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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: psi]
#26495425 - 02/20/20 03:14 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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You look like a cool dude. I bet chicks would love to smoke a beer with you. Unfortunately, sexual attraction requires a different kind of “energy”.
I struggled with this for so long, thinking the problem was my body type (way too skinny), or the fact that I was born without a sense of fashion. Sorry to say, I haven’t found a solution. I DID, however, find a woman who saw past all the status-related BS and decided to find out who I am before judging me.
I know the theme of this thread is “what can we change about you”, but I think you need at least 1 anon voice saying you don’t have to change.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#26495455 - 02/20/20 03:25 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Agreed, but he mentioned appearance.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#26495456 - 02/20/20 03:26 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: You look like a cool dude. I bet chicks would love to smoke a beer with you. Unfortunately, sexual attraction requires a different kind of “energy”.
I struggled with this for so long, thinking the problem was my body type (way too skinny), or the fact that I was born without a sense of fashion. Sorry to say, I haven’t found a solution. I DID, however, find a woman who saw past all the status-related BS and decided to find out who I am before judging me.
I know the theme of this thread is “what can we change about you”, but I think you need at least 1 anon voice saying you don’t have to change.
 I def appreciate this input from the other side of the fence.
I would ideally like to find the middle between what is really me, but cares about the external impact at the same time. Everyone wants to be likeable to some degree. I've never taken my appearance very seriously, so its interesting to experiment with it from a different angle even if just to see if/what impact in has in daily interactions.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26495478 - 02/20/20 03:36 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Don't think of dressing up nice or changing your style as losing yourself. What will happen I believe is - you will simply find another aspect of yourself.
You look cool in the photo.
Only critique I have is try a little bit less baggy pants, you're skinny, so own that shit to some degree. And as tyrannicalrex said, wear t-shirts without large prints.
And be fun and loose in front of the chicks, man. No philosohpy, no speeches. Just fun.
You have a nice face though, you'll get there
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#26495524 - 02/20/20 03:57 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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That being said, girls like guys who are deep too, so go with the flow.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#26495619 - 02/20/20 04:51 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah, I have to agree with the printed tees. It was a lesson that I grew to notice as time went on. It’s not really changing who you are, it’s more like showing you mean no harm or are safe to approach. It’s like the hook that draws people in and then you get to know each other. There are many humans on the planet and we make snap judgments on appearance all the time (might as well play to that than try to fight it).
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26497068 - 02/21/20 02:19 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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This was something I struggled with for a long time, and the solution I discovered was strange and unexpected. I met a wandering homeless skater chick who was a powerful psychic/witch. She taught me to project my masculinity on the spiritual plane. Personally I was too bouncy/flighty and so a lot of people thought I was gay. When I started grounding myself and channeling the stable spirit of a strong oak, women became far more attracted to me even if I thought I looked like shit. Instead of approaching women, they'd just start placing themselves in my vicinity. I also found it was healthy to delete all the dating apps and just try to connect with people in real life. Since all I have to judge you by is a few pictures, I can't say for certain what you need to change but like others have said, your pictures project an intellectual/spiritual vibe that fails to ooze sexuality. Try meditating on your lower chakra energies and maintaining testosterone through your diet.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: drliquidglitch]
#26498244 - 02/22/20 09:59 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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That’s a load of malarkey, psychics don’t exist and neither do witches and it has nothing to do with testosterone. It’s more appearance, personality, and conversation skills.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Thanatos10]
#26498287 - 02/22/20 10:43 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I think that you missed the part where he's a pretty obvious troll though.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: chibiabos]
#26502069 - 02/24/20 06:23 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I was legitimately being genuine. Believe what you want but I know what works for me and I wanted to share my journey with others who might be struggling. I know I have a new account but that doesn't mean I'm trolling. I only brought up testosterone because keeping your endocrine system healthy helps increase confidence and conversation skills. Also, can you really tell me dating apps are healthy for a majority of men? I found that they were detrimental to my mental health, and became much better at approaching and interacting with women in real life once I gave them up.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#26502119 - 02/24/20 06:55 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: I disagree with Anon 1. I don't think wealth has that much to do with it; if you're a charmer, you're a charmer. Sure extreme wealth will earn one the ability to bed just about any woman out there but we aint really discussing those levels here.
Psy - As I was reading your post I was feeling just as confused as you as to why you've been lacking in any tangible success in this game. Then I scrolled down to your picture. You have a really unique look/style, which means, IMO, that you'll only attract those into that same unique look/style. Which is only going to be a very small percentage of females.
IMO, as unfortunate as the case may be, you'd probably be a hell of a lot more successful if you went for a more 'vanilla' kinda look. Trim the beard, and find some threads that say 'I'm stylish and well groomed', not 'I'm a really unusual character'.
Not that that's a bad thing; I love eccentric people, but then it aint me you're trying to attract.
IME, women adore well dressed, well groomed men.
At least at first. If the theory is to be believed, a woman has decided if she'd be willing to sleep with you within the first few seconds of laying eyes on you. First impressions count for a hell of a lot in this life.
You could always work the style back in once you're more established with someone.
That's my 2c on the matter anyways. Hope it helps man.
As an eccentric looking character who gets laid as much as I like I disagree. Some women prefer a clean cut guy, but he wants a woman who is into him, and so his his look should represent his actual character. Don't dress up like someone you aren't.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Babylon] 1
#26502825 - 02/25/20 09:33 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Technically it would be him though, just a change of clothes. It’s not like a new outfits changes you as a person. A doctor without a lab coat or scrubs still has the knowledge
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