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favorite online dating sites
#26278475 - 10/26/19 02:22 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress]
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Kryptos]
#26278571 - 10/26/19 02:54 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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omg it hurts my ears. i got 13 seconds in sorry
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress] 2
#26278616 - 10/26/19 03:10 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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You're missing out.
I think online dating is a waste of time, at least from a male perspective. You either need to be incredibly attractive (like, top 5%) or you need to have some serious social media marketing skills, i.e. knowing exactly what kind of pictures to take and how to take them. Actually, the ability to properly stage photos may be even more important, because some of those top 5% dudes won't get anything either because they can't take pictures.
Recently (last couple weeks), I ended a long hiatus from dating and started trying to get out there again. Here's my results thus far, compared to my results with online dating both consistent and half-hearted occasional swiping during hiatus.
Background description-- I'm a 6'2ish white guy with blond hair, blue eyes, no facial blemishes, in pretty good shape (not quite six pack, but no chub either), with a six figure job, in my late 20s.
My results on online dating were roughly one match a month when I was doing it consistently and burning through all my daily tinder/bumble swipes. That one monthly match always resulted in at least one date. During my hiatus, when I was swiping a couple times a week maybe, no matches.
My results from the last few weeks, going out to bars/breweries/meetup events were 1-3 numbers per night, with dates from each one I tried to pursue.
Online dating seems to be the definition of choice paralysis. That and grass is greener effect. It's really a waste of time.
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Kryptos]
#26278804 - 10/26/19 04:25 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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I guess it’s a matter of opinion.
I’m a single mom of two trying to re enter into the dating scene. When I’m not working one of my two jobs I’m doing fun activities with my kids.
I also don’t drink so I don’t go to bars unless I’m going to see music... which just doesn’t happen cause there is no good music where I am unless I travel about an hour and half both ways.
Online seems to be the only chance I got until my kids are older and I don’t need to find sitters to “get out there”.
Plus I’m getting my tube(I only have one) tied, I’m trying to enjoy that life as much as possible.
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#26278855 - 10/26/19 04:51 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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Oh, it's definitely different for women. You'll probably have significantly better results, at least superficially.
From my conversations with female friends, they match with 9/10 dudes they swipe on. A large proportion of them never answer or initiate (due to being in that top 5% category and having options), and a lot of them are pretty shitty all around. Dick pic openers and such.
If you put "single mom" or any reference to kids in your profile, you'll probably have a larger percentage of dudes looking for a quick pump-and-dump. Personally, I swipe left on anyone that has kids, because I hate kids. I've only ever been attracted to one single mom, but that was someone I met IRL who was (a) insanely attractive and (b) similarly well educated.
There is a general association with single moms of "I need someone who can afford to take care of my kids for me" in some of the darker corners of the internet.
I think your biggest problem is going to be sorting through the swamp of dick pics and assorted shitheads to find the people you are actually going to be able to have a relationship with. The problem for dudes on dating apps is getting matches, the problem for women on dating apps is getting matches that can actually result in something other than a one night stand.
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Kryptos]
#26278859 - 10/26/19 04:55 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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You’re right.
And I really hate the whole “I need someone to afford to take care of my kids” thought process. I don’t need help tending to them — honestly I would rather my significant other never meet them or meet them after many years of dating.
It sucks most single moms out there are looking for that though. I’m an educated woman with a decent income, I don’t WANT or NEED help.
I just want loveeeeeee
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress]
#26278888 - 10/26/19 05:07 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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That's the thing with online dating.
Everyone deals with a certain amount of bullshit. The flavor of the bullshit depends on your individual appearance/circumstances.
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Kryptos]
#26278897 - 10/26/19 05:14 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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Got a website? I’ll take chances.
Unless you wanna throw that hate for single moms out the window hubbahubba
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress]
#26278922 - 10/26/19 05:28 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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I use bumble only, when I use any dating sites.
If you put in the traveling work and I don't have to meet your kids and you're reasonably attractive, mebbe.
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Kryptos]
#26278926 - 10/26/19 05:30 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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I live in campers. Traveling comes EASyyYyyYyy.
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress]
#26278963 - 10/26/19 05:47 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lol, 1/3...
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Kryptos]
#26279113 - 10/26/19 07:17 PM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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No kids is fine and the other is matter of opinionnnnnn so idkidkkdk
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress] 1
#26281569 - 10/28/19 06:06 AM (4 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Jewstress said: and go
The Shroomery..
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Amanita86]
#26285594 - 10/29/19 06:50 PM (4 years, 2 months ago) |
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I wish I could find a woman who Does NOT want to meet my kids so bad.... I've dated 3 women in the past 15 months since my kids' mom split.... All of them started pushing to meet my kids. I know I'm lucky to have 4 kids and find a woman who wants to meet them or be a part of our lives.... but I want to take it slow.... what is hard to understand about that? After the relationship becomes sexual, they have all seemed to take it as an insult that I didnt want them to meet my kids.... I'm just trying to meet the right person and let some time pass before my kids see dad with another woman.... no one seems to understand that....
Jewstress - do men usually push so hard to meet your kids?
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No. Men don’t.
They don’t have the maternal desire women do though. Kids do things do us i don’t think even women fully understand until they have their own.
Also meeting kids is like the signing of the contract it’s official and seriously serious.
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Re: favorite online dating sites [Re: Jewstress]
#26288763 - 10/31/19 12:19 AM (4 years, 2 months ago) |
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Exactly.. well put. I've been seeing a woman for about 6 months, and have known her for almost a year.. we instantly clicked and now she wants to be serious and see me more than one night on the weekends.... she wants to meet my kids, has openly asked me when she will and why I have not introduced her yet. She wants to know I am serious. it is a maternal desire that she has.... she knows my kids went through a lot of pain watching their mom slowly disappear and she just wants to mother them.... i never thought of it so simply, thanks for that. it's just too soon for them to even want to see another prospective mother other than their own. But that isnt this women's fault, and I'm lucky to have someone as sweet as that in my life right now. It's just too soon though. I should have waited a few years.... it's hard not to let things get serious sometimes when there are exciting connections and good feelings between people.
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Recently i registrered in one ( i don't know rules allow to name dating sites). It is a paying site for men and women, so i want to believe women here want something more than sex
No date yet.
Honestly i think it is a bad idea. i can't think of a reason that would make a woman join the site.
I know there is a single mother in the thread. I am ruling out single mothers of the equation because reasons
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