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Last night I took home a woman from work whose husband had worked with us, until the day he died.
It has been like 3 years since his death and from what I gather sex was absent for a great deal longer.
I am 49 and she is 61, she was super appreciative and mentioned that it has been a very long time. That she was just happy to feel me inside of her.
She has an amazing body, never had kids and was very turned on. Which turned me on.
I am quite sure if I don't sleep with her that she will probably never have sex again, just from being married so long and settled into her life.
I was married for 27 years and the last 10 years were sexless. I am quite positive that is how a lot of women I sleep with are in their relationships. At times I think the husband is aware but either doesn't care or thankful.
In the two years since being divorced, I feel I have stepped up my pick up game and also have got very good at pleasing women.
I notice that a lot of my friends SO look at me and many times I am positive they are flirting openly with me.
Realize I am an average looking guy who grew a huge beard while married because I was like fuck it, I am growing a huge beard and going to be as gnarly as possible.
Now after divorce, I find women are very attracted to my gnarly beard, I will never shave it. That coupled with growing shrooms and sharing them has made me a chick magnet in my local area.
It is easy now being single and facing rejection, because I know that the one who rejects me, 3 other women are behind her checking me out.
If I can make a widow happy and feel amazing I feel like I am not doing anything wrong.
If a newly single woman straight out of a sexless marriage is starving for release, I too am pleased to oblige.
Same goes for a married woman in a unsatisfied relationship, if I can make her feel like she is 25 again, I do not feel ashamed nor do I feel I have done anything wrong.
Women just like to be touched and felt like they never have before.
When I have sex with them I have them on top and touch them as if theyvare an extension of my cock, which is the best way to make love. I massage them and pull their hair and stroke them as if they were an extension of myself. Don't judge me...
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
#26490967 - 02/18/20 12:14 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Good for you! Enjoy.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: koraks]
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Such an inspiring story
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: trees]
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Hahaha.... thanks. Probably should have posted anonymously
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: The Mycologist] 1
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This doesn’t sound entirely healthy.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10] 1
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Of course you have sex with old women...just like those women are having sex with an old man.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114] 1
#26491446 - 02/18/20 09:40 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I don’t, since I’m gay. But the practice he’s doing doesn’t sound healthy. His reasoning sounds like rationalization
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10] 1
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That was directed at OP, my bad
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Thanatos10 said: This doesn’t sound entirely healthy.
Might sound bad from a modern day socially programmed young brain, but doesn't sound that bad if you consider that people are actually complex creatures outside of our bubbles.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: trees] 1
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Thanatos10 said: This doesn’t sound entirely healthy.
Might sound bad from a modern day socially programmed young brain, but doesn't sound that bad if you consider that people are actually complex creatures outside of our bubbles.
People are simpler than we give them credit for, those who argue otherwise in my experience feel that such a thing devalues them when it doesn’t. But such behavior reminds me of how vultures are, except in the case of a human it’s not a good thing.
It’s like the player who uses evolution to rationalize their rampant promiscuity when really it’s because they are filling some void in their life (not to mention the STI risks). It’s nothing to do with conditioning, it’s just that I’ve seen this before and it ends around the same way.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10] 2
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Youre just a downer, nobody gets to enjoy themselves around you. You dont know what that 61 YO old lady is going through or how she might benefit from some dick. You gotta fill your void by criticizing peoples joys.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: trees] 1
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Not really. It's more like just looking at the underlying cause of behavior. I'm filling no void.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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feldman114 said: Of course you have sex with old women...just like those women are having sex with an old man.

This is true.... hahaha. But I feel like I am a young man.
Yet a sort of awakening has taken place ever since my divorce.
I was much more of an old man slowly fading away in my marriage...
Hate to say it, but I was married at least 10-15 years too long.
Too much anymore, keeping in a marriage to put up some sort of Facade. The way I see my friends who are still married assume such a weaker position in their relationship.
Fact is, what purpose does it serve a man to stay in a relationship when I see them asking their wifes if they can go fishing on their day off.
Honey, can I have another beer while watching the game?
Men these days assume a beta like existence, and they are alright with it...
I think if you (all the nay sayers here) were to think about it either you can see this behavior in many of their own circles their brothers and sadly more than likely themselves.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Thanatos10 said: This doesn’t sound entirely healthy.
Might sound bad from a modern day socially programmed young brain, but doesn't sound that bad if you consider that people are actually complex creatures outside of our bubbles.
"they are filling some void in their life"
Hmmm thatc is the same argument the church used to tell me, that in fact I was born with a hole or a void within myself.
You don't know me and have no right on telling others that they have a void. It's like the 18 yo missionary going door to door meeting an older couple in their 70's and telling them that they have been living their lives entirely wrong, and I am here an 18 yo telling you I may be young but I have life figured out.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Just ole Jodi, doin his thing
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Thanatos10 said: This doesn’t sound entirely healthy.
Might sound bad from a modern day socially programmed young brain, but doesn't sound that bad if you consider that people are actually complex creatures outside of our bubbles.
"they are filling some void in their life"
Hmmm thatc is the same argument the church used to tell me, that in fact I was born with a hole or a void within myself.
You don't know me and have no right on telling others that they have a void. It's like the 18 yo missionary going door to door meeting an older couple in their 70's and telling them that they have been living their lives entirely wrong, and I am here an 18 yo telling you I may be young but I have life figured out.
Except this has some basis in psychology and not some religion trying to suppress human sexuality. It's usually a void they don't know is there so they rationalize it by comparing it to how our ancestors behaved.
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feldman114 said: Of course you have sex with old women...just like those women are having sex with an old man.

This is true.... hahaha. But I feel like I am a young man.
Yet a sort of awakening has taken place ever since my divorce.
I was much more of an old man slowly fading away in my marriage...
Hate to say it, but I was married at least 10-15 years too long.
Too much anymore, keeping in a marriage to put up some sort of Facade. The way I see my friends who are still married assume such a weaker position in their relationship.
Fact is, what purpose does it serve a man to stay in a relationship when I see them asking their wifes if they can go fishing on their day off.
Honey, can I have another beer while watching the game?
Men these days assume a beta like existence, and they are alright with it...
I think if you (all the nay sayers here) were to think about it either you can see this behavior in many of their own circles their brothers and sadly more than likely themselves.
I was so with you on the first half of that lol... FYI, was just fucking around with the old man pun. Didn’t have anything better to add I guess “10-15 years too long” sounds like you had a great run. Longer than most marriages anyway.
But idk...in my personal experience, people who go on and on about the alpha/beta crap tend to be insecure. They think they’re good at hiding it but they’re not. Not saying that’s you, but I don’t think you can label everyone so narrowly.
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Might sound bad from a modern day socially programmed young brain, but doesn't sound that bad if you consider that people are actually complex creatures outside of our
Except this has some basis in psychology and not some religion trying to suppress human sexuality. It's usually a void they don't know is there so they rationalize it by comparing it to how our ancestors behaved.
Well, I know that for one thing.
Oh, first thing, and please understand I do appreciate your thoughts and opinions.
Anyhow I do know for one thing. That I have had a few girlfriends since my divorce, some more serious than others.
But when I think back on them the thing that makes me end them is thinking of the past, my marriage.
And when a gal starts making designs on my house the way I decorate it, or comments that I should get a haircut and trim my beard, it repulses me.
So I do not feel that I am trying to fill a deep rooted void.
Should I compromise my life style to be once again in a long term relationship, when in fact that is the last thing I want?
So going about and having a good time and bedding women, then when I have had enough it is time for them to go.
Instead of oh let's work this through, I know we have only been dating for a month and you liked me for who I was but now you are pissed at me because I smoked a joint when we went to the hot springs for the weekend... uh, no don't think I want to feel I have to answer to anyone just quite yet.
And as for the alpha/beta debate. When newly divorced, I found it did come into play.
When I first was single, the game had changed so much. I would get phone numbers text back and forth and then games would ensue.
I learned real quick not to put up with that shit... that having a few chicks I could be with at my own leisure, meant that if I found myself swimming in a pool of sorrow over a gal, because I was really into her and she stopped responding right away. I could just as easily drop her and forget her just as fast, and that made them think twice about playing games. I could get together and hang with another gal and have the one who thought she had the power be begging me, sending me texts and I could respond at my will. Never desperate for her attention.
Yes it works, quite honestly. At times yes, I seem to be alone and that is alright, but it is almost uncanny how everyone of them will reach out at about the exact same time trying to reconnect.
I don't want to hurt anyone or be a player per se, but playing by a few principles and keeping your cool and confidence is very attractive to these gals.
If they know I am not going to be in a pool of despair if they act up, and expect a certain reaction. Then it works.
And yes, watching my friends and colleagues hand over so much power to their SO's is almost embarrassing to witness.
Never again will I feel bad about getting another beer at a concert. Or asking permission to buy a record online. When the woman can and will buy whatever they want and when they want.
My coworker works almost every day, his wife does not work. She is in charge of the financial aspect of their lives. Here he is making so much money, buys a new car, that he will not drive, she will. And yet, I see him wearing work boots that are 3 sizes too big for him, because she will not let him spend any money for himself.
He told me that after working almost every day, she told him that they were behind a month on electricity and their phone bill.
Now this isn't some low paying job, where we scrape by. We work 14 days a month and if we want to work overtime that is roughly $55 an hour.
I asked him this morning if he was going to buy himself something for working the last month solid, he said no. He is into RC cars and I said hell buy yourself a new one, he said well maybe I will buy a new engine for one.
I could just hear him having to go to his non working wife and asking to spend $100 on himself. It's not like they have children either, her grown son, not his lives in the house does not work...
Yeah that dude is a chump, a beta and has given over all authority to his fat psychotic wife.
I respect what you guys are saying, but I am not insecure nor do I have a void in my life that I am trying to fill.
Just don't want to become a all serving husband, especially just to fit into some sort of "normalcy" that other people think should be my goal. If I have a void and you think the first thing I should do is propose to a woman on some basic childhood trauma I am avoiding.... That's just not me.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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zenarrow said: And yes, watching my friends and colleagues hand over so much power to their SO's is almost embarrassing to witness.
Never again will I feel bad about getting another beer at a concert. Or asking permission to buy a record online. When the woman can and will buy whatever they want and when they want.
My coworker works almost every day, his wife does not work. She is in charge of the financial aspect of their lives. Here he is making so much money, buys a new car, that he will not drive, she will. And yet, I see him wearing work boots that are 3 sizes too big for him, because she will not let him spend any money for himself.
Like everyone else; Im friends with many married people. The wife always requires permission for the husband to do his own fun things. Heard it so many times! "I gotta ask my wife first, man". "Sorry man, can't make it, fuckig wife won't let me!!" The wives often reject the husbands requests for freedom.
I'll think "wait a second. Who paid for your house?? Who's paying the bills? Who paid for the marriage???? You, the husband paid, didn't you??"
