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spirit_shadow
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Can you still persue that?
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tyrannicalrex
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spirit_shadow said: OP. Have you tried just enjoying the moment? Don't think about the past or future YOU ARE ALIVE. Really sit back and appreciate existence. At the end of the day goals dont matter. You can do everything you set out to do but happiness can only come from within. (Its funny cos someone used to tell me that growing up and I thought they were full of shit but lately I'm starting to think they were on to something)
I've been trying to get this point across.
I could have been in The Toadies as a drummer. I tried out for them when they were in Fort Worth Texas as teens. I was on a druggy path that would have more than likely ensured I OD'd on something before I was 30. I never went back to play with them even though they invited me to. That was my chance and I missed it. Do I regret it? Some, but mostly no. I would have been able to afford the drugs I was doing so I might not be here right now. If I made ANY other choices or anything in my life happened any differently, I would not be where I am at this moment.
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Thanatos10
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spirit_shadow said: Can you still persue that?
Not likely. THere aren't many opportunities around here for it alas.
I don't think the problem is wanting achievement and status, that's fine every now and then. The problem with a Mid life crisis I think is when you stop and wonder what was it all for. You will suffer in life if you always worry about the outcome and don't enjoy the work.
I heard it said that happiness isn't by distancing from desires and wants (I mean they are yours so you just war against yourself) but it's like climbing a mountain. There is no joy in just taking a helicopter to the top or just wandering the base, the joy is in the climbing. In other words goals are fine as long as you are in the moment of doing them.
But if all you do is chase status, fame, rewards, etc then you'll be like the comic I linked, you don't like what you are doing because you want something out of it.
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spirit_shadow
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I agree 100% it's so cliche but it really is about the journey. The reward is just the cherry on top.
Edit: yeah it is tuff if you live in an area that the subject doesn't exist. Still not impossible though :p
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In 2019 we brought you Rambo: Last Blood.
Now for 2020, anticipation is rising for Rambo: (and the) Rural Wandering Rogue Bloodthirsty Meth Heads
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blackdragon999
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Niffla]
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blackdragon999 said: You would pretty much have to live Rambo style out in the woods if you want to avoid the methheads.
Ummm for 2 years plus I lived in Wyoming on a work transfer and not once did I have to Rambo it out with rural wandering rogue bloodthirsty meth heads

Brokeback Mountain was filmed in Wyoming. Other than that, I don't know much about it really.
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blackdragon999
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HappyHigh said: ...Maybe try a hobby WAY outside your means...
I'm sad to say that most of those things are illegal. But I'm searching my soul.
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Niffla



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blackdragon999 said: You would pretty much have to live Rambo style out in the woods if you want to avoid the methheads.
Ummm for 2 years plus I lived in Wyoming on a work transfer and not once did I have to Rambo it out with rural wandering rogue bloodthirsty meth heads

