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FreakQlibrium
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
#4253233 - 06/03/05 05:50 PM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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Is this a "bad" thing? Even if I enjoy spending my time alone?
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Man, my PC has been in the shop for over a week and this is the first post i've seen here where i felt a need to respond: Pls know, that when my company of @ 8 years folded that the first place i looked for gainfull employment was as a lighthouse keeper, no lie(they are now all automated ). So much do i enjoy my own company that i really don't give 2(or even 3) shitz if i ever see another human being as long as i live.
Having said that however, i'm not really anti social as much as i am non social, if having human company once in a while is an improvement over my solitary state(rarely) then i embrace the opportuninty
Do w/e feels right, if you feel/have a reclusive nature then go for it man As long as you're not the next unibomber or some such thing sitting out in the middle of nowhere plotting mass destruction on the society you have freely rejected then just chill man
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: FreakQlibrium]
#4253299 - 06/03/05 06:09 PM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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No no, I'm far too much of a pacifist for any kind of violence
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FreakQlibrium
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
#4253308 - 06/03/05 06:14 PM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hard to plant the seeds of universal mass destruction when you're laying down face first in a muddy culvert
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: FreakQlibrium]
#4253313 - 06/03/05 06:15 PM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hey at least the landing was smack-on
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FreakQlibrium
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
#4253360 - 06/03/05 06:32 PM (18 years, 9 months ago) |
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Well at least you didn't light the soles(too drunk to know a poor spelling from a right one right now ) of your running shoes on fire
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: FreakQlibrium]
#4916597 - 11/10/05 05:22 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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hah, don't worry about it so much man. That quote pretty much said anything I could have hoped to express, but at the same time it is good to have friends to chill with, if for nothing else than to relate to a real person for a while, instead of people on a forum.
Nothing wrong at all with spending time online, but once you start associating being "social" with being "online" then it could just as easily lead to other problems, probably sharing symptoms of what could be considered an addiction of sorts.
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.I have no friends because I will not associate with superficial people and thats all there really is out here.People who think life is all about nails and fashion(girls) and people who think its all about the hottest girl and the fastes or best car(guys).THey've not a single real thought in their heads.No desire,no ambition,no goals or purpose.I frankly,dont have aword to say to these sort of people...they wont understand anything I try to tell them.
sometimes i fall into this pattern of thinking as well, but you really have to realize that whenever you start getting bitter over this stuff, its probably because you are seeing some of these faults in yourself, and perhaps they are brought out more when you are around others. Shutting people out because you silently judge them as being unworthy of friendship, or incapable of an important thought is not really helping anyone in the long run... hurts them, because they miss out on having a friend, and it hurts you because you will just continue to convince yourself of your great ability to judge others by their idle chat, becoming more and more arrogant as time goes on.
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: Renegade8]
#4916632 - 11/10/05 06:07 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
The only thing wrong is that you need to ask.
Besides if you get lonely you have me to talk at.
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
#4916800 - 11/10/05 07:33 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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Like grains of sand are we In transition On the shores of a boundless sea Our position In contact with life on Mars (My ambition) And plasma circling stars
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Simisu
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: Booby]
#4919658 - 11/10/05 07:59 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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do you know the reasons why you rather stay alone? don't you want to have wild passionate sex with lot's of fine looking ladys? don't you wish you could presue your desires outside of fantasy?
i ask these same questions my self (you described my behaviure pretty well in your first post so...) but i'm not as comfrtable being this way my self! my self asteem has gone down the drain since i found out WHY i was this way and changing my self is an on going battle... i've deprived my friends of my presence becouse i came to feel like i had nothing to bring to the situation... i didn't care where we went i didn't care what we did as long as i could enjoy my friends company but then i got bored, numb... just sat there and had nothing to contribute... it freaked me out! all we ever did was smoke pot and talk and all I had to talk about was my self and how stuck i feel... being home is being safe, confident, nothing can hurt me here! but out there - socializing - you're never sure, you just don't know!
my guess is that the only reason you're still statisfied with the situation is becouse of your friends that have an interest in you (selfish of course) and you don't mind providing that intrest becouse you're comfrtable being dragged along for whatever reason?
i hate putting up posts like this one since i could be SO dead wrong and have the biggest misconseption of you and the situation but i've spent a while writing this so might as well post it
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: Simisu]
#4919836 - 11/10/05 08:56 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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i think even non hermits can relate to just about everything mentioned so far.
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Dreamer987
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: kotik]
#4920736 - 11/11/05 12:59 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I can't really relate. I need social interaction. I care about friendship more than anything. There have been times when i hermit up, but its usually because i'm depressed, and not having friends around makes me even more depressed. If thats what you wana do thats fine, but disapearing and rejecting your friends isn't really right. Its hard for the average person to understand that you dont want to be around people in general. Not just them. Frienships can be seriously damaged, and fade out when neglected. If your not there for your friends, you might look up one day and realize that they aren't there for you anymore either.
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: Simisu]
#4920893 - 11/11/05 01:53 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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do you know the reasons why you rather stay alone?
It's not that I would rather be alone, I just don't feel much need or desire to be social. I am social at times, but almost 100% of the time the interaction is initiated by my friends, not me.
don't you want to have wild passionate sex with lot's of fine looking ladys?
