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How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty)
    #26424648 - 01/09/20 01:05 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

What's a good way of dealing with really negative people? Friends and family specifically.

I feel like the negitvity is contagious amongst my group of friends and I have to try my hardest not to catch it and keep them thinking positively its really draining and doesn't seem to do any help for them... They like to bathe in sorrow, misery and addiction.

For example I go round to my friends house to have a catchup and just have a good time, he sits listening to the same 10 depressing as fuck songs all the time... I say let's take the dog out for a walk - he be like nah I can't be arsed (all the time) id rather just sit and chain smoke cigarettes and drink 20 coffees a day while listing to my emo music.

I don't understand why people do this to themselves. I've been really depressed in the past but that depression made me change cause I don't want to feel like that forever.

Instead of actively looking for cures or solutions it's just easyer for them to accept their misery and live like that it makes me sad that I can't seem to help them in anyway... I always get shot down for trying to get them out the house or book a holiday.

They say yes to every plan we make to do something diffrent(like go bowling) and when that day comes I call them to find out they can't be arsed anymore (on the day bowling was planned for) so they just sit in the house as usual.

Has anyone had similar things happen to your friends/family, and if so what's a good way of taking the sheer depression and negitvity out of a person?


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26424685 - 01/09/20 01:22 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

" what's a good way of taking the sheer depression and negitvity out of a person?"

Nobody has a way that always works with all people. But many have ideas and methods that sometimes work with some people.

Yes its weird but many do make themselves miserable.

So the other question is: if you do respect their right to live as they choose, then: How do you find a way to do, what works for you in your life?


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: laughingdog]
    #26424850 - 01/09/20 02:39 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

I do respect anyone's right to live how they want, it just affects me more if its someone I care about.

My solution was getting a new hobby and going out more and enjoying nature. Along with shrooms but I don't want to push that on anyone but it really helped me (I say its atleast worth a single attempt, if you don't like it just don't do it again).

They aren't open to new ideas and that's the problem I think, just stuck in the same old routine.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26424854 - 01/09/20 02:43 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

Sounds like your friend needs to take a trip to mushroom mountain.

Generally speaking, killing them with kindness can be quite effective. Answer their negativity with positive enthusiasm, laugh off any depressing statements, etc.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: feldman114]
    #26424891 - 01/09/20 03:05 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

There are a lot of types of negativity, depression, sadness, pessimis.

You cannot deal with comepletely different type of people in the same way (if you care about them).



If you don't care about them just personally attack them, insult them or whatever that will make them angry, it would be the fastest way of stopping them being negative.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: living_failure]
    #26424939 - 01/09/20 03:31 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

Life’s a bitch and Buh humbug:thumbdown:


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26424951 - 01/09/20 03:41 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

It's a perennial question, how can we help others? The world has grown quite messed up over time, and this leads to behaviors such as depression, nihilism, pessimism and addictions of all kinds. So it's no surprise that millions of people are distinctly unhappy these days. What's more, they seem to want to spread their unhappiness, or at least reinforce it, and wallow in it to an extreme degree.

That said, it seems there's little we can do really to change people. (Whether we even should is a big question). I am reminded of Ram Dass' approach: He said that, no matter what the circumstances, all that one can do is be the best possible you that you can. We don't control others, and we barely control ourselves, so working on oneself and trying to spread the most positive vibes possible -- if we can -- is all we can do for other people. And sometimes it works.

I find that approach to be the most realistic I've come across.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #26425058 - 01/09/20 04:53 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty)

There's a saying in sales:
The optimist sees the glass as half full
the pessimist sees the glass as half empty
and the sales person wants to tell you the benefits of a glass with water in it

I tell my employees all the time that the ability to sell that they learn will apply to so many areas of their life that it's scary.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26425097 - 01/09/20 05:13 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

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Kmacmo said:
....Has anyone had similar things happen to your friends/family, and if so what's a good way of taking the sheer depression and negitvity out of a person?




Yes. We all tend to get set in our ways, and to be blind to some of our hangups.
Its great that you have helped yourself previously.
Only you know, what leverage you might have with these folks, from your past history with them.
Who knows maybe you will find a way? ... but....

