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Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest.
    #26530221 - 03/12/20 02:52 AM (3 years, 11 months ago)

Honestly I'm a bit tired but I wanted to talk about some stuff, for some reason I'm assuming the people in this subforum might be relatable. They say topics include dealing with the trials and tribulations of everyday existence and that's mostly all this is.



People say life would be boring if everyone was the same but to be honest, I actually wish everyone else I met was *more* like me. Like, there's a specific line of lyrics or specific melody in part of a song that just gives me a psy-orgasm, but it's rarely the exact same moment as someone else. When it is: I feel amazing, like something CLICKED and now I have a good day... but events like that are one in a bajillion, it's like the amount of awesome connections like that I felt with people in my entire life are countable on two hands and that's it.

I turned 32 this year and I hate myself for wasting a lot of my life. I want to be a music producer and/or MMA fighter but it's really tempting to say I wantED to do those things as I believe it can easily be too late. At this point I have to accept that any type of MMA dream coming true would be one-of-a-kind in terms of someone my age having 0 even amateur fights. I have trained grappling for couple of years and do have tae kwon do & kickboxing training experience but haven't done enough real HARD sparring to even say I am an average level fighter... but I do know I've come a long way in terms of increasing my athleticism since ever before... I mean, way long story there.

People talk about wanting stuff bad enough but I honestly feel that someone can mentally illy get delusionally inspired to do something they're simply not cut out for or are starting too late in life and just end up suffering worse than some "normal" that embraced that they're too dumb or talentless to do anything beyond... well I don't wanna act arrogant towards everyday jobs or whatever... but I'm sure some people get it.

Honestly I am coming down off of a 3 gram trip that was a rather underwhelming one, and have stayed up way too late and am just kind of zombie rambling at this point... I'll update more tomorrow.



Oh, part of what triggered this was reading threads on a different forum associated with spirituality & meditation, where some of the moderators seemed snobby & arrogant as fuck towards people with legitimate greivances of loneliness, etc..

Basically telling them they obviously have a victim mentality, that's your own problem, etc. etc...

I have a deep anger reading shit like that, like I'll never believe that their holier-than-thou way of thinking is right. I know I've come a long way in my life and overcome many obstacles but I am still nowhere near thinking some shitty circumstances can totally overwhelm *anyone* and that the type of people that tell others that they're "clinging to a victim mentality" just haven't been driven mad yet. I have been obsessed with thoughts of trying to get at people like that, i.e. burn their house down, assault them, torture them, etc. etc. until I can see that they fucking break. :/


Like I said, I think I'm a little unstable right now & all over the place, my apologies...


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26530340 - 03/12/20 06:22 AM (3 years, 11 months ago)

Hello matey,

You can't control what other people think, you can't change people, you can only change yourself. You create your own emotions.

If you get angry (or any emotional reaction) to something somebody says, you can work out the root of that programming with introspection, some people call it "Inner child work" (loads of life coach/therapist/self help type channels on youtube cover this, also look at Wu Wei Wisdom from the Taoist perspective) it's basically imagining you have your younger self sat on your knee, imagine a young child angry over something someone said comming to you as an adult for understanding, ask them why they're angry, what triggered it (with love and compassion) and work out what the core belief is that's triggering the emotion. It's a process of 'reparenting' your inner child programming.

So it sounds like you believe everyone should have empathy, not everyone does (especially narcissistic types) maybe you were not shown empathy as a child and you resent that, maybe this is the origin of the emotional programming, explain to little CMACD the world is not like that, people are different, think differently, not everyone has empathy and this can make the world seem unfair, that's just the way things are it's not your fault the world is an unfair environment, it's not your fault some others don't have empathy, they have a right to be individuals just as you do, your empathy is part of you, it makes you a very special awsome person.
Once you understand this at a fundamental level, you can stay emotionally detached from what people say, learn to establish personal boundries in your relations with people, and enforce them, without boundries you give your power to others to control your emotions and you will be the one to suffer.

Here's some stuff I use to work past resentment.

Jordan peterson has a great lecture about PTSD, he desribes it as a result of malevolence and injustice. He says (paraphrasing) "If you don't confront Malevolence or Injustice your suffering makes you bitter, your bitterness makes you resentful, your resentment makes you vengeful, once you're on that road, a little bit further, well, you end up fantasizing in your basement about shooting up the local high school and then killing yourself, because that's the ultimate end of that line of pathalogical reasoning" That's why we need personal boundries.