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2] 1
#26492959 - 02/19/20 07:46 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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That’s the excuse I regularly give when invited to do lame shit with lame-ass people.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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I get it, anybody who doesn't fully agree with you is a lame-ass person. I've figured you out. You don't like this thread because you're still married and your wife probably does have a degree of unfair control over you.
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Lol okay, Captain Defensive.
I didn’t say any of that, nor was anything I said directed against you. Why don’t you take your head out of salty butthole and realize that you’re not the center of the universe?
It’s true and I’m sure I’m not the only one who uses “the ol lady” as an excuse to skip boring social events or ones hosted by boring people. In fact, my wife does the same when she’d rather stay in. It’s just a way to save their feelings. It has nothing to do with you, bud.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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I think you have a limited view of what marriage is, it sounds like you guys get your experiences from bad sitcoms. Also alpha/beta stuff is just nonsense when it comes to humans, we don’t work like that.
Either you guys have bad luck or just can’t talk to people but my parents are married 36 years and nothing you said happened with them. At most it’s just letting the other know where they are going and that’s it, which is common courtesy. Big financial decisions they talk about which is kind of normal really. Honesty it doesn’t sound like the problem is marriage itself but more like you guys or the people you know. I don’t think the concept fully sinks in.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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How would you know my view of what marriage is?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Either you guys have bad luck or just can’t talk to people but my parents are married 36 years and nothing you said happened with them. At most it’s just letting the other know where they are going and that’s it, which is common courtesy. Big financial decisions they talk about which is kind of normal really. Honesty it doesn’t sound like the problem is marriage itself but more like you guys or the people you know. I don’t think the concept fully sinks in.
I get my experience from real life. You think its a good move to put the most expensive bet of your entire life a on a 50% chance of success? If you are, best of luck to you, you'll probably need it, unless youre the stay at home dad who doesn't provide anything, so you won't lose half your life earnings when your soulmate gets sick of you n decides to serve you the divorce filings.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Thanatos10 said: I think you have a limited view of what marriage is, it sounds like you guys get your experiences from bad sitcoms. Also alpha/beta stuff is just nonsense when it comes to humans, we don’t work like that.
Either you guys have bad luck or just can’t talk to people but my parents are married 36 years and nothing you said happened with them. At most it’s just letting the other know where they are going and that’s it, which is common courtesy. Big financial decisions they talk about which is kind of normal really. Honesty it doesn’t sound like the problem is marriage itself but more like you guys or the people you know. I don’t think the concept fully sinks in.
I get my experience from real life. You think its a good move to put the most expensive bet of your entire life a on a 50% chance of success? If you are, best of luck to you, you'll probably need it, unless youre the stay at home dad who doesn't provide anything, so you won't lose half your life earnings when your soulmate gets sick of you n decides to serve you the divorce filings.

You clearly don't understand the link you provided as it shows that such things are on the decline and there is obviously a great deal of context to those numbers. Divorce is a mature option and something that wasn't available in the past so people were stuck in partnerships they didn't enjoy. And it's not always a you get 50% of everything, that again really just happens in movies. It's nowhere near that bad.
Again you guys are either ignorant of what makes a marriage work or stunted emotionally, maybe something else. Either way I will say most who do get married suck at it, which might explain some things.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Pfff haha yeah, everyone else is ignorant or retarded. You sound as wise as a sock puppet.
Did you consider the possibility that you don’t know everything?
I do feel bad that you got controlled, then dumped by your ex like that. But that doesn’t mean every marriage will end that way...common sense man.
Edit: ugh, my bad, thought it was anon 2 replying...Mobile Shroomery interface sucks.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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"No where near that bad"
So my friends who's wife is fighting 50% of his 20 year old 401k account isn't that bad.
My dad's wife who never worked a day in her life, filed divorce against him and my dad's agreed to let her leave with 50% of a house that's worth millions.
My mom got remarried at 50, and she's been happy for 9 years, so I know it CAN work, (if youre old and very settled.) but not enough to justify promoting it.
I'm sure your marriages seem like a 100% legit deal right now, but don't be shocked when if it turns 180 degrees overnight
Me not getting the article? 40-50% is baseline. In the article explains only how that likely hood of divorce only gets worse.
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How would that be shocking? It’s just one (my) marriage. Those go to shit all the time.
What would be shocking is you actually believing that no one can do better than you at marriage. There’s no doubt in my mind that yours wasn’t the happiest relationship in history (sorry but you’re crying about it, so it can’t be that great). Idk why you continue to say it was. And if you know it wasn’t, how can you presume to know how much better things can be?
Your reasoning clashes with common sense. Like I said, just because you were controlled, then dumped, doesn’t mean it’ll happen to most people.
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Supporting my point?
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You assumed that info that I was ever married? Im an average dude, average age, average number of friends, average everything. I don't know of a single happy marriage right now. The ones that aren't divorced yet, they tell me stories about how their arguments, and the vacations their wives force them on, and the dreaded in laws, and the wife won't let them grow weed, the wife tries to limit their video games, and it goes on and on.
Maybe I'm just incredibly unlucky to have only ever seen poor marriages. Maybe it's America. Perhaps you guys are from different countries where people have better values.
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zenarrow said: And yes, watching my friends and colleagues hand over so much power to their SO's is almost embarrassing to witness.
Never again will I feel bad about getting another beer at a concert. Or asking permission to buy a record online. When the woman can and will buy whatever they want and when they want.
My coworker works almost every day, his wife does not work. She is in charge of the financial aspect of their lives. Here he is making so much money, buys a new car, that he will not drive, she will. And yet, I see him wearing work boots that are 3 sizes too big for him, because she will not let him spend any money for himself.
Like everyone else; Im friends with many married people. The wife always requires permission for the husband to do his own fun things. Heard it so many times! "I gotta ask my wife first, man". "Sorry man, can't make it, fuckig wife won't let me!!" The wives often reject the husbands requests for freedom.
I'll think "wait a second. Who paid for your house?? Who's paying the bills? Who paid for the marriage???? You, the husband paid, didn't you??"
Yeah, this made me assume you have some personal reasons for thinking every marriage is doomed. If you don’t, it’s simply bizarre that you’re so emotional about the topic...
How many married people do you know 10? 30? 100? If you know 1000 married couples, and 0 are happy, that’s still not even close to a representative sample. You have no real reason to assume all marriages suck.
On the other hand, if even one person says they are happily married, that’s reason enough to dismiss your absolute statements. Well guess what, there are happy married folk right here at the Shroomery! If a bunch of druggie rejects can be happily married, anyone can, amiright?
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It's a see it to believe it thing for me. I get that your on the other side of the coin. Your currently married and it's going fine, thus, it will stay fine right? I do hope so / wiah you luck.
I have just seen so much spoilage and sour married people and friends that it's really turned me off of the idea to the point that legally binding marriage repulse me. I feel inclined to warn others, as the morally right thing to do right? Maybe I am retarded, but still dead set on avoiding legally binding marriage at all costs, never submit to a woman's persuasion for it
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Well I’m a weirdo and so is the wife. We only got married for the tax breaks and cheap healthcare. But I really don’t see her taking me to court, even if I really fuck up. She’s more of a stab-me-in-my-sleep kinda girl . JK (I hope), but even if we split, neither of us will take the legal route.
My example are my paternal grandparents. Their lives were full of tragedy and hardships, but they’re in love after 54 years of marriage. Their firstborn (my dad) drank himself into an early grave, the younger kid suffers from a crippling form of epilepsy, their only grandsons are ex-junkies. Not to mention the horrific shit they went through with their parents. ..basically, they have every reason to be miserable. And sometimes they are, but even this they do together. They still kiss and flirt and go on dates (at 70+), and my grandma still blushes bright red at grandpa’s compliments.
I still believe that MOST marriages don’t work out, but I KNOW some do. That’s enough for me to want to try I guess🤷🏻♂️
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I am so very very happy I'm gay and married a man. Not only a man, but a man who is the coolest human being (male or female) I have EVER been involved with. I can go out with friends alone, leave the state alone, or stay up later with NO BITCHING about ANYTHING! Of course he was married to a woman and the 2 kids are in their 20's (thank goodness!). I have never had kids, and never wanted them. I also swore off marriage due to my mom being married 4 times, my brother twice and a few friends getting divorces after a few years. I feel very lucky.
There seems to be a perpetuation of how women and men should and do interact/have relationships etc...movies and media and docs, friends, peers, parents all push a certain type of agenda or way of being and that is wrong.
OP: fuck yeah! I'd do that in a fucking heartbeat. Older people are sexier to me anyway. I was with a 75yo in my late 20's early 30's and it was fantastic (a man). People are like fine antiques to me, the older they get the more I like them, lol. Like a fine wine. You kids better get used to it now anyway because THAT IS YOUR FUCKING FUTURE!!!
You're doing nothing wrong! Live life, love it! Fuck mainstream idealism's about how or why or what you "should" do/be doing. Have a 3 way, use some toys, get a sling for crying out loud.  
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My dad's wife who never worked a day in her life, filed divorce against him and my dad's agreed to let her leave with 50% of a house that's worth millions.
If it's multiple millions, what the fuck is the problem??? Everybody gets FUCKING MILLIONS!!! Greed fucking sucks!
She may not have worked a day in her life but she may have put up with shit you nor anyone else knows or ever will know about. Think about that.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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Your other poast reminded me of Daniel Tosh’s gay marriage bit. He says something like “ Fuck yes I support gay marriage! Just the thought...of having a man around the house. Finally, we can get some shit done around here.”
It works better in context but still...
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My dad's wife who never worked a day in her life, filed divorce against him and my dad's agreed to let her leave with 50% of a house that's worth millions.
If it's multiple millions, what the fuck is the problem??? Everybody gets FUCKING MILLIONS!!! Greed fucking sucks!
She may not have worked a day in her life but she may have put up with shit you nor anyone else knows or ever will know about. Think about that.
Great point. Not working a day in her life almost guarantees she feels unfulfilled, depressed, etc. Plus, what is she gonna do? Go get a job? LOL! “Hmm well we like your can-do attitude, but what’s with this....20 year gap on your resume?” You basically expect her to either flip burgers or live with someone she can’t stand.
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It's her own fault really. I'd bone the hell out of some 60-80yo's!
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Never thought of it like that. I guess all the unsolicited freak out behavior I saw in her didn't help the direction of my psychology
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tyrannicalrex said: I am so very very happy I'm gay and married a man. Not only a man, but a man who is the coolest human being (male or female) I have EVER been involved with. I can go out with friends alone, leave the state alone, or stay up later with NO BITCHING about ANYTHING! Of course he was married to a woman and the 2 kids are in their 20's (thank goodness!). I have never had kids, and never wanted them. I also swore off marriage due to my mom being married 4 times, my brother twice and a few friends getting divorces after a few years. I feel very lucky.
