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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: pirate-blues]
#26755437 - 06/18/20 07:47 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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because they are high on marijuana
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: chutney]
#26755448 - 06/18/20 07:52 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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For some reason people think it's cool to have social anxiety and it's cool to not interact with other people and shit I guess. I see so many memes on facebook and shit like me having to interact with other people bla bla bla. Personally I don't get it and the fact you don't leave your house or interact with people means your probably not very interesting.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82]
#26755452 - 06/18/20 07:53 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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topdog82 said: As an indian, a disproportionate amount of indian men take on these exact symptoms. Are they all autistic?
Its cultural conditioning usually
It's probably a race thing man. A lot of Indians are fucked ( i mean from india). There are 2 types, the really cool ones who you'd hang out with, and then the culturally retarded dickheads who shower in the sink. I've seen and lived with both. This one guy used to wash his asshole with a pop bottle and leave the water all over the floor. Some of them treat Canada like it's India. It's fucking disgusting. I don't care how racist I sound, when you come to a first world country you should leave that nasty shit at the door. It isn't welcome here.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: longbus] 2
#26755544 - 06/18/20 08:21 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I think the reason some people are way too socially awkward to the point where losing a friends is a constant toss-up, is because of this... At some point/s they were so traumatized by some ignorant bullshit they saw as a youngster that it opened them up to an aspect of reality the majority are oblivious to, and in relation to such event/s they clutter their life up with a whole bunch of bullshit to distract themselves of the inevitable rest of their live they are up against. It's the thought, "If life is this damn putrescent, I wonder if the afterlife would contest."
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: pur3bind] 1
#26755558 - 06/18/20 08:27 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yeah that's alot of reasons a person may be socially awkward. That's why I poked at equating social awkwardness or anxiety to autism.
If I am on the spectrum I think being bullied for my speech/hearing issues did more damage to my ability to socialize than anything I was born with.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs] 1
#26755618 - 06/18/20 08:50 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I knew someone with autism and yea they were really awkward, but the person knew everyone you could think of, and was extremely smart. But yeah, it's different for everyone with an undeveloped condition on the awkward scale. I guess it depends on how we choose to view ourselves that determines what we are to get challenged by in hopes to overcome said challenges.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: pur3bind]
#26755665 - 06/18/20 09:11 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Plus side to being diagnosed with a disorder (aside from access to cognitive therapy) is you can get into the neuroscience a little and understand why your brain works the way it works and why ot doesn't work the way you want it to.
I know people get fussy about all the disorders, I think it definitely has downsides, but understanding the underdeveloped part of your brain is a huge boon to overcoming that challenge.
And how to compensate for it if you don't.
I read lips and body language alot but I also get alot of context clues from words I pick up.
I'm using every bit of all my disability coping and training right now at work as I'm basically in an online class with an audio of my trainer and visual of the work but no body language to interpret. I take my first test tomorrow and I know I'll struggle a bit but my trainer and coworker are supportive and understanding so I'm sure I'll get it.
Having support is also a huge factor.
Think the worst thing a person can do to themselves is say they can't do something. You just have to figure out how you, yourself, as a unique individual, can do something.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#26755677 - 06/18/20 09:15 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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HEY COOKIECRUMBZ SORRY ABOUT EVERYTHING YO SPECIFICALLY FOR INTERRUPTING THIS THREAD BUT JUST WANNA SAY I LUV U!!! 
PS:HOWS THAT FOR AWKARDNESS!!!
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: zZZz] 1
#26755716 - 06/18/20 09:30 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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no sorry z's I've been ruining threads with my self centeredness this week.
I'm fortunate to know why I am the way I am and to know I'm being annoying and hyperfixated because I'm stressed and trying to not be stressed.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs] 1
#26755777 - 06/18/20 09:50 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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URE INTELLIGENT AF COOKIECRUMBS U DON'T GET ENOUGH CREDIT BUT TODAY U WILL U ARE A GENIUS NEVA CHANGE KEEP SPINNING THEM ROCKZ WUTEVER THAT MEANZ I JUST MADE IT UP ON TEH SPOT ANYWAY KEEP GROWING KEEP LUVIN KEEP ON KEEPIN BIG DAWG I LUV U SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: zZZz] 2
#26755818 - 06/18/20 10:06 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I hope you don't ever change either zZZz
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs] 2
#26755842 - 06/18/20 10:19 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I WON;T EVA CHANGE IMMA KEEP IT REAL 4 EVA EVEN WHEN THEY KICK ME DOWN IMMA JUST GET RIGHT BACK UP AND FORGIVE EM N SHIT CUZ I'VE GOT BETTER THANGZ TO DO THAN HATE PEEPZ CUZ IN DA END WE;RE ALL DA SAME INSIDE AND OUT WE SHARE DA SAME SUN SAME OCEAN WE GO THROUGH TEH SAME SHIT EVENTUALLY SUM WORSE THAN OTHERZ LIEK MYSELF BUT IN DA END WE;RE ALL DA SAME DEEP DOWN KEEP LUVIN YALL KEEP ON KEEPIN'!!!    