Only you can decide, what the emotional costs are if you continue to hang out with them & they don't change, or seem to, but then they go back to their old patterns.

At some point many in similar situations ( & it is very common), have to ask themselves to what degree being dependent on someone else's happiness, is an escape from doing what makes themselves  happy or feel alive, independent of others, or other's emotional states.

There is even a name for this issue: codependency:
https://duckduckgo.com/?q=codependency&ia=web


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: laughingdog]
    #26425177 - 01/09/20 06:05 PM (4 years, 20 days ago)

I wonder if I want to help them or want to make them more like me, and mostly it is neither but if I wake up then I want to help them enjoy something, at least they can have me as someone to bitch at - which can be rare - or maybe they can get me to buy them something - chachkas.

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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: redgreenvines]
    #26425738 - 01/10/20 12:49 AM (4 years, 19 days ago)

Wow such good responses, this place is full of knowledgeable people thanks for all the advice.

Even makes me more positive now reading all this. Hopefully they will catch my positive vibes sooner or later will take some time and effort :smile:


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26425741 - 01/10/20 12:52 AM (4 years, 19 days ago)

Remove toxicity entirely.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kickle]
    #26425762 - 01/10/20 01:11 AM (4 years, 19 days ago)

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Kickle said:
How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty)

There's a saying in sales:
The optimist sees the glass as half full
the pessimist sees the glass as half empty
and the sales person wants to tell you the benefits of a glass with water in it

I tell my employees all the time that the ability to sell that they learn will apply to so many areas of their life that it's scary.




This is it. Sales really is everything, even outside of "working hours". Human behavior is human behavior; psychology 101! Great post, mate.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: redgreenvines]
    #26425765 - 01/10/20 01:14 AM (4 years, 19 days ago)

Negativity compounds on itself. Positivity does too, but it seems to take more consciousness and awareness to be a truly positive person in this world and not merely naive. Negativity is easier to succumb to. We’re hardwired to have a negative bias in order to detect social and environmental threats.

Truly positive, loving, compassionate people are quite remarkable. It’s different than naïveté. Often such people have lived hard, troubled or challenging lives. but there’s just something in them that makes them respond in such a manner that they blossom. Life becomes about more than just them. They spiral up to levels of being in the world that are more generative; compassion grows to encompass greater numbers until eventually encompassing all of humanity.

Such people become psycho-spiritual athletes. They’re loving, kind but anything but weak. They also have the sharpened faces of people who have peered into the darkness and obtained a certain toughness and resilience as a result. They can, as a result, also be quite stern when called for.

True spiritual development. Most people who talk about it have no idea what they’re talking about. Negativity and challenges seem to be a default in this human experience but provides an opportunity for us to discover greater depths in ourselves and life more broadly. It all depends how much we can hold, or perhaps, rather, not hold.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26425878 - 01/10/20 03:08 AM (4 years, 19 days ago)

What country do you live in?


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26425990 - 01/10/20 05:05 AM (4 years, 19 days ago)

A guy on this very forum once said the following:

When someone is shit, you can do three things:
1) withdraw your presence from them.
2) confront them on the situation.
3) surrender to the situation and take it as it is.

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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: CountHTML]
    #26426627 - 01/10/20 02:02 PM (4 years, 19 days ago)

Do you think induviduals are also hardwired to not have their spiritual development as a priority or they don't even know what spirituality is... Like you can train your physical body to become stronger/healthyer you can also train your mind in all different areas like your body all with different benefits from the training/development to in the end of it just make life more enjoyable and more in control. People who control life, enjoy life.

From the UK also and it does seem like those are the only 3 options, nice and simplified :laugh:


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26426630 - 01/10/20 02:05 PM (4 years, 19 days ago)

Spirituality is weird nowadays. I consider it the most important aspect of my existence, yet, when I hear someone go “I’m not religious, I’m spiritual” I want to kick them right in the soul.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26426669 - 01/10/20 02:28 PM (4 years, 19 days ago)

It sounds like you're more upset about people bailing on plans than being negative nancy downers, which is a bit of a different issue, but I'm gonna talk about the 24/7 negative nancy types.