Here's a quote I like from Peter Crone "Nothing wrong ever happened. Instead of resisting or resenting parts of your heritage, accept it, embrace it, because you wouldn't be the beautiful person you are today if it wasn't for everything that's happened. So to look over our shoulder with any sense of resentment, judgement, or resistance, is in denial of the fact that it's actually exactly what was supposed to happen 'and I wouldn't be the person I am today without it'. So for that reason we turn Judgement into Gratitude.

No need to apologise matey, it's better out than in! Locking this shit up inside feeds resentment :wink:

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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Sandala]
    #26534578 - 03/14/20 11:34 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

I disagree wholeheartedly with what you said. I did your exercise, I've done similar exercises in the past. I'm still full of hate & resentment... (not right now as I'm not having a particularly bad day, but I KNOW that this is not healed, and will be coming back.

"it's not your fault some others don't have empathy, they have a right to be individuals just as you do, your empathy is part of you, it makes you a very special awsome person.
Once you understand this at a fundamental level, you can stay emotionally detached from what people say, learn to establish personal boundries in your relations with people, and enforce them, without boundries you give your power to others to control your emotions and you will be the one to suffer."

Once I understand this on a fundamental level I'm magically going to be able to be insulted without feeling insulted? Really? Says who? You know for a fact that my neurons are just going to rewire?


Your Jordan Peterson shit makes a bit of sense, but to me it's more like; if I don't start being mean to, bullying, and shitting on random people in subtle ways to bleed out some of this hatred onto the world, I AM probably going to do something irrationally violent. I'm not psycho enough to start hurting innocent people.. I'm just going to go to a bar fully recovered from my last workout on a bunch of speed and wait to break someone's face that says the wrong thing.

Honestly I need to go in the opposite direction being suggested. I want to be in a gang and catch a body so that nobody fucks with me. I want to have enough money & tech brains to track people down that talk shit to me online. I'm too old to find peace... it's much more likely that I ruin my life through some kind of violence but at least I will un-damage my ego of being some dork that wishes he was a savage but isn't. I want to do some real savage shit; I want to be a gangster I want to be feared. I don't care how unhealthy it is I just FEEL IT



The Peter Crone quote, well not everyone is currently beautiful and actualized. Maybe the things that have happened in my life have culminated in a broken, maladapted person, not a beautiful person. 

Like, I got grounded for a month plus in grade 8 for not being a good enough student (even though I was still passing) and all of my friends stopped hanging out with me and I became a total loser/loner. You don't think someone else in a similar circumstance but with less strict parents, more natural wit & ability to do homework faster wouldn't have maybe grown up better without a hurdle like that? There is no way to disprove that a hypothetical version of me without that bullshit wouldn't be way different, have found a better girlfriend than I currently have, have shot for a more fitting job than the bullshit I settled for, etc. etc.

I fundamentally disagree once again... just about every type of science proves that one's upbringing DOES shape them, and that free will is an illusion... there's exceptions on paper but there were still probably small details contributed to say an anomaly (someone that came from rags to riches) Whatever though, I know you think I'm just some cuck that will make an excuse for every failure in life at this point. 

I'm not saying I fundamentally believe in determinism like that but I sure haven't DISproven it, and life does seem to be leaning in that direction.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26534845 - 03/14/20 01:22 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

I can forgive people and then when things get bad enough in my life I start re-viewing them as a piece of shit... honestly, I feel like it was stupid to try forgiving them in the first place, it was never real.

I practice forgiveness in hopes that it somehow is going to manifest more good into my life, maybe God will shit on me less, etc. etc.  Like if it's "as above so below" then maybe God will never forgive me for wronging him/her/it if I can't forgive others. Obviously this seems kind of conditional and ingeniuine, though.

When reality slaps me in the face that shit just happens and there is no law of attraction, manifestation, God, miracles answered, etc... I get real with my real true self and realize nowhere deep down do I actually desire to forgive anyone for anything. I can forgive when I've been repaid, and my assailants and I would never agree on what my pain & inconvenience was worth.