There seems to be a perpetuation of how women and men should and do interact/have relationships etc...movies and media and docs, friends, peers, parents all push a certain type of agenda or way of being and that is wrong.
OP: fuck yeah! I'd do that in a fucking heartbeat. Older people are sexier to me anyway. I was with a 75yo in my late 20's early 30's and it was fantastic (a man). People are like fine antiques to me, the older they get the more I like them, lol. Like a fine wine. You kids better get used to it now anyway because THAT IS YOUR FUCKING FUTURE!!!
You're doing nothing wrong! Live life, love it! Fuck mainstream idealism's about how or why or what you "should" do/be doing. Have a 3 way, use some toys, get a sling for crying out loud.   
Well said. Why should we live up to some sort of fucked up orthodox dogma that is just plain outdated.
If what I am doing is not up to the standards of what others feel I should be living up to and they have a problem with that, well it's just that, it's their problem.
I am not lieing, when I say I see couples who are seemingly happily married for 25 + years and the wife is completely domineering.
The husband goes through life agreeing, going along with her plan. Just to get a little peace of mind.
A little peace from the nagging the allowance she allows him.
The myth of the sad lonely old man is just that a myth.
I don't need companionship so bad that I am willing to have flower bouquets on the wall and loud yapping poodles in my house.
I can live the way I want, go to concerts, yes more than one a summer if I wish and I don't have to beg or make concessions to do so.
And to say I want to make love to women and not Wed them is not a hole or a void in my life. That seems like old school orthodox bullshit to me. Conformity at its highest degree.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Are you very religious, or did you grow up in a religious household? This could be the main reason why you seem to feel a little guilt and are trying to justify some thing(s) that don't need justification. Rock on and wrap it! Plus 2 adults over 40 and 60 even can make their own decisions. I have seen the type of behavior you describe in gay relationships as well, married or not. Some people just like some sort of power and control and are always right, and you should do as they say etc....fuck that shit!
I found a person (or maybe I should say we found each other) who is give and take 50/50, sometimes giving more without me asking or expecting it, and I reciprocate as well. It's not a feeling of I should do the things I do, but a feeling of OH, he's going to love this and he'll feel good etc....and I don't expect anything. I love to see him happy because his existence in my life makes me happier than I've ever been. I didn't think I would ever meet a person like this, ever.
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Anonymous #2 said: "No where near that bad"
So my friends who's wife is fighting 50% of his 20 year old 401k account isn't that bad.
My dad's wife who never worked a day in her life, filed divorce against him and my dad's agreed to let her leave with 50% of a house that's worth millions.
My mom got remarried at 50, and she's been happy for 9 years, so I know it CAN work, (if youre old and very settled.) but not enough to justify promoting it.
I'm sure your marriages seem like a 100% legit deal right now, but don't be shocked when if it turns 180 degrees overnight
Me not getting the article? 40-50% is baseline. In the article explains only how that likely hood of divorce only gets worse.
You realize that all those “My”s aren’t proof of anything. Like I said, most who get married suck at it because they don’t understand what a relationship is. Hence such a popular perception of divorce.
Also slightly related, but having sexual with someone as though they are an extension of your cock/body is a very selfish way of doing it simply because they aren’t you. You gotten figure out what they like and do that.
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So my friends who's wife is fighting 50% of his 20 year old 401k account isn't that bad.
My dad's wife who never worked a day in her life, filed divorce against him and my dad's agreed to let her leave with 50% of a house that's worth millions.
My mom got remarried at 50, and she's been happy for 9 years, so I know it CAN work, (if youre old and very settled.) but not enough to justify promoting it.
I'm sure your marriages seem like a 100% legit deal right now, but don't be shocked when if it turns 180 degrees overnight
Me not getting the article? 40-50% is baseline. In the article explains only how that likely hood of divorce only gets worse.
You realize that all those “My”s aren’t proof of anything. Like I said, most who get married suck at it because they don’t understand what a relationship is. Hence such a popular perception of divorce.
Also slightly related, but having sexual with someone as though they are an extension of your cock/body is a very selfish way of doing it simply because they aren’t you. You gotten figure out what they like and do that.
You are misconstruing what I an saying, it is not selfish but rather a feeling of oneness.
If you want to try and find something awry in everything, then that is all you.
Instead of just getting me off at all costs I reach up and stroke her hair and her breasts, we are one.
Not anything selfish at all about it.the woman I make love to tell me the way I touch them and pull on their hair, that no one has touched them like that ever.
So if you want to find something wrong with caressing my lover and making her feel amazing, I am waiting for your response.. Cheers
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: Are you very religious, or did you grow up in a religious household? This could be the main reason why you seem to feel a little guilt and are trying to justify some thing(s) that don't need justification. Rock on and wrap it! Plus 2 adults over 40 and 60 even can make their own decisions. I have seen the type of behavior you describe in gay relationships as well, married or not. Some people just like some sort of power and control and are always right, and you should do as they say etc....fuck that shit!
I found a person (or maybe I should say we found each other) who is give and take 50/50, sometimes giving more without me asking or expecting it, and I reciprocate as well. It's not a feeling of I should do the things I do, but a feeling of OH, he's going to love this and he'll feel good etc....and I don't expect anything. I love to see him happy because his existence in my life makes me happier than I've ever been. I didn't think I would ever meet a person like this, ever.
Right, I don't understand this guys moral hang up. Had to be some kind of fundamentalist Christian view of what the church claims to be righteous.
All I know is right now that 61 yo, is on cloud nine.
She asked me on the way out of work if I wanted to travel to her town for the weekend.
I really don't think she had any thoughts to go out and feeling sexual and desired. In fact I am pretty sure she had resigned to the fact that she may be alone for the rest of her days.
Truth is she is a good looking gal, with every nice body, never had kids. And no reason to feel like her sexual life should be over. Like I said she is on cloud nine, floating, anxiously awaiting our next rendezvous
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Fuck yes! Go with it! Hell, go out of town and have a great time!
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Anonymous #2 said: "No where near that bad"
So my friends who's wife is fighting 50% of his 20 year old 401k account isn't that bad.
My dad's wife who never worked a day in her life, filed divorce against him and my dad's agreed to let her leave with 50% of a house that's worth millions.
My mom got remarried at 50, and she's been happy for 9 years, so I know it CAN work, (if youre old and very settled.) but not enough to justify promoting it.
I'm sure your marriages seem like a 100% legit deal right now, but don't be shocked when if it turns 180 degrees overnight
Me not getting the article? 40-50% is baseline. In the article explains only how that likely hood of divorce only gets worse.
You realize that all those “My”s aren’t proof of anything. Like I said, most who get married suck at it because they don’t understand what a relationship is. Hence such a popular perception of divorce.
Also slightly related, but having sexual with someone as though they are an extension of your cock/body is a very selfish way of doing it simply because they aren’t you. You gotten figure out what they like and do that.
You are misconstruing what I an saying, it is not selfish but rather a feeling of oneness.
If you want to try and find something awry in everything, then that is all you.
Instead of just getting me off at all costs I reach up and stroke her hair and her breasts, we are one.
Not anything selfish at all about it.the woman I make love to tell me the way I touch them and pull on their hair, that no one has touched them like that ever.
So if you want to find something wrong with caressing my lover and making her feel amazing, I am waiting for your response.. Cheers
I mean you aren’t one but whatever. I can’t really verify your story just have to take your word for it. But it’s worth noting that such feelings you have are just in your head. It’s truly a selfish way to treat another person but if they like it I suppose it’s a moot point. This all sounds like someone filling some void to me really. Well adjusted folks don’t do such things.
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Also if those women are saying such things they have far greater problems than not getting any. The problem with humans today is they don’t know how to go without.
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Well adjusted folks don’t do such things.
Are you a psychology major? Do you speak for ALL "well adjusted folk"? What is your basis/measure for "well adjusted"?
The problem with humans today is they don’t know how to go without.
A fucking men to that! This is VERY true!
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Thanatos10 is underage I suspect. His ideas just sound like those of pseudo philosophical morally superior teenage virgin
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28 and have had more than I remember, so I can say for sure it’s quite overrated.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: Well adjusted folks don’t do such things.
Are you a psychology major? Do you speak for ALL "well adjusted folk"? What is your basis/measure for "well adjusted"?
The problem with humans today is they don’t know how to go without.
A fucking men to that! This is VERY true!
It’s a bit difficult for me to accurately explain it, but rest assured the OP’s behavior is not what one would call a well adjusted person. As for my second comment you do know that also applies to everyone on this forum right?
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Idk, there’s this Latin woman at my work...she’s 55, but looks 40ish and dat ass is veeeery well adjusted. I’m just over 30 and I’d be all over that. Am I unhealthy too?
I don’t see the relation between “going without” and being healthy. This is sex we’re talking about, not heroin lol
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I don’t see the relation between “going without” and being healthy. This is sex we’re talking about, not heroin lol
About the same to be honest. Sex without procreation seems to do more harm than good in the long run (not getting into the children aspect of it here).
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I don’t see the relation between “going without” and being healthy. This is sex we’re talking about, not heroin lol
About the same to be honest. Sex without procreation seems to do more harm than good in the long run (not getting into the children aspect of it here).
What is it about sex without procreation that seems unhealthy though?
P.S. trex, you must have a religion-radar or smth lol. No question about it, you were right.
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tyrannicalrex said: Well adjusted folks don’t do such things.
Are you a psychology major? Do you speak for ALL "well adjusted folk"? What is your basis/measure for "well adjusted"?
The problem with humans today is they don’t know how to go without.
A fucking men to that! This is VERY true!
It’s a bit difficult for me to accurately explain it, but rest assured the OP’s behavior is not what one would call a well adjusted person. As for my second comment you do know that also applies to everyone on this forum right?
The do without applies to many many things in my mind. If you were referring to sex in particular, I disagree. It is an actual biological NEED for men. We have the wet dreams to prove it. All men? Maybe not, but biology is biology, and you will release sooner or later whether you want to or not.
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OP’s behavior is not what one would call a well adjusted person.
To you maybe.
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Every one who has responded on this thread, you are the coolest.. I respect everyone of you!!
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: Well adjusted folks don’t do such things.
Are you a psychology major? Do you speak for ALL "well adjusted folk"? What is your basis/measure for "well adjusted"?
The problem with humans today is they don’t know how to go without.
A fucking men to that! This is VERY true!
It’s a bit difficult for me to accurately explain it, but rest assured the OP’s behavior is not what one would call a well adjusted person. As for my second comment you do know that also applies to everyone on this forum right?
The do without applies to many many things in my mind. If you were referring to sex in particular, I disagree. It is an actual biological NEED for men. We have the wet dreams to prove it. All men? Maybe not, but biology is biology, and you will release sooner or later whether you want to or not.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4896089/
I am referring to sex and no it’s not a need, that is mistaken. You can find plenty of monks who can do without it just fine, proof that this is something to transcend not endorse.
