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Asclepius
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If you truly don't care about making money, and have enough of it set aside to provide a good life for your family, you know what you must do -- the answer is inside of you! Chase your passions to create something new with coding langauges. Search for what you think the internet is lacking, some unique service that no one else has thought to provide. Allow yourself to be the real you.
Brother, most of us work shit jobs for meager wages because we have no choice. It's hard to chase one's passions when worrying about putting food on the table. If you don't share in these worries, what's stopping you is the only question you should be asking yourself. The only roadblock is you getting in the way of yourself.
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Northerner
splelling chceker


Registered: 07/29/12
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blackdragon999 said: I would like to get away from everything but I just end up feeling restless in nature. Hard to relax and slow down.
Now you are getting closer to the core of the issue.
This is why men sit on a mountain for a year, to learn to be alone and calm again.
Quit media, don't Facebook or WhatsApp, definitely don't watch the news, don't watch commercial television. Everything will keep going, even if you don't watch or listen. Much of it is lies and emotional manipulation anyway. Stop being a slave to the noise. It is designed to addict you and instill fear, literally.
There is nothing anyone can tell or give you that will bring inner peace. It's you, only you. The answer is a resolution more than an action. Your actions though will give you the headspace to whether or not you can find that resolution. Many men don't though. They just fill their lives with more things, fast cars, fast women, more toys, more money, more websites, more media, and avoid, avoid, avoid the frank realities of being alone with themselves.
My solution of planting trees is something that works for me, it may not be the thing that is good for you. But your connection to life, death, and this world without all it's trimmings is incontrovertible. You're just an animal on this planet, possibly even with a soul or spirit.
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budmanman
OTD Masterbater



Registered: 02/07/07
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Give me some money, I lost my job cause of the virus and owe 140k on and its stressing me out. Giving me the money will make you happy, says so somewhere in the bible.
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spirit_shadow
Feature not a bug



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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: budmanman] 1
#26596496 - 04/12/20 07:27 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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No vision? What do you want out of life? Because only you can answer that one
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MycQueen
Benevolent Monarch of Agaricales



Registered: 12/27/19
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Hey dragon, sorry to hear you feel stuck and literally are right now. Maybe you're just homesick, missing your wife, family & nice homes. Maybe you just need some quality time. Go away with your wife when you get home, some place special to you both to rekindle the flames of passion for life. Maybe you are exactly where you need to be right now, so you can have some time alone far from your familiar surroundings, chatting with us Shroomery folk to think up the next big thing! Sometimes life gets in the way of our dreams and we get so busy trying to put food on the table or achieve the next goal, we forget what once brought us joy and laughter. Sometimes the more stuff we acquire along the way, the more we loose ourselves. Spend at least a few hours tonight & think back to when you were a kid, teenager or young adult back in that apartment... what were the things you liked, wished or dreamed you'd like to do, be or existed? Did you ever think 'wow it'd be cool if this was a thing or if they made that'? I can bet you are not the only person feeling this way. If a friend came to you with the exact problem you now have, how would you help them, what would you recommend? That same answer maybe just what you need or the seed idea for your next project. If that doesn't work, take a shroom trip & ask the mushrooms what they'd have you do with your language skills for the internet and the world... it worked for Terrance McKenna.
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brk
Unless...



Registered: 04/10/14
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Loc: SA
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: MycQueen] 1
#26597102 - 04/13/20 02:01 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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It didn't work for Rizohunter....
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Seriously_trippin
Cosmic Guru Ganesh



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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: brk]
#26597128 - 04/13/20 02:31 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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brk said: It didn't work for Rizohunter.... 
Miss that guy for whatever reason. Not the dancing though.
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HappySloth



