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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: D3_Myc]
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: D3_Myc] 1
#26609674 - 04/18/20 06:19 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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D3monic said: Fuuck I loved when my ex wife would eat my ass while going down on me. A lil prostate massage too is nice
Guess I never fully gave it a chance because of my insecurities
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Double] 1
#26610508 - 04/18/20 12:59 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Good answer. It's always nice to know when your insecurities held you back because that gives you more time to think about it and to possibly get rid of those insecurities. A sign of growth.
I like my ass being licked occasionally. I think it's sexy more so because it shows their desire to please me.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Distorted Vision] 1
#26611703 - 04/18/20 10:31 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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^ this .... and well it actually feels pretty good.I was hesitant the first time a girl wanted to stick a finger in my ass. But I came so fucking hard that she got a power trip from it and always wanted to work some ass play in with her oral. After a few times I was basically begging for it
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Distorted Vision]
#26612527 - 04/19/20 09:25 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Yeah man, many times is hard to break free from these stereotypes such as that as a straight male nothing should ever go inside your ass and that one should always behave a certain way.
Its hard to break free from this because Ive been programmed since childhood to be a certain way like the good ol "men dont cry in public," and that we are supposed to be tough and rough and never talk about our feelings.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Double]
#26613125 - 04/19/20 02:34 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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I blame religion for a lot of the dumb ass societal norms that we try to mold ourselves into.
Nothing is just black or white, we just try to make it that way so we can feel more comfortable judging others.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#26624441 - 04/24/20 10:56 AM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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OP- My guess is she is attempting desensitization in order to avoid strong emotions. Maybe deep seated shame perhaps not associated with anything sexual.
Or she is psychopathic and is desperately trying to feel something.
Needs (gestalt) therapy, and if shes not open I honestly would try and quietly make an exit. Carefully contemplate if you value the relationship over your own safety.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: birdeatingspider]
#26625447 - 04/24/20 06:55 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Or she just has weirdass fetishes, that she does not necessarily want to bring to life, that may not make her a threat to anyone at all, that she finally felt safe enough to share with you.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#26625695 - 04/24/20 09:03 PM (3 years, 9 months ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: My fiancee has always been into extremely violent sex and turned on by rape. That can be a little off-putting on it's own. Recently, she's started masturbating to non-sexual violence. For some reason, it's so much more disturbing to me. I feel like when the sexual component is removed it's just not the same and it really kind of freaks me out.
Usually my needs are what freaks the other person out, but I feel like that leaves me in a good place to offer some insight.
I fucking love bondage and impact play for reasons I won't try to justify, I just do, and it doesn't matter for what I'm saying except because I'm into some of what your fiance is. I'm not at all turned on by non sexual violence and it does seem disturbing to me that she is.
What I need from impact play has nothing to do with the violence and everything to do with power exchange and intimacy, and the enhancement of everything that going into subspace gives. I'm not sure what she's getting from the non sexual violence but watching it and not experiencing it is a little freaky to me.
I also feel like your story about the grow shop owner was a red flag. If a guy is being ridiculous and treating me like a talking vagina, I will totally be cruel to him. But if he's being decent there's just no excuse for being that kind of a cruel bitch. It would be like a boxer punching a guy on the street, he didn't even know they were fighting!!!
I hope you will give some time to honest visualization of what you think this relationship will look like for you in a year, three, five. Full disclosure I already know I will never be marriage material so my opinion might not apply to everyone. But I would seriously put the brakes on the marriage until you make sure she isn't going to need therapy that will be so much harder with the added pressure of a relationship.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: bound2grow]
#26647206 - 05/03/20 11:51 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Not really but i haven't experienced anything too crazy. Weirdest to me is choking though. Some liked that and I just find it weird and uncomortable.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Enjoywho]
#26647869 - 05/04/20 09:33 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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Yeah, bondage cool, rape no.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: Az88] 1
#26647965 - 05/04/20 10:10 AM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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There's definitely some nonsexual stuff going on there. You said she was raped, but I'm guessing there's more to the abuse history. I'm not sure how old you guys are or how long you've been together, but it's definitely dangerous to let those troubles linger if she's letting her fantasies lead her into abusing others, particularly strangers. I'm skeptical that you can convince her to talk to a therapist, and I also doubt she'd take it seriously even if she agreed to go following an attempt to convince her it's a good idea. I think it would be hard to help her unless she genuinely asked for help, and I suspect she'd rather try to help herself. I would address the discomfort if I were you though; Maybe you can segway into a conversation where you talk about what's going on in her head and explore it with her in an analytic but nonjudgemental way. Personally, I would not have tolerated the headshop thing. That merits an apology, or at least an expressed understanding of why it was wrong so it can be avoided in similar circumstances in the future. I'd want to talk about that, but it'd be hard to do without making it personal. Any conversation that you have with her that's meant to help should leave her feeling like you're helping or trying to help if it's worth having. Otherwise you should stick to helping yourself (and that IS important here).
I don't really know what to tell you, man. I'd be looking for advice if I were in your shoes. If you're committed to the relationship and you have the time\money\interest\availability, then you might want to lead the charge and go talk to a therapist about all this yourself. They could probably give you better insight than most here can.
Also, I'm not too worried about her becoming a doc if that's what she wants to do. That environment self-polices the professionalism pretty well in the long run. It'd probably do her more good than she'd do people harm if it's something she really wants to do. Nobody should have their dreams pooped on simply for being a weird or fucked up person IMHO. fucked up people can become some of the best doctors. Suffering breeds compassion in those who understand both.
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Re: Has a partner's fetish ever freaked you out? [Re: pslyke]
#26679737 - 05/18/20 08:01 PM (3 years, 8 months ago) |
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pslyke said: Ohhhh, she's training to be a physician. This all makes more sense now. Good thing you wrote anomalously-- wouldn't want this to ever come up in a court case.
Best wishes, I hope she gets some professional help.
Hearing this kind of shit just makes my distrust for the medical community even more intense. Not that my distrust for them could get much worse.
Good luck OP. TBH I think i'd bail out of that relationship. Sounds like the beginning of a shit ton of serial killer / rape murder mystery books.
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