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OfflineSkulletteDemystifi
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Re: My best friend belittles me and treats me like shit, and I don't know what to do. [Re: thisbliss] * 2
    #26131150 - 08/11/19 02:36 PM (4 years, 5 months ago)

It's pretty obvious that your "friend" isn't your friend at all. He's definitely a narcissist and it's pretty clear that he's a functioning addict. Especially if he is getting mad and being a dick to you when you can't get him drugs or get them to him at a time that's most convenient for him.

As much as it would suck; the best thing to do would to just walk away from this guy instead of trying to hold onto to a "relationship" that you guys don't even really have. He's made it clear you guys just have a friendship and it sounds like an abusive one at that. And just because you love someone doesn't mean it should be okay or acceptable to allow that person to treat you like garbage So, you're going to have to figure out if it is really worth it to feel like shit about yourself every time your with him just to be friends with this guy. I guarantee you that it won't be though.

I'm a loner myself and I too have suffered from depression, anxiety, and a slight case of ptsd. I have been in a very similar situation myself accept my friend A is actually my mom. Some people are just toxic and all that toxicity does is just slow you down and eventually it stops you from experiencing things that you thought you never would.

By the way, the type of people who say
"You worry about brain damage and STDs but you don't worry about missing out"
Are the type of people who end up with brain damage or std's or are just f'd up for life from their drug use. So don't let him force you into doing things that you aren't comfortable doing. I was raised my addicts and I've heard both my parents say similar things. My dad ended up getting hepatitis from a dirty needle and my mom has multiple holes in her intestines(even with 3 feet of them being removed) from ingesting speed for decades on end and she has heart failure along with many other issues.
I'm not saying I'm a saint myself but I am leary about what I experiment with and the people I hang around because of what life has given me to experience.

Sooo, this came out waaay lengthier than i expect haha. All I'm tryna say is that if you have fun with the guy; then stay friends. But don't waste your time, energy, and emotions trying to hold onto to someone who doesn't feel the same way. When it comes to people you choose to spend your time with; you should choose the ones who are going to build you up. Not the ones who try to break you down.


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OfflineSkulletteDemystifi
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Re: My best friend belittles me and treats me like shit, and I don't know what to do. [Re: PoisonousLookalike] * 1
    #26131535 - 08/11/19 08:30 PM (4 years, 5 months ago)

I don't know the guy personally but from my experience with people who are addicts and just going off the few things you have said he is definitely an addict. That's why I said he's a functioning addict. I don't know anyone who isn't an addict that gets mad/upset when they're drug deal falls through... Disappointed maybe. But angry? There are actually quite a few addicts who don't think they are addicts at all. My mom is one of them. Because of all of her health problems from her former use and her exquisite manipulation skills she has been able to work the system and she now gets monthly prescriptions for morphine, xanan, lortab, dilaudid, and valium. She literally burns through all of that within a week to a week and a half at the latest and then she'll buy whatever she can get her hands on off the streets to hold her over until her next refill. But if you mention that she has a problem she goes off the deep end on how she's sick and needs all of these drugs and how she gets her stuff legally and then belittles me for my former heroine use(been clean for over 15 years) and says I'm the addict because I smoke pot(it's what i use for my depression) and do psychedelics occasionally(it seems to help with my depression as well). That's what narcissist who are addicts do. They deflect anything that is considered negative to their own image and turn the situation on you to make you look worse than they do. They'll purposely make you feel shitty about yourself so they can feel better about themselves.

It sounds like he is just manipulating you to boost his own ego and make situations convenient for himself. I feel like friendships and relationships are like mushroom hunting. It's easy to find a lot of mushrooms but it's hard to find the ones/types(people who genuinely care about you) you are looking for. A lot of times you think you found what you are looking for but it's just a look alike so there is a lot of weeding out. And right when you're about to give up or stop looking you somehow find yourself in front of them. And then it oddly feels like they found you.

I've held onto a lot of toxic people in my life and I've learned that it is better off to let them go no matter how much you may love them. You can still love someone from a far without letting their negativity make you feel worse about yourself than you already do. Especially with depression. It's an everyday battle as it is without friends and family making you feel lower than you on your own.

You know that nursery rhyme about friends?
Make new friends but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold

This dude's your silver... You need to hold out for your gold.


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Re: My best friend belittles me and treats me like shit, and I don't know what to do. [Re: PoisonousLookalike] * 1
    #26144385 - 08/20/19 10:49 AM (4 years, 5 months ago)

He only encourages you because he desperately needs to feed his starving ego. I know several women who do the same thing and then get all bent out of shape about the situations when a guy finally tries to make a move. It's a game of cat and mouse to them.


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When logic and proportion have fallen sloppy dead
And the white knight is talking backwards
And the red queen's off with her head
Remember what the dormouse said
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Re: My best friend belittles me and treats me like shit, and I don't know what to do. [Re: PoisonousLookalike] * 3
    #26144474 - 08/20/19 11:34 AM (4 years, 5 months ago)

As a female myself I always call women out on this bullshit behavior. People aren't mind readers and it's obvious those types of people are purposely sending mixed messages. It's a mental and emotional mind fuck. They manipulate people to get what they want and then act like they did absolutely nothing wrong or flat out say "they are trying to be friendly". Pfft... They know exactly what they are doing.


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When logic and proportion have fallen sloppy dead
And the white knight is talking backwards
And the red queen's off with her head
Remember what the dormouse said
Feed your head!


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Re: My best friend belittles me and treats me like shit, and I don't know what to do. [Re: Bumholio]
    #26144885 - 08/20/19 03:27 PM (4 years, 5 months ago)

Lol. Just keeping it real. I don't have many friends that are female because it's too much drama. And bitches don't like being called out on their bullshit. It's a win win situation for me. I don't have to deal with the drama; they don't have their feelings hurt when they get called out.


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When logic and proportion have fallen sloppy dead
And the white knight is talking backwards
And the red queen's off with her head
Remember what the dormouse said
Feed your head!


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