Brokeback Mountain was filmed in Wyoming. Other than that, I don't know much about it really.
It's basically Montana but east of Montana. Right next to Montana. You grew up in Montana so you gotta know at least that much...
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Mudbrain
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Niffla]
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No problem blackdragon! I realized after you replied that I have no idea what a web developer is, or what they actually do - you can probably tell because I'm all, "go make some low-expectation websites!"
But I'd encourage you to do something you've always wanted to do, and do it in a way that doesn't add more emotional stress to yourself.
And honestly, if you're just feeling tired and at loose ends, that's okay too- the midlife crisis doesn't seem to last forever... Just long enough to be a real bummer, no matter how successful you are.
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Babylon
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Mudbrain]
#26601392 - 04/14/20 07:16 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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You know the internet sucks, you have the beginnings of an understanding of how to fix some of it. You sound like you are asking for ways other people would like it to be fixed, but why don't you fix what you want to fix? You'll probably have to spend some cash for hosting, but it sounds like cash is not a problem for you and hosting is not that expensive anyways.
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MycQueen
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blackdragon999 said: I wasn't trying to be arrogant about it...but things like that have always been easy for me. I've watched so many people work for almost nothing until they fall apart, get replaced by younger workers and die with nothing. That fear definitely can carry you along way. Since I have always been socially awkward it was easy to focus more on things rather than people. But now I wish that I was poor...and that I had more friends.
I think most of us here are socially awkward IRL and have found a haven here at the Shroomery. You are most definitely not alone on that one.
You don't have to be poor, make some more friends and share your good fortune with them. One could argue that you are making more friends right here, right now.
Be a mentor or angel investor.
Use your gifts/talents to start a non-profit, web site, program or app with a free service to help the type of people you've had to watch fall apart with nothing. Then maybe get a marketing company to help you reach the folks that need help most. Who were the type of folks that needed help, whether they were aware of it or not? What did they all have in common, need, or were lacking? Where could they go to get the help they needed? When could they have used intervention or help? How could they prevent this from happening?
We all have experiences and wisdom that can help each other - previous, current and coming generations. We just need to find a way to share it and have it be applied to each persons current situation. We all need help of some sort at some time, whether we want to admit it or not. We need to help each other, even from a distance to make it through.
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: MycQueen]
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blackdragon999
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Mudbrain]
#26603488 - 04/15/20 05:11 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Mudbrain said: No problem blackdragon! I realized after you replied that I have no idea what a web developer is, or what they actually do - you can probably tell because I'm all, "go make some low-expectation websites!"
But I'd encourage you to do something you've always wanted to do, and do it in a way that doesn't add more emotional stress to yourself.
And honestly, if you're just feeling tired and at loose ends, that's okay too- the midlife crisis doesn't seem to last forever... Just long enough to be a real bummer, no matter how successful you are.
In a way I'm glad I got back to the Shroomery. I'll probably be hanging around a lot more often because I like the environment here.
A web developer just builds/maintains a website. In a way, behind every website is an architect. I am much more of an artist than an mathematician so I view most things I learn as a tool to create better art. Web development seems to provide a venue to express that. Pure programming is usually very technical and often monotonous so as someone who loves to create things it's more of a means rather than an end.
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blackdragon999
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Babylon] 1
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Babylon said: You know the internet sucks, you have the beginnings of an understanding of how to fix some of it. You sound like you are asking for ways other people would like it to be fixed, but why don't you fix what you want to fix? You'll probably have to spend some cash for hosting, but it sounds like cash is not a problem for you and hosting is not that expensive anyways.
Most younger people now seem to be more or less preoccupied with their phones opposed to people in my general age group (computer people). One of the things I like about forums like this is that people actually take the time to type a response and have a conversation rather than a quick acronym or emoji.
But yes, I am fishing for ideas from different age groups. I'm not interested in making money at all really. I feel like I have woken up after a long sleep and I'm now the VCR/Tapedeck uncle
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spirit_shadow
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Awww blackdragon999, you are not the tapedeck uncle..... you are the CD uncle 
Edit: much better than tapedecks
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: MycQueen]
#26603562 - 04/15/20 05:38 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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blackdragon999 said: I wasn't trying to be arrogant about it...but things like that have always been easy for me. I've watched so many people work for almost nothing until they fall apart, get replaced by younger workers and die with nothing. That fear definitely can carry you along way. Since I have always been socially awkward it was easy to focus more on things rather than people. But now I wish that I was poor...and that I had more friends.
I think most of us here are socially awkward IRL and have found a haven here at the Shroomery. You are most definitely not alone on that one.
You don't have to be poor, make some more friends and share your good fortune with them. One could argue that you are making more friends right here, right now.
Be a mentor or angel investor.
Use your gifts/talents to start a non-profit, web site, program or app with a free service to help the type of people you've had to watch fall apart with nothing. Then maybe get a marketing company to help you reach the folks that need help most. Who were the type of folks that needed help, whether they were aware of it or not? What did they all have in common, need, or were lacking? Where could they go to get the help they needed? When could they have used intervention or help? How could they prevent this from happening?
We all have experiences and wisdom that can help each other - previous, current and coming generations. We just need to find a way to share it and have it be applied to each persons current situation. We all need help of some sort at some time, whether we want to admit it or not. We need to help each other, even from a distance to make it through.
Yes sometimes I am socially awkwerd sometimes I'm not. Always find a way to get a long with everybody without agreeing with them.
I do better and have more confidence away from, where I'm from. It's way more of a thrill.
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blackdragon999
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spirit_shadow said: Awww blackdragon999, you are not the tapedeck uncle..... you are the CD uncle 
Edit: much better than tapedecks 
Yeah...traumatized watching my stepdad trying to figure out how to rewind DVDs circa 1990's. Meanwhile before MP3 was a thing....burning 100s of CD's to my computer only to realize it copied all of the scratches on the CD and that my favorite songs would continue to skip forever.
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tyrannicalrex
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I'm glad to see you back. You're adding in here (not just this thread).
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spirit_shadow
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spirit_shadow said: Awww blackdragon999, you are not the tapedeck uncle..... you are the CD uncle 
Edit: much better than tapedecks 
Yeah...traumatized watching my stepdad trying to figure out how to rewind DVDs circa 1990's. Meanwhile before MP3 was a thing....burning 100s of CD's to my computer only to realize it copied all of the scratches on the CD and that my favorite songs would continue to skip forever.
The good old days
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InfiniteDreams


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blackdragon999 said: I am much more of an artist than an mathematician so I view most things I learn as a tool to create better art. Web development seems to provide a venue to express that. Pure programming is usually very technical and often monotonous so as someone who loves to create things it's more of a means rather than an end.
Math at its core is as pure as art. It is not monotonous. It is a failure of the education system in the way that mathematics is taught.
Pure math brings joy of the same kind as music or any visual art.
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