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Near Dylan
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HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS 1
#26518995 - 03/05/20 04:03 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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WHO HAS TIPS FOR HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS OUTSIDE OF WORK AS AN ADULT, FOR INTROVERTS
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Lophosaurus
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 3
#26519035 - 03/05/20 04:19 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Honestly, you don't seem like a nice person. I am really sorry if I am wrong and misinterpret what you type on here. Be yourself, but also be really nice to people, be fun, stand up straight and be confident. Similar to hitting on women.
Most other people have the same type of feelings you do. They want to make friends too, but don't know how to go about it. Sometimes you can literally just ask them. Something like "Hi, I'm new around here and don't really know anyone, would you be interested in getting a coffee or hitting up a bar?"
Joining clubs or take a class where you are forced to interact with people and then after it's over invite someone to grab a coffee or try to invite yourself to their activities. We have a fire spinning club that my wife and I attend. Lots of friendly like-minded people. Sometimes Shroomery people meet-up with me to do mushroom hikes or meet-ups.
We have another group that gets together late at night and plays bike-polo and street hockey in the empty subway stations. We have another thing called "Side shows" where everybody meets up illegally and they do burn outs, get high, and do drag racing until the cops come.
There used to be a site called like meet-up.com or something and you could join strangers to do art, hike, or anything really.
Invite a neighbor over for dinner.
Take a football or frisbee to the park and throw it to people.
Bring a bong to the park and sit with people to smoke them out. Then give them LSD and let the brainwashing begin.
It's hard when you get older, just remember that other people want friends as much as you do. Good luck!!!
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Crazy_Horse
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 3
#26519042 - 03/05/20 04:21 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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wrestler_az
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 4
#26519043 - 03/05/20 04:21 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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don't. it's not worth it.
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Edited by yageman (04/20/06 4:20 PM)
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larry.fisherman
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 3
#26519052 - 03/05/20 04:27 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Perhaps you could practice your heavy breathing in their PMs
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Shenmue
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Walk into your local bar and do this! I promise you'll be cool enough to have tons of friends!
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Asante
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519056 - 03/05/20 04:30 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
Near Dylan said: WHO HAS TIPS FOR HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS OUTSIDE OF WORK AS AN ADULT, FOR INTROVERTS
If you want to do it like God did it, make one out of clay in your image and then another one from the rib of your creature.
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1234go
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 3
#26519080 - 03/05/20 04:43 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Don't take for granted what's right in front of you, Dylan. God didn't have anyone to get advice from...he had to literally make his own friends, lol...
Edited by 1234go (03/05/20 04:58 PM)
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Tantrika
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 2
#26519085 - 03/05/20 04:47 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
Near Dylan said: WHO HAS TIPS FOR HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS OUTSIDE OF WORK AS AN ADULT, FOR INTROVERTS
check your library bulletin board for a book club with a focus that interests you?
what other potential club hobbies do you have? my mother and step-father meet most of their non-work friends through their hot rod club because he likes to rebuild old cars and Mom is just a classic car fan more generally

dunno, my thought is mostly just occasionally put yourself in places where you can potentially meet like-minded individuals then build a rapport with them over time until you are meeting outside of club times like dating, but without the focus of getting them into bed at the end
now that Terby has passed

but if seeking to make connections, would prolly take a Tarot refresher course or some other workshops in divination at the Magic Shop
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Kwyjibo
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519145 - 03/05/20 05:22 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I've never had much trouble making friends although I'm not sure how since I'm a bit of an asshole. If you're desperate, I'll be at the harbor in SB for work tomorrow and my friendship can be bought with a cheeseburger.
Edited by Kwyjibo (03/05/20 05:29 PM)
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psi
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519163 - 03/05/20 05:28 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Honestly my only active real-life friendships these days are relatives, though not all blood relatives. I have three sisters who are married and all their husbands are pretty cool, though one of them I'm closer with than the others.
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 1
#26519198 - 03/05/20 05:47 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Go to shows or something and find people to play music with, you play music right? I feel like just having a couple people to spend quality time with is all I need, ymmv though
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: psi] 1
#26519206 - 03/05/20 05:49 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Find an extrovert who will adopt you.
Maybe start by joining a casual beer/sports league, pick up a new hobby that's somewhat social and has potential to grow your circle of people - like climbing at a rock gym. You could also check something like meetup for like hiking groups, or whatever you're into. That seems like it can be hit or miss, but you'll get out at least and find new people.
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Near Dylan
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Psicomb] 2
#26519208 - 03/05/20 05:50 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Crowded places make me really claustrophobic and uncomfortable lol. just goin to a bar makes me wanna throw up, I definitely cant go to a show I'd have hella panic attack. I dont really play music anyway I just play guitar every once in a while.
I always put too much reliance on romantic relationships for 100% of my social needs and I never really tried makin friends. Was always an accident just by being with them at school and shit. But now Im adult and work with old people, dont like crowded places. No idea how one goes about makin friends at this stage in life lol.
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Fiery
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519227 - 03/05/20 06:00 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Talk to them, and take no for an answer
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1234go
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan] 2
#26519229 - 03/05/20 06:01 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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These threads are a combination of trolling, and trying to get actual real life advice....aren't they? I notice you're intentionally leaving out words that you don't usually seem to have a problem with.
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psi
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Near Dylan]
#26519240 - 03/05/20 06:05 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah I generally hate bars and crowds too. Though I find it much easier to play music with people than have a conversation. That's what's cool with Irish music, the sessions are more of a social activity than a performance. Though there is a shit ton of passive aggression or outright hostility if you suck and try to join in with higher level players. Don't really get a chance to go out to sessions at pubs any more but I'd like to get back into it.
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theRealrollforever
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: psi] 2
#26519278 - 03/05/20 06:25 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Just be super genuine and expose yourself as an actual human with insecurities, emotions, etc to people (within reason.). Don’t just dump on people but when you meet someone cool be real with them and you’d be surprised how much you can relate to a stranger
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Fiery
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theRealrollforever said: Just be super genuine and expose yourself as an actual human with insecurities,
The royal fox with cheese you might be on to something here.
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Kronikism
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Re: HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS [Re: Fiery]
#26519322 - 03/05/20 06:41 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Whenever I go to a concert or 420 event I always leave with so many numbers I don't end up calling half of em, although most ppl I meet at those places don't end up being long term homies,just people I run into sometimes
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