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Asclepius
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Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? 1
#26579963 - 04/05/20 04:52 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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In my past experience I think it was not so great having a long-distance relationship. But now I am experiencing cognitive dissonance like you can't believe! I met this beautiful woman that I really click with. The problem is she lives in another country and I am not sure if she has the same feelings toward me. Also, we have only known each other for a few months. It would feel weird asking if she has the same feelings, not because I am timid, but because of the whole online thing. I don't know, it just feels so 90's and is weird to me. I don't want to potentially start a relationship with someone that I may never have the opportunity to meet. But this woman -- she is gorgeous! I feel conflicted as hell!
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#26579994 - 04/05/20 05:05 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Define successful lol my relationship has been like 6 years now (minus that month we about terminated it). As other have said if you do it you need to have a master plan. I have a master plan but I have a complicated situation here involving property....that aside I've hit a point where as soon as this virus shit is over I'm selling all my shit that I dont need and moving to her and marrying her.
I wont lie, it has been one of the hardest things in my life to maintain.....but luckily I'm the type that always likes to test my limits and personal will power. Just make sure it is something you want to commit to.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius] 1
#26580015 - 04/05/20 05:14 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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It definitely tough but with enough motivation, you can make it work. Just make sure to actually try meet each other in the future, which Im sure you are already planning perhaps.
For a long distance relationship to work, both parties have to be on board 100%.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius] 1
#26580110 - 04/05/20 06:02 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Man you're gonna hate hearing this but USUALLY, long distance in MY EXPERIENCE doesn't work out. Perhaps meeting first and having a connection and then moving apart and keeping in touch (which is what id did) sets a precedent, of disconnect. I've never "relationshipped" anyone I haven't met in IRL.
I think it simply comes down to an old saying: A bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: crummydustbunny] 4
#26580117 - 04/05/20 06:05 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Asclepius, that girl you think you’ve been talking to online all this time...
Welll... , it’s been me the whole time babe
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: The Blind Ass] 4
#26580236 - 04/05/20 06:59 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Depends on how you define success my friend.
Like did we get married? No, but I don't really want to get married. Was I happy? Yeah, for a time. It's not really any different than a normal relationship, the hardest part is just learning to tolerate the fact that you can't call them over on the spur of the moment.
I like being alone alot though. I need alot of breathing room. But NEVER meeting or taking too long to meet... wouldn't call that person my gf and remain faithful to them because I don't know how we work without the online filter.
As I begin to develop feelings for anyone for any reason under any circumstance the first thing I try to keep in mind is that I enjoy this person's company and I should just focus on enjoying it and being content with the ability to spend time with them.
98% of all your relationships are fleeting. They go away at some point for some reason. That 2% for most people is family, a significant other (marital partner mostly), and in some rare cases BFFs.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: The Blind Ass] 1
#26580343 - 04/05/20 07:47 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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I knew I had been catfished. But a gotta ask, was it good for you too, babe? 💔
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius] 1
#26580433 - 04/05/20 08:27 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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What? Were you really catfished? Lol
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26580444 - 04/05/20 08:36 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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No.😂
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius]
#26580583 - 04/05/20 09:36 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Catfishing is crazy these days. Really elaborate 
Long distance isn't for everyone and is VERY challenging but it can work out for some people.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#26581101 - 04/06/20 06:50 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Can work for a short time if you're actively making plans and working toward moving closer together.
But if you've been talking for months and she hasn't dropped any hints that she's romantically into you, she probably isn't.
If you don't realistically have a good chance of coming together, be careful you don't set yourself up for disappointment and/or failure.
Besides if your relationship would be limited to internet interactions indefinitely- there's no point really in being in a "long distance relationship". Just chat and be friends and in the meantime leave open the possibility that you'll meet someone in person or at least someone you are more likely to eventually meet in person.
An internet girlfriend is no substitute for a partner that is physically there with you.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: susurrador] 1
#26581143 - 04/06/20 07:35 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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It usually doesn't last unless it is fake. She will find or already has someone giving her attention in person.
Also, this is how many scams start out. Eventually you'll send money or buy a plane ticket and she'll take it and disappear.
Have you even facetimed with her?
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: LikeMyc] 1
#26581149 - 04/06/20 07:38 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Also this is a symptom of you not having enough female attention locally.
And beware, pussy will cloud your judgement.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: LikeMyc]
#26581156 - 04/06/20 07:43 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'm having a very successful long distance relationship. we have yet to even know each other
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: LikeMyc]
#26581236 - 04/06/20 08:51 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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You're probably right. I work a lot and have other unique obligations that don't allow much time for social interaction -- and that was before the pandemic. I don't think I am going to meet her anytime soon.
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius]
#26581337 - 04/06/20 09:58 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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With me we have met a lot of times. That is key. If you can be together in person at least a handful times per year it can work. It's still fucking hard but it can work if the love is real(which it is)
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius] 1
#26581393 - 04/06/20 10:28 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: Has anyone had a successful long-distance relationship? [Re: Asclepius] 1
#26581436 - 04/06/20 10:56 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Asclepius said: You're probably right. I work a lot and have other unique obligations that don't allow much time for social interaction -- and that was before the pandemic. I don't think I am going to meet her anytime soon.
I met my last ex saying this kinda shit. It's good to be aware of all that but sometimes you just gotta go with the flow.
Also if you're going to have any kind of new relationship right now long distance is probably your best bet. I've heard of a woman living in a hotel room because she's a NICU nurse and her husband is a police officer.
These are unconventional times.
But dude you should never not do something just because you're afraid of what other people think. Or because other people say it can't work. It's your life, you get to figure out what can work and what can't. Not them.
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