Not sure what other things you are referring to but that’s neither here nor there, nor does it change that my remark applies to everyone on here too.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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That's dumb, no sane persons going to buy into that no-sex cult
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Well......they are saner than you apparently not being clouded by sex. Seems to work out for Tolle.
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Buddhism and their monks although probably the coolest of the religions, is just that a religion.
I think that single handedly all religions of the world are the greatest threat and are responsible for the retardation of mankind.
I think we would be so much better off without any. Just my honest opinion.
People who tend to hate on what I am doing, I think are in a dogmatic type of thinking.
I notice when I go out that women tend to pick up on my sexual vibe, and being said myself that I am a regular looking fellow, but with confidence and the I don't give a fuck attitude.
Being financially secure, not rich by any means, but also no debt a great work ethic and personal responsibility is I believe is also a big contributing factor.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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You can find plenty of monks who can do without it just fine, proof that this is something to transcend not endorse.
Transcend having sex or masturbating? WTF?
I can say that it is not the focus of a relationship for me, it's a bonus to an already present mental connection and that makes the sex more than a one night stand or the best sex I thought I ever had, the connection to my mate now transcends any sex I had before.
I guarantee you they have nocturnal emissions, and or fuck each other on the sly, not all of them, but quite a few I'm sure. No one would EVER know except those people who do it. Then there's those who masturbate. I mean you really honestly believe deep in your heart that every single one of the Buddhists, monks, or whoever takes a vow of celibacy actually keeps it?
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tyrannicalrex said: You can find plenty of monks who can do without it just fine, proof that this is something to transcend not endorse.
Transcend having sex or masturbating? WTF?
I can say that it is not the focus of a relationship for me, it's a bonus to an already present mental connection and that makes the sex more than a one night stand or the best sex I thought I ever had, the connection to my mate now transcends any sex I had before.
I guarantee you they have nocturnal emissions, and or fuck each other on the sly, not all of them, but quite a few I'm sure. No one would EVER know except those people who do it. Then there's those who masturbate. I mean you really honestly believe deep in your heart that every single one of the Buddhists, monks, or whoever takes a vow of celibacy actually keeps it?

Not the Christian clergy obviously but the Buddhist monks do. Otherwise they leave. No nocturnal emissions (by the way I never had those growing up). The end result is a peace of mind and joy that far outclasses anything that sexy gives, which explains why they give it up and don’t often return. Sorry you can’t see that.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Not exactly things to be proud of, and it’s not dogma to be against what you do (that’s a predictable response really) it’s just more rooted in fact. People who sleep around (I don’t have a better term for it) are usually less well adjusted than others, and far less so than those who give it up and see it through (the monks). I honestly haven’t met another human being like a Buddhist monk. Kind of reinforces how needless sex is beyond procreation. I’ve had it more times than I remember and I find myself agreeing with them.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: You can find plenty of monks who can do without it just fine, proof that this is something to transcend not endorse.
Transcend having sex or masturbating? WTF?
I can say that it is not the focus of a relationship for me, it's a bonus to an already present mental connection and that makes the sex more than a one night stand or the best sex I thought I ever had, the connection to my mate now transcends any sex I had before.
I guarantee you they have nocturnal emissions, and or fuck each other on the sly, not all of them, but quite a few I'm sure. No one would EVER know except those people who do it. Then there's those who masturbate. I mean you really honestly believe deep in your heart that every single one of the Buddhists, monks, or whoever takes a vow of celibacy actually keeps it?

Well of course they do....just like all those catholic priests.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Hmmm, you're beginning to sound like some posters in the past. I've seen these posts before in the same subject matter.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: Hmmm, you're beginning to sound like some posters in the past. I've seen these posts before in the same subject matter.
I'm saying I can see why transcending sex is a big thing in spirituality and why some faiths advocate it, but I've only seen Buddhism do it with success.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Thanatos10 no point in trying to preach this, it's silly.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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I'm saying I can see why transcending sex is a big thing in spirituality and why some faiths advocate it, but I've only seen Buddhism do it with success.
The only thing I can see as to why a person would abstain from sex of any kind is because they feel it is a distraction from their extreme faith and pursuit of complete "enlightenment". Seems to me that once I have an orgasm, enlightenment in a "god" is there, lol!
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Thanatos10 said: Not exactly things to be proud of, and it’s not dogma to be against what you do (that’s a predictable response really) it’s just more rooted in fact. People who sleep around (I don’t have a better term for it) are usually less well adjusted than others, and far less so than those who give it up and see it through (the monks). I honestly haven’t met another human being like a Buddhist monk. Kind of reinforces how needless sex is beyond procreation. I’ve had it more times than I remember and I find myself agreeing with them.
That's a lot of words to say you just can't get laid..!!
Listen, I was in a marriage for 27 years, the last 10 were basically sexless.
I guess you can call those my vfx monk years ... That is a new description of a sexless marriage,
"I am in the monk stage of my marriage"
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
#26496681 - 02/21/20 09:17 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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"I am in the monk stage of my marriage"
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Thanatos10 said: I honestly haven’t met another human being like a Buddhist monk
Well no fucking shit! Look at your surroundings, where you're from etc...that is a completely different way of being outside of that country/place. The people closer to it and know the people are more used to it and more than likely have a different view of it just by proxy.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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That's a lot of words to say you just can't get laid..!!
Listen, I was in a marriage for 27 years, the last 10 were basically sexless.
I guess you can call those my vfx monk years ... That is a new description of a sexless marriage,
"I am in the monk stage of my marriage"
Yeah.....no. I’ve been laid many times over, I just don’t want it because I know what it’s like. Also once one has become enlightened they don’t need or want for sex after. Still further proof that it is a failing beyond procreation.
Also being concerned about being sexless for 10 years shows you stil haven’t matured yet.
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Thanatos10 said: Not exactly things to be proud of, and it’s not dogma to be against what you do (that’s a predictable response really) it’s just more rooted in fact. People who sleep around (I don’t have a better term for it) are usually less well adjusted than others, and far less so than those who give it up and see it through (the monks). I honestly haven’t met another human being like a Buddhist monk. Kind of reinforces how needless sex is beyond procreation. I’ve had it more times than I remember and I find myself agreeing with them.
That's a lot of words to say you just can't get laid..!!
Listen, I was in a marriage for 27 years, the last 10 were basically sexless.
I guess you can call those my vfx monk years ... That is a new description of a sexless marriage,
"I am in the monk stage of my marriage"
Yeah.....no. I’ve been laid many times over, I just don’t want it because I know what it’s like. Also once one has become enlightened they don’t need or want for sex after. Still further proof that it is a failing beyond procreation.
Also being concerned about being sexless for 10 years shows you stil haven’t matured yet.
Sex is both a physiological need and a social need. If you were enlightened enough to truly not want sex, you’d be enlightened enough to truly not give a fuck what any of us here think. If you evolved, you wouldn’t be wasting your time talking it out with a bunch of primates.
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"Yeah.....no. I’ve been laid many times over, I just don’t want it because I know what it’s like. Also once one has become enlightened they don’t need or want for sex after. Still further proof that it is a failing beyond procreation."
"Also being concerned about being sexless for 10 years shows you still haven’t matured yet."
OK, these are very bold statements coming from a 20 something year old without much world experience to back it up. But hey, do what you want man, I was trying to give some good advice and help as much as I could from a keyboard POV. This kind of posting will bring a shitstorm on you from some people in here. Maybe you want that, IDK. I like your style feldman, lol. We seem to be on the same page a lot, both physically and mentally, lol!
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Back at ya, trex!
If I’m being honest, I’ve been catching myself at half-flaming people lately, and I don’t like it. Dunno where it’s coming from, but “enlightened” people are deff a trigger lol. Might need to up my mushroom intake
I’m no spiritual guru, but I know enlightened people aren’t constantly going on about how enlightened they are.
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Yeah, I can be a "knee jerk reactionary" guy at times. I do try to see all facets of a conversation and respect POV's as much as possible. This is an interesting forum. CHEERS!
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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Thanatos10 said: Not exactly things to be proud of, and it’s not dogma to be against what you do (that’s a predictable response really) it’s just more rooted in fact. People who sleep around (I don’t have a better term for it) are usually less well adjusted than others, and far less so than those who give it up and see it through (the monks). I honestly haven’t met another human being like a Buddhist monk. Kind of reinforces how needless sex is beyond procreation. I’ve had it more times than I remember and I find myself agreeing with them.
That's a lot of words to say you just can't get laid..!!
Listen, I was in a marriage for 27 years, the last 10 were basically sexless.
I guess you can call those my vfx monk years ... That is a new description of a sexless marriage,
"I am in the monk stage of my marriage"
Yeah.....no. I’ve been laid many times over, I just don’t want it because I know what it’s like. Also once one has become enlightened they don’t need or want for sex after. Still further proof that it is a failing beyond procreation.
Also being concerned about being sexless for 10 years shows you stil haven’t matured yet.
Sex is both a physiological need and a social need. If you were enlightened enough to truly not want sex, you’d be enlightened enough to truly not give a fuck what any of us here think. If you evolved, you wouldn’t be wasting your time talking it out with a bunch of primates.
I never said I was enlightened, but I did say that those who are aren’t bound by sex anymore. Also sex isn’t a physiological or social need, that’s a very narrow view of humans.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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When did you exactly fall from grace?
Where did you exclude yourself from the earth and raise yourself above?
Don't take that wrong, but I think humans tend to forget that we are on a rock hurling through space... lost and all alone.
Somehow we stood up and recognized ourselves as separate from everything else. When we are not, we are not anything special from the river that flows and cuts through the rocks over eons of time.
It's up to you how caught up in self importance you wish to be.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Where did you exclude yourself from the earth and raise yourself above?
Don't take that wrong, but I think humans tend to forget that we are on a rock hurling through space... lost and all alone.
Somehow we stood up and recognized ourselves as separate from everything else. When we are not, we are not anything special from the river that flows and cuts through the rocks over eons of time.
It's up to you how caught up in self importance you wish to be.
Because the human condition is something to rise above. We are in some sense special as you won’t find other animals or life forms quite like us. But to be concerned with sex is base and low, ego. It’s something to leave behind and transcend.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Do you envision an ideal human race that doesn't fuck? We just stop all sex, and trancend to sitting meditating Buddhist monks. No more kids. Innovation stops,Human race dies out. Humans eventually die off?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
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This thread makes me appreciate my wife and our equal relationship
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Actually with speed banks humans don’t need to have sex to reproduce. Innovation stopping might be a good thing since so far it’s caused so many disasters for the planet.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Why reproduce? Why keep living at all? Why don't all bhuddist monks kill themselves if theyre so enlightened?