No, actually. I don't feel any great need or desire to get laid very often. It's cool when I get some, but I don't miss it much when I don't get any. I'd also rather not have to many sexual partners (I've had 2) in my life.
don't you wish you could presue your desires outside of fantasy?
I'm not entirely sure what you mean by that. I pursue many desires outside of fantasy - most of them just happen to be done on my own.
I certainly don't feel that I have nothing to contribute to my friends. I know I do, just like I know they have things that they contribute to me. I'm sure that's part of the reason my friends are my friends - we compliment each other's strengths and cover each other's weaknesses. I tend to think I have a very good understanding of what I have to offer my friends. I rarely feel unappreciated in return. I enjoy the time I do spend around my friends (obviously, or I wouldn't spend time with them).
On the other hand I don't find I have a lot of need for friends. I don't need anything from my friends. I appreciate what I get, but if I don't get it from them I'll just find it on my own. I think I have a rich private life - I can pretty much always find something intensely interesting to occupy myself with.
Again the big thing I need to point out is that I don't feel anti-social so much as un-social (at least most of the time). I go out with my friends on occasion. I hang out with them in private more often.
Right now I see people outside of my immediate family about once every 1-2 weeks. That seems to be enough for me - as I said I don't feel any need/desire to go seek out direct interaction with other people. I used to socialize an aweful lot more - all day every day - but I didn't have any need/desire at that time either. It just happened to be how often my friends hung around with me.
I dunno. I think I'm rambling by this point
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
#4920902 - 11/11/05 01:56 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think the only thing that causes me problems with respect to being un-social is that sometimes people who are close to me, usually family, seem to think that I am missing out on something. They think I "should" be more sociable.
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kotik
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: trendal]
#4921041 - 11/11/05 04:12 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I can't really relate. I need social interaction.
come on now.. even if you are not a hermit, im sure you can relate to what is being said here.
if not, you are lying to yourself
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: kotik]
#4932482 - 11/14/05 01:37 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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same boat. however I just went a little further with this girl I know at work who seems to be alot more sociable then me. I'm going to try it out for a time and see how it is... on the '''other side'''...
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Dreamer987
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: kotik]
#4932840 - 11/14/05 02:55 PM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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"come on now.. even if you are not a hermit, im sure you can relate to what is being said here. if not, you are lying to yourself"
no, no I understand. I have alot of Hermit tendencys that i have had to overcome, but i'm the oposite. I hate it. Being alone feeds depression, and anti-social behaviors.
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: Dreamer987]
#4936059 - 11/15/05 04:27 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was a hermit for a long time... Just staying in my room and only coming down to get something to eat... I didn't go out much and if I did it was just for a trip to the coffeeshop or for smoking a bowl or a joint...
I never wanted to go to a disco or anything... The girls I've dated were all way too outgoing... Which sucked cause I wasn't like that...
Even now I don't go out that much... I'm 19 but I only go out on holidays... Just going to a party a couple of times but nothing more... Even if I do go to a party usually I get too drunk or too stoned to talk so I'm not sociable either...
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: Brakkie]
#4936125 - 11/15/05 06:04 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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I blame my less-than-social lifestyle on the simple fact that I do not consume alcohol, and I do not like to smoke in public (or in cars).
Even if I go out with lots of friends, they all drink and I don't.. so it always puts me between 2 options:
1 - Be the fucking drunk caddy with people being loud and sloppy because I am the only one not drunk, so somehow I turn into the Designated Driver
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2 - Get caught up into drunken arguments, fist fights, or end up in a car with some drunk driving way too fast after dark, and fumbling with the car radio, cigarette, cellphone, and yelling at semi-fine girls at red lights. (mind you, none of this is even mildly amusing when you are sober)
am i missing something other than a decent group of friends?
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: kotik]
#4950125 - 11/18/05 03:06 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone. I never found the companion that was so companionable as solitude. We are for the most part more lonely when we go abroad among men than when we stay in our chambers. A man thinking or working is always alone, let him be where he will. Solitude is not measured by the miles of space that intervene between a man and his fellows. The really diligent student in one of the crowded hives of Cambridge College is as solitary as a dervis in the desert. The farmer can work alone in the field or the woods all day, hoeing or chopping, and not feel lonesome, because he is employed; but when he comes home at night he cannot sit down in a room alone, at the mercy of his thoughts, but must be where he can 'see the folks,' and recreate, and, as he thinks, remunerate himself for his day's solitude; and hence he wonders how the student can sit alone in the house all night and most of the day without ennui and 'the blues'; but he does not realize that the student, though in the house, is still at work in his field, and chopping in his woods, as the farmer in his, and in turn seeks the same recreation and society that the latter does, though it may be a more condensed form of it. Society is commonly too cheap. We meet at very short intervals, not having had time to acquire any new value for each other. We meet at meals three times a day, and give each other a new taste of that old musty cheese that we are. We have had to agree on a certain set of rules, called etiquette and politeness, to make this frequent meeting tolerable and that we need not come to open war. We meet at the post-office, and at the sociable, and about the fireside every night; we live thick and are in each other's way, and stumble over one another, and I think that we thus lose some respect for one another. Certainly less frequency would suffice for all important and hearty communications."
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Re: Is it ok to be a hermit, or is something wrong? [Re: headset]
#4950483 - 11/18/05 04:59 AM (18 years, 4 months ago) |
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