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living_failure
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Running out money and full of debt.
#26347856 - 11/27/19 03:54 AM (4 years, 2 months ago) |
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In order to fulfill my needs i pay. And i am full of debt now.
It is there a way to deal with being sexually unappealing and celibate without feelings of selfloath and misery?
It is there something to remove libido or even better, humancontactseeking without removal of hormones?
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Re: Running out money and full of debt. [Re: living_failure] 1
#26348511 - 11/27/19 12:37 PM (4 years, 2 months ago) |
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Have you considered having sex with ugly women?
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living_failure
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Re: Running out money and full of debt. [Re: UpSyndrome]
#26348876 - 11/27/19 03:27 PM (4 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah. But that implies an ugly woman wanting me, which isn't true.
I tried dating men but i didn't like it
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theRealrollforever
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If you become addicted to opiates your at level and overall libido take a dive...really do not recommend this.ur better off being horny and frustrated
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Shenmue
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It sounds like you need to work on yourself. Become super successful then you'll get all the women you could ever want.
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FungiMaster
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Re: Running out money and full of debt. [Re: Shenmue]
#26352774 - 11/29/19 08:16 PM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't know man, bunch of horny women out their.
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PsYcHoDoUgHbOy
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Re: Running out money and full of debt. [Re: FungiMaster]
#26358489 - 12/03/19 06:12 AM (4 years, 1 month ago) |
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Get a fleshlight, or if you're a big spender like you say, finance a doll.
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Nymphaea
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I suggest taking a break. Sex is addictive, highly addictive, and there are a lot of things to do in life besides sex...
...the more energy you spend on other things the more appealing you will become naturally...but that shouldn't be the reason you take a break, you should take a break for you and not worry when you will get back to it or if you ever will.
There's a lot of awesome things to do out there that make you healthy, happy, and successful and that all is going to help you long term but the sex, in all likely-hood, won't.
I've been celibate for about 7 years. I'm not unattractive but I chose to stay away from it because it doesn't make me happy. Sometimes it's lonely, sometimes I fall back into a porn addiction again and that is frustrating because it doesn't make me happy and makes me want to have sex again but sticking it out is always worth it to me.
I don't loath myself, that comes with the porn....I actually got my mind back, get to think about other things all day and work on whatever I want without letting any woman get in my way.
It's great honestly, just hard to get to that point where you accept it. You have to have a deep respect for celibacy itself which I fortunately always have.....but I believe it doesn't matter what reasons drove you to celibacy, if you can find a strong belief in it then you can gain a whole new perspective and freedom in life that is worth more than anything we realize.
There's a reason why monks do it and why religions hold sex sacred. It's completely OK to do what you want but you got to be aware that the consequences on your mind are real and no matter what you've been taught, celibacy is a great option for anyone at any stage in life and offers more than we know. That's my opinion but I stand by it.
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Edited by Nymphaea (01/11/20 07:23 PM)
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living_failure
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Re: Running out money and full of debt. [Re: Nymphaea]
#26431422 - 01/13/20 01:57 PM (4 years, 16 days ago) |
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Thanks for the advice.
I am having more or less a forced break. So i am trying to focus my attention in other things which are mostly work and porn and i think that is kinda sad but nothing i can do about it at the moment.
I guess I've been like this my entire life but when i had friends or a wife it was easier to deal with because i could focus my energy on making them happy. Now it is just like being lost and hungry in a supermarket with no money
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feldman114
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Quote:
living_failure said: Thanks for the advice.
I am having more or less a forced break. So i am trying to focus my attention in other things which are mostly work and porn and i think that is kinda sad but nothing i can do about it at the moment.
I guess I've been like this my entire life but when i had friends or a wife it was easier to deal with because i could focus my energy on making them happy. Now it is just like being lost and hungry in a supermarket with no money
Stop. You should focus on making yourself happy, or at least mostly content. Once you got that down, worry about other people.
Wanna focus on something rewarding, time-consuming, yet affordable? Cause the cultivation forum is just a click away.
You can even make some good money if you get into gourmet...
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Yukon Cornelius
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Keep it up. I relate very closely to your situation, been celibate 5+ years now.
Focusing on work and hobbies only does so much. Being truly at peace with your frustrations requires a lot, and blaming yourself or society doesn't get you far.
The closest thing that has helped is getting way outside my comfort zone. Not with intent to get laid but just to reset my mental faculties in a drastic way. For me this was going to a public space with my shirt off, since I have debilitating body image issues.
Just an example for what works for me, this aggressive approach isn't for everyone.
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Nymphaea
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Quote:
living_failure said: Thanks for the advice.
I am having more or less a forced break. So i am trying to focus my attention in other things which are mostly work and porn and i think that is kinda sad but nothing i can do about it at the moment.
I guess I've been like this my entire life but when i had friends or a wife it was easier to deal with because i could focus my energy on making them happy. Now it is just like being lost and hungry in a supermarket with no money
Making other's happy is very fulfilling in life. There's food out there to satisfy your soul but you got to go and find it and create it. There are people who need friends, need some help, or just need a conversation with a stranger...but yes making yourself content, peaceful, and happy will help you get to that point where helping other people will be easier...
...the thing is that you can't just make yourself be content, it takes time for your entire mindset/being to change. Focusing on work might not be helping you much right now but over time you may appreciate your work more because the more you keep giving to it the more it may give back to you...that's an example of something you are doing right at the moment but haven't gotten to that reward part of it yet where it makes you truly happy to be there.
Going outside your comfort zone is another great thing to try...going places you don't usually or EVER go...doing things you don't usually or EVER do...
...they can be small or they can be big, but in general trying things you know you like or would like is a great way to go about things. Cooking is fun, eating cleaner, fasting, doing yoga/Thai Chi/meditation/dance....getting hooked up with facebook groups or meetup groups that do cool things...
....learning, breaking old habits one at a time and creating new ones one at a time...
NONE of this stuff is easy, I know that, but that's why they are deeply rewarding.
Shroomery is another great outlet, at least it can be, to have a conversation here or there.
Make smoothies in the morning, cook, go on walks, etc....
....not a bad idea to socialize more in setting you are already finding yourself in if that doesn't happen to often anyways...
....maybe find something to save for, find something to work to create or become a part of....
.......love is deeper and will find you. Just ideas here.
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