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Killing yourself an ego thing not an enlightened thing. As for reproduce, well why do that? Because life programs is to?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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zenarrow said: Last night I took home a woman from work whose husband had worked with us, until the day he died.
It has been like 3 years since his death and from what I gather sex was absent for a great deal longer.
I am 49 and she is 61, she was super appreciative and mentioned that it has been a very long time. That she was just happy to feel me inside of her.
She has an amazing body, never had kids and was very turned on. Which turned me on.
I am quite sure if I don't sleep with her that she will probably never have sex again, just from being married so long and settled into her life.
I was married for 27 years and the last 10 years were sexless. I am quite positive that is how a lot of women I sleep with are in their relationships. At times I think the husband is aware but either doesn't care or thankful.
In the two years since being divorced, I feel I have stepped up my pick up game and also have got very good at pleasing women.
I notice that a lot of my friends SO look at me and many times I am positive they are flirting openly with me.
Realize I am an average looking guy who grew a huge beard while married because I was like fuck it, I am growing a huge beard and going to be as gnarly as possible.
Now after divorce, I find women are very attracted to my gnarly beard, I will never shave it. That coupled with growing shrooms and sharing them has made me a chick magnet in my local area.
It is easy now being single and facing rejection, because I know that the one who rejects me, 3 other women are behind her checking me out.
If I can make a widow happy and feel amazing I feel like I am not doing anything wrong.
If a newly single woman straight out of a sexless marriage is starving for release, I too am pleased to oblige.
Same goes for a married woman in a unsatisfied relationship, if I can make her feel like she is 25 again, I do not feel ashamed nor do I feel I have done anything wrong.
Women just like to be touched and felt like they never have before.
When I have sex with them I have them on top and touch them as if theyvare an extension of my cock, which is the best way to make love. I massage them and pull their hair and stroke them as if they were an extension of myself. Don't judge me...
Right on man.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: lowbrow]
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He has yet to transcend that lowly level of existence as well as conventional morality
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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If you are going to have sex with another mans wife, might as well be a gentleman and leave a post it under the toilet seat and let him know
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This is the second time I’ve seen a gay guy give shit advice accompanied by a high-handed moral superiority attitude to a straight guy about sex.
You going to tell us all to ‘respect women’ now, too?
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This is the second time I’ve seen a gay guy give shit advice accompanied by a high-handed moral superiority attitude to a straight guy about sex.
You going to tell us all to ‘respect women’ now, too?
It has nothing to do with being gay or straight but about reaching for something higher
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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It’s coming off as arrogant and pretentious. It’s not a good thing to be arrogant and pretentious to people.
If you want to self-flagellate yourself sexually, rock on, but if you want to push it on everybody else, well god bless ya.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #3]
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Anonymous #3 said: It’s coming off as arrogant and pretentious. It’s not a good thing to be arrogant and pretentious to people.
If you want to self-flagellate yourself sexually, rock on, but if you want to push it on everybody else, well god bless ya.
It’s more like letting go of a hindrance really, and most people don’t realize what a hinderance sex really is.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Whos paying your bills? If you were concerned with hindrances then you wouldn't be working job and making money to pay your phone or Internet bill ,or any bills for that matter. You'd be outside in the boonies meditating and we'd never have even known that you existed. Sex, to me is purely about enjoyment. It's not about scratching an itch or filling a void. It's a fun activity. Like rock climbing, or snowboarding. Are those hindrances too? Snowboarding costs me money, and it risks my life, should I trancend and quit snowboarding?
By your standards should I be living in a black box trancended to enlightenment, doing nothing? Is that what you do?
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Zenarrow banged my grandma.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Hahahaha, I thought about making a comment like that. People are clearly in their feelings in your thread, sucks when that kinda shit happens so I thought I’d lighten it up.
I think you are correct in a lot of the things you’d said in the OP. Being there for women when they aren’t catching pipe from their husband or boyfriend or what not is something I can stand behind. My dad was a man whore and would lay down women whose husbands cannot perform, treat them like shit, separated, etc... all the time.
Someone is going to do it, might as well be you if you are going to have fun with it and so is the woman.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Anonymous #2 said: Whos paying your bills? If you were concerned with hindrances then you wouldn't be working job and making money to pay your phone or Internet bill ,or any bills for that matter. You'd be outside in the boonies meditating and we'd never have even known that you existed. Sex, to me is purely about enjoyment. It's not about scratching an itch or filling a void. It's a fun activity. Like rock climbing, or snowboarding. Are those hindrances too? Snowboarding costs me money, and it risks my life, should I trancend and quit snowboarding?
By your standards should I be living in a black box trancended to enlightenment, doing nothing? Is that what you do?
That’s a gross misunderstanding as working to earn a living isn’t a hindrance, haven’t you heard of the middle path?
Having sex for enjoyment is scratching an itch, if you’re doing it for fun then you clearly have some issues with your life. Seeking entertainment itself is another problem as well since you are essentially saying the present moment isn’t enough, another problem humans have.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Alexthegreat]
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Alexthegreat said: Hahahaha, I thought about making a comment like that. People are clearly in their feelings in your thread, sucks when that kinda shit happens so I thought I’d lighten it up.
I think you are correct in a lot of the things you’d said in the OP. Being there for women when they aren’t catching pipe from their husband or boyfriend or what not is something I can stand behind. My dad was a man whore and would lay down women whose husbands cannot perform, treat them like shit, separated, etc... all the time.
Someone is going to do it, might as well be you if you are going to have fun with it and so is the woman.
Props.

He’s not doing them any favors though, it would be better if he left them to their fates so they learn not to depend on others.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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That’s one way to look at it Thanatos for sure. The women out there starving for affection may disagree. They don’t want to learn, they want intimacy.
You must be dripping in bitches if you are telling another man to not have consensual sex. I personally don’t understand why you want to dissuade someone from enjoying themselves and providing joy to others at the same time.
Kind of a dick move to be honest, but you know what? I’m gonna have to agree to disagree with ya and that’s ok.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Alexthegreat]
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Alexthegreat said: That’s one way to look at it Thanatos for sure. The women out there starving for affection may disagree. They don’t want to learn, they want intimacy.
You must be dripping in bitches if you are telling another man to not have consensual sex there broski.
I wouldn’t call it consensual sex if they are starving for affection, these women aren’t in their right mind and are letting emotion cloud their wants and mistaking them for needs
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Why aren’t they in their right minds? Because they want some dick and/or intimacy that they aren’t receiving? Lol. I’m confused.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Alexthegreat]
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Alexthegreat said: Why aren’t they in their right minds? Because they want some dick and/or intimacy that they aren’t receiving? Lol. I’m confused.
Exactly.
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I agree with Thanatos here-- violating the terms of monogamy is a breach of trust and integrity-- those women would be better off to either a) figure out how to restore intimacy to their relationship or b) end the relationship and look for true intimacy. You can't have your cake and eat it too-- if the terms of the relationship allow for polyamory, that's different but looking for intimacy outside of the relationship when the relationship is founded on a joint effort between the two to formulate intimacy and uphold each other despite our own desires is violated, that's just a fault of character and dishonesty towards oneself and someone else. The worst thing people can do to each other is lie, betray and feign truth.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Roflspammer]
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Not really what I’m getting at but a good point regardless
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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I feel you ROFL. You mention excellent solutions/possibilities.
All of us know that shit doesn’t always work out the way we want it to. As a result, women take action to fulfill their need for intimacy for whatever reason. Right or wrong, it happens and will continue to happen.
We should be celebrating OPs “take it for the team” mentality because he gets to have fun and provide fun and pleasure to someone else who is not getting it. I just don’t see what’s wrong with that?
That may be confusing to y’all cause you are more mature than me, I’m definitely still a bro and recognize it.
OP posted to share something that he likes to do, other people benefit from, and then bam. Salt.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Alexthegreat]
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Thanatos, I liked where our conversation was going but then you made that comment about women and that shit was too much for me. I’m not ignoring you, I would just like to be more constructive about the conversation and to comment on that would not take us anywhere good.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Alexthegreat]
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The issue is that the ideology itself is damaging to people, and ideologies spread through networks. Lets say 100 people read this thread and the end result is that we all agree the OP is in the right because he is able to bring pleasure to someone else-- that means these 100 people if put in similar situations are now more likely than previously to engage in similar behaviors-- which are damaging to people. Those 100 people have maybe 100 other people they come in contact with and have similar conversations-- before you know it, there is an entire network that is under the ideology that a) it is pleasure which is of the most important to attain and b) OK to lie to a partner and not pursue the truth-- that intimacy is difficult work to maintain and requires effort. Both a and b are damaging to people and should be condemned, and this is done by fighting ideology with ideology through leading a life which is honest and integral to oneself and others.
I rather live in a society where the predominate mainstream ideal is to enforce a steadfast unwavering dedication to truth and away from self-denial. Self-denial causes instability and sleeping with someone else's wife is not directly wrong on the part of the man, because he is not the cheater. The man is indirectly wrong because he is not upholding values which will benefit society, and instead working selfishly to attain pleasure. The cheater must come to terms with the fact that they are leading a life which is in denial of themselves, and this metaphysical ideal is only brought about through social exclusion and condemnation of the act itself. If you are not upholding this, you contribute to the problem overall.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Roflspammer]
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Roflspammer said: The issue is that the ideology itself is damaging to people, and ideologies spread through networks. Lets say 100 people read this thread and the end result is that we all agree the OP is in the right because he is able to bring pleasure to someone else-- that means these 100 people if put in similar situations are now more likely than previously to engage in similar behaviors-- which are damaging to people. Those 100 people have maybe 100 other people they come in contact with and have similar conversations-- before you know it, there is an entire network that is under the ideology that a) it is pleasure which is of the most important to attain and b) OK to lie to a partner and not pursue the truth-- that intimacy is difficult work to maintain and requires effort. Both a and b are damaging to people and should be condemned, and this is done by fighting ideology with ideology through leading a life which is honest and integral to oneself and others.
I rather live in a society where the predominate mainstream ideal is to enforce a steadfast unwavering dedication to truth and away from self-denial. Self-denial causes instability and sleeping with someone else's wife is not directly wrong on the part of the man, because he is not the cheater. The man is indirectly wrong because he is not upholding values which will benefit society, and instead working selfishly to attain pleasure. The cheater must come to terms with the fact that they are leading a life which is in denial of themselves, and this metaphysical ideal is only brought about through social exclusion and condemnation of the act itself. If you are not upholding this, you contribute to the problem overall.
Self denial actually leads to order and what allows society to function. It also enables one to transcend their limits of being human.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Alexthegreat]
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Alexthegreat said: I feel you ROFL. You mention excellent solutions/possibilities.
All of us know that shit doesn’t always work out the way we want it to. As a result, women take action to fulfill their need for intimacy for whatever reason. Right or wrong, it happens and will continue to happen.