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: zZZz]
#26758565 - 06/19/20 09:08 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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trees said: People don't even think I'm weird, it goes beyond that. Many people upon first meeting me ask me where im from, and I'll say a US state and city and they go "no no, like where are you actually from, like not from this country obviously".
you're in PA trees? I've been asked that question before too in some areas. Kind of weird lol. They can sniff out the different ones. That's why I like big cities. There's so many strange, different, diverse people that no one gives a single solitary fuck about you unless you give them an actual reason to.
I get stares all the time for being tall & white. Most of the time I tune it out and it doesn't bother me, but today this dude (a neighbour I think) just stared at me for like a minute straight, even said hi to him and he didn't get the hint. Don't know why it pissed me off so much. Probably because I hadn't had breakfast yet.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: ninja cat 09]
#26758634 - 06/19/20 09:42 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Well I'm glad someone got something out of that cuz I kinda hate myself now that I'm less manic think maybe neighbor dude was just spacing?
I mean like... They've seen white people before right? Even still I think, even prejudiced, it's odd to not say hi to someone. Or at least react.
Less they legit think you're an alien.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: ninja cat 09] 2
#26758644 - 06/19/20 09:50 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I get stares all the time for being tall & white. Most of the time I tune it out and it doesn't bother me, but today this dude (a neighbour I think) just stared at me for like a minute straight, even said hi to him and he didn't get the hint.
Maybe he’s got a crush on you...but the butterfly’s and weak knees prevented him from speaking up 
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#26758885 - 06/20/20 01:05 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: Yeah that's alot of reasons a person may be socially awkward. That's why I poked at equating social awkwardness or anxiety to autism.
If I am on the spectrum I think being bullied for my speech/hearing issues did more damage to my ability to socialize than anything I was born with.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: The Blind Ass]
#26759252 - 06/20/20 07:05 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: Well I'm glad someone got something out of that cuz I kinda hate myself now that I'm less manic think maybe neighbor dude was just spacing?
I mean like... They've seen white people before right? Even still I think, even prejudiced, it's odd to not say hi to someone. Or at least react.
Less they legit think you're an alien.
The messy hair and pink bandana I was wearing on my forehead as a makeshift sweatband probably had something to do with it now that I think of it, but even then how is that not rude?
I kinda hope they do, so I can steal a cow or two. Or a goat 
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The Blind Ass said: Maybe he’s got a crush on you...but the butterfly’s and weak knees prevented him from speaking up 

You're right, I'll wink and send him a kiss next time I see him 
Now that zZZz brings it up, being picked on was one of the things that initially pushed me into a shell, I figure it's something relatively common. Later on I was encouraged by some of my schoolmates but I was so scared because I figured I'd do or say something stupid and get laughed at. I was also really convinced nobody cared about me. Strange thing is, only one kid went up to me and started talking to me and we turned into friends. Maybe he was scared I'd turn into a school shooter 
I was also speaking with my sister about my autism diagnosis and she thinks it's more of a nurture thing, since my mom had schizophrenia we couldn't invite people over lest my mom made a scene and I'm willing to bet a lot of moms told their kids not to hang out with us (small town mentality and one of my brother's friends told him that his mom forbade him from seeing him) which probably lead both me and my older sister to be more quiet and have more autistic traits, while my younger siblings which were teenagers when my mom had already moved out have little or none of these traits, although we're all pretty weird.
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Re: Why are some men so socially awkward? [Re: topdog82]
#26759296 - 06/20/20 07:36 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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topdog82 said: I am at a tech company and perform a System Operations type role with some coding. I was told to basically interview someone. My coworker and I got a 30 minute block with him. The rest of the day he was with other people on my team.
I asked with my coworker: "What are your weaknesses?" Him:"My family and friends say that I am socially awkward and a bad communicator" "..."(stared at him. Waiting for him to fill in that it is something he is improving. This is what you are supposed to say?) "Are you trying to improve it at all?" "No not at all"
Okay...?
Later I asked him "How often do you work from home?" "Every day. Pretty much as much as I can" "Don't you think you need to earn that right?" "No"
I am sitting here dumbfounded that he thought it was okay to just straight up say something like that. He had a straight face the entire time and he wasn't messing with me. Good university and really good resume. Its not social anxiety. He just lacked an understanding that what he was saying was wrong.
He was indian. Is it a race thing? I am indian myself and growing up I was a little bit awkward. I eventually had to work around it. But I was never this bad. This is a person in his 30's. How does he operate in the real world like this?
Don't take this too hard, but you're first three words were "I'm at a tech company", so dorkiness is a little more prevalent than with history or English major types.
I don't think being Indian has anything to do with it, but 98% of my exposure to Indians was in grad school, and they were mainly super cool socially adept types. But they were all in PhD programs in comparative literature, labor and industrial relations, sociology, mass communication etc.
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