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Anonymous #1
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Ghosted out of no where
#26432428 - 01/14/20 12:21 AM (4 years, 15 days ago) |
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Has anyone been in love then their love just completely stop talking to you for apparent reason at all? No fight, no argument, just stopped responding to texts and phone calls straight out of the blue.
Has this happened to any of you?
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FruitOfLife
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I would say it's more common than not. When a relationship becomes stagnant, a woman will do these little things to basically create unneeded drama and to test and see how you react. If you freak out and blow up her phone then she gets the idea that you have a weakness. Just remain calm and just keep going on with life doing your own thing. In a few days she will reach out to you, but if she doesn't in a week just throw out a text and ask hows she's been.
Or the other scenario is that you did something to piss her off and you don't even know what it is and she is waiting for an apology. So good luck with that one lol.
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Anonymous #2
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You assume OP is talking about a woman because...
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Buckomcdoogle
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Don't take this the wrong way
"Women don't respect weak men"
You see, im guessing you did/said something at some point that made you look like a weenie.
What she wants is the HAMMER....
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Antigov



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A chick ghosted me years ago, about a year later I fucked her 18 yr old sister several times even hung out with her at the house. Is that hammer enough LOL
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Buckomcdoogle
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Re: Ghosted out of no where [Re: Antigov] 1
#26433263 - 01/14/20 02:02 PM (4 years, 15 days ago) |
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Hammer level 100
I bet she was secretly jealous
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Buckomcdoogle
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A women friend will always be a better "wingman" than any guy.
When women see you have women friends, you are instantly more attractive, because she knows your normal enough to have women friends.
-------------------- "Nothing is more dangerous to your creativity than comfort and familiarity" "Nihilism is the most basic truth in existence, the only consistency throughout the world, and the universe is chaos and decay" "Logic leads to nihilism"
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Anonymous #3
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Quote:
Buckomcdoogle said: A women friend will always be a better "wingman" than any guy.
When women see you have women friends, you are instantly more attractive, because she knows your normal enough to have women friends.
but then the woman friend might get jealous of other women you meet and try to sabotage your chances of getting laid.
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Buckomcdoogle
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Possible
Or you might end up in a 3 way 
Depends on the girl.
The big problem with people handing out relationship advice is, There are ALWAYS exceptions to the rules ALWAYS.
Everyone is different.
I think what ultimately makes men good at interacting with women is pure intuition. That and confidence.
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Anonymous #2
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Fake it till you make it - some of the best advice I ever got
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Buckomcdoogle
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You live and you learn
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Anonymous #1
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She is a woman and I am a man in this situation.
We've been seeing eachother for about 2 months or so, about every weekend. We used to text almost everyday. I hadnt had sex with her cause she called herself a demisexual and I wanted to take it slow, which Im proud of. We only made out and cuddled while sitting.
We had a pretty good semi-platonic, semi-intimate relationship and voiced to me she wanted to have sex with me in a cute sorta way. Then the day we were going to do just that, she just disappeared. Its just really weird.
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Buckomcdoogle
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In my line of work, Im around a lot of women (waitresses and bartenders)
They have guys coming onto them all the time.
Ive talked to a lot of them about their perspective on the "Friend zone"
If you like a girl, and you try to get close to her by being too buddy buddy, you instantly go into the friend zone.
If anything you are just being dishonest about your intentions and covering it up to avoid having a dicey conversation or actually risking it and making a move.
The vast majority of women really love spontaneity.
"voiced to me she wanted to have sex with me in a cute sorta way."
You probably would have gone all the way if you would have just rolled the dice and made a move.
Take charge and go for it next time.
Strike while the iron is hot.
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FruitOfLife
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He is spot on.
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Anonymous #1
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Indeed.
Sadly, there is no second chance as she has not responded at all to my texts/calls and its been 8 days already. Whats odd is she said she was a polysexual, which Im fine with. If she met another guy, I would think she would at least think she would stay in contact. Maybe shes afraid to hurt my feelings or something. We didnt really discuss having other partners, it didnt really get brought up. Felt like we didnt need anyone else really. Very mysterious. Another relationship with no closure.
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FruitOfLife
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: Indeed.
Sadly, there is no second chance as she has not responded at all to my texts/calls and its been 8 days already. Whats odd is she said she was a polysexual, which Im fine with. If she met another guy, I would think she would at least think she would stay in contact. Maybe shes afraid to hurt my feelings or something. We didnt really discuss having other partners, it didnt really get brought up. Felt like we didnt need anyone else really. Very mysterious. Another relationship with no closure.
Just stop calling and texting her, it won't do any good at this point. Just pretend as if it's a lost cause and maybe in a few weeks she will call or text you and go from there.
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Anonymous #1
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Yeah i guess you're right. I just gotta be patient. I have a bad feeling I wont hear from her again. I hope she's Ok.
Just gotta wait and see I guess.
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Anonymous #4
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FruitOfLife said:
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Anonymous #1 said: Indeed.
Sadly, there is no second chance as she has not responded at all to my texts/calls and its been 8 days already. Whats odd is she said she was a polysexual, which Im fine with. If she met another guy, I would think she would at least think she would stay in contact. Maybe shes afraid to hurt my feelings or something. We didnt really discuss having other partners, it didnt really get brought up. Felt like we didnt need anyone else really. Very mysterious. Another relationship with no closure.
Just stop calling and texting her, it won't do any good at this point. Just pretend as if it's a lost cause and maybe in a few weeks she will call or text you and go from there.
Worst advice ever! Do you know where she lives? Can you rent a large heart shaped costume? Get the idea? You need to make a grand gesture! Just don't break into her house or anything. Worst case scenario she thinks your a weirdo and never talks to you again which is what she's doing now anyway! But why would you want to be with someone like that anyway. Best case scenario it's a story you tell your children one day.
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LOL. As much as I can see the humour in your suggestion I feel it's far better to set ones sights realistically in such situations.
She's gone. No closure. No way of finding out what it is you did wrong. It sucks.
Such is life. It aint all flowers and roses.
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Anonymous #1
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I do know where she lives. Perhaps I should leave a note for her?
She is moving next week to somewhere I dont know of. Shes works the weekend, driving around but is home on weekdays. Perhaps next week i should try find her at her place.
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