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HamHead
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What would you do?
#26389150 - 12/18/19 04:56 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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My ex girlfriend has asked me to watch her dog while she goes on vacation. It will be the third time in less than 12 months. The first was for 6 weeks and the second was for 10 days.
It's a bit of a pain as the dog doesn't have any training and is more wild than tame.
I want to help but have a feeling I'm being used.
She doesn't pay me anything but will bring gifts back to give to me.
I'm at a loss for words as to how to respond. Again, I want to help but don't want to be her go to dog sitter every time she goes on vacation.
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larry.fisherman
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 6
#26389154 - 12/18/19 04:59 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Say no. Don't be an errand boy for your ex. That sounds usurious asf, even without anything to say about it. Just say no, and if she asks why tell her you don't want to. She will then proceed to get mad and prove your point.
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She obviously has feelings and is using you.
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6 weeks? Jeezus.
Say you can't. Problem solved. She can find someone else.
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 3
#26389195 - 12/18/19 05:21 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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larry.fisherman said: Just say no, and if she asks why tell her you don't want to.
All the way man. If you feel like you're being used, then there's a very high likelihood you are.
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I don't know why woman can be so shitty.
I had a girlfriend that had me watch her dog while she went on a date. She was shitty and I was a major rebound.
She cannot hold onto anyone or anything in her life at all.
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Magenta
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 4
#26389237 - 12/18/19 05:43 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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There are two ways to deal with this right. This is one:
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larry.fisherma said: Say no. Don't be an errand boy for your ex. That sounds usurious asf, even without anything to say about it. Just say no, and if she asks why tell her you don't want to. She will then proceed to get mad and prove your point.
Before i continue, let me just say SHE IS TRYING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU! Be cool with it my friend. She chose you for a reason, because she likes you at least a little... Don't hold onto that. The moment you hold onto that you become what she 'thinks' you are and you're going to loose it.
Here's a truth if you haven't realised it yet. This girl is not compatible with you. Nothing wrong with that. You need to remember that though. Remember that and move on, then there's nothing to stop you two having fun in the moment. (You'll find another person right for you up the track.)
The other right way is to negotiate.
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HamHead said: Okay, i'll look after your dogs but only if you blow me three times before Christmas.
Ball is in her court then mate. If she's not up for that, then let her find a new dog sitter.
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Re: What would you do? [Re: Magenta]
#26389258 - 12/18/19 05:56 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Right on. My first instinct is to say no.
She just sent a txt saying she can pay me.
It's not about the money, though I do appreciate her offer. Again, I don't want to be the dog sitter, especially since it's such a hassle to care for.
Doesn't really help that she hasn't talked or text since I last dog sat for her. Really drives home my feelings of only being called on to sit her dog.
Thanks everyone!
Sucks because I still have feelings for her.
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Yup, we were together for the better part of two years. I had my own place and we spent a lot of time together, carpooling to work and some vacations of our own. I agree, we aren't compatible and she knows it as well. I know there's no chance and am not interested in rekindling anything.
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead]
#26389272 - 12/18/19 06:03 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I will feed my friends cat (lives 20 minutes away) when he goes out of town. He pays me $20 per day just out of respect. I would do it for free regardless, but the payment is a thoughtful gesture.
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 1
#26389275 - 12/18/19 06:04 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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HamHead
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead]
#26389285 - 12/18/19 06:07 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I'm caving.
I care too much, not for her so much but for the dog.
Like, giving my self a hard time to make myself feel better later.
Update, she offers $300 for 5 weeks...
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Edited by HamHead (12/18/19 06:08 PM)
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 4
#26389287 - 12/18/19 06:09 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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300 bucks? You're not caving you're getting paid boy!
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead]
#26389288 - 12/18/19 06:10 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sounds like having a kid with an ex.
Does she rub in about other guys with her vacation?
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HamHead
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Crazy_Horse said: This might help.
https://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/25851281
Thank you for this.
The kennel is no longer an issue as a much larger, open top space is available which was used during the one week sitting. Keeping the dogs seperate is not hard, though I do feel bad for having to keep it closed off, but maybe I could have her get an extra section of walling to make a larger space.
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ichugwindex said: 300 bucks? You're not caving you're getting paid boy!
Considering many overnight kennels charge upwards of $85/night, not really. It will help undoubtedly.
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HamHead
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead]
#26389345 - 12/18/19 06:43 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Phew, $60 a week.
Not even half a months rent for 5 weeks of hardship.
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 1
#26389350 - 12/18/19 06:45 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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HamHead said: I'm caving.
Please don't.
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HamHead
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Jokeshopbeard said:
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HamHead said: I'm caving.
Please don't.
But but but, I'm a nice guy who enjoys being run over throughout life.
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Re: What would you do? [Re: HamHead] 1
#26389365 - 12/18/19 06:57 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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LOL. You masochist you!
Didn't you get the memo that nice guys finish last?
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tell her you want $500 or you walk (not walk the dog)
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Re: What would you do? [Re: gopher]
#26389383 - 12/18/19 07:04 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: LOL. You masochist you!
Didn't you get the memo that nice guys finish last?
Yup, I'll be last to make sure everyone else makes it safe.
Boo yah. Boii!!
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gopher said: tell her you want $500 or you walk (not walk the dog)
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