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Anonymous #1
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Rejection is a bitch
#26355457 - 12/01/19 12:02 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I’ll die alone and miserable. I’ll be one of those rotting corpses that’s found months after I’ve died. I’m sure this sounds like hyperbole or maybe you think I’m being dramatic but I’ve only have had one somewhat long-term relationship, with few flirtations that ended in rejection.
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Anonymous #2
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Get some grooming advice from a trusted friend, clean up your act, find something interesting that makes you smile and don't try to hit on women out of your league
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Anonymous #3
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Anonymous #2 said: Get some grooming advice from a trusted friend, clean up your act, find something interesting that makes you smile and don't try to hit on women out of your league
Just get a haircut lol. A haircut isn't going to improve your chances with women if you aren't attractive. Sorry op don't listen to advice like "get a haircut" you either do very well with women as a man or you don't there is no middle ground especially as you leave your twenties behind.
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Anonymous #1
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Yea I’ve kind of accepted that I won’t ever be in a serious relationship. For some of us we just aren’t meant to be in relationships
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Anonymous #4
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Anonymous #2 said: Get some grooming advice from a trusted friend, clean up your act, find something interesting that makes you smile and don't try to hit on women out of your league
Just get a haircut lol. A haircut isn't going to improve your chances with women if you aren't attractive. Sorry op don't listen to advice like "get a haircut" you either do very well with women as a man or you don't there is no middle ground especially as you leave your twenties behind.
Women are much less likely to be as shallow as most men. How often do you see a fugly woman with a man that most would find to be attractive. But quite often you'll see a fugly guy with an attractive woman. so if your a fugly dude don't give up all hope.
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Anonymous #1 said: Yea I’ve kind of accepted that I won’t ever be in a serious relationship. For some of us we just aren’t meant to be in relationships
In the animal kingdom you usually have one alpha who gets to sleep with everyone a few lower ranking ones who get to sleep around rarely and then the lowest tier males the majority get nothing. This also happens in human society when monogamy is not the norm and since monogamy is declining in the west you are going to have less men having relationships or getting laid.
Edited by Anonymous (12/02/19 07:09 AM)
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Anonymous #5
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Anonymous #3 said: you either do very well with women as a man or you don't there is no middle ground especially as you leave your twenties behind.
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Anonymous #3 said: In the animal kingdom you usually have one alpha who gets to sleep with everyone a few lower ranking ones who get to sleep around rarely and then the lowest tier males the majority get nothing.
So, in your own words, there is actually a middle ground??
I'm not an alpha myself but I still get tons of pussy. If OP would drop the self defeating attitude, get out there and meet people, and generally be a fun and exciting person to be around, he'd get plenty too.
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Anonymous #3
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Anonymous #3 said: you either do very well with women as a man or you don't there is no middle ground especially as you leave your twenties behind.
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Anonymous #3 said: In the animal kingdom you usually have one alpha who gets to sleep with everyone a few lower ranking ones who get to sleep around rarely and then the lowest tier males the majority get nothing.
So, in your own words, there is actually a middle ground??
I'm not an alpha myself but I still get tons of pussy. If OP would drop the self defeating attitude, get out there and meet people, and generally be a fun and exciting person to be around, he'd get plenty too.
Its not a middle ground its a steep curve. And your advice is good if you are attractive its considered creepy to be extroverted if you don't fit the beauty standard women have.
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Anonymous #3 said: your advice is good if you are attractive its considered creepy to be extroverted if you don't fit the beauty standard women have.
You do realise that women vary in attractiveness too right? Of course the perfect 10's are gonna want/go for/get perfect 10 men.
It's like for like out there, and we can all find someone willing to pair up/mate/fuck as long we have worked on rudimentary social skills and adjusted our expectations to be realistic.
Yes, rejection hurts, but if you never put yourself in a position to be rejected you'll never succeed either.
Being extroverted is not 'creepy'.
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Anonymous #3
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Anonymous #3 said: your advice is good if you are attractive its considered creepy to be extroverted if you don't fit the beauty standard women have.
Yes, rejection hurts, but if you never put yourself in a position to be rejected you'll never succeed either.
Being extroverted is not 'creepy'.
It sounds like you have never experienced real rejection like the OP has and you even claim you get tons of pussy. Your advice is the equivalent of a billionaire telling some poor laborer to just call his financial adviser up and buy some stocks. Essentially it is not applicable to men who really struggle with dating.
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Anonymous #5
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I've been rejected hundreds of times. By your analogy I wasn't born a millionaire but became a self made one.
What's stopping you or OP from becoming one too? Are you like, really ugly? No wits, brains, or talent?
Are are you just afraid of getting hurt and playing the 'woe is me' card?
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Anonymous #3
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I've been rejected alot as well the difference is I never got anything from all the hard work I put like getting a haircut or being in shape or having a job. Ive had obese women on disability reject me or use me for a free meal. Fact is denying this reality is going to lead to ever more rejection.
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Anonymous #3 said: I never got anything from all the hard work I put like getting a haircut or being in shape or having a job.
Sounds like you put all your focus into the ancillaries and forgot the main event, so to speak, which is your mind/attitude/persona. That is our equivalent of the beautiful plumage or song that gets birds laid, or the sheer strength than gets quadrupeds laid.
If you have a good attitude, even if you're a poor, unshaven bum, you'll get laid, and don't let the incels all over the internet brainwash you into thinking otherwise.
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Anonymous #3 said: I never got anything from all the hard work I put like getting a haircut or being in shape or having a job.
Sounds like you put all your focus into the ancillaries and forgot the main event, so to speak, which is your mind/attitude/persona. That is our equivalent of the beautiful plumage or song that gets birds laid, or the sheer strength than gets quadrupeds laid.
If you have a good attitude, even if you're a poor, unshaven bum, you'll get laid, and don't let the incels all over the internet brainwash you into thinking otherwise.
It has nothing to do with money or attitude its about your face and height its that simple. Guys with money get cheated on all the time with more attractive broke guys.
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Anonymous #3 said: It has nothing to do with money or attitude its about your face and height its that simple.
You keep on telling yourself that, but I'll not have you brainwashing people like OP with your incel attitude.
Our brains are our main tool, in this aspect of life as in all life.
Here's some basics for you:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_mating_strategies
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Anonymous #1
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Even though I don’t consider myself attractive I don’t have this attitude that if you’re not good-looking or makes loads of money that you will always be lonely. There are plenty of people out there with various set-backs. There are plenty of people that are physically disabled, obese, poor, etc that are in relationships and/or date frequently. Nor do I have this attitude that I’m entitled to love and affection. I use to do a lot to put myself out there, work-out regularly, engage in social activities, well-traveled, make a decent living. But I’m just one of those people that no matter what I’ll never have someone to come home to, I’m not even looking for sex or all types of attention I just want one of those long-term loving relationships. But it just isn’t in the cards for me.
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Anonymous #5
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Finally someone realistic!!
Why do you feel you'll 'never have someone to come home to'?
I only ask as I wonder, sometimes, if this is the direction in which I'm heading - but then, that would be more self-inflicted than anything.
I think - like yourself - that anybody with the capacity to walk and talk coherently could find a relationship if only they get their mind right first. Definitely not something any of us are entitled to though; it takes work!!
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