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Hi fren,
The nature of the mind is that it always wants more.
It is always seeking the next "thing" or "lover" to fulfill it.
The sense of happiness from this is fleeting and does not last. As soon as one thing is gained, you will need another.
The mind always wants to add more.
Go now and sit on a bench and look at te view. See how long you can spend there before your mind starts to tell you that you need more, maybe a drink or some food, maybe talk to someone or a friend... but its just never enough to satisfy and make us happy.
This is the nature of the human mind and what we are all learning to tame.
I want you to try this. Try paying much more attention to your quality of thought.
Are you trying to add more? Then try this stop thinking about that and start thinking about the things that you are grateful for?
Its very difficult to be grateful for what you have and be unhappy because you want more.
The mind is strange thing. True happiness and true contentness actuially comes from peace.
Peace can be learnt by meditation. It can be learnt by sitting on the bench and practicing watching your mind. Every time the thought or urge to add more comes, I want you to stop thinking about that and either clear your mind completely by remaining in the present moment and enjpoying the view or concentatng on thoughts about being humble and grateful for everything you have!
This is training for your mind. Training for PEACE OF MIND. Which is where true happiness comes from!
The more we practice this the more the mind learns it cannot just keep trying to gain these temporary moments of happiness and a much deeper peace arises, from this grows true happiness, true contentness and joy for life.
I'll try and help or explain further if needed
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Loaded Shaman
Psychophysiologist



Registered: 03/02/15
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You're perfect, yes, it's true!
But without me, you're only you...
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HappySloth



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The crisis is essentially the realisation that constantly seeking more only produces a temporary dopamine hit not happiness.
Happiness actually arises from peace of mind. It is quite a skill.
Its in fact the exact opposite of what most people have been trained to and are trying to do...
Most people seek a temp hit of dopamine from aquiring a new object. This isn't happiness.
True happiness arises from the peace of being content with what is. Be here now.
When you've learnt peace then a true joy for all life emerges.
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blackdragon999
Mason


Registered: 07/17/06
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budmanman said: Give me some money, I lost my job cause of the virus and owe 140k on and its stressing me out. Giving me the money will make you happy, says so somewhere in the bible.
I'm sorry to hear about your job. A lot of people are struggling right now. Hopefully you can get back to work soon.
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blackdragon999
Mason


Registered: 07/17/06
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Asclepius said: If you truly don't care about making money, and have enough of it set aside to provide a good life for your family, you know what you must do -- the answer is inside of you! Chase your passions to create something new with coding langauges. Search for what you think the internet is lacking, some unique service that no one else has thought to provide. Allow yourself to be the real you.
Brother, most of us work shit jobs for meager wages because we have no choice. It's hard to chase one's passions when worrying about putting food on the table. If you don't share in these worries, what's stopping you is the only question you should be asking yourself. The only roadblock is you getting in the way of yourself.
You are right about that. There is a point when it's hard to see who you really are if you cover yourself in distractions.
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tyrannicalrex
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Registered: 04/24/03
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ummmm, if those are your achievements in the 1st post, just sit back and enjoy it! I WISH I was in that position. I fucking hate working because I have to, but at least I have a great job. Hopefully in a few more years the hubby and I will retire. Then it's travelling some and just enjoying life. I'd retire right this very minute if I could. If I'm vegging in front of a TV, so fucking what? I earned that right. I love just sitting and doing nothing. BUT, I have been working since I was 12yo, and grew up poor.
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tyrannicalrex
Strange R



Registered: 04/24/03
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Northerner said:
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blackdragon999 said: I would like to get away from everything but I just end up feeling restless in nature. Hard to relax and slow down.
Now you are getting closer to the core of the issue.
This is why men sit on a mountain for a year, to learn to be alone and calm again.
Quit media, don't Facebook or WhatsApp, definitely don't watch the news, don't watch commercial television. Everything will keep going, even if you don't watch or listen. Much of it is lies and emotional manipulation anyway. Stop being a slave to the noise. It is designed to addict you and instill fear, literally.
There is nothing anyone can tell or give you that will bring inner peace. It's you, only you. The answer is a resolution more than an action. Your actions though will give you the headspace to whether or not you can find that resolution. Many men don't though. They just fill their lives with more things, fast cars, fast women, more toys, more money, more websites, more media, and avoid, avoid, avoid the frank realities of being alone with themselves.
My solution of planting trees is something that works for me, it may not be the thing that is good for you. But your connection to life, death, and this world without all it's trimmings is incontrovertible. You're just an animal on this planet, possibly even with a soul or spirit.
I posted before I read the whole thread, I love this post!
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Niffla



