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CatsLoveHouseMusic
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My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive
#26739804 - 06/12/20 02:53 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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So I dont have anything against dreads, one of my better friends had them growing up. For reference, we are between the ages of 25-30, shes a really cute, 5’2 white girl... probably 115LB. Not saying people like this cant have them, I just thought Id add that in.
I personally like girls with straight hair, all day. I know ive seen cute girls with dreads before, but normally I dont care for them. She says shes going to show me pictures of what she wants. Shes not looking to all dreads, I saw a few pictuees of what shes aiming for, and they had some straight hair a long with dreads.
I never tell her no. Weve been together for a decade. I give her whatever, she takes my debt card and buys whatever, but I told her no immediately. I feel bad about it, and I told her we can talk about it further laterr. What do you guys have to say?
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic] 2
#26739811 - 06/12/20 02:55 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'd say you really can't win telling her outright not to do it. It's her hair after all.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic]
#26739816 - 06/12/20 02:58 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Tell her dreadlocks are cool, you just don't want her to grow-out her armpit and leg hair and join a group of traveling new-age gypsies.
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CatsLoveHouseMusic
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: psi]
#26739825 - 06/12/20 03:02 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Shes wanted this for awhile, which makes me feel like an ass saying no. Shes super pretty, and says that if they dont work out we will cut them out. They cost 2-300 to do as well, whoch isnt a huge deal but whatever.
I hope she gets them, and I eat my words bc they look really good.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: remake]
#26739826 - 06/12/20 03:03 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Lol... right. Shes not a hippy on the outside, only the inside so thats good.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic]
#26739835 - 06/12/20 03:10 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Oh she's also asking you to pay to have it done? Saying you don't want to pay for it is more reasonable than an "I forbid you to do it" I think.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic]
#26739845 - 06/12/20 03:14 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dreads are nasty af
Also, now of all times? She wants something that is widely seen as cultural appropiation
I would advice to wait a few weeks
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: Tripsurfer] 3
#26739850 - 06/12/20 03:16 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Giving her your opinion is fine but it's her choice not yours.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: pineninja] 1
#26739852 - 06/12/20 03:19 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Dreadlocks = Shit logs for hair.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: Patlal]
#26739873 - 06/12/20 03:27 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Show the pics you were looking at. Full dreads are ok if you're homeless, but maybe the partial thing would be cool.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: Cjmckay]
#26739902 - 06/12/20 03:40 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Ya theyre partial, I forget what it looked like. Ill post the pictures she shows me later. She hasnt demanded anything ever, im the 10+ years weve been together..but this is one thing that I might not ever hear the end of, for awhile atleast. Especially when she straightens her hair, shes gorgeous and I feel like she’d be really upset if they didnt turn out nice.
I said no at first, knowing damn well I couldnt keep saying no because she doesnt insist on anything... I dont want people to think Im rude to her. I didnt mean it like that. I want to post pictures she shows me. Stay tuned.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic] 1
#26739903 - 06/12/20 03:42 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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We should probably see a picture first to determine if they suit her.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: pslyke]
#26739917 - 06/12/20 03:49 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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If you no longer find her sexually attractive because of the change, that could be problematic.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic] 2
#26740018 - 06/12/20 04:45 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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In the beginning it’s a lot of work. Girls can usually get through it cuz guys aren’t ones to play with their hair all day. But at the start it requires a lot of palm rolling and knotting before they become maintenance free.
Once they’ve matured and matted, they’re sexy as hell. Super soft and they just beam with energy! Your soul shows it’s colours in your hair and dreadlocks are the ultimate expression of ones soul.
It’s a journey. It’s not just a hairstyle. Tell her that. If you’re getting dreads it should be for a reason not for fashion.
I’ve had dreadlocks since 2006. They’re a part of who I am, you get to a point where there’s no option to cut them off, you see what they can do for your soul and you feel to free to ever go back to any other hairstyle.
Though anyone with long hair knows a little bit about what I’m speaking.
Anyway, if she takes care of them she’ll be sexy with them.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic]
#26740035 - 06/12/20 04:52 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CatsLoveHouseMusic said: So I dont have anything against dreads, one of my better friends had them growing up. For reference, we are between the ages of 25-30, shes a really cute, 5’2 white girl... probably 115LB. Not saying people like this cant have them, I just thought Id add that in.
I personally like girls with straight hair, all day. I know ive seen cute girls with dreads before, but normally I dont care for them. She says shes going to show me pictures of what she wants. Shes not looking to all dreads, I saw a few pictuees of what shes aiming for, and they had some straight hair a long with dreads.
I never tell her no. Weve been together for a decade. I give her whatever, she takes my debt card and buys whatever, but I told her no immediately. I feel bad about it, and I told her we can talk about it further laterr. What do you guys have to say?
White people who are not Rastafarians should not go for dreadlocks.
Not just is it culturally questionable, white hair doesn't "grip" like highly curly African hair does, so it needs grease and dirt to stick together for a long time before the felting process starts.
If you're a Rastafarian, a Viking or a Dwarf, that changes things of course.
Rastafarian hair, not lazy stoners, dreads by special hair care, not neglect.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: CatsLoveHouseMusic]
#26740043 - 06/12/20 04:54 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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CatsLoveHouseMusic said: ...Weve been together for a decade...
Had my hair in dreadlocks for the same duration something to consider
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: qman]
#26740045 - 06/12/20 04:55 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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qman said: If you no longer find her sexually attractive because of the change, that could be problematic.
Always make sure a long term partner is someone you feel you would still find attractive bald cancer and chemotherapy don't discriminate, not everyone is fortunate enough to choose a hairstyle
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: Tantrika]
#26740052 - 06/12/20 04:57 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Tantrika said:
Always make sure a long term partner is someone you feel you would still find attractive bald
If that turns you off your "life partner" you shouldnt even be together.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: Asante] 2
#26740053 - 06/12/20 04:57 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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That’s just inaccurate. No matter your nationality wether it’s Caucasian or anything else, it doesn’t matter at all how straight and smooth your hair is, product is never needed to start dreadlocks.
There’s a felting technique that’s taking off (especially among women) that uses no product whatsoever.
It’s completely outdated and false information that you need to put wax or dirt or grease in your hair in order to dreadlock it and it’s a completely gross and insulting myth that you can’t wash your hair for the first month with new dreads; it’s even further more confusing and insulting to people’s intelligence that they think dreads can’t be washed at all.
How do you wash your dreads? Ugh I hate this question. Just like you wash your hair bruh.
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Re: My girlfriend wants dreadlocks, and I am apprehensive [Re: Asante] 2
#26740061 - 06/12/20 04:59 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Asante said: ...white hair doesn't "grip" like highly curly African hair does, so it needs grease and dirt to stick together for a long time before the felting process starts.
OP, never listen to someone who tries to convince you this white hair needs to be clean and free of products like conditioner in order to properly grip and lock up my dreadlocks were consistently more clean than my hair has been at any other point in my life
grease and dirt obstruct the hair from tangling with itself the real goal is to use something like a residue free baby shampoo and ideally some salt water rub on the locks to add coarseness
generic shampoos are important to avoid most are designed to leave a residue in your hair that adds a protective layer when being brushed straight afterwards as dreadlocks do not get brushed, the residue simply builds up inside and rots
clean dreadlocks are happy dreadlocks
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