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 nooneman
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 Someone fucks up something you own. 
#26166923 - 09/03/19 02:44 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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What's the best way to handle the situation? How do you usually actually handle it?
I think most people (including myself) are pretty mad when someone fucks up something you own, even if you said they could use it/borrow it/etc. But at the same time, I kinda feel like that's maybe the wrong response, even though that's totally how I respond.
I feel like I should be super nice about it and accept that if I'm giving it to them then I have to accept it if they fuck it up. I feel like that's the better way to react, and that's certainly how I would want someone to react to me if I accidentally fucked something up.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: nooneman]
#26166947 - 09/03/19 02:58 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Depends on the thing and who it is. I always kinda guage how I see them treat their shit and who they are to me. Never lend something you will either miss or to someone you can't trust with it. If you do that then whatever happens is on you because you've done all you can. If I give something to someone I really trust and it breaks, it was probably just meant to be. Like a chainsaw. That being said, I would never lend out something I love. Some things are my babies - guitars, my stereo, I've got some nice tools, ect. My Estwing drilling hammer for instance, you probably wouldn't break but they are expensive and handy and I've had people try to steal it off me. Fuck you, people
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: nooneman]  1
#26166948 - 09/03/19 02:59 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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That'd depend on what that "something" was, and how badly they fucked it up...and what caused them to fuck it up.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: 1234go]
#26166983 - 09/03/19 03:14 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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When you're borrowing it to them, tell them not to fuck it up...or you'll fuck them up
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: 1234go]
#26166986 - 09/03/19 03:16 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Snapped my old friends skateboard in half landing a trick
He thought it was pretty cool
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: nooneman]
#26166991 - 09/03/19 03:19 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Honestly, I'd probably just let it go.
If I'm loaning someone something, usually its because they are a "friend," and I nobody would ever purposefully mess something up. I wouldn't care about replacing an item until the costs got into the thousands of dollars. At that point, I'm probably not letting you borrow it, and/or you're only using it when I'm around.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: nooneman]
#26167024 - 09/03/19 03:29 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
nooneman said:
Someone fucks up something you own. .
I own him and fuck him up.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: nooneman]
#26167031 - 09/03/19 03:34 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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A true friend would replace the item, IMO.
However much like the old saying goes about lending people money; 'don't lend it unless you're fine with not getting it back'.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#26167421 - 09/03/19 07:07 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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If you get something you loaned back it's a bonus, not really an expectation.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: Northerner]
#26167517 - 09/03/19 07:53 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Northerner said:
If you get something you loaned back it's a bonus, not really an expectation.
This.
I'm not really a material person, I don't own any truly sentimental objects. And Ive broken a ton of stuff, especially glassware. So much glassware. You never loan something that can't be replaced... which is almost nothing
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: nooneman]
#26167654 - 09/03/19 09:01 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I quit loaning money, or items anymore because not getting paid back/getting items back damaged a few tiems will really turn you off to the idea.
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: Fiery]
#26167721 - 09/03/19 09:32 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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I have found that people often disappoint me and let me down when I give them the opportunity to. Best to not give people I haven't known long enough to have proven themselves to me a chance to disappoint me these days.
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If somebody breaks your lawnmower and it was an honest mistake, and that makes you distrust them, you should probably think about how you gain trust in someone in the first place.
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A cautious young fellow named Lodge / Had seat belts installed in his Dodge. / When his date was strapped in / He committed a sin / Without even leaving the garage. That's clever, isn't it?-A boy and his dog
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Re: Someone fucks up something you own. [Re: bloodsheen]
#26167730 - 09/03/19 09:35 PM (1 year, 5 months ago) |
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Unless it's your baby. If somebody breaks your baby you are probably allowed to be mad
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A cautious young fellow named Lodge / Had seat belts installed in his Dodge. / When his date was strapped in / He committed a sin / Without even leaving the garage. That's clever, isn't it?-A boy and his dog
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