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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #26685463 - 05/21/20 11:16 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

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split_by_nine said:

its his duty as a cashier to appear interested in you as a customer. truth is he probably doesnt care how you are doing and he is just trying to get through his shift with a positive attitude. you could do your part and be polite. no need to make small talk.




That's quite a big assumption - especially when you don't even know the person




its not hard to figure out :shrug:


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26685465 - 05/21/20 11:17 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

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Love you too, you silly succulant savage you!


..."but when I'd go out to be in a crowd, it was rarely to socialize".

Perplexing statement there Ninjacat.



Maybe it's a cultural difference. I've noticed a lot less casual socializing here than in Canada. My brother tells me the US is ridiculously social, with women hitting on him on the street and guys he didn't know nodding at him when they passed him on the sidewalk.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: ninja cat 09] * 2
    #26685474 - 05/21/20 11:22 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

Small talk can make any situation more fun.
Being able to engage in meaningful small talk is a useful skill.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake]
    #26685480 - 05/21/20 11:24 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

That it is. It's a highly useful, but overlooked skill. At least in my industry.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: pirate-blues] * 1
    #26685488 - 05/21/20 11:28 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

What industry?
Also being good at small talk makes you good at flirting.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake] * 2
    #26685500 - 05/21/20 11:34 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I do totally agree that advanced small talk can be fun and is a skill

I was more or less referring to the most basic of small talk -- you know, the "how is your day going" and "the weather is nice" being the furthest extent of someone's small talk arsenal lol


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake] * 2
    #26685509 - 05/21/20 11:38 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

Tech lol. I do a lot of training within my job role right now though and it requires more interpersonal skills than a lot of other jobs do, but I think that unless you're absolutely brilliant it's the soft skills that will get you ahead in most roles and the hard skill set that keeps you in the game.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: pirate-blues] * 2
    #26685512 - 05/21/20 11:40 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

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lifeiswhatyoumake said:
meaningful small talk



LOL. Hella Oxymoron.


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pirate-blues said:
That it is. It's a highly useful, but overlooked skill. At least in my industry.



'Soft Skills', as they call them, are crazy useful in any industry IMO.

If I weren't so good with people there's no way I could have risen to the lofty heights in my career that I've achieved.

As the old saying goes, it's not what you know, but who you know, and getting to know someone requires at least a little small talk in the early days. I like to push through it as quickly as possible though.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: pirate-blues] * 2
    #26685519 - 05/21/20 11:42 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

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Tech lol. I do a lot of training within my job role right now though and it requires more interpersonal skills than a lot of other jobs do, but I think that unless you're absolutely brilliant it's the soft skills that will get you ahead in most roles and the hard skill set that keeps you in the game.



I miss that about my last job, I used to love talking with devs about security mistakes they made, explaining why it was important it was fixed and how to fix it. Straight up delightful, even though I was criticizing their work, they usually didn't take it personally and appreciated the feedback.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: Niffla]
    #26685545 - 05/21/20 11:50 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I mean they're just trying to be polite and there's nothing wrong with that of course, but it's just become a robotic response for most it seems. I mean I guess why even say it at that point.


Because that is the/or one way of being social and polite to integrate/mingle when out in public.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26685553 - 05/21/20 11:54 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

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I mean they're just trying to be polite and there's nothing wrong with that of course, but it's just become a robotic response for most it seems. I mean I guess why even say it at that point.


Because that is the/or one way of being social and polite to integrate/mingle when out in public.




No I get it and I have absolutely nothing against small talk, I think it's just the instances when people seem to force it out begrudgingly. You can kinda tell when they do. You may as well not even say it at that point. But if someone really wants to genuinely get some small talk going in an effort to integrate and mingle with someone they don't know then by all means, I am all for that


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: Niffla]
    #26685558 - 05/21/20 11:56 AM (3 years, 8 months ago)

Oh yeah, got it. That's usually in a confined space it seems, to me anyway.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: tyrannicalrex]
    #26685618 - 05/21/20 12:29 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I like it in American. It seems like it's way easier to socialize there, more than right where I'm at.

One time i was chilling out in America at a party. I started walking on my way out to leave.

This group of really hot chicks grabbed me and one of them tried to trap me. I got shocked. So when i got loose i kind of ran away. I hopped in my cousins car because it was time to go. So we took off. I regret it now. It all happened way too fast and it was a big surprise for me.

If i could go back in time i would have chilled out with them.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: watermelon mon] * 1
    #26685642 - 05/21/20 12:44 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

Do you have an accent? American chicks LOOOOVE almost any accent other than an American one.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: tyrannicalrex] * 1
    #26685664 - 05/21/20 12:59 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I get that often. On a video appointment yesterday.
They said it sounds like im from eastern canada.

Other times people have asked if I'm Irish or Scottish.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: tyrannicalrex] * 1
    #26685697 - 05/21/20 01:18 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I consider myself to be a soft-spoken dude who tends to keep to myself as well OP.  Small talk has never been easy for me and a lot of times I made it awkward for all parties involved.  While it has never been difficult to make friends I certainly had trouble with conversation that didn't involve friends or family.

But I've been actively improving on socializing with strangers for ten years now, through work and my off-time.  I am now light years beyond where I once was, and being social is much easier in practice and also less stressful for me.  Ten years ago I didn't feel as if this was possible, but I can now engage in small talk with many different types of folks and end up having a really meaningful conversation with almost anyone meeting me half-way!

Practice x 3 !

Or don't if you don't want to, that's cool too.  However, I feel like my typical day is better because I understand small talk better and maybe even understand others better.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: ichugwindex]
    #26685705 - 05/21/20 01:26 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I'm definitely the same way in keeping to my self, partly from social anxiety though. I will say I like a positive acknowledgement from people though it does make the day better and this world needs it even if it's a bit superficial. Positive is key though, Im not real into people getting in my business like the nosey lurker types


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: Donger] * 1
    #26685790 - 05/21/20 02:15 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

I'm with you on the positivity note. I don't talk much but I'll always smile and nod to basically every stranger I make eye contact with and 99% they smile and nod back and that feels good and keeps reality on about the positive


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: trees] * 1
    #26685848 - 05/21/20 02:38 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

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I'll always smile and nod to basically every stranger I make eye contact with and 99% they smile and nod back and that feels good and keeps reality on about the positive



That's a fine fucking skill man. I do it too. Changed my life when I learned to do so back in '17.


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Re: Just a softspocken dude who likes to keep to himself [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #26685873 - 05/21/20 02:47 PM (3 years, 8 months ago)

Philly beat this habit out of me with an iron fist :lol:. Not even just unfriendly people, just creepy people who take it as an invitation to creep.


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