We should be celebrating OPs “take it for the team” mentality because he gets to have fun and provide fun and pleasure to someone else who is not getting it. I just don’t see what’s wrong with that?
That may be confusing to y’all cause you are more mature than me, I’m definitely still a bro and recognize it.
OP posted to share something that he likes to do, other people benefit from, and then bam. Salt.
Except they don’t benefit from it, not truly. They are caught in dependency needs and all he is doing is reinforcing it. They aren’t truly benefiting from it at all. The fact that they want intimacy is another weakness as well. It’s a shame you are stuck in thinking they benefit from it, unable to see the bigger picture
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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It’s become very apparent that you’re not getting laid and want everybody else to be as miserable as you.
Awaiting psycho-babble response.
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Thana and Rofl, you 2 can do what you like, but don't try to impose your archaic idealism(s) set forth through a book that was designed to control masses of people through guilt and fear. This is a new dawn, a new age, and people will not be controlled. You parents did an excellent job of imprinting you as well as whatever institutional learning facilities you may have attended, or home schooled. If these ideas and things in your head are through your own research and life experiences, then please live more, read more, do more, get out there and live life!
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: Thana and Rofl, you 2 can do what you like, but don't try to impose your archaic idealism(s) set forth through a book that was designed to control masses of people through guilt and fear. This is a new dawn, a new age, and people will not be controlled. You parents did an excellent job of imprinting you as well as whatever institutional learning facilities you may have attended, or home schooled. If these ideas and things in your head are through your own research and life experiences, then please live more, read more, do more, get out there and live life!
Calling people conditioned when you provide a predictable response. It isn’t about controlling people in the sense you meant it. Sex for pleasure has done more long term harm than it has helped. This isn’t my parents saying this but what I have found through experience, observation and research. If you think such attitudes are good then you need to read and get out more. You need to learn why most spiritual paths leave it behind and why.
Maybe humans need to be controlled since they don’t clearly don’t know what’s good for them, but that’s another story.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Are you not a human?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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I am human but I fail to see the relevance of that remark.
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You believe you need to be controlled. As such, it should be your imperative to follow directions.
Put a lightbulb in your pooper. Follow my directions or you “need to read and get out more”.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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I didn’t say I believe I need to be controlled I said humans meaning the other ones who don’t see how destructive sex for pleasure is. As a whole I think people need to be controlled because left on their own they will rationalize just about anything
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Thanatos10 should move to China, I think he'd like it there.
I honestly really wonder what it is that you do with your time?. Since you're abstaining from any form of hindrance or destruction and almost every recreational activity comes with some hindrance and destruction, what do you do with your self to pass the time if you're not willing to suicide? What activities are worthwhile in this reality? What am I missing out on? Please explain in detail so I can understand.
I don't actually believe that Thanatos10 lives by his words. Maybe he tries, but surely does not adhere 100%.
Right now he's essentially a stubborn chat bot, that no matter what logical input you offer, it's response remains the same, just a recombination of the same words it's been posting since page 1.
What's probably going on is a psychological phenomena where the subject (thanatos10) is 100% resistant to logic, and will stand by his initial position until death. Same exact issue we have with the current USA president, climate change deniers, and such. Basically, the thought of admitting wrong is too painful for them / thanatos10. But they're not aware of this potential pain. It's a defense mechanism, to continually deny logic and support their initial defunct position, until death.
Give this thread another 5 years, Thanatos10 would probably still be here saying the same thing over and over again with nothing more to offer.
ROFL on the other hand, probBly just has a hard time maintaining intimacy with people. His preachy commandments come from a mind of fear and insecurity
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Oh so everyone except monks and you? You do realize how that sounds?
And what’s wrong with rationalizing?
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tyrannicalrex said: Thana and Rofl, you 2 can do what you like, but don't try to impose your archaic idealism(s) set forth through a book that was designed to control masses of people through guilt and fear. This is a new dawn, a new age, and people will not be controlled. You parents did an excellent job of imprinting you as well as whatever institutional learning facilities you may have attended, or home schooled. If these ideas and things in your head are through your own research and life experiences, then please live more, read more, do more, get out there and live life!
Calling people conditioned when you provide a predictable response. It isn’t about controlling people in the sense you meant it.
Sex for pleasure has done more long term harm than it has helped. Maybe for you/in your eyes.
This isn’t my parents saying this but what I have found through experience, observation and research. If you think such attitudes are good then you need to read and get out more. You need to learn why most spiritual paths leave it behind and why.
Usually because they are asexual, gay, or bisexual, or any number of anti social anxieties that can be uncovered with therapy. There is a small % of people that just simply do not enjoy sex, and that's ok, but to try and persuade other people by using guilt trip tactics to not have sex or "see the error of their way" etc....is really silly.
Maybe humans need to be controlled since they don’t clearly don’t know what’s good for them, but that’s another story.
Oh please do tell us you all knowing thanatos, we must know the secret that you hold within your powerful and all seeing mind on what is good for the whole of humanity. My "predictable response" is a response to seeing people conditioned to a certain way of thinking/being.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Anonymous #2 said: Whos paying your bills? If you were concerned with hindrances then you wouldn't be working job and making money to pay your phone or Internet bill ,or any bills for that matter. You'd be outside in the boonies meditating and we'd never have even known that you existed. Sex, to me is purely about enjoyment. It's not about scratching an itch or filling a void. It's a fun activity. Like rock climbing, or snowboarding. Are those hindrances too? Snowboarding costs me money, and it risks my life, should I trancend and quit snowboarding?
By your standards should I be living in a black box trancended to enlightenment, doing nothing? Is that what you do?
That’s a gross misunderstanding as working to earn a living isn’t a hindrance, haven’t you heard of the middle path?
Having sex for enjoyment is scratching an itch, if you’re doing it for fun then you clearly have some issues with your life. Seeking entertainment itself is another problem as well since you are essentially saying the present moment isn’t enough, another problem humans have.
Having sex for enjoyment is great. Just because some people do it irresponsibly doesn't mean most people do. No offense Thanatos but you shouldn't be telling anyone they have issues because they like recreational, satisfying for both parties, sex. You have shared your feelings about being addicted to pain and preferring to be alone. You should be seeking guidance or counseling, not giving it.
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tyrannicalrex said: Thana and Rofl, you 2 can do what you like, but don't try to impose your archaic idealism(s) set forth through a book that was designed to control masses of people through guilt and fear. This is a new dawn, a new age, and people will not be controlled. You parents did an excellent job of imprinting you as well as whatever institutional learning facilities you may have attended, or home schooled. If these ideas and things in your head are through your own research and life experiences, then please live more, read more, do more, get out there and live life!
Calling people conditioned when you provide a predictable response. It isn’t about controlling people in the sense you meant it.
Sex for pleasure has done more long term harm than it has helped. Maybe for you/in your eyes.
This isn’t my parents saying this but what I have found through experience, observation and research. If you think such attitudes are good then you need to read and get out more. You need to learn why most spiritual paths leave it behind and why.
Usually because they are asexual, gay, or bisexual, or any number of anti social anxieties that can be uncovered with therapy. There is a small % of people that just simply do not enjoy sex, and that's ok, but to try and persuade other people by using guilt trip tactics to not have sex or "see the error of their way" etc....is really silly.
Maybe humans need to be controlled since they don’t clearly don’t know what’s good for them, but that’s another story.
Oh please do tell us you all knowing thanatos, we must know the secret that you hold within your powerful and all seeing mind on what is good for the whole of humanity. My "predictable response" is a response to seeing people conditioned to a certain way of thinking/being.
Yes, hence why it’s predictable and expected based on he conditioning of this website.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Brian Jones]
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I’m able to put my personal feelings aside to give advice, my mental state and current problems don’t cloud my judgment. As to the previous claim about logic, I haven’t seen logic defending their position while I have explained my stance quite well. Sex for pleasure only is a hinderance to overcome as the desire for sex and the act tends to cloud our minds. Seeking pleasure is a poor choice as well since it doesn’t last and just creates a hunger for it in the future. The Buddhists had a whole argument against it that makes sense, since they achieved a greater state of being by letting go of sexual and seeking it.
From where I stand the arguments in favor of just having sex for pleasure aren’t logical but emotional.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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But you say you still have desires “clouding your mind”. As I understand, you feel sexual attraction but don’t enjoy the act. Correct?
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Sex for pleasure only is a hinderance to overcome as the desire for sex and the act tends to cloud our minds. Seeking pleasure is a poor choice as well since it doesn’t last and just creates a hunger for it in the future. The Buddhists had a whole argument against it that makes sense, since they achieved a greater state of being by letting go of sexual and seeking it.
From where I stand the arguments in favor of just having sex for pleasure aren’t logical but emotional.
And this is a problem because of what? Why? Of course there's emotion in sex, the more emotional attachment the better the sex! What exactly is/are the thing(s) you are seeking by being unencumbered/hindered by "sex"?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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es, hence why it’s predictable and expected based on he conditioning of this website.
This website has not conditioned me friend, years of living have shown me things that can only be lived.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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This website has not conditioned me friend, years of living have shown me things that can only be lived.
Yeah I’m gonna say no, and that such a response is typical from the conditioning of this site. Your lived experience is just neuroscience. Personal experience isn’t proof of anything.
As I have said, the responses I read here are...obvious for people who claim to be against the norm.
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You know, the longer I spend here, the more I realize how diverse Shroomerites are.
There are staunch conservatives, bleeding-heart liberals, old, young, people who never even smoked pot (like mr. Enlil), people who stay high 24/7, Christians, atheists, Hindus, rich, poor, etc.
If I was you, I wouldn’t brush off the advice you get here. There’s more wisdom on these boards than there is in most religious texts, that’s for sure...
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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Yet despite that diversity the responses aren’t so
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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What sort of things do you do with your spare time? What's the trancended life actually like? You got me sold thanatos10. I'm willing to convert to thanatosism and give it a try. Youvw stood your ground for 7 pages, you must be living the dream! Teach me the ways of thanatosism!
Is it true you can achieve not a single boner again in your entire life? Not even if the hottest woman you've ever imagined started giving you a blow job? How do you do it, thanatos10?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Since he can't answer, it's pretty much proof enough that he doesn't actually live by his words. Hes probably still prone to uncontrollable boners and hornyness and emotional arousal at the sight of a compatible sexual partner. He will speak and preach, but only for entertainment. He doesn't actually practice any of that
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Sex for pleasure only is a hindrance to overcome as the desire for sex and the act tends to cloud our minds.
Can you say why you are trying to overcome this hindrance? What level are you trying to attain? Where are you going with this whole thing? Are you like Morrisy like the time he claimed celibacy because he was a homosexual who was too proud to have anal sex? What transcendence are you trying achieve to get to where ever it is you want to go?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
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Anonymous #2 said: Since he can't answer, it's pretty much proof enough that he doesn't actually live by his words. Hes probably still prone to uncontrollable boners and hornyness and emotional arousal at the sight of a compatible sexual partner. He will speak and preach, but only for entertainment. He doesn't actually practice any of that
Not really I just have better things to do than check this forum.