Sometimes I have to literally say to people something like "stop being such a downer." Helping a friend in a time of need is one thing, but I don't need to or want to be brought down if I don't have to be. It's hard enough leading my own life, or for anyone leading their own lives. Having someone else come in and try to make you all depressed is frustrating, annoying, and it adds more work to your life for no reason. It's another thing you have to deal with, and it can often bring you down when you don't need to be. I have enough on my plate as it is, I don't need or want other people adding to it needlessly.

No one is responsible for the emotional state of another (except for obvious exceptions like relationships, and even then there's only a small partial responsibility). If I'm having a perfectly good day, the last thing I want is for someone else to come through and wreck it for no reason over shit that doesn't even have anything to do with me. It isn't helpful for either party. It adds to and creates problems rather than solving anything.

When I go out with friends, I want to have fun. Everyone has their own problems in life, there's no reason why one person has to burden another with theirs (at least not on the regular. Supporting a friend in a time of need is one thing, I'm talking about people who are down all the time 24/7 about everything). Normal people even if they do feel bad will often hide that with friends so that everyone can just have fun and enjoy themselves. It's not just a matter of hiding your feelings, but it's part of trying to have a good time with other human beings.

Again, I want to reiterate this is about people who are down about everything all the time, and are always bringing you down 24/7. Supporting a friend in a time of need, or comforting a family member is clearly the right thing to do, it's not about that.

If you have a negative nancy downer in your life, my suggestion is to take them out to a bar and drink some beer and be happy even if you're not or they're not.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 2
    #26426811 - 01/10/20 03:57 PM (4 years, 19 days ago)

Chronic negativity and depressing can be as seductive as the sweet allure of opiate intoxication. We're all susceptible to various forms of suffering.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: feldman114] * 1
    #26426939 - 01/10/20 05:16 PM (4 years, 19 days ago)

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feldman114 said:
Spirituality is weird nowadays. I consider it the most important aspect of my existence, yet, when I hear someone go “I’m not religious, I’m spiritual” I want to kick them right in the soul.




Why?


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: yeah] * 2
    #26427180 - 01/10/20 07:41 PM (4 years, 18 days ago)



That pretty much sums it up.
It's your life, live it and don't let other people drag you down.
I would bet money your friends are always like, "oh stop over, how come ya don't stop over?" Yet they never pop in to say hi themselves unless they need something.

Misery loves company, don't be an enabler. Tell them what they are doing, such as canceling plans and tell them how it makes ya feel. The will ether meet ya half way or not be the friends you thought they once were.
People change according to the environment, wife, kids, jobs, debt, news, politics, state of humanity, death of a loved one.
Depression is a symptom of ones environment and male suicide has been a epidemic particularly in first world countries over the last decade.
Everyone cannot be rich, Brad Pit or Kim Kardashian no matter how much they lie to ya.  :rofldrunk:

If anything, set up a camping trip for a few days in hopes to revive that spark of life that has died down for em. Take em out of there comfort zone or routine per-say to hopefully regain a new perspective. :mushroom2:
In the end, just like the native american parrable; "you cannot wake a man that is pretending to be sleeping". :justdontknow:


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26427201 - 01/10/20 08:00 PM (4 years, 18 days ago)

Everyone has their burdens to bear. I think this viewpoint is worth consideration because another would be that they like their pain and that's why they're not receptive to your better alternative. Either way, oneness and all that aside, they are not you and burdens are personal so in many cases there will be resistance to someone trying to relieve these burdens from them with "positivity" as if that would substitute for really understanding how they feel, or them wanting help or your help in particular. Being yourself and offering positivity is different than trying to help someone. I'm not saying you shouldn't try but there's only so much you can do. If your attempts feel pushy there can be push back or aversion. At that point it can become bad drama. Best to just be a friend and also let them be depressed, in so much as they are choosing it. One may find that waiting to be helpful is better than pushing for it. Hoping for some positivity in return can be hoping for a lot but when it happens it's due to trust and want. A desire to talk about it while looking for positive solutions and someone trusted enough to talk about it with. There's no assurance that our words will have any quick or instant effect on those willing to listen with open ears. That's why acceptance is so important, because if you can't change someone your words may be an influence over time in so much as they are able to change themselves, and just being yourself is more likable than always trying to change someone. You can get mad about it or firmly offer help but that can only happen every so often or it can start to feel co-dependent. Is it good to take those paths to begin with? Don't worry. Be happy.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26427356 - 01/10/20 10:20 PM (4 years, 18 days ago)

If they're ambulatory get them to go for walk, with you or on their own. If they're not, it's likely why they're down.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: falcon] * 1
    #26427359 - 01/10/20 10:24 PM (4 years, 18 days ago)

It's fun to interrupt a negative person with the question, "What's the good news?" or "What are you grateful for today?"


