LaughNowCryLater said:

If kindness is so attractive...

Why do nice ugly people have such a hard time getting laid?

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LaughNowCryLater said:

If kindness is so attractive...

Why do nice ugly people have such a hard time getting laid?

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LaughNowCryLater said:

Attractiveness certainly does translate to sex, for all species of life

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mt cleverest said:

being nice can get you ahead in life as can playing the victim depending on the company. some people see right thru that shit.
but being nice never got any ugly person laid, unless it was with someone as ugly or uglier than them.

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mt cleverest said:

theres lots of variables when it comes to balancing out relationships like that..money, humor, social prowess. I'm not saying personality doesnt play a role , just that kindness alone never got anybody laid. I would even say most girls under 35 yrs want absolutely nothing to do with nice guys, they see it as a weakness

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VP123 said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

Attractiveness certainly does translate to sex, for all species of life

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Maybe we should consider all aspects of attractiveness. The physical and not physical.

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LaughNowCryLater said:

VP123 said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

Attractiveness certainly does translate to sex, for all species of life

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Maybe we should consider all aspects of attractiveness. The physical and not physical.

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How often do you see couples where one partner is disproportionately uglier than the other?

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LaughNowCryLater said:

VP123 said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

Attractiveness certainly does translate to sex, for all species of life

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Maybe we should consider all aspects of attractiveness. The physical and not physical.

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How often do you see couples where one partner is disproportionately uglier than the other?

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VP123 said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

VP123 said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

Attractiveness certainly does translate to sex, for all species of life

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Maybe we should consider all aspects of attractiveness. The physical and not physical.

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How often do you see couples where one partner is disproportionately uglier than the other?

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Often enough to discount generalizations based solely on physical appearance.

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LaughNowCryLater said:

Intelligence will get an ugly person laid way faster than kindness.


The ugly people with attractive partners usually have money (which has nothing to do with kindness).

It’s pretty rare as far as I can tell. Definitely the exception to the rule. Are you ugly?

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VP123 said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

Intelligence will get an ugly person laid way faster than kindness.


The ugly people with attractive partners usually have money (which has nothing to do with kindness).

It’s pretty rare as far as I can tell. Definitely the exception to the rule. Are you ugly?

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Sharing your wealth with your partner is a form of kindness. Would someone like to be with a very wealthy partner who doesn't share a single penny?

Is my attractiveness or lack thereof relevant to the establishment of logical arguments?

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spirit_shadow said:

...... if all you are focusing on is getting laid then you need to do some more soul searching.

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Ulfrick said:

Niceness alone doesn't get you laid, cuz it's generally the minimum standard most people expect. Sex isn't a participation  trophy, you don't get it for simply not being a dickhead.

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LaughNowCryLater said:

spirit_shadow said:

...... if all you are focusing on is getting laid then you need to do some more soul searching.

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Well, I’m definitely not messing with the majority of these women because of the brilliant insights that their sparkling conversation brings to my life.

My plan is to keep running through ‘em until I’m old, impotent, and STD ridden

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ReposadoXochipilli said:

if i don't get kind vibes from someone i am not interested in pursuing sex with them.

nice people who are giving in nature are attractive to myself. they generally have a decent idea of themselves if they are choosing to be charitable with their energy.

LaughNowCryLater said:

spirit_shadow said:

...... if all you are focusing on is getting laid then you need to do some more soul searching.

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Well, I’m definitely not messing with the majority of these women because of the brilliant insights that their sparkling conversation brings to my life.

My plan is to keep running through ‘em until I’m old, impotent, and STD ridden

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spirit_shadow said:

if all you are focusing on is getting laid then you need to do some more soul searching.

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LaughNowCryLater said:

If kindness is so attractive...

Why do nice ugly people have such a hard time getting laid?

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Asante said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

If kindness is so attractive...

Why do nice ugly people have such a hard time getting laid?