That's kind of an IF, though. Sometimes life does seem slightly miraculous and I haven't totally lost hope in there being something out there... I've had little magicks seem to work in the past and maybe some important prayers have been answered, but it's hard to ever know for sure... but I hold hope. Is hope enough though? Cause I've never had true faith...and I hear that's what's required and I find that difficult.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26534984 - 03/14/20 02:21 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Peter Crone sounds awfully privileged to be saying such things, apart from it being total nonsense.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Thanatos10]
    #26535247 - 03/14/20 05:39 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

"feeling insulted" you create your own emotions. 

It's not about forgiveness, it's about acceptance. You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself.

It takes practice, a lot of practice.

Good luck, whatever you choose to believe.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Sandala]
    #26535424 - 03/14/20 07:32 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Sandala said:
"feeling insulted" you create your own emotions. 

It's not about forgiveness, it's about acceptance. You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself.

It takes practice, a lot of practice.

Good luck, whatever you choose to believe.



Yeah, a TED talk. Do you have real evidence? Preferably something that doesn’t lead to nihilism


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Thanatos10]
    #26535451 - 03/14/20 07:59 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Also she is wrong, you don’t have control over your emotions. You can’t decide to be happy, sad, etc and you can’t control how an eventual makes you feel. I highly doubt she’s as learned as she appears


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Thanatos10]
    #26561111 - 03/27/20 12:42 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Another thing that pisses me off, is if someone pisses me off I'll blow over to the point of telling them I hate them, and then I feel defeated as everyone has seen me lose control of my emotions, like I've automatically lost....

But then what other people do is just insult but mask it as advice and always claim they "love you" but really they're just bullying you, but want to be an ultra-troll and maintain a self-righteous front.

It sucks, I didn't grow up with brothers or sisters so I am learning about all these ways to get my head toyed with as a fucking 30 year old... so embarassing. I hate myself so much. I wish I learned how to look smart...

it's like, I watch Trump and he disses people... watch me try to jack his swag, I'll fail so hard, people would be laughing at me in no time.



Maybe it's just the nature of arguing, maybe I think people just laugh at my words but they hurt too... I dunno, I think I'm a pretty accurate self-assesser, I can admit when I do well even if I'm typically depressive, it's just that it's not very often so it feeds back into the depression a lot.



People say attitude is everything but at a certain point I don't think it is... you have to have some real facts or ammo to back up arguments against people, and the ammo can't be cause "they're toxic" or they're "an asshole" because calling them those things victimize yourself as a ... weakling.

Like if someone called me an asshole I can imitate what they just said in this whiney weakling way, and I can tell it hurts.  But lets say I just was playing basketball and dunked on someone and say "yeah you like that bitch?" they would not have the same power trying to imitate what I just said in a goofy voice.

Like when someone wins a game and rubs it in, there are barely any ways to really diss them back with any zing, unless they took the cheapest tackiest approach to winning....

I feel like all the times I was reserved when I had a chance for an easy kill to bully or insult someone I had power over.. I should have actually struck. It would have built more experience for the evolving battlefield of life. I expected karma to work like some magic mirror, where if I'm nice to people after a few years the people I encounter will always be nice. If it doesn't work magically like that, it's not good enough for me and I'm ready to inject some shittyness into the world.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26561614 - 03/27/20 05:13 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

My mental health is weird, like after going on a run I look back on all that shit I wrote.. it's not like it's necessarily untrue, but I just have to not focus on that bullshit. For some reason when I wake up I'm in a really grumpy negative haze that pretty much only exercise or getting extremely high lifts me out of.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26564535 - 03/29/20 05:29 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Why do you think it is "weak" to just not react to assholes?

Why do you think you need to put others down to feel "power"?

Learn about 'psychological projection' so when an asshole spouts off, you will know it says more about them than it says about you. Sure it may trigger some of your own insecurities, learn from that, gain insight on your own insecurities so you can overcome them.

No random asshole knows enough about you to make an accurate assesment, so why put so much value in their opinion? Why care what some asshole says? If it's someone significant in your life set some boundries, if they continue to cross your boundries, they really don't respect or care about you, so cut them out of your life.

You don't need a vocabulary of Trump-esque quick put-downs to feel good about youself, you don't even need to respond, if you really have to respond, just say "Thats not my reality".

