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watermelon mon
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#26470806 - 02/05/20 05:49 PM (4 years, 12 days ago) |
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How come people crave negativity ?
How come most of the time. People only hold the bad things you've done or said , against you ?
It seems like. They dont remember the good things that you've done. Almost like the good memories and things to have been said. It's like they never existed. they just go in one ear and out the other.
Than it's just like look what you did , remember that. Even if it wasn't anything wrong. Like they are the root of perfection. Or there's alway been those people who will just say you're no good.
Dont really care. It's just a thought and I've heard this before.
Edited by watermelon mon (02/05/20 05:53 PM)
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TaliesenW
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post traumatic stress disorder
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tyrannicalrex
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My ex would do this. He would use my personal info as an emotional weapon against me and do it in front of people to belittle me etc...
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watermelon mon
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It would be cool if they used it to help you or whatever. it's pretty much definitely never been that way. I find it comes out the most when they're mad.
Dont think I could hold / expect anything to anyone. that person isn't the same person as time goes on. Hopefully it's for the better though. Or I've been around a lot of different people. I've found all that most of them do , is not mind their own business. Make no mistake , they are worried about what you do. They kind of just sit around talking bad about others or making fun of someone. Instead of looking into themselves. Isn't that what we're doing right now ? Yes. But not really. Not to the same extent.
In a way , through this writing. I am looking into myself and forgiving myself. It's important , no one will do that for you. Sorry doesn't really mean anything to anyone. It's if you mean that you're sorry from within yourself. Sorry enough to do better , or try.
It's cool. No complaints.
Edited by watermelon mon (02/05/20 06:49 PM)
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attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder
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watermelon mon
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watermelon mon
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It dosent work so well that way
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Being positive, caring, happy, loving etc. can leave you vulnerable.
Some people can't handle that, it opens them up to being hurt, let down, betrayed, rejected
It can be easier to just be negative. If you always expect the worst from people and never open up to them, it's a lot easier to avoid being hurt deeply.
It can be a solid defense mechanism, probably learned when they were younger from a parent/caregiver, or later in life after going through something. Or maybe they're just a dick
I'm mostly negative towards myself, more so than being negative towards other people. Self-destructive for sure, if anyone's gonna hurt me, it'll be me. Always trying to be less so though, and things are slowly getting more positive
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I think it’s just biology and how we’re programmed. It ties into the whole problem solver aspect along with the survival safety thing. A simple example is like how you would ignore 9 fingers if 1 had a splinter in it. To go one step further, appreciation for certain things takes maturity. A maturity some people never live long enough to achieve.
Bitches gon love they drama.. you just gotta do you man and fuck the haters. There’s a group of people out there that believe if they can point out a flaw in you that it makes them the righteous ones in the room. These people are fuckin idiots and best left to their own fumblings..
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In Psychology, theres a concept called Negative Bias: https://psychology.wikia.org/wiki/Negativity_bias
Basically, when someone encounters negative information/emotion, they are more likely to give attention to it. The current theory for why this happens is because positive experiences can be seen as "expected" and negative experiences as "unexpected", therefore negative experiences stand out more, they have more impact paychologically than positive experiences. Its called psychological arousal and its not related to sexuality (in this context) but more to being "stimulated" by an experience.
Pretty sad when ya think about it.
Another aspect is what Amanita mentioned, some people love drama, love conflicts, love to create turbulence in their lives. I think we all can agree some drama in your life makes things more interesting, but when you want drama ALL the time, then thats where you get into a strong negative bias situation.
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Society, in this country and in my experience anyway, really feeds off negativity.
Look at the news. Nice happy stories don't sell. The really bad, horrific ones do.
People everywhere you go -- school, then onto workplaces, even family -- we thrive off gossip. We criticize and judge everyone to...idk, make ourselves feel better about ourselves? Superior?
Maybe I've just been unlucky but every workplace I've been (for example), when people see one another they're all

but then as soon as that person leaves and shuts the door behind them it's
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watermelon mon
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Re: How come ? [Re: Niffla]
#26471033 - 02/05/20 08:12 PM (4 years, 11 days ago) |
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Cool love the information so far
nothing happened or anything , it's just a thought
I am going to tattoo my throat / neck all dark black
with Japanese clouds , fig leaves, olive tree branches and stuff
to behind my head and ears
Will definitely be some beautiful art
Hopefully in a way it might help weed out people
It could work both ways , who knows
Life is short and who cares
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Sometimes when me and the wife get into it which doesn't happen often but seems to happen once a year. All of a sudden i've literally done nothing for her ever. I've never done a single thing for her once in her life. Which is so far from the truth that it's not even something you can argue against.
Really? Nothing? Ever? I can think of about 20 things just in the past week where I put your needs ahead of mine and you doing the same for me. What the fuck are you even talking about?
Negative emotions stand out more then positive ones. We have a tendency to remember them more vividly then positive emotions.
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schizoaffective disorder (bipolar?)
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Quote:
TaliesenW said: schizoaffective disorder (bipolar?)
It always happens right around christmas and my birthday (january) so I honestly think it's seasonal affective disorder. She always gets really depressed during the winter.
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watermelon mon
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TaliesenW said: post traumatic stress disorder 
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TaliesenW said: schizoaffective disorder (bipolar?)
Who , you ? Or me ?
Drinking a lot makes me super crazy , it could be way worse
Completely happy and fine , anytime I'm not doing that
It used to work about , 11 or 12 years ago
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TaliesenW
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I meant paranoid schizophrenia
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watermelon mon
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I had no idea , what do you mean by that ?
Edited by watermelon mon (02/05/20 10:02 PM)
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Maybe because a lot of people are egotistical narcissists who think everyone around them is inferior and their shit don't stink. Or maybe because a lot of people get their rocks off from hurting others. Or some combination of the two.
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I don't even really know what it is. I like the idea of it, though.
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