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Generosity attracts people who want to be given.
Kindness attracts people who want to be treated kindly.

Both these crowds come for what is given, not for the giver.

Confidence is truly attractive.

There are lots of confident presidents. There are no kind presidents.

Confidence gets you the vote.

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bloodsheen said:

Asante said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

If kindness is so attractive...

Why do nice ugly people have such a hard time getting laid?

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Generosity attracts people who want to be given.
Kindness attracts people who want to be treated kindly.

Both these crowds come for what is given, not for the giver.

Confidence is truly attractive.

There are lots of confident presidents. There are no kind presidents.

Confidence gets you the vote.

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Yo this might be the wisest thing you've ever said.

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I'm 365 lbs. A pound for every day of the year. Consensus has it that I should crawl under a rock and die.

I had severe social phobia and body dysmorphic.

Instead of crawling under a rock and dying, thank you psychedelics, I went swimming in my local pool. Rather than hiding my sumo sized body I stripped it down to swimtrunks and got right in the public eye.

Sorta inching around in the water hoping not to be noticed?

Fuck. No. 

I started doing epic splashdives.

Its loud like a bomb going off. The water splashes up 20 feet.

I stand straight and let myself fall either forward or backward, down into the water, hitting it flat and these two walls of water erupt skyward to my sides as I fall into a deep water hole that smacks shut with a loud bang

I'm as big as a sumo wrestler.
I'm barely more dressed as one.
I make epic splashdives.

What do you think?

People love it. They admire it. They emulate it. I get compliments and cheers and not of the sorry sort but of the -holy fuck wow- variety. Women and girls hit on me. The lifeguards told me that the mood in the whole pool picks up when I'm there and security told me that I ease their shift because the inevitable pool machos get outdone by a feat they can't overbid. Its a remarkable process, it affects everybody.

CONFIDENCE ATTRACTS.

If I didnt throw myself resolutely into the fire but selfconsciously tried to blend in the shadows, a lot of people would think of me as a fat fuck and maybe even a creep, as per society dictate, which doesnt look kindly on the obese. They'd see my obesity and my shyness and it would be negative. Now that I throw myself in headfirst though, what stands out is my courage and perseverence and my big body just highlights that.

Courage from humility - people appreciate that.

People are all selfconscious about their wrinkle or freckle or bit of flab and in walks a sumosized dude who throws thunder, clearly has a great time, yet is kind and is a public favorite. They ask themzselves why the f their little prob holds them back while I made my big prob into a strength and have lots of fun. They feel better about themselves and I originate that.

Just like there are negative spirals there are positive self reenforcing spirals.

Its a hoot.

Psychedelics taught me to defeat my fear and hesitance with, faith, hope and love and plain ole COURAGE and confidence and a party ensues for all involved.

Oh, social phobia and body dysmorphic? GONE, no SSRI's or therapies.

Like the Qu'ran says, if you righteously throw yourself in the fire, the fire will cool to let you pass through unharmed.  Like the Bible says: WALK ON WATER!

The Universe REWARDS Courage.

It has to be from humility though, not haughtiness.

Asante said:

bloodsheen said:

Asante said:

LaughNowCryLater said:

If kindness is so attractive...

Why do nice ugly people have such a hard time getting laid?

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Generosity attracts people who want to be given.
Kindness attracts people who want to be treated kindly.

Both these crowds come for what is given, not for the giver.

Confidence is truly attractive.

There are lots of confident presidents. There are no kind presidents.

Confidence gets you the vote.

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Yo this might be the wisest thing you've ever said.

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I'm 365 lbs. A pound for every day of the year. Consensus has it that I should crawl under a rock and die.

I had severe social phobia and body dysmorphic.

Instead of crawling under a rock and dying, thank you psychedelics, I went swimming in my local pool. Rather than hiding my sumo sized body I stripped it down to swimtrunks and got right in the public eye.

Sorta inching around in the water hoping not to be noticed?

Fuck. No. 