Registered: 06/09/08
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Loc: Texas
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That is a phenomenal post.
The going off to be alone part particularly -- that resonates with me so much. Just shutting the world off and going away to a cabin in the mountains somewhere in northwestern Wyoming. Or Colorado or Montana. Maybe New Mexico. No cable. God I'd like to abandon the internet too.
No more hearing/seeing these politically obsessed liberal and conservative freaks cry all day about politicians. No more rush hour traffic surrounded by an ocean of unhappy people. No more massive corporations begging telling me I need their product at every turn. Shit I'd like to smash this stupid smart phone too that I always got my face buried in. No more wasting my time watching completely meaningless sports like I've done so much of life. No more stupid petty drama and fake people who sit around judging everyone.
Just the quiet of the mountain and nature. I swear I daydream about that lifestyle all the time now.
Once upon a time I hated the idea of living out somewhere remote and rural. Now I fantasize about it. I loathe the city life now. I've been in the city virtually my entire life and I'm to the point where I despise it at this point. So many awful human beings. It's loud. It's dirty. It's crime ridden.
One day, man. One day.
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tyrannicalrex
Strange R



Registered: 04/24/03
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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Niffla] 1
#26598055 - 04/13/20 01:30 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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I like both actually (city and country), mostly a city person though. I know what you mean though. BUT, YOU can turn off some of those things, sooooo...
This is pretty spectacular though. We are VERY lucky!
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Niffla



Registered: 06/09/08
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tyrannicalrex said:
This is pretty spectacular though. We are VERY lucky!

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tyrannicalrex
Strange R



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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Niffla] 1
#26598073 - 04/13/20 01:34 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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You could visit you know....
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watermelon mon
Willow Trees

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Re: Mid Life Crisis [Re: Niffla] 1
#26598126 - 04/13/20 01:59 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Niffla said: That is a phenomenal post.
The going off to be alone part particularly -- that resonates with me so much. Just shutting the world off and going away to a cabin in the mountains somewhere in northwestern Wyoming. Or Colorado or Montana. Maybe New Mexico. No cable. God I'd like to abandon the internet too.
No more hearing/seeing these politically obsessed liberal and conservative freaks cry all day about politicians. No more rush hour traffic surrounded by an ocean of unhappy people. No more massive corporations begging telling me I need their product at every turn. Shit I'd like to smash this stupid smart phone too that I always got my face buried in. No more wasting my time watching completely meaningless sports like I've done so much of life. No more stupid petty drama and fake people who sit around judging everyone.
Just the quiet of the mountain and nature. I swear I daydream about that lifestyle all the time now.
Once upon a time I hated the idea of living out somewhere remote and rural. Now I fantasize about it. I loathe the city life now. I've been in the city virtually my entire life and I'm to the point where I despise it at this point. So many awful human beings. It's loud. It's dirty. It's crime ridden.
One day, man. One day.
Same. It gets a bit lonely. Not like the city though. It makes me very lonely to be around all of those people. This quatrain stuff has me feeling less lonely then i did before.
It's very strange. Right before it happend all I seen were couples everywhere.
It didn't make me feel jealous. I was happy to see them. I wish them well.
wasnt just one or two literally everyone everywhere. It just made me feel like a bit of a loser. It's something I've never accomplished. I was close though. The only people I was close with, they just wanted me to drive them places.
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spirit_shadow
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I'd drive you places
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