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #26427384 - 01/10/20 10:44 PM (4 years, 18 days ago)

Positive people are more likely to fit the 10 pounds of shit they get every day in the 9 pound bag.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #26427473 - 01/11/20 01:41 AM (4 years, 18 days ago)

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Chronic negativity and depressing can be as seductive as the sweet allure of opiate intoxication. We're all susceptible to various forms of suffering.




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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Loaded Shaman]
    #26429176 - 01/12/20 06:12 AM (4 years, 17 days ago)

A big part of all cultures is negative.
War, torture, gangs, rap music, prisons, crime, news, wealth inequality, alcoholism, tobacco addiction, creating cities with killer smog, obesity, bad schools, weapons development, nuclear stockpiles, biological weapons, chemical weapons, land mines, pollution, undernourished children, ghettos, toxic dumps, strip mining, fracking, bulk data collection, cyber war ...etc. ...

Given the above another huge aspect of culture is just stupid, as its only designed to distract us from both the above & ourselves. It is of course called "entertainment, and especially in the USA consumerism performs the same function.

Now it has reached surreal proportions. Television was already thought of as something George Orwell never imagined, but the iphone (& other "smart"phones), have taken distraction to a level even the best satirists & cynics could never have guessed at.

Some might find world wide health statistics, & mental health & suicide statistics surprising. Its Not just an odd friend here and there, or folks with some diagnosed neurosis. Much of cultures & governments world wide are not nourishing, but often quite the opposite.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: laughingdog]
    #26429240 - 01/12/20 07:15 AM (4 years, 17 days ago)

I have come to believe that finger pointing (assigning causes for problems) is easy, while sharing your time and attention is hard.

what do you do when you are faced with a knotted shoelace?
if you work it the shoelace is restored, but if you grumble about shoes that need laces, the fact that it is hard to see knots, that your fingers are too numb, or some other tripped out revelation, the cup will half empty remain.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26429301 - 01/12/20 08:37 AM (4 years, 17 days ago)

I need more posts to view certain threads so you're getting what amounts to a spam reply but I hope it helps anyway. (My way of saying I care, but not a bunch :grin:.)

Like draws like so stay positive. Misery loves company and once people around you who are miserable find out you aren't as well, and they can't get you to be miserable, they'll move on. Which is a win for you. People are going to be who they are and asking how to change them, while noble, isn't going to get you far when you try to bring about that change. Also, some people just don't know how to be happy unless everyone around them is miserable and are lost causes. In the end, people will be who they want to be and that's okay. It's also okay to not want to be around that and waste your finite time and energy on people who only want to be negative. Some times you just have to walk away.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Virtualjay]
    #26429932 - 01/12/20 03:43 PM (4 years, 17 days ago)

Developing a strong sense of autonomy can help us stay centered and avoid being strongly influenced by the emotionally disturbed people we encounter.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: DividedQuantum] * 2
    #26434956 - 01/15/20 01:27 PM (4 years, 14 days ago)

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DividedQuantum said:
It's a perennial question, how can we help others? The world has grown quite messed up over time, and this leads to behaviors such as depression, nihilism, pessimism and addictions of all kinds. So it's no surprise that millions of people are distinctly unhappy these days. What's more, they seem to want to spread their unhappiness, or at least reinforce it, and wallow in it to an extreme degree.

That said, it seems there's little we can do really to change people. (Whether we even should is a big question). I am reminded of Ram Dass' approach: He said that, no matter what the circumstances, all that one can do is be the best possible you that you can. We don't control others, and we barely control ourselves, so working on oneself and trying to spread the most positive vibes possible -- if we can -- is all we can do for other people. And sometimes it works.

I find that approach to be the most realistic I've come across.