As for why, well sex has historically been shown to be a hinderance to us when outside of reproduction (even then it is a hinderance with unwanted pregnancies). Where I am going is trying to get people to see the long term damage such practices can do. The defense of sex thinks of only the short term pleasure.
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So your ultimate goal is to be a "have no sex unless it's to procreate" guru type person? Is it just in here as a social experiment for your own pleasure? Are you writing a thesis? Writing a book/novel/series? Making a TV show? Is this an art project? Are you in film? What is sex hindering you from? What potential do you want us to achieve by not having sex unless it's for kids?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
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tyrannicalrex said: So your ultimate goal is to be a "have no sex unless it's to procreate" guru type person? Is it just in here as a social experiment for your own pleasure? Are you writing a thesis? Writing a book/novel/series? Making a TV show? Is this an art project? Are you in film? What is sex hindering you from? What potential do you want us to achieve by not having sex unless it's for kids?
It’s to be free from the craving and influence that sex has over us. To see it for what it is rather than what we make it out to be
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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I highly doubt that you could resist a boner or arousal when a sexy ass appears before you.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
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If I go a few days without busting a nut, sex is all I could think about. Meanwhile, the 10-20min immediately after sex I feel a sort of serene clarity of mind.
Abstinence seems like a good way to think about sex non-stop. The only way to stop sex from clouding your mind is, quite literally, cutting your cock&balls off.
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Thanatos10 said: I’m able to put my personal feelings aside to give advice, my mental state and current problems don’t cloud my judgment.

you know, feldman does have a point about diversity. I'll do my best not to judge how you live cause maybe you found a way that really works for you, but please try not to tell everyone you know what's best for humanity.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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If I'm really depressed for some reason I can go weeks without feeling sexual arousal or anything and it feels unhealthy like I gotta get my libido back somehow so I can flush my pipes.
Thanatos might be predisposing himself to prostate cancer
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tyrannicalrex said: So your ultimate goal is to be a "have no sex unless it's to procreate" guru type person? Is it just in here as a social experiment for your own pleasure? Are you writing a thesis? Writing a book/novel/series? Making a TV show? Is this an art project? Are you in film? What is sex hindering you from? What potential do you want us to achieve by not having sex unless it's for kids?
It’s to be free from the craving and influence that sex has over us. To see it for what it is rather than what we make it out to be
Would you care to explain in detail YOUR perception of what it is and also please elaborate in detail on what "we make it out to be"? We are mammalian, we innately want to have sex/procreate. Some have the "desire" more than others. It's quite simple really. If you feel like you have to do this for personal reasons, rock on! It Isn't "what's best for humanity" though IMHE.
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You would be surprised. I'm quite resilient.
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tyrannicalrex said: So your ultimate goal is to be a "have no sex unless it's to procreate" guru type person? Is it just in here as a social experiment for your own pleasure? Are you writing a thesis? Writing a book/novel/series? Making a TV show? Is this an art project? Are you in film? What is sex hindering you from? What potential do you want us to achieve by not having sex unless it's for kids?
It’s to be free from the craving and influence that sex has over us. To see it for what it is rather than what we make it out to be
Would you care to explain in detail YOUR perception of what it is and also please elaborate in detail on what "we make it out to be"? We are mammalian, we innately want to have sex/procreate. Some have the "desire" more than others. It's quite simple really. If you feel like you have to do this for personal reasons, rock on! It Isn't "what's best for humanity" though IMHE.
Except it is, overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us.
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Except it is, overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us.
I wholeheartedly disagree on all three points.
Except it is 1. It is not. Please elaborate on your rationale.
overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. 2. Better? Better than what? Whom? Does making yourself fight a primal innate urge (that was made/developed to feel pleasurable to procreate) make you feel superior to other people/the earth, the universe? Are you mentally flogging yourself like those flogging religious people do to atone or something like that? Will it "elevate your existence to a higher plane" or something like that? I'm really confused on the "makes us better" part. It makes no sense to me whatsoever and sounds ludicrous.
That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us. 3. How? In what way(s)? What is the "harm" exactly?
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I wholeheartedly disagree on all three points.
Except it is 1. It is not. Please elaborate on your rationale.
overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. 2. Better? Better than what? Whom? Does making yourself fight a primal innate urge (that was made/developed to feel pleasurable to procreate) make you feel superior to other people/the earth, the universe? Are you mentally flogging yourself like those flogging religious people do to atone or something like that? Will it "elevate your existence to a higher plane" or something like that? I'm really confused on the "makes us better" part. It makes no sense to me whatsoever and sounds ludicrous.
That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us. 3. How? In what way(s)? What is the "harm" exactly?
It does though, by allowing you to see clearly. Often times our view of others is clouded by sexual feelings for them and we just see our image of them instead of the person. This often leads to disaster as people frequently take their image of the person as reality. People have been murdered or abused as a result of that.
It's not atonement but seeking to rise above. Like our aggression and tribalism are both natural drives that are causing us harm in the modern world and now we have to overcome them for our future. Fear doesn't hold the same place today as it did in the past. By overcoming our basest urges we come to a clearly picture of reality and each other and as a result the violence with greatly drop (if not cease), hopefully no more unwanted pregnancies, and STI harm will drop as well.
From a logical standpoint there is no downside to overcoming sexual desire/sex.
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From a logical standpoint, anyone who REALLY believes that has no reason to keep their testicles. Why not get rid of the “hinderance” once and for all?
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#castrateyourhuman
No need to. It won't mean anything unless you overcome it yourself.
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You certainly didnt resist the urge to hijack a thread. You didnt resist the urge to be pompous and arrogant. And you didn’t resist the urge to look down on everybody else.
Your word is worthless.
We could of been listening to stories of hot gilf pussy and and widow fucking but instead we got a hollier than thou DXM shaman berrating our way of life.
This blows.
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I wholeheartedly disagree on all three points.
Except it is 1. It is not. Please elaborate on your rationale.
overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. 2. Better? Better than what? Whom? Does making yourself fight a primal innate urge (that was made/developed to feel pleasurable to procreate) make you feel superior to other people/the earth, the universe? Are you mentally flogging yourself like those flogging religious people do to atone or something like that? Will it "elevate your existence to a higher plane" or something like that? I'm really confused on the "makes us better" part. It makes no sense to me whatsoever and sounds ludicrous.
That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us. 3. How? In what way(s)? What is the "harm" exactly?
It does though, by allowing you to see clearly.
Maybe in ones own mind who chooses that for themselves, but not all people. I stand by this statement 1000% to infinity. One can not/will not EVER "rise above" or whatever other ludicrous statement/thought/feeling you have read or heard or felt/feel from whatever insane person stated/wrote it that abstaining from sex or to deny sexual feelings will bring forth another "higher" plane of existence. Maybe the fighting of it gives you a sense of superiority over everyone in your own mind, maybe not, who the fuck knows. I do know that no matter how hard you fight it, or want it to be different, it won't be, period.
Often times our view of others is clouded by sexual feelings for them and we just see our image of them instead of the person.
Yeah, and? So fucking what? It's just human/mammalian nature. Yes, one can control urges and not act on them, and that's called being an adult and a decent human being. Having thoughts of sex with someone you find attractive is not morally wrong or any other kind of wrong. Going further by acting on the feelings/thoughts by accosting, raping, and killing for it is.
This often leads to disaster as people frequently take their image of the person as reality. People have been murdered or abused as a result of that.
It's not atonement but seeking to rise above. Like our aggression and tribalism are both natural drives that are causing us harm in the modern world and now we have to overcome them for our future.
Yeah, no. Good luck with this.
Fear doesn't hold the same place today as it did in the past. By overcoming our basest urges we come to a clearly picture of reality and each other and as a result the violence with greatly drop (if not cease),

Yeah, I wish, but there will always be power hungry asshole people who take advantage over "weaker" people, it's the law of nature/whatever you want to call it.
hopefully no more unwanted pregnancies, and STI harm will drop as well.
From a logical standpoint there is no downside to overcoming sexual desire/sex.
Maybe within your own mind and for you, but not the entire human race.
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That little hypocrite is in the dick thread making sexual comments. Guess his puritanical no sex bullshit doesn’t apply to him.
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Wrong, I didn’t say I was quite there yet but I understand the reasoning behind achieving such a state. If anything my comment there is proof of why one must strive for such a state
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tyrannicalrex said: Except it is, overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us.
I wholeheartedly disagree on all three points.
Except it is 1. It is not. Please elaborate on your rationale.
overcoming our primal urges is what makes us better. 2. Better? Better than what? Whom? Does making yourself fight a primal innate urge (that was made/developed to feel pleasurable to procreate) make you feel superior to other people/the earth, the universe? Are you mentally flogging yourself like those flogging religious people do to atone or something like that? Will it "elevate your existence to a higher plane" or something like that? I'm really confused on the "makes us better" part. It makes no sense to me whatsoever and sounds ludicrous.
That innate drive that was for survival is now harming us. 3. How? In what way(s)? What is the "harm" exactly?
It does though, by allowing you to see clearly.
Maybe in ones own mind who chooses that for themselves, but not all people. I stand by this statement 1000% to infinity. One can not/will not EVER "rise above" or whatever other ludicrous statement/thought/feeling you have read or heard or felt/feel from whatever insane person stated/wrote it that abstaining from sex or to deny sexual feelings will bring forth another "higher" plane of existence. Maybe the fighting of it gives you a sense of superiority over everyone in your own mind, maybe not, who the fuck knows. I do know that no matter how hard you fight it, or want it to be different, it won't be, period.
Often times our view of others is clouded by sexual feelings for them and we just see our image of them instead of the person.
Yeah, and? So fucking what? It's just human/mammalian nature. Yes, one can control urges and not act on them, and that's called being an adult and a decent human being. Having thoughts of sex with someone you find attractive is not morally wrong or any other kind of wrong. Going further by acting on the feelings/thoughts by accosting, raping, and killing for it is.
This often leads to disaster as people frequently take their image of the person as reality. People have been murdered or abused as a result of that.
It's not atonement but seeking to rise above. Like our aggression and tribalism are both natural drives that are causing us harm in the modern world and now we have to overcome them for our future.
Yeah, no. Good luck with this.
Fear doesn't hold the same place today as it did in the past. By overcoming our basest urges we come to a clearly picture of reality and each other and as a result the violence with greatly drop (if not cease),

Yeah, I wish, but there will always be power hungry asshole people who take advantage over "weaker" people, it's the law of nature/whatever you want to call it.
hopefully no more unwanted pregnancies, and STI harm will drop as well.
From a logical standpoint there is no downside to overcoming sexual desire/sex.