I started doing epic splashdives.

Its loud like a bomb going off. The water splashes up 20 feet.

I stand straight and let myself fall either forward or backward, down into the water, hitting it flat and these two walls of water erupt skyward to my sides as I fall into a deep water hole that smacks shut with a loud bang

I'm as big as a sumo wrestler.
I'm barely more dressed as one.
I make epic splashdives.

What do you think?

People love it. They admire it. They emulate it. I get compliments and cheers and not of the sorry sort but of the -holy fuck wow- variety. Women and girls hit on me. The lifeguards told me that the mood in the whole pool picks up when I'm there and security told me that I ease their shift because the inevitable pool machos get outdone by a feat they can't overbid. Its a remarkable process, it affects everybody.

CONFIDENCE ATTRACTS.

If I didnt throw myself resolutely into the fire but selfconsciously tried to blend in the shadows, a lot of people would think of me as a fat fuck and maybe even a creep, as per society dictate, which doesnt look kindly on the obese. They'd see my obesity and my shyness and it would be negative. Now that I throw myself in headfirst though, what stands out is my courage and perseverence and my big body just highlights that.

Courage from humility - people appreciate that.

People are all selfconscious about their wrinkle or freckle or bit of flab and in walks a sumosized dude who throws thunder, clearly has a great time, yet is kind and is a public favorite. They ask themzselves why the f their little prob holds them back while I made my big prob into a strength and have lots of fun. They feel better about themselves and I originate that.

Just like there are negative spirals there are positive self reenforcing spirals.

Its a hoot.

Psychedelics taught me to defeat my fear and hesitance with, faith, hope and love and plain ole COURAGE and confidence and a party ensues for all involved.

Oh, social phobia and body dysmorphic? GONE, no SSRI's or therapies.

Like the Qu'ran says, if you righteously throw yourself in the fire, the fire will cool to let you pass through unharmed.  Like the Bible says: WALK ON WATER!

The Universe REWARDS Courage.

It has to be from humility though, not haughtiness.

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Asante said:

The Universe REWARDS Courage.

It has to be from humility though, not haughtiness.

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spirit_shadow said:

sorry but I have to chime in, you are a beautiful person asante. you and some others on this site truly inspire me. In the realest way. You can do anything if you set your mind to it. just like I tell my girlfriend(who also has a form of body dysmorphia) that all you need is to focus on yourself then all the good people in your life(dont even think about the negative people). do not get discouraged. You have people who support you no matter what <3

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Morel Guy said:

If your intelligent enough you realize that sex is about nutting for a guy.  There's the theory of tantric, which seems off topic.

Tantra doesn't happen very often.  At least for me.  I just cannot handle a lot of stress and anything all too different is a lot of stress.  Perhaps one day I'll be numb enough in all the places that hurt, that I'll be able to feel again.  Which is a sincere hope of mine.

But if you are really intelligent, you won't need to have to do much with others.  Sex is a human need, because we lack tools.  We lack mental devices to deal with our nature.

That's why I'm not against porn.  But as far as relationships with other human beings and females I feel a bit uncomfortable about it.  It seems that sex is a shallow thing with deep needs and lasting impact.  Seems difficult to find someone that is going to put up with my complex mentality.

I just cannot be normal without busting a nut from time to time.  Having a woman control me seems like the thing I've been trying to get away from since day 1.

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Ulfrick said:

depends for me. for more casual "every day" style sex, I'd rather quick and efficient, especially with a partner you know so intimately that you both know what buttons to push to send the other over the edge. mostly cuz who the fuck has time for 2+ hour marathons on a regular basis.

now with a new partner where you are still both exploring each other. or for special occasions where you want to make it a treat for both... awww yeah, lets go for hours.

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Morel Guy said:

That is nice.  Pay it forward.  Go out and get a drink or a burger and leave a tip.

The lady probably thought you were helping her.  What was the free item?  Cause moving sucks!

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