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spirit_shadow
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Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother
#26419537 - 01/06/20 03:37 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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Long story short ive been in denial for years and this past november I finally just cut her out of my life. And its so bullshit because my father who actually cared for me died december 30th 2018. This whole year has been a blur and she only cares about herself and not even once asked me how ive been. Her and my stepfather are both garbage who puts material and themselves over people...... I wish she would have died instead of dad....
Edit: my whole life has been shit. Ive seen people I love die in front of me. I feel like ive lived a thousand lives and I hate it. Only good thing in my life is my girflriend of like 6 years. Im going to leave everything here(usa) and move to her(uk) as soon as possible. Its already in motion.....I just need to vent becauae I hate everything.....im sorry, im not looking for pity and there is much more I could share but its just all irrelevant now....Thanks for letting me post here is what im trying to say I guess
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Edited by spirit_shadow (01/06/20 04:16 PM)
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26419582 - 01/06/20 04:16 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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I get it. It can be really hard NOT to hate everything at times.
Where in the UK you headed?
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#26419588 - 01/06/20 04:18 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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I mean I dont hate you guys....but yeah you get it. And wimbledon. I know for a fact once I start a life with her I wont care so much about not having grown up with a loving parent. She has been here with me lots of times over the years and since all this bullshit im going to honor her by moving there so she wont have to abandon everything.
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26419609 - 01/06/20 04:31 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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I’m sorry about your father. My wife has a narcissistic mother and I have a narcissistic father so I get it. I’m middle aged now and I wish I known about narcissism 20 years ago. I haven’t cut my father out of my life because of my so called inheritance. Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth the money. Remember one thing, the narcissistic will always blame you.
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: Antigov] 1
#26419618 - 01/06/20 04:39 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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Antigov said: I’m sorry about your father. My wife has a narcissistic mother and I have a narcissistic father so I get it. I’m middle aged now and I wish I known about narcissism 20 years ago. I haven’t cut my father out of my life because of my so called inheritance. Sometimes I wonder if it’s worth the money. Remember one thing, the narcissistic will always blame you.
Yeah ive really been researching. And she fits the bill. Actually she surpasses it because I think she is a sociopath. She pretends VERY well and makes me out to be the bad guy every time. Since moving out at 17 she has not visited me not even one time nor asked how ive been. Its just so fucked....
Edit: and for context you know whats funny? Couple years ago I risked my job to take my mother to her doctor appointments when she found out she got cancer..... Her worthless husband didnt.(he makes a lot the fucking panzy)
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Edited by spirit_shadow (01/06/20 04:54 PM)
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26419653 - 01/06/20 04:56 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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Sociopathy and narcissism go hand and hand. Delusions of grandeur with very low, or no empathy for other is a very bad combination. Someday in the future she may want to reconcile, but be aware that narcissists never change. Several years ago I did try to cut my dad off. It lasted about six months. Things were good at first then he went back to being a bigger asshole then he was before.
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: spirit_shadow]
#26419656 - 01/06/20 05:00 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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spirit_shadow said: I mean I dont hate you guys....
I hear ya. It's just hard not to resent existence sometimes when it's all coming collapsing down around you. At least there's the potential in the chaos for you to really grow...
Wimbledon is just down the road from me. Feel free to shout anytime if you want any help with local knowledge.
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Re: Coming to terms with having a narcissistic mother [Re: Antigov] 1
#26419708 - 01/06/20 05:28 PM (4 years, 23 days ago) |
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For sure man that would be really cool I really appreciate that. Im sure me getting married to her and moving there will take a while but hopefully you will still be around by the time I make it there (im aiming for a year or year and half tops. Im going there in a few months to try to get the process started)
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Antigov said: Sociopathy and narcissism go hand and hand. Delusions of grandeur with very low, or no empathy for other is a very bad combination. Someday in the future she may want to reconcile, but be aware that narcissists never change. Several years ago I did try to cut my dad off. It lasted about six months. Things were good at first then he went back to being a bigger asshole then he was before.
Yeah as I said ive known my whole life even since a kid but ive just denied it because who wants to acknowledge that their mother doesnt care for them?
(For context my parents split before I was even 1, I dont know my fathers side and never will and my mothers side is garbage so I have never known the meaning of family(the one you are born with) just the meaning of family by whom I choose.
Edited by spirit_shadow (01/06/20 05:30 PM)
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