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Fiery
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Kronikism]
#26519332 - 03/05/20 06:44 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Kronikism said: Whenever I go to a concert or 420 event I always leave with so many numbers I don't end up calling half of em, although most ppl I meet at those places don't end up being long term homies,just people I run into sometimes
O rly?> 
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Near Dylan
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: 1234go]
#26519335 - 03/05/20 06:45 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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1234go said: These threads are a combination of trolling, and trying to get actual real life advice....aren't they? I notice you're intentionally leaving out words that you don't usually seem to have a problem with.
The world has lots of nuance
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feevers


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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519359 - 03/05/20 06:59 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Throughout my adult life I've found that the number of "friends" I have is directly proportional to the amount of drugs I have.
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watermelon mon
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: feevers] 4
#26519405 - 03/05/20 07:19 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Near Dylan I'll be your friend. For life.
I stopped by some kind of a hipster bar last night. Just to have a late night drink. I dont like to say this , I'm not suer if I could be friends with many of the people there. The bar tender was super cool.
Everybody was alright it was just a super wierd vibe to me. I'm not sure if they would make good friends. It gave me a gut feeling and they seemed a bit sneaky.
The only friends I have all come from far away. It's a completley different culture / world where they're from. For some reason I click well , with all of them. I didnt have any friends until I met them.
I had some friends from here before. But they just wanted to use me so I would drive them around. It was mostly chicks they were pretty catty. When they didnt need a ride they wanted to make sure I knew that they were all out haveing a good time. That I wasnt welcomed. It was weird.
I'm going to check out a small concert tomorrow night and I'm a bit concerned about it. I always just stand alone. Never talk to anyone. Used to go see shows every weeknd. Just found out where they are again.
I come on here to write a bit. Most of the time I'll only speak when I'm spoken to.
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Fiery
Sword of Fire


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I am friends with you
I completely get the distance thing.
A long time ago, people never were able to talk to anyone
I cherish the moments we can talk .
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 3
#26519476 - 03/05/20 07:54 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Hmmm, I had no idea about this side of you! This explains the posts mostly (I apologize if this seems like a shot at you, it isn't). You say you work with "old people". Older people have a lot of experience and knowledge to share. I suggest going to get a coffee with one or some of them. Ask questions about meeting people. Some vulnerability is an asset in socializing. I find it very odd when I hear of someone who has panic attacks in public places.
Of course I have always craved crowds and people and social situations so it's easier for me in that respect. Try to listen a lot and only interject when it's time. Bars are a great place to meet friends, especially if you play pool. A pool hall might be less crowded, more room there too. You don't have to drink but a beer or 2 is good to break the ice. It's a good place to meet and make friends because you can ask people to play a game of pool.
The other ideas above like social book clubs etc...are good ideas as well. The more you get out there and the more you do, the less you should feel anxious and have panic attacks. You're fairly intelligent it seems.
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/phobias-and-irrational-fears.htm
It's also a plus that you're reaching out in here, it shows progress and wanting to get over the things you have recognized as a hindrance.
Edited by tyrannicalrex (03/05/20 08:05 PM)
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Fiery
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tyrannicalrex said: Hmmm, I had no idea about this side of you! This explains the posts mostly (I apologize if this seems like a shot at you, it isn't). You say you work with "old people". Older people have a lot of experience and knowledge to share. I suggest going to get a coffee with one or some of them. Ask questions about meeting people. Some vulnerability is an asset in socializing. I find it very odd when I hear of someone who has panic attacks in public places.
Of course I have always craved crowds and people and social situations so it's easier for me in that respect. Try to listen a lot and only interject when it's time. Bars are a great place to meet friends, especially if you play pool. A pool hall might be less crowded, more room there too. You don't have to drink but a beer or 2 is good to break the ice. It's a good place to meet and make friends because you can ask people to play a game of pool.
The other ideas above like social book clubs etc...are good ideas as well. The more you get out there and the more you do, the less you should feel anxious and have panic attacks. You're fairly intelligent it seems.
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/phobias-and-irrational-fears.htm
It's also a plus that you're reaching out in here, it shows progress and wanting to get over the things you have recognized as a hindrance.
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Fiery]
#26519520 - 03/05/20 08:15 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I know you're capable of making that a coherent post, please decipher it.
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I HATE new friends because I never want them. I like solitude and to be left alone....but that being said it seems wherever I go that involves me working with other people they always become friends and I dont even try. Maybe I'm too nice :/ so yeah, I suggest doing anything that involves working with others if you want to make friends.
Good luck soldier
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Alcohol
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LikeMyc
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Sockadin] 1
#26519625 - 03/05/20 09:06 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Share an experience.
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: LikeMyc]
#26519692 - 03/05/20 09:50 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Cigarettes make friends too
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Psicomb] 1
#26519765 - 03/05/20 10:52 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Smoke weed
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519827 - 03/06/20 12:17 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Near Dylan said:
I always put too much reliance on romantic relationships for 100% of my social needs and I never really tried makin friends.
Seeking romantic love is an egotistical endeavor.
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Dilsnique
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tyrannicalrex
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Dilsnique]
#26520190 - 03/06/20 08:23 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Dilsnique said: The best way to find something is to stop looking for it...

You know, the night I exclaimed in my car on the way home from a bar (ha, that rhymed) that I give up and fuck all this looking shit etc...I met my mate/husband a couple of months later.
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LogicaL Chaos
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 1
#26521188 - 03/06/20 07:14 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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What about social video gamez like Second Life, Runescape or World of Warcraft?
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CookieCrumbs
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Ime everyone likes talking about themselves. Even if they don't think they do.
If you listen they will come.
Seriously being a good listener is probably the easiest way to make friends. It's more than half of what people want from a friend and the good ones reciprocate.
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LogicaL Chaos
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Very true! I find a lot of people just wanna talk and since i can be on more of the quiet spectrum, it works out pretty well. I find talkative people bring out more of the extroverted side of me.
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SpiritualSnorkel
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Talking is exhausting, listening is easy.
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