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scag
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losing hope on finding love
#26388140 - 12/18/19 05:41 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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i don't know why i'm posting here particularly, just feel like i need to get away from social media and all that and vent my frustrations to people who i probably will never know.
i'm a trans woman and i've had very little luck with dating. everyone seems to either just want me for sex or lose interest very quickly. someone who ghosted me for 2 months after we met messaged me and asked if i wanted to have phone sex.
i'm sick of everything! why is love so difficult?
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Bph
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Re: losing hope on finding love [Re: scag] 1
#26388190 - 12/18/19 06:31 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sorry to hear that. It's hard out here and even when you find true love it's fleeting. Best thing you can do is foucus on your relationship with yourself. Love yourself and fuck everyone else. Hehe. Seriously tho I hope you find whatever it is you want and need. Xoxo
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The Mycologist
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Re: losing hope on finding love [Re: scag] 1
#26388202 - 12/18/19 06:44 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I hope you find someone. But I wanted to also stress how important self love is. Whens the last time you went to the gym. People want to date someone who takes care of themselves.
It will all work out in the end. Enjoy the ride, enjoy your relationship with yourself and other relationships will come.
-------------------- "That you are here—that life exists, and identity; That the powerful play goes on, and you will contribute a verse.” ― Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass

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VP123
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Welcome to the shroomery. Love is hard to find and often times, harder to keep. Your situation probably makes it even harder to find. You are right that social media will not help. I'm not sure what attracted you to the shroomery but for some people exploration helps defining what we want in life.
When it comes to love, the greeks were very good at identifying the different types of love. I'd like to share this link here about the subject
https://www.lifehack.org/816195/types-of-love#8-types-of-love-according-to-the-ancient-greeks
If nothing, maybe we need to begin working in the different types of love that help our relationships with others and ourselves. Sometimes we can't find the partner we dream of but having strong bonds with family and friends help us get through our need for love.
.... and regarding the shroomery...I'm by no means experienced but in two trips I took with mushrooms, I experienced something that could be described as a love that permeates everything....hard to describe.....but they told me it is present in everyone around us.
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Re: losing hope on finding love [Re: VP123] 2
#26388316 - 12/18/19 08:33 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Great advice given on this thread. It touches my heart me to see you guys all coming through with such good and kind words. I really appreciate it.
My own advice echos the sentiments above; love yourself first and foremost, and don't stake too much on love from anyone else, for even when it does come, it is always fleeting.
Your self can be there for you as long as you're here though.
Life is difficult. Only you can make it less so.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: losing hope on finding love [Re: scag]
#26389943 - 12/19/19 02:22 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Seeing that you are a transwoman, its going to be a difficult road to find love. Its just how it is with the trans lifestyle. However, it doesnt you will never find love. I recommend to keep trying and try to seek out a transman. You may have better chances that way.
Do you live in a large city? If not, consider moving to one. In a large city, you have more selection and a higher chance of meeting a trans-person like yourself who you could fall in love with.
Dont give up, keep trying, youre bound to meet someone special. But it will be a challenge thou.
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living_failure
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The part about "only wanting you for sex or losing the interest very quickly" is applicable for anyone dating men. My cousin is gay, and he was an attractive guy looking for love and a long lasting relationship. The amount of guys that promised him love and end up leaving him the day after...
Love is a long time business. You cannot expect to find love when you want. So, look for it (dont miss the clues) but do not feel unworthy or frustrated when you don't find it.
I am on a similar boat (looking for the same, but i am a antisocial ugly fella so imagine how it is going), focus on your life, on those you love, and do not lose hope just because you lose a few battles. That's what i do, sometimes i lose hope too but you keep going, even when you lose the hope. That's the tenacity i believe in.
Edited by living_failure (12/26/19 05:24 AM)
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