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tyrannicalrex
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I do, and I am nice.
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trees


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: tyrannicalrex] 2
#26754001 - 06/18/20 10:54 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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People don't even think I'm weird, it goes beyond that. Many people upon first meeting me ask me where im from, and I'll say a US state and city and they go "no no, like where are you actually from, like not from this country obviously".
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SARAtonin
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Check PMs cheif.
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Edited by SARAtonin (06/18/20 11:06 AM)
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pirate-blues



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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: trees]
#26754005 - 06/18/20 10:57 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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trees said: People don't even think I'm weird, it goes beyond that. Many people upon first meeting me ask me where im from, and I'll say a US state and city and they go "no no, like where are you actually from, like not from this country obviously".
you're in PA trees? I've been asked that question before too in some areas. Kind of weird lol. They can sniff out the different ones. That's why I like big cities. There's so many strange, different, diverse people that no one gives a single solitary fuck about you unless you give them an actual reason to.
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CookieCrumbs
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: pirate-blues]
#26754498 - 06/18/20 02:28 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I care.
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CookieCrumbs
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#26754677 - 06/18/20 03:14 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I replied to the wrong post.
I think I'm being autistic. Or is it more politically correct to say socially awkward?
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tyrannicalrex
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#26754680 - 06/18/20 03:15 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I don't know. Can you draw really well?
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SARAtonin
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs] 2
#26754712 - 06/18/20 03:23 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: I replied to the wrong post.
I think I'm being autistic. Or is it more politically correct to say socially awkward?
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CookieCrumbs
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: tyrannicalrex] 2
#26754745 - 06/18/20 03:34 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I have what they call dysgraphia which is an extension of what is likely neurological damage or underdevelopment of the parietal lobe in my brain. It effects the sensation of touch and coordination within spatial environments as well as the perception of of visual and audio information and the ability to selectively interpret important stimuli from the environment.
These include but are not limited to: Sensations of pain, pressure, touch regulating and processing all 5 senses in a way that accurately demonstrates the environment Movement and visual orientation within the environment Speech and control of tone and pitch as well as formation of words General cognition and information processing
That is to say, in a fancy scientific analysis sort of way, I can't fucking draw to save my life. And I suck at interpreting social things sometimes so... totally not sure if you're trying to imply something else.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#26754758 - 06/18/20 03:38 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: totally not sure if you're trying to imply something else. 
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CookieCrumbs
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Tantrika] 2
#26754769 - 06/18/20 03:46 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah I thought I was maybe being asked if I fit an autistic stereotype. The autistic genius trope used to validate the existence of mentally handicapped people... Hooray!
Serious question is it okay to call myself autistic or derogatory terms if I actually am?
I mean I don't care alot if they are since they make me feel more normal than the fancy terms I have in my book of diagnosis but I would like to know if I'm being disrespectful in certain company.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82]
#26754811 - 06/18/20 04:00 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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You ask him questions and he answers truthfully and somehow that is weird?
I dont get it
But then again my family and friends tell me Im socially awkward and a bad communicator
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Tantrika
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs] 1
#26754820 - 06/18/20 04:03 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: Yeah I thought I was maybe being asked if I fit an autistic stereotype. The autistic genius trope used to validate the existence of mentally handicapped people... Hooray!
Serious question is it okay to call myself autistic or derogatory terms if I actually am?
I mean I don't care alot if they are since they make me feel more normal than the fancy terms I have in my book of diagnosis but I would like to know if I'm being disrespectful in certain company.
Think people would argue both ways and to make sure my bias is clear, am trans but will occasionally make joking references to the term "tranny" despite it not applying to me in its traditional sense, and being thrown at my community in a derogatory manner so do not personally see issues with referring to yourself as autistic
also regularly indicate to people online my being slow because it really does not communicate across text in the same way
but it may be disrespectful in certain company anyway for example, as you indicated with regards to the genius trope certain company would find t-rexes comment to have been disrespectful because not all people with autism have a skill they can harness and make money off of (typically under the guidance of someone else who recognized an opportunity) a la Rain Man
think it tends to be better just to be authentically willing to change in response to situations if no one seems hurt, would say it is fair to continue if someone objects, maybe lay off around them moving forward with a sincere apology for not being aware of how they felt only really change your general behaviour if you reach a point where you feel it should be changed yourself
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Tripsurfer]
#26754824 - 06/18/20 04:03 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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once all of u admit u don't really care
We can get somewhere
Together as healthy people aka Americans <3
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CHeifM4sterDiezL
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u have to like not care to care the most in some insane way its how we've always done it. U have to go insane to out sane the sane
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CHeifM4sterDiezL
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But u guys are just dumb ur terrible to each other
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CookieCrumbs
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I too find that to care you must not care.
Caring is also accepting that people care about things and have good reason to sometimes.
Thank you Tantrika that's generally how I've always tried to do it. try to be sensitive to my audience but things are different than when I learned that social skill.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs] 1
#26755258 - 06/18/20 06:52 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I've always felt interviews were extremely disingenuous and really more of a prepared sales pitch, than who the person actually is. This is why there are books and seminars of how to answer interview questions, which is beyond idiotic in my estimation.
I appreciate that the guy you interviewed was honest, so I give him credit for that. However, he has zero social IQ (or EQ, as they call it.) He seems like the type that'll never own up to any mistakes; it's always everyone else's fault.
But then again, maybe he's an idiot savant, whose quality of work makes up for his anti-social personality. If his resume is that strong, I suggest phoning up his past employers and interviewing them instead about how he's like as an employee.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: cinderblock]
#26755353 - 06/18/20 07:19 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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well i feel very shy due to the voices that i hear, and i get so mad and worked up that i cannot escape the communication of it, and it keeps trigering me with weird sounds that honestly sound like kissing or making out. other than that, if it made me jealous i would then try to end the situation but i cannot kill them because well it would be the wrong way. now i have trouble relaxing and not worrying about a constant trigger. it pisses me off that i am forced to do this and forced have it constnatly ticking away at me asking questions that i refuse to answer, and it making me real mad that i can't get away from it. it even sounds like my sister and not an actual voice due to schizophrenia, but for some reason whever i smoked salvia i would hear voices too.
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pirate-blues



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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: cinderblock] 1
#26755420 - 06/18/20 07:40 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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cinderblock said: I've always felt interviews were extremely disingenuous and really more of a prepared sales pitch, than who the person actually is. This is why there are books and seminars of how to answer interview questions, which is beyond idiotic in my estimation.
I appreciate that the guy you interviewed was honest, so I give him credit for that. However, he has zero social IQ (or EQ, as they call it.) He seems like the type that'll never own up to any mistakes; it's always everyone else's fault.
But then again, maybe he's an idiot savant, whose quality of work makes up for his anti-social personality. If his resume is that strong, I suggest phoning up his past employers and interviewing them instead about how he's like as an employee.
Knowing how to interview well is a good part of the battle, and it takes legit practice and hard work, even if you have a natural aptitude for it. So many people are so nauseatingly fake and cheesy, and I find that interviewers seem to really like sincerity. Especially if it's about your flaws and problems and shit - they want to hear that you recognized the problem and addressed that shit accordingly, not that you're the most perfect employee in the universe. Because everyone knows that's a huge lie lol.
Edited by pirate-blues (06/18/20 08:01 PM)
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