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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: SporeJunkie] 1
#26480877 - 02/11/20 07:07 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Thank you guys. And im sorry about your situations as well. It really helps to know there are people out there who get it and willing to chat so
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow] 1
#26480896 - 02/11/20 07:19 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Hey man, you know, I have seen several long distance relationships in my time, ultimately it never works unless the 2 people see each other at least once a month or so, and even then the distance is the ultimate destroyer no matter how well they get along in the phone and/or net/skype. Please don't drink or smoke too much to forget. Learn from this and examine it with a clear head. Go into the next relationship with more knowledge. Look for friends 1st. Don't look too hard for the "perfect one" it will remain elusive.  
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: tyrannicalrex] 2
#26480900 - 02/11/20 07:21 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah I wanted to beat that stigma
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26480925 - 02/11/20 07:32 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Crazy dude, me and my girlfriend of 6 yearss also broke up a couple days ago.. we are together rn but it's all unceertain.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: Near Dylan]
#26480927 - 02/11/20 07:33 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I hope your situation goes better than mine
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow] 4
#26480936 - 02/11/20 07:38 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Take this time for yourself, man. It's really shitty, but, in one aspect, you can embrace your personal reality and the world around you stronger now that you don't have that big part of your life consist only through technology. You'll be crushed by the loss and it'll be a big change, but youll be better for it. Just get through this shittiness right now, and have confidence in your future and where you'll go from here. New chapter and all that.
And talk to people. Talkkkk talk talk to people. About it. Dont think you're being annoying, people usually kinda like when others confide in them. And they'll understand. Get it all off your chest. Move through it not around it. If you need anymore cliches ill be around
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: Near Dylan] 1
#26480972 - 02/11/20 07:59 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Thank you it just sucks cos she is blaming me and doesn't want to talk to me and I want to be friends still because she is an amazing person
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow] 3
#26481002 - 02/11/20 08:20 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Sorry to hear it, guy. But it could actually work out pretty well for you. It did in my case, anyway, when I got dumped by my then-gf of 5 years. It really came outta nowhere, and I was pretty upset at the time. Took some time to just do my own thing, focus on myself. And within the year, I ended up dating an amazing girl that I clicked with real well. She and I have been together for almost 11 years now.
And while we weren’t friends at first, the ex and I were able to regain a platonic friendship down the road, as we both still appreciate the other. She lives on the other side of the country now, but a couple months ago she came to visit, stayed at my mom’s. I got to chill with her for a few days, it was real nice. So while the breakup sucked at first, I’m now so grateful that it happened- would’ve never met my fiancée if I’d stayed in the other relationship. It would’ve been impossible for me to see that at first, so I feel for you. But maybe one day this won’t seem so bad.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: Burke Dennings] 2
#26481007 - 02/11/20 08:21 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Thank you so much for your story, I really really hope we can remain friends
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow] 2
#26481008 - 02/11/20 08:21 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Sometimes you have to cut your losses. Sometimes it just takes time. I've been in relationships where we agreed to be friends, but it was too raw from the get go. Over time it morphed into a friendship and was fine.
The beautiful thing about the world is that it's full of amazing people. What are you into? Maybe consider joining like a really casual sports league or something,just to get you out and meeting new people. I'm doing the same thing right now, and it's really tough as an adult. But the good news is that pretty much everyone I've met so far is in the same situation - not necessarily, a breakup, but just someone who's trying to figure out how to meet new friends and people as an adult, and in some ways it's way harder - in other ways it's way easier when you find someone who's also just kind of looking for a pal to tag along to concerts with and grab a drink with at happy hour or whatever.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26481010 - 02/11/20 08:24 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Pirate and burke, great advice! Let your inner spirit listen!
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: pirate-blues]
#26481014 - 02/11/20 08:30 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Yeah. And what really hurts is she is the last person besides myself to see my father before he died....
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26481040 - 02/11/20 08:43 PM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Although negative, you are gaining some very valuable life lessons here, hang in there buddy!
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow] 2
#26481403 - 02/12/20 04:16 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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There's a lot of good advice in this thread, you know like Burke's situation that he shared. In life, when one widow closes...another window opens.
You can utilize this time to enjoy your new independence and take care of yourself and spoil yourself. Maybe work some extra hours at your job now that you have more you time, save up some money and do something nice for you.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: Burke Dennings]
#26481527 - 02/12/20 07:42 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: Sorry to hear it, guy. But it could actually work out pretty well for you. It did in my case, anyway, when I got dumped by my then-gf of 5 years. It really came outta nowhere, and I was pretty upset at the time. Took some time to just do my own thing, focus on myself. And within the year, I ended up dating an amazing girl that I clicked with real well. She and I have been together for almost 11 years now.
And while we weren’t friends at first, the ex and I were able to regain a platonic friendship down the road, as we both still appreciate the other. She lives on the other side of the country now, but a couple months ago she came to visit, stayed at my mom’s. I got to chill with her for a few days, it was real nice. So while the breakup sucked at first, I’m now so grateful that it happened- would’ve never met my fiancée if I’d stayed in the other relationship. It would’ve been impossible for me to see that at first, so I feel for you. But maybe one day this won’t seem so bad.
Yeah maybe this relationship has been keeping you (both) in a rut spirit_shadow. A LDR with no end in sight to the long distance part just does not seem sustainable. Maybe for some.
Might as well just call her your wife at this point I think Burke. Ceremony/legality aside, you two clearly are already in it for the long haul.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: psi]
#26481628 - 02/12/20 09:14 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Thanks guys..... So I shouldn't have drank....my stomach is on fire and I feel like shit :/
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26481641 - 02/12/20 09:19 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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spirit_shadow said: Thanks guys..... So I shouldn't have drank....my stomach is on fire and I feel like shit :/
Makes it easier to ignore your relationship pains though...
Hope you’re holding up well. It gets exponentially easier every day.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26481645 - 02/12/20 09:22 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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Awww, I tried to tell you! Sip water all day, hydrate! Eat well also.
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Re: My girlfriend of 6 years and I just broke up [Re: tyrannicalrex] 2
#26481658 - 02/12/20 09:35 AM (3 years, 11 months ago) |
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I just broke up with a girl I was living with for two years. I feel lonely sometimes but I’m better off being free! I will never settle again l. It was a good move for me I bought myself two years of blowing glass every day and I wouldn’t be where I am now if I hadn’t matured so much from everything I had to deal with while there. The cold realities of real life ya know?
This is just a good thing in disguise sometimes good things don’t feel good until later.
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tyrannicalrex
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So true!
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