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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Sandala]
    #26567395 - 03/30/20 01:57 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Nice registration date. Your post seems like healthy advice, it's just... hard for me to really integrate it. I've heard it a billion times that it says more about them than it does about me... it still doesn't stop me from getting triggered, feeling a bad vibe that can start to throw off the rest of my day... and now I hate myself even more for letting that happen.

I guess I just keep a tally in life, I feel like there's actual winners, people that are quick witted and actually have a winning record of how hard they've given it to people vs how many insults actually stuck to them. People that are proud of more choices they've made than regretful... and I'm on the losing end.

It just *is* my reality, it's just really deep down in me, it's weird someone else just made a thread about being addicted to pain and I strangely relate to it due to how miserable I let myself get... but at the same time I also HATE this, if I knew a viable way to feel better I'd try it, it's just all the things people suggest seem... like they're not going to work.

Like, you wonder how to build muscle and someone tells you to lift weights and eat protein, that inherently makes sense... there's no part of me that thinks "pfft, why would that work?"

but when you tell me to  "just not react"  or say "that's not reality" it's like... really? that's really going to help this problem? I just.. I need some other way. I need a way to fucking WIN, not accept losing. I'll sell my soul man, I'm ready. I never thought I would but fuck it.


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    #26567930 - 03/30/20 06:45 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

OK lets use the muscle metaphor, you lift some weights and drink some protien shakes then look in the mirror and nothing is different, it's gonna take like 3 months to notice any build-up in a side by side photo, and even then it's only just noticable, because it takes work, repetative work, part of it is actually building muscle cells, part of it is muscle memory to get the exercise right.

Same goes when exercising brain memory, and the unconscious part of memory that triggers the freeze/flight/fight response, first time you burn your hand as a kid you remember that fucking thing, even if the actual memory now is hazy, you know not to pick some bit of metal out of a fire, touch a pan on the stove, or whatever burned your hand the first time, you just 'know' you're gonna get burned, the actual memory that taught you this may not even surface, you just 'know' right?

Something happened as a kid that's now unconscious, something that made you feel 'not good enough' or not loved, maybe you were over critisized, maybe you were not allowed an opinion, maybe you didn't get unconditional love, maybe you only got praise or loving attention when you did something right, whatever it was someone made you feel bad, and as a kid, it's a real shitty feeling when your caregiver treats you that way, it hurts, so you want to be better/stronger/more powerful, to avoid being critisized or whatever, to avoid that emotional pain, when you get critisized it hurts, just like the first time you got burnt, but when this happens to emotions as a young kid you havn't really developed emotions properly, they're still immature (picture the kid crying and stamping his feet because he can't have McDonalds, or the candy bar he sees in the shopping center or something) but if you don't learn to process those emotional memories properly, maturely, they stay stuck, that 'getting burnt' memory is still there, even tho the actual memory doesn't surface consciously like the first time you got burnt, and you reinforced that negative emotional response by getting triggered every time for the last 30 years, so reprogramming those unconscious memories takes practice, a lot of practice, just like building muscles; if you'd been doing an exercise wrong for 30 years you biult up the muscle groups all wrong, you gonna have to really work a lot harder at doing the exercise right to rebuild all those muscles in the group properly again.

Next time you get triggered, take a deep breath, 6 seconds in, hold for 6 , 6 seconds out, and say to yourself... let it go, and smile, remember a joyous time where you achieved something you'd worked hard for, it can be anything you practiced at and achieved, what worked for me was remembering a time I pulled off a forward loop on a windsurfing board, you have to really feel the joyous moment of that achievment, and smile :smile: and say to yourself 'let it go, I got this, I can ignore this asshole'

Do it next time you get triggered, and mark yourself out of 10 how triggered you are after it, and again 15 mins later. Then do that every time you get triggered for the next 3 months.

I'll wager you might be 8 or 9/10 the first time, but you keep donig it, keep biulding the muscle memory, in 3 months time you'll be down much lower/10, and you'll know it's working.

Don't react tho, that's like not keeping your back straight when you're doing arm curls, you're working against yourslef. Don't beat yourself up if you can't manage it every time either, just breath, remind yourself it takes practice, and.... let it go.

