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wjones3044
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Sexual dysfunction
#26829073 - 07/17/20 01:50 PM (3 years, 6 months ago) |
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Is this the buzzkill section of the forum?
Good, I'll begin.
One and a half years ago, I quit drinking. My prostate was a wreck, liver, too.
Fast forward to today, sex is becoming...something I know I should do, for my girlfriend's sake. And for mine, too, but my sex drive--once huge--is only slowly emerging.
For what it's worth, we've had maybe three attempts since March, 2019.
Not sure what the question is. Thoughts?
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Re: Sexual dysfunction [Re: wjones3044] 1
#26829096 - 07/17/20 02:00 PM (3 years, 6 months ago) |
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Have you tried to exercise?
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Anonymous #1
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I'm not sure if I have heart problems or not but my dick hasn't worked too well for several years. I'm 26.
Probably my anxiety and depression. 
Buy cool toys? Invite a friend with a good dick?
Idk, I'm not an expert. I need to find a girl that doesn't care bout sex much though. I'm pretty insecure about my dick. I can only seem to get with girls that are super horny and want dick all the time. After like the first couple fucks, my dick just doesn't care any more.
No answers really... Thoughts?
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wjones3044
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Yes, I'm active.
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wjones3044
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I've quite enjoyed my dick over the years. Used to enjoy it 3x daily, or at least twice.
Elevated PSA levels suggest pre-cancer in the prostate.
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There's medicine for these kind of issues, is there not?
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Anonymous #2
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So you've only attempted sex 3 times in over a year. What does that mean? Are you not pleasuring her or did you just decide you had other things to do? I think I know the answer to both of our questions. Eat that fucking pussy. Make her cum as often as possible, just because you care. If that doesn't start to make your heart throb after a while then you should consider seeing a counselor or asking your doctor for ED meds. Sex is two things: emotions and the physical. Chances are that your problem is emotional and you've lost your rhythm. If you want to learn rhythm you pick up an instrument or dance
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Quote:
Anonymous #2 said: Eat that fucking pussy. Make her cum as often as possible, just because you care.
Agree 100%. That's exactly what I'd be doing, were I in OP's situation.
Luckily for me I love eating pussy so it really would be quite wonderful.
Anon #1 is in a much trickier position IMO, cause early days of relationships usually mean lots of sex, and it's no easy discussion to have without a longstanding emotional connection.
wjones3044 - how long have you and your partner been together, and to what extent have you discussed this?
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Re: Sexual dysfunction [Re: wjones3044] 1
#26837214 - 07/21/20 10:19 PM (3 years, 6 months ago) |
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Sounds like something psychological more than physiological unless your drinking caused problems with hormones. How do you feel about yourself? Do you feel attractive/hideous? Do you feel like you're good in bed? Did you always used to have sex drunk? Does your girlfriend try to initiate it?
My fiancee initiates sex more than me probably 2x as much.
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Re: Sexual dysfunction [Re: Darwin23]
#26838792 - 07/22/20 04:49 PM (3 years, 6 months ago) |
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Have you talked with a doctor about this problem?
It sounds like you have health problems, what makes you think you have heart problems?
Physical illness or perhaps the medications you take could be causing your low libido.
I would want my hormone levels checked...make sure your testosterone levels are normal...was your libido change sudden or gradual?
Do you have any other symptoms?
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Get testosterone checked. If its not that, it's most likely psychological.
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