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Pinkerton
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I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me...
#26676744 - 05/17/20 11:46 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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And I don't have a quip for every occasion, in fact I'm pretty stupid when it comes to human interraction.
How do I counter this?
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Rahz
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Pinkerton]
#26677560 - 05/17/20 07:30 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hmm, that's two things you're asking to counter.
Regarding social interaction, don't be bothered by your apparent inabilities. Accept yourself just as you are. Don't think badly of yourself.
Regarding being hurt easily by words, realize that the words other people choose to speak are a reflection of who they are and not who you are. Hurtful words and anything less than mutual respect is their problem and not yours unless you aren't showing respect. Nobody above or below.
It's really just a matter of priority. Do you want to be happy, or do you want to be something you aren't, thinking that will make you happy?
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Pinkerton]
#26678229 - 05/18/20 05:55 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Pinkerton said: And I don't have a quip for every occasion, in fact I'm pretty stupid when it comes to human interraction.
How do I counter this?
1/ Admitting you are a flawed human, is the first step
2/ Taking the time to ascertain the human condition, is step #2
3/ Placing limits on your own reactions, is step #3
4/ Paranoia, is step #4
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Buster_Brown]
#26678279 - 05/18/20 06:36 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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5. Stop stalking OC. (Corn stalk?)
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
#26678291 - 05/18/20 06:45 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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He's a flawed human attracted like a moth to the light. He has yet to perceive that you are also flawed.
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Buster_Brown]
#26678334 - 05/18/20 07:08 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Pinkerton
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: OrgoneConclusion]
#26678355 - 05/18/20 07:24 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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OrgoneConclusion said: 5. Stop stalking OC. (Corn stalk?)
Look who's talking. Besides, it's obvious why I'm stalking you, you're like the most hard to get lady out there.
My existence is pointless. I don't get why you don't kill me (while in my dreams), so I can escape this pain. I fucking hate life. 
Thick skin my ass.
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Pinkerton]
#26678560 - 05/18/20 09:33 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Pinkerton said:
My existence is pointless. I don't get why you don't kill me (while in my dreams), so I can escape this pain. I fucking hate life.
The resolution of this appears clear: (psalm 123:3 Have mercy on us, LORD, have mercy on us, for we have endured no end of contempt.)
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Pinkerton
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Buster_Brown]
#26678866 - 05/18/20 12:06 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Who is the LORD?
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Pinkerton]
#26678950 - 05/18/20 12:52 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Lord is a title
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: The Blind Ass]
#26681878 - 05/19/20 08:36 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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If Pinkerton didn't excel at playing the roll, of someone who debases his various selves. He would might be considered to be troll- ing, But as this lets others appear smarter, all end up happy with them selves. But have no need to have any fear, it was only time, for a silly rhyme.
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Pinkerton]
#26682397 - 05/20/20 01:38 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Pinkerton said: And I don't have a quip for every occasion, in fact I'm pretty stupid when it comes to human interraction.
How do I counter this?
I hear you.
It feels humiliating to be stuck for words.
I assume that you do not instigate conflicts that end in that kind of humiliation.
Personally I avoid putting myself in those situations because once I feel attached, anxiety and panic take over.
Sometimes I know that if I go out it will lead to feeling pissed off at something someone tells me but I still take the chance.
Even if you feel hurt by something someone says, know that the feeling will pass in time even if the memory remains.
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Rahz
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: laughingdog]
#26682761 - 05/20/20 07:45 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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laughingdog said: If Pinkerton didn't excel at playing the roll, of someone who debases his various selves. He would might be considered to be troll- ing, But as this lets others appear smarter, all end up happy with them selves. But have no need to have any fear, it was only time, for a silly rhyme.
Clearly there's an issue, but that doesn't mean no troll. Confusion is usually worse than truth.
-------------------- rahz comfort pleasure power love truth awareness peace "You’re not looking close enough if you can only see yourself in people who look like you." —Ayishat Akanbi
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Pinkerton]
#26682813 - 05/20/20 08:23 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Pinkerton said: And I don't have a quip for every occasion, in fact I'm pretty stupid when it comes to human interraction.
How do I counter this?
Kindness is rare, I haven't come across it too often. Consider every breath of oxygen an act of gratitude, saying, thank you, thank you, thank you, and smile as much as you can. However, even a smile at the wrong person will cause them to get creeped out. (Bowie song comes to mind, "you can lick em' by smiling". To get a thicker skin, it seems I had to die at least a couple times. The more you present yourself as somebody important, trying to sell yourself, the more people will try to tear you down, usually because every social space, whether a house, a room or a field, has underlying competitive drives dictating what people do and say. Some people are incorrigibly competitive and covetous and I generally avoid competition with people who think highly of themselves and who take delight in beating and outdoing others. Even when I play a sport such as basketball I don't pay much attention to the score, but I do my best every-time I get the ball. As long as you are doing the best you can, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Tao Te Ching, Thirteen
Accept disgrace willingly. Accept misfortune as the human condition.
What do you mean by "Accept disgrace willingly"? Accept being unimportant. Do not be concerned with loss or gain. This is called "accepting disgrace willingly."
What do you mean by "Accept misfortune as the human condition"? Misfortune comes from having a body. Without a body, how could there be misfortune?
Surrender yourself humbly; then you can be trusted to care for all things. Love the world as your own self; then you can truly care for all things.
* the power attitude is contrary to Love. Power attitude will always leave one feeling inferior and afraid.
-------------------- C.G. Jung: "Please remember, it is what you are that heals, not what you know." "I shall not commit the fashionable stupidity of regarding everything I cannot explain as a fraud." - Carl Jung Krishna, as his friends called him, freely admitted his compulsive lying. He blamed it on simple fear of having his deceptions detected." NOTES OF A FRINGE-WATCHER MARTIN GARDNER on J Krishnamurti "All your questions are born out of the answers you already have. Any answer anybody gives should put an end to your questions. But it does not." [UG-K]
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Re: I get hurt very easily from the words people say to me... [Re: Buster_Brown]
#26684169 - 05/20/20 07:49 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Buster_Brown said:
The resolution of this appears clear
I may have faith the size of a mustard seed but I have patience the size of a gnat! It's taken 2 days 10 hours and counting to move this mountain.
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