Another thing you can do to stop going over and over and over and over that thing that triggered you is to meditate, if you want to search for some guided meditation tracks and find someone who's voice is calming and resonates with you, search for 'mindful meditation' yeah it not easy at first, it's another thing takes practice. It's about focusing your mind on staying in the present moment, you don't have to sit there like some new age budda, just sit in a comfy chair, maybe put on some relaxing music (without lyrics) close your eyes, concentrate on feeling everything you can actually feel in the moment, the weight of your arms, the weight of your ass in the chair, the tones of the music, concentrate on your breathing, deep breaths (6in6hold6out)feeling the temperature difference of the air coming in Vs the air going out, telling yourself the air comming in if fresh, renewing, full of vitality, calming..and the air going out is taking all the stress and tension with it etc. (guided meditaion will help a lot at first).

Do this for 10-20 mins a day, maybe even twice a day, it'll help to get rid of the ruminating, if those negative thoughts come in, say to yourself 'yes I've been over that and it's not helpful, nothing good will come of going over it again' and go back to concentrating on the breathing.

stop using strong negative words like 'hate' to decribe how you feel about yourself too, you are awsome, and don't believe anyone who tells you different, especially yourself :smile:

Sorry that turned into a wall of text :rofl: I'm trying to help because I've been there, and I know what works, it took me a long time too! The only way to really WIN against narcissistic assholes, is not to play :wink:

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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Sandala]
    #26573854 - 04/02/20 07:01 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Quote:

Sandala said:
Why do you think it is "weak" to just not react to assholes?

Why do you think you need to put others down to feel "power"?

Learn about 'psychological projection' so when an asshole spouts off, you will know it says more about them than it says about you. Sure it may trigger some of your own insecurities, learn from that, gain insight on your own insecurities so you can overcome them.

No random asshole knows enough about you to make an accurate assesment, so why put so much value in their opinion? Why care what some asshole says? If it's someone significant in your life set some boundries, if they continue to cross your boundries, they really don't respect or care about you, so cut them out of your life.

You don't need a vocabulary of Trump-esque quick put-downs to feel good about youself, you don't even need to respond, if you really have to respond, just say "Thats not my reality".

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Good advice, well said.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Doc9151]
    #26574321 - 04/03/20 12:31 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

I guess regardless of how well that might work I see it as a cop out. I want to get revenge on people. That's my goal, not to get over it. I'm just too deep in it. 

I mean fuck, get over it is something the person that insulted me would say to be a smartass, and now I have to go follow their advice? I'd rather hang myself.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26574324 - 04/03/20 12:35 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

Like honestly, I might end up killing myself soon for real, because yeah I'm never going to win them all, I am probably lower IQ than average and going to be shit on over & over & over for the rest of my life...

Like I am so sick of being told to breathe man... Jesus... honestly maybe something in a DMT realm or something will show me how to heal because I just don't care.


Honestly I'm coming in here hot headed again because I just had it out with a friend over being rude to me over a video game.

I swear to god even if nobody is ever a cunt to me again in my life I *STILL* have a mountain of work ahead to just be happy in a fucking neutral space by myself, nevermind having to deal with the actual real world and the fact that people are going to talk shit to me every.fucking.day for the rest of my life.

I think I answered this earlier but why do I feel that it's weak to not react? Because the fact that I got insulted is a problem, and you want to solve the problem. Ignoring the problem means the problem is still eating at you, if I turned it around on the person I guarantee instead of dwelling on something perceived as a defeat, loss, humiliation, etc.. I'd be looking back revelling in a victory.

Why is this so hard to understand?


It reminds me of eastern mysticism/non dual type folks telling me that all the pleasure in the world won't make me happy... truth is it will, it's just that all the pleasure in the world is impossible to attain for the average person.

Same with winning battles of bullying... you WOULD feel better if you outbullied everyone, it's just that it's near impossible and some people just don't have what it takes so you're better off learning how to accept it... but actually winning WOULD be the superior move.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26574361 - 04/03/20 01:11 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

What's shitty is most of the time people "checkmate" you by finding a mistake you just made, and calling you dumb for it... and they just make sure to stare at you and play their cards right so that they don't make a mistake in the relevant time frame.

