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CatsLoveHouseMusic
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Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.)
#26654267 - 05/07/20 02:16 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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So I live in a duplex, and Im the upstairs “tenant.” We share a yard, they have 3 young kids and I have 1. We were cool at first, my gf and I would always be super respectful and quiet. It says on the lease that the downstairs tenant is supposed to shovel the snow, they didnt do it ever so I ended up doing it everytime because you can get tickets and even though its their job I didnt want amy possible police contact, and im not a POS. Id take their garbage cans back if they left them out a full day, I let them have the better parking spaces, I paid the internet we share two months in a row, they hit my car backing out and I repaired the mirror myself and didnt make them pay because theyre broke as fuck, etc..
One time my GF had a vacuum quick around 9AM, their kids are always stomping around at 8 so I figured it was ok but they slept in that day I guess so they got mad and were banging violently on the ceiling. I got home right afterwards and my GF told me so I went down to their place in a rage about to do something stupid but calmed down. Theyre quite loud but if we make too much noise they are really rude about it, I never say anything to them about them being loud.
We share a yard like I said, and they have a trampoline and initially the father (who I would chit chat with,) said my daughter could use it so when their kids are outside my kid and theirs want to play together but recently the neighbors have been calling their kids inside right after the kids started playing. They said they didnt want my daughter on the trampoline during the corona virus but I confirmed with a different neighbor that this other neighbors kids are allowed to use the trampoline whenever theyd like.
I told my downstairs neighbors were buying our own trampoline and stuff, and the mom said we cant put it in the backyard and it has to go in the front yard by the street. My GF told them politely thats not going to happen. They never replied. They act like they run shit, storing junk everywhere and trying to control the yard. Im normally really calm, but since its effecting my daughter im absolutely livid. I tip toe around the house trying to be quiet when their kids honest to god stomp around at 8AM.
My daughter wants to play with their kids but look at the situation. They act rude in texts but wont even look at my girlfriend or myself. Im trying to be polite. I wanted to buy some stuff for the yard for everyone to share this summer. We are quiet, respectful neighbors but I can tell things are about to turn sour. I know this sounds childish but im at the point where if he even looks at me wrong, im going to say something. I didnt explain everything but theyve been aggressive with us, and we just take it in the ass but I cant anymore.
Im about to start shopping for stuff, but I know when I buy it and put in the backyard theyre going to flip. This is not how I want to spend my summer. Their kids are sweethearts who want to play with my kid, but they like cant, IDK. Im not perfect, but Im a good neighbor. Im not sure what I should do.
Im getting my own internet tomorrow, which will force them to pay for their own if they want it and theyre going to be pissed.
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CatsLoveHouseMusic
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Pretty much I dont know how to approach this. We talked to the mother about the situation through texts because she wont talk in person, and she didnt reply. I think shes riding on the hope that we wont buy the trampoline, or she thinks shes just going to raise hell if we buy one.
How am I supposed to be in the yard, when they make it so awkward bringing their kids inside when our kids would hang out? I started trying to keep my kid away from theirs, but she gets really upset... and I cant deal with that anymore.
Its awkward for us adults now too. They seriously act like they own the yard, and I know they get upset when we are in the backyard. They think my kid and I should run around by the street. I was thinking about texting them telling them we dont even have to acknowledge eachother, but I have backyard privileges also but then the kids will want to play and that will be awful.
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It might be a good idea to ask the landlord if you can put up a trampoline in the back yard before you go spending any of your money
Having the trampoline might be an insurance liability. What if some random kid in the neighborhood goes and gets hurt on it when no one is around? Aren't you worried about your neighbor wrecking the trampoline if you get it and set it up?
You sound like a cool neighbor and seem to have good intentions, but after what you just described about the downstairs people, personally, I'd be hesitant to put up a trampoline.
I do not miss living in the city/suburbs with fuckhead neighbors one bit.
Hopefully something works out for you, OP
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: MightyWhite] 1
#26654309 - 05/07/20 02:53 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Sue them for damages to the mirror.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: budmanman]
#26654322 - 05/07/20 03:11 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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I didnt explain this all that great. They have their own trampoline in the backyard that my daughter liked to jump on with their kids. Lets say I dont buy anything for back their which is fine, then my kid will want to jump on theirs and cry if she cant.. which I can deal with but this whole situation makes me feel like my daughter cant play in the yard.
Its a tough situation. Im trying not to be spiteful/aggressive and I only am quite upset because it has to do with my kid.
And yeah the mirror situation happened like 2.5 months ago. He hit it backing out going to work and didnt even say anything until we called them out about it. They had some excuse, I forget what exactly but ya. The more I think about it the more upset I get. Theyre pretty shady. Some wouldve called the cops over it.
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ModularMind
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Cut their internet access. Maybe they’ll revert to being sociable.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: ModularMind]
#26654341 - 05/07/20 03:31 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah I am calling the company tomorrow. They have the router in their area too. They lived their before I moved upstairs, and we ended up splitting the cost at first and sharing it... I dont have the option to use a LAN line or whatever either.
Im not a pushover, I just try to be really friendly/easygoing.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: ModularMind] 1
#26654746 - 05/07/20 09:41 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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ModularMind said: Cut their internet access. Maybe they’ll revert to being sociable.
They are seeing your kindness as weakness.
Buy your child a set of drums.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: Dilsnique] 1
#26654791 - 05/07/20 10:05 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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I feel you, OP.
My wife and I are currently at odds with our neighbors next door. I woke up this morning to some more bullshit.
Honestly, neighbors fucking suck. If you get good ones its such a blessing.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: Herbologist]
#26654792 - 05/07/20 10:05 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: Cannabischarlie] 1
#26654821 - 05/07/20 10:20 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Damn I feel sorry for you. I like living in the boondocks. Fuck people. As someone else said buy some drums. Fuck them .
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26654851 - 05/07/20 10:41 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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I agree talking to the landlord 1st is the best course of action. Get a copy of the lease agreement and approach them in person saying politely that according to the contract that was signed this is what we are and are not allowed to do in order to keep a peaceful neighborhood. And enjoy the freedoms your allowed regardless what your neighbors think. It's tough trying to be the bigger person when your kids happiness is compromised in the peocess. Just make sure the kids are happy.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26654977 - 05/07/20 11:51 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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spirit_shadow said: I like living in the boondocks.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26655033 - 05/07/20 12:17 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Gently lay them down and kiss your neighbor passionately, should put a stop to their shenanigans.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26655125 - 05/07/20 12:54 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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tyrannicalrex said:
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spirit_shadow said: I like living in the boondocks.
Yes lol
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26655200 - 05/07/20 01:20 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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I have a feeling he doesn't have a girl down in there, lol.
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26655213 - 05/07/20 01:28 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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You should do some things in a Scooby Doo villianesque way to make the neighbors think the building is haunted:
Goulish and creaking sounds Projected images of ghosts A super high-powered magnet to make some of their metal objects mysteriously float up to the ceiling Various pentagrams and Satanic symbols around the building
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Re: Problems with my neighbor (longer, need help.) [Re: Dilsnique]
#26655237 - 05/07/20 01:42 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Nice, I think I’ll mess with the fam this week using some of those tricks Dilsnique
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Make sure you are absolutely correct in your understanding of the written legality of everything that involves you AND your neighbors
If all else failes you will have to rely on the contract
Also sound does travel easily down
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