figured I’d run these thoughts here in the event that there might be a better approach.
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koraks
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Aggregate said: How should I go about trying to go out with both of them?
A few options: 1: Approach both of them separately and try to keep it secret from each other. It'll likely blow up in your face. 2: As 1, but if either confronts you with it, be honest about it. Still likely to blow up in your face, but slightly less likely to ruin your chances with both of them entirely. 3: Be entirely transparent about it from the start. It'll still likely blow up in your face, but at least you're being honest. May be a comforting thought when you inevitably end up jacking off solo anyway. 4: Be realistic and just pick the one you fancy the most and/or the one you most likely have a decent chance with and leave the other one be. This scenario is by far the most likely to result in success and the least likely to make you the sad laughing stock of all 2/3 girls involved in the whole thing. I estimate your odds based on how you talk about this whole thing here as well as the fact you apparently weren't successful the first one (see post #26866348) and the remaining two likely know about this, making them fully aware that they're 2nd/3rd choice, at least 3% if not 5% to make it to a second date with the girl of your choice.
Anyway, just give it a go in whichever way you fancy; it's going to be an educational experience in any case with a small chance of actually finding friendship or even romance. Could be worth it.
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Re: Advice [Re: koraks]
#26882912 - 08/16/20 07:43 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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And knock off thinking so much, youre stuck in your head and its feeding your anxiety. The scary is the unknown, just talk to them theyre people. You will feel so much better plus you can be proud of yourself.
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koraks
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birdeatingspider said: And knock off thinking so much, youre stuck in your head and its feeding your anxiety. The scary is the unknown, just talk to them theyre people. You will feel so much better plus you can be proud of yourself.
You're right. OP should listen to you and ignore my sour-puss comments above.
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Re: Advice [Re: koraks]
#26883249 - 08/16/20 10:56 AM (3 years, 5 months ago) |
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Hey now, I was adding to your advice, not discounting.
Your post covered all the bases flawlessly, I had one tidbit to add.
Youre one of my fav posters in this and s and r forum, wasnt trying yo negate what you said.
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koraks
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Don't get me wrong; I don't think you were countering what I said or negating it. I really meant what I said - your advice is just more constructive!
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