I appreciate that quote, and can relate. I work with a lot of at-risk youth and find myself 'helping' the most when I am just there for them and listening to them. At times I find myself in the 'how can I fix this person and their problems', but that usually does not end in the way I hope. More often, just hearing them out and letting them know 'that sucks' or 'yea, that makes sense that your are pissed at your parents' or 'why do you think you feel that way'.

And the spreading of their unhappiness is definitely a thing, especially when you get 8-10 teenagers living together for weeks in the wilderness. I consistently see the theme of hurt people hurt people. I think it is due to the idea that it can be hard to struggle and view others as not struggling. So by bringing them down with you, you aren't alone in your despair. No one wants to struggle alone.
Even when it comes to something like swimming that I have done my whole life. It is so much easier to make it through a grueling practice when their are 30 other individuals suffering right next to you in the pool. There was a time when I had chem labs during practice time so I have to do the workouts on my own.. so much more difficult to be the only person in the pool and put the effort in.

On the opposite end of things, I also see the theme of healed people heal people while at work. When the kids start to figure their shit out it allows them extra freedom to help the other folks in the group. Kind of along the line of you have to love yourself before you can love someone else.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: DividedQuantum] * 2
    #26435001 - 01/15/20 01:54 PM (4 years, 14 days ago)

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I am reminded of Ram Dass' approach: He said that, no matter what the circumstances, all that one can do is be the best possible you that you can. We don't control others, and we barely control ourselves, so working on oneself and trying to spread the most positive vibes possible -- if we can -- is all we can do for other people. And sometimes it works.

I find that approach to be the most realistic I've come across.



I honestly think that's pretty much all one can do.

As someone coming off the tail of of a year spent deep in nihilism, this feels especially relevant as it seems, after much thought and consideration, the only tried and true path away from that desolate state of mind.

If one shoots for being the best one can be in any given moment, it really is a purpose. And hey, if it helps others along the way, then that's one hell of a bonus too.

Trying to change the world from the outside in just seems like an exercise in futility to me.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #26436493 - 01/16/20 10:03 AM (4 years, 13 days ago)

sharing your time and attention is the less ambiguous and non-new age way of saying "spreading good vibes".

realistically, what is a vibe anyway, and how is one good etc...


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo]
    #26439888 - 01/18/20 09:13 AM (4 years, 11 days ago)

pros and cons to anything...nothing wrong with "negative minded" people...just leave them alone, if you do not understand them.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Mr. D Green] * 1
    #26453521 - 01/26/20 01:04 PM (4 years, 3 days ago)

Spending all your time pretending to be positive & happy isn't natural or honest just like looking at everything half empty isnt.  both outlooks  are needed for growth/change and work best in cooperation. all the better if you can hold both perspectives simultaneous as potentially true for the broad picture cus we really dont know whats good or bad since we dont know the future and dont have all the info.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: mt cleverest]
    #26453587 - 01/26/20 01:42 PM (4 years, 3 days ago)

true - honesty about what is happening - at least paying attention to what is happening as it happens is good, but as regards people, some have a commitment to being darker than anything else, and those really are not easy to be near on an ongoing basis


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: redgreenvines]
    #26455084 - 01/27/20 12:33 PM (4 years, 2 days ago)

I think negative minded people are fully justified in being negative minded and if you don't like people being negative minded then why don't you take another look at your cup. No point trying to convince yourself its half full when its only a quarter full. Probably has been for quite a while for most people at least.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: kitten6]
    #26455117 - 01/27/20 12:53 PM (4 years, 2 days ago)

Gotta have positivity and negativity working together to figure life out, as said above its all important to learn/develop but if someone can only see the negitives then they will be consumed by misery itself. (sounds fun right)

I could give them a small gold nugget and their reaction is... Its too small. Can you not see the free gold!?


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Kmacmo] * 1
    #26455187 - 01/27/20 01:19 PM (4 years, 2 days ago)

Negative is a person's prerogative til they start being a pain in the ass.


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Re: How to deal with negative minded people(cup half empty) [Re: Rahz]
    #26455513 - 01/27/20 04:14 PM (4 years, 2 days ago)

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Negative is a person's prerogative til they start being a pain in the ass.



and this is it really.


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