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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: Niffla] 2
#26654671 - 05/07/20 08:40 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Love is not a game for your amusement, Niffla. Keep playin' fast and loose with love and see what happens...
I love you, too.
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: 1234go] 3
#26654675 - 05/07/20 08:44 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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1234go said: Love is not a game for your amusement, Niffla. Keep playin' fast and loose with love and see what happens...

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1234go said:
I love you, too.
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: 1234go] 2
#26654695 - 05/07/20 09:06 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Droppin' some tough Love up in here! 
I would have to agree, it feels like your guy friend is taking advantage of the situation from you Niffla and from his wife. Hes got too much power and control right now. Not good....
Real Life friends are tough to find. They are to be cherished in my opinion....
This situation reminds me of that one poster who made a thread about lieing to his wife about growing shrooms. He keeps the secret for his advantage to grow more shrooms. A sorta silly lie to keep but Hell, we all have our secrets....
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: LogicaL Chaos] 1
#26654710 - 05/07/20 09:15 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: larry.fisherman]
#26655043 - 05/07/20 12:22 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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larry.fisherman said: We are the company we keep dude. Even if it doesn't change us completely it becomes a sense of normalcy in our lives. Being non-judgemental and having friends is great, it's liberating. But if this were a legal proceeding you'd be an accomplice. And that's why we are the company we keep, because even if it doesn't change us it makes us the person who stands aside as someone does something stupid. The second you start feeling guilty or regretful for being someone's friend is the moment we realize they might not be worth being a friend of. Principles are worth more than that imo, it's who we are and living with yourself is the one thing we have to do our whole lives. I'd rather be alone than be a friend to a bunch of thieves and assholes but maybe that's just me. Feeling remorseful for decisions someone else made feels awful. Do you think you would have slept with the married lady so readily if he wasn't your friend and making you feel like it's more normal than you obviously feel like it shouldnt be? That's probably a hard question to answer but it's an important one.
Well said.
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake]
#26655124 - 05/07/20 12:54 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: The Blind Ass]
#26655143 - 05/07/20 01:02 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Talk to them both get it all out in the open and hash it out gladiator style
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: Niffla] 1
#26731103 - 06/09/20 10:53 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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To be honest, I would not even be friends with someone like that. it puts you in an ethically sketchy situation
are you married? If he treats his wife in this manner who is to say he won't try and fuck your wife or gf? I understand you may treat your wife or gf properly but regardless a lapse in judgement and some alcohol could cause your partner to slip up
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: topdog82] 1
#26731161 - 06/09/20 11:22 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Hey Niffla!!
Dude I know the situation well. You are handling it fine, but at the same time, you are not obligated to tell lies for your friend. If a friend of mine, no matter how close to me, asked me to cover a lie for them so they could mess around on their partner I would honestly tell them I want nothing to do with the situation. At best I would let them know that was the last time and that even though I consider them friends/family, I do not want to be asked to do that moving forward. Being a good friend goes both ways, I would never put my friends in a position to have to lie to my family for me in such a way.
I hang out with some good friends who have a history of doing the same thing. Its a mutual understanding between those people and myself to not have conversations about whatever theyre up to. If they wanna cheat or whatever thats their business - I certainly am not going to fuck up their family by getting involved in any way, thats up to them if/when they want to come clean/get caught. But its nothing I want in my life and we all have that mutual respect not to muddy each others waters.
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: ManianFH] 1
#26731185 - 06/09/20 11:32 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I just block peoples phone numbers and everything if they prove to be shit people, no matter how many years ive known them or how close or how good of memories we shared.
They might not be terrible across their entire spectrum of character or intelligence, it could be just one little but serious problem in their character. Like, they're good almost all the way around and, they think that they're all good too, but if they are just too retarded in even one specific area of their character / intelligence that is just rotten in terms of human to human morality, then they loose 100% of my respect that they thought I had for them. That might be too harsh for most people
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: ManianFH]
#26731232 - 06/09/20 11:46 AM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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mick said: Hey Niffla!!
Dude I know the situation well. You are handling it fine, but at the same time, you are not obligated to tell lies for your friend. If a friend of mine, no matter how close to me, asked me to cover a lie for them so they could mess around on their partner I would honestly tell them I want nothing to do with the situation. At best I would let them know that was the last time and that even though I consider them friends/family, I do not want to be asked to do that moving forward. Being a good friend goes both ways, I would never put my friends in a position to have to lie to my family for me in such a way.
I hang out with some good friends who have a history of doing the same thing. Its a mutual understanding between those people and myself to not have conversations about whatever theyre up to. If they wanna cheat or whatever thats their business - I certainly am not going to fuck up their family by getting involved in any way, thats up to them if/when they want to come clean/get caught. But its nothing I want in my life and we all have that mutual respect not to muddy each others waters.
Thank you Mick for the great response -- I appreciate it sir.
I haven't seen them in person since that evening but am helping them move this Saturday
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: Niffla] 1
#26731367 - 06/09/20 12:48 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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haha word, good luck with it man. helping them move too you are a good friend
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: ManianFH]
#26731447 - 06/09/20 01:15 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'd cut him off. Cheaters dont deserve friends.
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Re: Close friend of mine has been a habitual cheater for years [Re: ichugwindex]
#26731533 - 06/09/20 01:54 PM (3 years, 7 months ago) |
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Yes they do, FWB.
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