The only way to do it back to anyone is to stoop to their level and have "haha you're an idiot" on hand for every time you see someone vulnerable. It's not hard... but so shitty. Guess what though, it's like written into the Law of Life that it'll never get back to the actual person that insulted me. They're too busy noticing my mistakes & owning my soul for me to ever do anything to them. They're just higher consciousness I guess, more aware. They're probably closer to God than me and I don't know it. Iprobably pray to god to help me and harm them and got whispers all of my vulnerabilities into their minds as a response. Okay I'm getting to be a pretty emo faggot, I don't even believe in a faggot god.




I mean, I guess they say everyone in your life is actually god, right? I guess they say all kinds of shit.

Praying for people to stop insulting me isn't changing anything. Being nice to people isn't changing anything. I guess I'll start being a dick to random people and the information will trickle down to the *source* like the GodMind, and he'll get the hint when I start darkening his/her/it's world.

Once again, some emo faggot so butthurt he's whining to & about a god he doesn't even believe in. It's pathetic when you realize most people just believe in shit  beacause they've been so mentally broken that their minds are so desperate they'll entertain wishful thinking.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: CMACD]
    #26574581 - 04/03/20 05:48 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

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Psychological projection
Psychological projection is a defence mechanism in which the human ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a bully may project their own feelings of vulnerability onto the target. It incorporates blame shifting and can manifest as shame dumping.




Bullies are weak because of deep insecurities. The only way they can feel good about themselves is by putting other people down, but deep down they know they are lying to themselves, that's why they will never be truely happy. You wanna be THAT guy?

These people who critisize you are not 'checkmating' you, they're checkmating themselves.

If these people are your friends, dump them like a bad habbit, because real friends don't treat each other that way, real friends respect each other, real friends care about each other.

You can go though life being the buthurt weak depressed bully if you want, keep going to the point you convince youself you're not what you really are, and develop a psychological mask, surpress any grain of empathy you mite have left, then you'll become a Narcissist or Psychopath. If you are really low IQ then start looking forward to jail time, because only smart narccisists & psychopaths manage to avoid it.

You think life is hard giving your power to bullies now? Think what it will be like in a supermax prison where 80% of inmates are narccisists and psychpaths, you wanna be some psychopaths bitch?

Or you can put the work in now, rise above all that petty shit, and be happy, be a winner.

Serirosuly, take yourself off to somewhere quiet in nature, have a real good talk to yourself, be honest with yourself, and make some life changing decisions.

Or start developing real good soap picking up skills, while keeping your back to the wall.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Sandala]
    #26574667 - 04/03/20 07:15 AM (3 years, 10 months ago)

being vengeful solves nothing,  it puts you on the same level as the bully you hate so much and actually makes you the bully.


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Re: Some stuff I wanted to get off of my chest. [Re: Sandala]
    #26575380 - 04/03/20 03:07 PM (3 years, 10 months ago)

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Sandala said:
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Psychological projection
Psychological projection is a defence mechanism in which the human ego defends itself against unconscious impulses or qualities by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others. For example, a bully may project their own feelings of vulnerability onto the target. It incorporates blame shifting and can manifest as shame dumping.




Bullies are weak because of deep insecurities. The only way they can feel good about themselves is by putting other people down, but deep down they know they are lying to themselves, that's why they will never be truely happy. You wanna be THAT guy?

These people who critisize you are not 'checkmating' you, they're checkmating themselves.

If these people are your friends, dump them like a bad habbit, because real friends don't treat each other that way, real friends respect each other, real friends care about each other.

You can go though life being the buthurt weak depressed bully if you want, keep going to the point you convince youself you're not what you really are, and develop a psychological mask, surpress any grain of empathy you mite have left, then you'll become a Narcissist or Psychopath. If you are really low IQ then start looking forward to jail time, because only smart narccisists & psychopaths manage to avoid it.

You think life is hard giving your power to bullies now? Think what it will be like in a supermax prison where 80% of inmates are narccisists and psychpaths, you wanna be some psychopaths bitch?

Or you can put the work in now, rise above all that petty shit, and be happy, be a winner.

Serirosuly, take yourself off to somewhere quiet in nature, have a real good talk to yourself, be honest with yourself, and make some life changing decisions.

Or start developing real good soap picking up skills, while keeping your back to the wall.




I'm not a small human being and have been training BJJ and muay thai for years now, as much as I say I might be dumb I am not afraid of going to prison with a bunch of meatheads in the slightest. Whatever. We'll see.


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