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Psy Baba
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #4]
#26482162 - 02/12/20 03:15 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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Anonymous #4 said: Maybe you should try it with some fitted straight leg jeans and a flannel then. Maybe it’s not working with the hippie thing. Hippies are notoriously unreliable lol. The ladies want somebody reliable. You look like you could sell me weed, lol, but you don’t look like I’d trust you with kids.
Also idk but if you’re gonna grow a beard grow it everywhere and keep it under 1” length max. Don’t shave off the mustache, I don’t think that looks good on anyone really.
Unfortunately never going to wear denim again, or flannel. Soo Im on a journey to find a reasonable alt. Or maybe move?
Secretly never sold weed before, and am rather good with kids  I get you though, If somethings not working, I need to be open to a change. Its just not going to be flannel colored.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26482179 - 02/12/20 03:21 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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Well fit chino's always look nice and smart-casual imo.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #5] 2
#26482183 - 02/12/20 03:22 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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OP they make some reeeeaal comfy jeans nowadays. Can’t even call the material denim. You should give jeans another chance - they work with everything.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #5] 2
#26482188 - 02/12/20 03:24 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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Woman, 30's here. I think the 'guru' comment was right. In the first pic, I see someone who I would assume is kind, and spiritually inclined. To the extent they would rather engage in spiritual pursuits than fuck. The second black and white pic, that guy would be more inclined to fuck to me in a split second decision. I don't want a shallow relationship but def do want someone interested in me as a woman too.
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Psy Baba
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #6] 1
#26482204 - 02/12/20 03:32 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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Anonymous #6 said: Woman, 30's here. I think the 'guru' comment was right. In the first pic, I see someone who I would assume is kind, and spiritually inclined. To the extent they would rather engage in spiritual pursuits than fuck. The second black and white pic, that guy would be more inclined to fuck to me in a split second decision. I don't want a shallow relationship but def do want someone interested in me as a woman too.
Thank you for input! Appreciate the directness.
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Psy Baba
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#26482205 - 02/12/20 03:33 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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Anonymous #5 said: Well fit chino's always look nice and smart-casual imo.
Im Amazoning ATM, Will check it out. Thanks.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26482267 - 02/12/20 04:14 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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Yeah. Try some solid button downs instead of flannel. They do make very comfy stretch jeans these days but yeah there are other styles that are good. Just need to make sure they fit you right and you don’t sag.
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chibiabos
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #4] 2
#26482708 - 02/12/20 08:22 PM (4 years, 4 days ago) |
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It's always good to look like you're more or less groomed, but maybe you ought to worry less about what look is going to draw women in and worry more about getting comfortable making smalltalk with people in general.
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psi
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba] 1
#26483161 - 02/13/20 06:13 AM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Psy Baba said: I'm with you on everything but the beard.
Might be true of other places, but Portland specifically, its kinda the way here. I've had it in some form since 13-14, so I dont do it to fit in, but it is definitely a thing here as a preference for a large demographic of women.
The Average looking Portland dude:

I notice that none of your examples has the chinstrap style beard with no mustache. Maybe it's just me but I find it a bit of an odd style. Like an Amish dude or something.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: psi]
#26483332 - 02/13/20 09:15 AM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Hah you’re not alone. When I see a mustache-less beard on a white dude I think either Amish or recently converted to Islam, both of which make approaching the guy more complicated
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#26483386 - 02/13/20 09:51 AM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Yeah agreed the beard with no mustache is a weird look
You’d be much better off cutting it all the same length then keeping it trimmed at around 1/4-1/2 inch
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26483392 - 02/13/20 09:56 AM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Psy Baba
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #4]
#26483837 - 02/13/20 02:32 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Anonymous #4 said: Yeah agreed the beard with no mustache is a weird look
You’d be much better off cutting it all the same length then keeping it trimmed at around 1/4-1/2 inch
Aye.... Hmm, I can try out that switch.
I have a strong inclination to have hair on my chin for some reason, but seem to be fairly open with what happens to the rest. I dont like just goatee, which is why I left the sideburns + no mustache.
However, I can see why the amish vibe would be the average perspective on it.... hmmm. Yeah, and I dont really want that.
Any of you have an example of what you'd see as the ideal beard style to fit the shape of my face?
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26483841 - 02/13/20 02:35 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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You can grow one again, try clean shaven for a bit.
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Psy Baba
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: tyrannicalrex]
#26483865 - 02/13/20 02:43 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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tyrannicalrex said: You can grow one again, try clean shaven for a bit.
*deeeepppp ssiggghhhhh*
Ok, Ill see what I can get myself to do in the next day.
I ordered a few new pairs of pants yesterday bit more everyday stuff.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba] 2
#26483869 - 02/13/20 02:45 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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It's an experiment. See what happens! Life is a journey, enjoy, live! Try new things!
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psi
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26483882 - 02/13/20 02:53 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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I never go entirely clean shaven, but if I go with a super short trim I find I don't know how to hold my face any more. Good to mix it up a bit though.
For pants I like drawstring pants with pockets. As far as I know it's a fairly current style. I dress for comfort more than fashion though.
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26483928 - 02/13/20 03:18 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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I don't recommend clean shaven. Safest bet, you got the right face for it, short stubble all way round. Also reconsider hat choice, try make no hat work
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Psy Baba
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#26483949 - 02/13/20 03:28 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Anonymous #2 said: I don't recommend clean shaven. Safest bet, you got the right face for it, short stubble all way round. Also reconsider hat choice, try make no hat work
Why no hat?
Its cold n rainy here all the time and im balding
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Re: Can't figure out why Im not easily approachable. [Re: Psy Baba]
#26483988 - 02/13/20 03:51 PM (4 years, 3 days ago) |
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Yeah try the stubble. It will quickly grow out to a short beard anyway. Get hair clippers and just use the clipper no guard, that’s what I do.
The beanie is at least appropriate for portland. If you were wearing that in hot weather it would be weird. I feel you, I’m losing my hair too and windy rainy weather definitely sucks for that.
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