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IntoTheMaelstrom



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Social addiction?
#26422463 - 01/08/20 07:34 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Random thought: is social addiction a thing? I tried to google it but all I got was stuff related to social *media* addiction, so googling didn’t help.
The way I see it (it’s my personal and, therefore, highly subjective view) is that once a person depends on social interaction to be happy and, to some extreme, live in general, then that person is addicted to socialisation, hence the made-up expression “social addict”.
We can say “yada yada, humans are social creatures” and yes, we need a basic level of sociability to navigate the real world, but that’s a very practical thing that aims at very practical results. What I’m referring to is the need to establish social connections not for survival or for making life easier but, instead, for no practical purpose whatsoever, just “to be happy”.
I mean, from my point of view, if we can only be happy through our interaction with other people, then *we* aren’t intrinsically happy, we’re just finding happiness sort of “by proxy”.
I know these two people, the comparison of whom lead me to this thought: one is a girl who states she “cannot be alone”, and by this she means that she absolutely needs to have a boyfriend, or she will be miserable all the time as, the way I see it, she can’t self-validate and needs to find validation (and indeed anything resembling some form of happiness) through someone else, a boyfriend/partner in this case, with whom she needs to have a very close, deep connection, deep to the point of eroding the sense of self more often than not.
The other, which is functionally the very opposite to the former, is a guy who states something like “the only purpose in life is making connections [with people]”, and by connections he means shallow, volatile relationships that never last long (neither does he want them to) with completely random individuals that amuse him today, but not tomorrow and become, therefore, easily discardable. Shallow and ephemeral as his “connections” may be, it is allegedly through them alone that he is happy.
Again, these two individuals are, in social terms, functionally the opposite of one-another, and yet they share something very powerful that completely defines them and makes them pretty much the same: they *NEED* to be connected to other people in order to be happy, that’s what their lives are about.
Given this, can we not say that there is a form of addiction going on there? That, shallow or deep, long or short-lasting, these people (and many, many others like them, these are just the two most obvious examples I could think of) are indeed addicted to social interaction and are, therefore, social addicts?
Again, just a thought. Cheers.
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Edited by IntoTheMaelstrom (01/08/20 07:42 AM)
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VP123
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Look up the definition of addiction. What are its characteristics? One can have a food addiction but we all need to eat. Have you considered the consequences of being in complete isolation from other human beings? It's not pretty. Again, the answer hinges on the definition of addiction.
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: VP123]
#26422586 - 01/08/20 09:36 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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From Merriam-Webster:
: a compulsive, chronic, physiological or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior, or activity having harmful physical, psychological, or social effects and typically causing well-defined symptoms (such as anxiety, irritability, tremors, or nausea) upon withdrawal or abstinence : the state of being addicted : a strong inclination to do, use, or indulge in something repeatedly
Which reinforces my hypothesis: strong inclination, repeated/chronic indulgence in unnecessary socialisation/establishment of social relations. Additionally, in one of the examples I mentioned, the girl, the withdrawal symptoms also apply.
At no point have I mentioned living in isolation - the limiting of happiness to interpersonal relations was what I mentioned.
Cheers.
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: VP123]
#26422587 - 01/08/20 09:37 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Each of us forms our identity in unique ways. I wouldn't call either of your examples addicts but maybe egoically streamlined. They seem to be able to achieve a high level of identity formation by very simplistic social means. I wish it were that easy for all of us
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There's toxic love addiction or codependency. It is social in that two people concurrently suffer. There are society compulsions more akin to behavioural addiction, but behavioural addiction is not really addiction.
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: Kickle]
#26422618 - 01/08/20 09:54 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I thoroughly agree with “I wish it were that easy for all of us” 
Can we say an identity is truly formed when that identity appears to change depending on who you’re socially associated with at an emotional level, almost as if all you are were the reflection of the other, or what you think the other wants to see in you? (This is not a rhetorical question!)
Cheers.
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I think habit formed thru repitition (social interaction from grade school on up) and attraction, can factor in.
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“Social compulsion” is perhaps a better way to put it, indeed.
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IntoTheMaelstrom said:
Which reinforces my hypothesis: strong inclination, repeated/chronic indulgence in unnecessary socialisation/establishment of social relations. Additionally, in one of the examples I mentioned, the girl, the withdrawal symptoms also apply.