Maybe within your own mind and for you, but not the entire human race.
The entire race rationalizes war as a necessary evil and thinks being a billionaire means they aren’t behold to anyone for their campaign donations. It’s clear I can’t trust their reasoning.
Also it’s clear humans can’t control their urges because you see a news story about it nearly every day (and that’s not counting the reported ones). Having the thoughts is wrong since it clouds your mind to reality and the truth of the other person. The goal is to see with eyes not clouded by desire
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509556 - 02/29/20 10:24 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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find a woman you like to engage in an intense love making session or become an ascetic monk, but either way stop being a judgemental prick
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509557 - 02/29/20 10:25 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Wrong, I didn’t say I was quite there yet
Yes, you did. You shit up the entire thread enforcing the idea on everybody else. Quit lying.
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but I understand the reasoning behind achieving such a state. If anything my comment there is proof of why one must strive for such a state
You ain’t walking this one back. This thread was raped by you and now you’re going to say ‘But I didn’t say...’
Fuck that.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
#26509562 - 02/29/20 10:27 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Please feel free to continue with your screwing older women stories. That’s what we should of been reading.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #3]
#26509622 - 02/29/20 11:06 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Wrong, I didn’t say I was quite there yet
Yes, you did. You shit up the entire thread enforcing the idea on everybody else. Quit lying.
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but I understand the reasoning behind achieving such a state. If anything my comment there is proof of why one must strive for such a state
You ain’t walking this one back. This thread was raped by you and now you’re going to say ‘But I didn’t say...’
Fuck that.
A. I’m gay.
B. I didn’t say I was there yet I stated the importance of reaching such a state. If you think I was there then you read your own thoughts into it and not mine. I didn’t say I was there yet, I just talked about why it was important to get there. If they overcome desire then they wouldn’t need such behavior as the OP and the women the OP has sex with wouldn’t want or need him. It’s honestly better off for all.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow] 1
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Anonymous #3 said: Please feel free to continue with your screwing older women stories. That’s what we should of been reading.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509689 - 02/29/20 12:01 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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A. I’m gay.
So fucking what? Because you're gay you can’t be held to the same standard you hold everybody else to? Your logic sucks.
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I didn’t say I was there yet, I just talked about why it was important to get there.
Bullshit. You spent FIVE FUCKING PAGES telling us why we’re wrong and you’re right. You can NOT walk this one back. We have five pages of evidence and nowhere did you say you ‘weren’t there yet’.
So cut it out with the lying. You got caught red-handed.
Now quit shitting up this thread so we can hear some stories about gilf-fucking and widow banging.
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If you think I was there then you read your own thoughts into it and not mine.
Do not treat people here like they are stupid.
You’ve been caught, red-handed in a lie.
I wouldn’t be surprised if you got a surge of bad ratings for this dishonesty.
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If they overcome desire then they wouldn’t need such behavior as the OP and the women the OP has sex with wouldn’t want or need him. It’s honestly better off for all.
Well now you’re trying to say it again. I really hate to use this term but, SELF-AWARENESS, try it sometime.
And quit shitting up this thread so we can get back to stories of gilf pussy and widow-fucking.
If the op ever comes back, because you ruined this thread for everybody.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #3]
#26509706 - 02/29/20 12:20 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Again you read that into it. I was just explaining why it was a goal to reach and why, it’s not my fault you mistake me for being there. I never said that. I’m making progress but haven’t reached my goal just yet.
And I’m not treating people like they are stupid, just you. You have five pages of me explaining my point but nowhere did I say I reached it.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509707 - 02/29/20 12:21 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Also you’re anonymous so why should I take you seriously?
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509768 - 02/29/20 01:15 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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You already took him seriously lmao You responded to every little bit of his posts
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509802 - 02/29/20 01:47 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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And I’m not treating people like they are stupid, just you. You have five pages of me explaining my point but nowhere did I say I reached it.
Don’t blame me, you’re the one who dug himself a hole. And you’re the one pissing in everybody’s ear saying it’s raining. Most people here are thinking individuals that can see through your bullshit, and you just treated every last one of them like an idiot.
Time for you to fuck off.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: feldman114]
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It’s more of a courtesy than anything else.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #3]
#26509806 - 02/29/20 01:48 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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And I’m not treating people like they are stupid, just you. You have five pages of me explaining my point but nowhere did I say I reached it.
Don’t blame me, you’re the one who dug himself a hole. And you’re the one pissing in everybody’s ear saying it’s raining. Most people here are thinking individuals that can see through your bullshit, and you just treated every last one of them like an idiot.
Time for you to fuck off.
I mean of course they are thinking individuals but their defenses don’t amount to anything solid and sound like the same tired replies you hear from the mainstream. They are clearly as “brainwashed” as everyone else despite being on a forum like this.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26509809 - 02/29/20 01:52 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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I mean of course they are thinking individuals but their defenses don’t amount to anything solid and sound like the same tired replies you hear from the mainstream. They are clearly as “brainwashed” as everyone else despite being on a forum like this.
You cant even back up your own shit. You tell everybody else how to live then turn around and start drooling over dick pics in the same breath.
That is beyond weak.
Fuck this, you’re getting reported for spamming.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #3]
#26511140 - 03/01/20 10:13 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Can’t walk back what I didn’t say or claim. Nowhere did I say I was there but it is a process. A key aspect to any spirituality is letting go of sexuality
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26511202 - 03/01/20 11:00 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thanatos10 said: A key aspect to any spirituality is letting go of sexuality
not true
take hindus for example, they have the vedic and tantric ways. two different paths that lead to the same end. one involves denial of everything worldly and the other embracing of everything worldly.
not to say that only extremes are acceptable, but you're just choosing to ignore anything that doesn't confirm your bias. once again, there's no one size fits all spirituality, get over it
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #4]
#26511387 - 03/01/20 01:12 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thanatos10 said: A key aspect to any spirituality is letting go of sexuality
not true
take hindus for example, they have the vedic and tantric ways. two different paths that lead to the same end. one involves denial of everything worldly and the other embracing of everything worldly.
not to say that only extremes are acceptable, but you're just choosing to ignore anything that doesn't confirm your bias. once again, there's no one size fits all spirituality, get over it
The tantric methods are severely misunderstood and the fact that you stated sex is part of it shows how little you know of tantric methods. There isn’t a grand unifying doctrine as to what tantra is, it’s quite bluntly a bunch of different things and rituals. But the key aspect here is that their dependence on rituals blocks them from reaching the end. Buddhism and Vedic practices show that to reach that state you have to let go of such things in the end. So maybe there is one segment of Tantra that uses sex, but it doesn’t get you there. Similar to how Christianity as it is commonly practiced won’t get you there. So it’s more the exception than the rule, but even then it doesn’t help.
So yeah, as I have said letting go of sexuality is a key part of spirituality.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26511400 - 03/01/20 01:20 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Also Tantra being associated with sex is a Western thing, it has nothing to do with the original tantric practices with didn’t involve sex.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26511456 - 03/01/20 02:01 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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I know dude, you're the one bringing sex back into topic seems to be something that's causing you stress atm, nothing strange here.
it's good you're trying to better yourself, just be careful not to fall on the many superiority traps along the way. I'm trying my best and wish you well
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
#26511476 - 03/01/20 02:13 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP feel free to get this thread back on track with updates
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #4]
#26511625 - 03/01/20 03:48 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Anonymous #4 said: I know dude, you're the one bringing sex back into topic seems to be something that's causing you stress atm, nothing strange here.
it's good you're trying to better yourself, just be careful not to fall on the many superiority traps along the way. I'm trying my best and wish you well
It’s not just me but for all. Sexuality is in a sense a lie as you are falling prey to the appearance of someone rather than what they really are. The OP isn’t helping people by promoting such actions
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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So yeah, as I have said letting go of sexuality is a key part of spirituality.
Maybe for you, or it's subjective to the person, but this is a very broad statement and makes it sound like you know what's best for every single person trying to get spiritual enlightenment (or you know what's best for the world, I do not agree).
It’s not just me but for all. Sexuality is in a sense a lie as you are falling prey to the appearance of someone rather than what they really are. The OP isn’t helping people by promoting such actions
I didn't "fall prey" to my mates appearance right away (not entirely true, he is an absolutely adorable chubby teddy bear). I have learned to look beyond "looks" mainly because my idea of what "beautiful" to me is very different from what mainstream media says I should like. I like people for who they really are. I do not hang out or get involved with people because of "their looks" or what other people might say etc...on and on ad nauseum. I am not in my 20's or 30's either, so I am more mature than some of the people here in regards to how they see relationships and sex. I have the experience of not giving a shit about trivial matters that seem mountainous and insurmountable to others.
As far as OP promoting actions YOU don't find acceptable, does not mean that what YOU find or think is acceptable is best for the entire planet. OP might be helping someone by letting them know it's OK and to not feel guilt or remorse for the actions. Have fun! Go out and live!
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26513216 - 03/02/20 04:49 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah I'll be honest I don't really buy into that transcending sexuality stuff. I just kept this on as an act.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
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Called it
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Thanatos10]
#26514154 - 03/03/20 08:18 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Seriously? It was quite an act, but I am gullible. I like to believe people and trust them.
 
LOL, whatever floats your boat. Have fun in life!
Still, it was in interesting conversation to me.
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Anonymous #2 said: I highly doubt that you could resist a boner or arousal when a sexy ass appears before you.
You would be surprised. I'm quite resilient.
Right afterwards, he goes into the cock thread and says "so many tasty treats!"
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #2]
#26514379 - 03/03/20 10:29 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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trolled! he was only pretending to be a moron
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Anonymous #2 said: I highly doubt that you could resist a boner or arousal when a sexy ass appears before you.
You would be surprised. I'm quite resilient.
Right afterwards, he goes into the cock thread and says "so many tasty treats!"
Wow you guys truly are some petty people.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #4]
#26521366 - 03/06/20 09:33 PM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Shit.... I fucked around and fell in love Fuck me
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow] 1
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You know the worst thing a man can hear from his girlfriend is " Let's just be friends " getting put in the friend zone.
So after my brief love affair of 2 weeks my girl was playing some heavy mind games, putting me through shit tests.
Had enough last night, texted her that I think it's best if we are just friends.
Got flip the script on them. Now she is wondering what the fuck just happened
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
#26525123 - 03/09/20 07:56 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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Love this!
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26525318 - 03/09/20 10:41 AM (3 years, 10 months ago) |
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haha, yesss
 the plot thickens
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: zenarrow]
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Shit.... I fucked around and fell in love Fuck me
Rule #1. Don’t get butthurt.
Rule #2. You’re going to get butthurt.
The game is rough. You can try not to fall but occasionally it will happen. That’s where rule #2 takes the sting away just a little.
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Re: I have sex with older women, married women, widows and divorcees [Re: Anonymous #3]
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