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Why are some men so socially awkward?
    #26752063 - 06/17/20 04:09 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

I am at a tech company and perform a System Operations type role with some coding. I was told to basically interview someone. My coworker and I got a 30 minute block with him. The rest of the day he was with other people on my team.

I asked with my coworker: "What are your weaknesses?"
Him:"My family and friends say that I am socially awkward and a bad communicator"
"..."(stared at him. Waiting for him to fill in that it is something he is improving. This is what you are supposed to say?)
"Are you trying to improve it at all?"
"No not at all"

Okay...?


Later I asked him "How often do you work from home?"
"Every day. Pretty much as much as I can"
"Don't you think you need to earn that right?"
"No"

I am sitting here dumbfounded that he thought it was okay to just straight up say something like that. He had a straight face the entire time and he wasn't messing with me. Good university and really good resume. Its not social anxiety. He just lacked an understanding that what he was saying was wrong.

He was indian. Is it a race thing? I am indian myself and growing up I was a little bit awkward. I eventually had to work around it. But I was never this bad. This is a person in his 30's. How does he operate in the real world like this?


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82] * 1
    #26752066 - 06/17/20 04:11 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Should have given him some wangs:smilingpuppy:


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82] * 1
    #26752070 - 06/17/20 04:16 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

It's the net/computers. It's changing human interaction forever.


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: tyrannicalrex] * 5
    #26752072 - 06/17/20 04:17 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

It’s not just men lol


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: SARAtonin]
    #26752077 - 06/17/20 04:19 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

No doubt!


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26752080 - 06/17/20 04:20 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Women are less likely to have those socially awkward symptoms. Women are more social creatures so they understand social interactions much better


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82] * 5
    #26752096 - 06/17/20 04:24 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Kudos to this guy for not lying about himself and his feelings to fit what expectations others have of him. Can he function in society effectively? Most likely not. But at least he's 100 about it.


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Texas Honey Badger] * 1
    #26752100 - 06/17/20 04:27 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

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Should have given him some wangs:smilingpuppy:




FOR THE LAST TIME YOU SHUT YOUR STUPID MOUTH ABOUT WINGS!!!!!!

:trolled:


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Niffla] * 1
    #26752115 - 06/17/20 04:34 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

That’s your go to bbq style for wings?
Classic Nashville or that mustard based Carolina style?


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: SARAtonin]
    #26752121 - 06/17/20 04:36 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

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That’s your go to bbq style for wings?
Classic Nashville or that mustard based Carolina style?




I lived in Lenoir, NC for a while and that style of sauce is just too far outside of my comfort zone. Tomato based sauces ftw.


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Obie1989] * 3
    #26752127 - 06/17/20 04:38 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

You won't hire him and another company will amd he will enrich them in his underwear at home.


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: SARAtonin] * 1
    #26752162 - 06/17/20 04:48 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

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That’s your go to bbq style for wings?
Classic Nashville or that mustard based Carolina style?




classic nashville

:guiltyascharged:


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Niffla]
    #26752168 - 06/17/20 04:49 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

Niffla said:
Quote:

Spicemaster said:
Should have given him some wangs:smilingpuppy:




FOR THE LAST TIME YOU SHUT YOUR STUPID MOUTH ABOUT WINGS!!!!!!

:trolled:



:rofl2:*knee slapper:snowman:


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: budmanman] * 1
    #26752173 - 06/17/20 04:50 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

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You won't hire him and another company will amd he will enrich them in his underwear at home.



haha this made me LOL

:lol:


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Texas Honey Badger]
    #26752174 - 06/17/20 04:50 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

Spicemaster said:
Quote:

Niffla said:
Quote:

Spicemaster said:
Should have given him some wangs:smilingpuppy:




FOR THE LAST TIME YOU SHUT YOUR STUPID MOUTH ABOUT WINGS!!!!!!

:trolled:



:rofl2:*knee slapper:snowman:




:woah:


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82]
    #26752178 - 06/17/20 04:52 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Autism is a thing.


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #26752186 - 06/17/20 04:55 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Perhaps aspbergers more specifically?


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Niffla]
    #26752189 - 06/17/20 04:56 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

seriously though some people are just 100% blunt with their feelings, no filter and regardless of repercussions

like there's this guy at the building I work at who saw one of the quarantine employees come in who I swear legit gained like upwards of 40 pounds, and the guy says "wow I barely even recognize you anymore you gained so much weight", and I was just sitting there like

:waitwhat:

He was talking to one of the higher-ups lol and barely knew the guy. But that's just him, whatever comes to his mind he'll just say it, it's like he's missing that little part inside us that tells us sometimes we'd be a lot better off just thinking it than saying it


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Niffla]
    #26752193 - 06/17/20 04:57 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

As an indian, a disproportionate amount of indian men take on these exact symptoms. Are they all autistic?

Its cultural conditioning usually


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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: Obie1989]
    #26752198 - 06/17/20 04:58 PM (3 years, 7 months ago)

Quote:

Obie1989 said:
Perhaps aspbergers more specifically?



It's all on a spectrum. Like all facets of the human condition, all things being considered.

Rarely affects women but pretty sure I work with one afflicted by it.

Suspect I am a teeny tiny bit too.


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