At no point have I mentioned living in isolation - the limiting of happiness to interpersonal relations was what I mentioned.
Cheers.
What are the harmful physical, psychological, or social effects?
I experience a strong inclination to eat food every day. Can it be characterized as repeatedly and chronic if I have to have three square meals every day? I'm trying to draw a parallel here. You mention unnecessary socialization. What makes it so? Who decides to what extent such socialization would be unnecessary? Coming back to the parallel of food, I eat more than my wife. Would someone be correct in stating that my food intake is excessive because I eat more than my wife? Because an excessive food intake could definitely be considered as indulgent and unnecessary.
Is addiction the right characterization in your examples?
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IntoTheMaelstrom said: Can we say an identity is...if all you are were the reflection of the other, or what you think the other wants to see in you? (This is not a rhetorical question!)
It might be naive to forget our tribal roots and um cannibal tendency.
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IntoTheMaelstrom said: I thoroughly agree with “I wish it were that easy for all of us” 
Can we say an identity is truly formed when that identity appears to change depending on who you’re socially associated with at an emotional level, almost as if all you are were the reflection of the other, or what you think the other wants to see in you? (This is not a rhetorical question!)
Cheers.
Hard to know fully why we do all that we do. Only that we do it and have an identity as a result.
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: VP123]
#26422830 - 01/08/20 11:42 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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“What are the harmful physical, psychological, or social effects?”
I would say living in hell or barely clinging to life when you don’t have a boyfriend is an all-round harmful thing. The girl (the example I know best), for instance:
Physical: insomnia, lack of appetite, indigestion... Psychological: generalised anxiety, low self-esteem, depression... Social: withdrawal, inability to be around other people (even when it comes to work)...
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: Kickle]
#26422835 - 01/08/20 11:44 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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so you have: -1- identity with preferences and behaviors including substances then fine line --- where caring for other's well being is intact -2- then addiction with rewarding behaviors and or substances. --- where caring for self and other's well being is out of whack - and this is related to a dysfunctional activity
I guess the dysfunctional activity could be sex, or even meeting a group or club, even music, although any of these things can be very functional
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I don’t think we have a “cannibal tendency”. We have cultural cannibalism, survival cannibalism and criminal cannibalism (“Eat Thy Neighbour” is brilliant, btw: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/618962.Eat_Thy_Neighbor), but I’d hardly call it a tendency outside some very specific (and rare) situations.
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I would intuitively say that something dysfunctional is anything that disrupts normal function so, if your life (including your ability to be happy or at least content) is disrupted by not meeting that sole condition that defines your happiness, then limiting your happiness to that single condition being met is dysfunctional.
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Maybe if the condition is difficult to meet or occurs infrequently. But it seems logical and desirable if it is easily attainable and occurs frequently IMO. Considering this over time is probably important
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IntoTheMaelstrom said: I would intuitively say that something dysfunctional is anything that disrupts normal function so, if your life (including your ability to be happy or at least content) is disrupted by not meeting that sole condition that defines your happiness, then limiting your happiness to that single condition being met is dysfunctional.
Back to the food example. My life is a living hell and I suffer when I don't have nourishment. Do the negative and harmful effects manifest when you have or when you don't have what you so desperately want (food in one case maybe affection in another)? It is not always easy to distinguish an essential need from an addiction.
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: VP123]
#26422891 - 01/08/20 12:35 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Are you hungry?
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Not at all. I just had lunch. Addictions have withdrawal effects as a symptom. However, an addiction is not defined by the withdrawal symptoms but by the harmful effects observed when you indulge. Otherwise we could also say that diabetics end up addicted to insulin.
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Re: Social addiction? [Re: VP123]
#26422946 - 01/08/20 01:10 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't know about social addiction per se, but it is well known that teenagers are very dependent on peer opinions & so on. People vary greatly in their ability to tolerate solitude and silence. Other people love crowds, whether at a football game or riot. Some women are very fashion conscious, and many are caught up in the more superficial aspects of society. Some people are so smart, creative, or charismatic that they sort of create their own world around themselves. Off the top of my head, I would guess a good example would be some of the great movie directors; but there are of course quite a few such folks, and some rather dark examples.
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