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girlfriend problems
#25559487 - 10/23/18 12:40 AM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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my girlfriend never wants to have sex with me and it makes me upset because she always talks about how much she loves sex when referencing the times when she had sex with the other human beings. whenever the idea of sex comes into conversation she makes the excuse of being too tired or stressed to engage in such activities. However she frequently brings up stories of times in which she's engaged in sexual activities and enjoyed it with previous partners from her past history. it seems as though during the times when she's not with me she has enjoyed having sex with the other humans but she does not express any joy when referring to the times in which she had sex with me. it has been over a month since we had sex and she has never spoken favorably of it since or expressed any interest in having more sex with me since.
my girlfriend never shows any signs of attraction towards me sexually and when she does it is only in an ironic or satirical manner. whenever she refers to sex favorably it is in reference to other times in which she was with other more sexually attractive partners.
my girlfriend enjoys receiving pleasure from me (such as when i give her massages or scratch her back and caress her until she falls asleep) and has become accustomed to receiving pleasure from me so often that she now behaves unfavorably during times in which she does not receive said pleasure. she does not ever consider offering me pleasure during any occasion and it does not even cross her mind. When I bring up the fact that she does not offer me anything in return she responds in anger and frustration.
My girlfriend (jokingly) brings up the idea of wanting to cuck me with a more sexually attractive male and I (jokingly) say that is okay as I will do the same to her and also find another more sexually attractive female to cuck her with. she then becomes very angry at me and tells me that i am not allowed to have any females in my life that are sexually attractive to me and then accuses me of being a pervert.
i am considering dumping my girlfriend for someone who finds me more attractive emotionally physically and mentally as she has grown bored and accustomed to my personality and presence. my girlfriend does not find me attractive in any of those ways and i believe this has something to do with the fact that we share the same living space and identify as each other's communal spouse. i think i would be better off finding someone who is more open minded and considers alternative viewpoints apart from their own from time to time.
any thoughts?
Edited by Anonymous (10/23/18 01:32 AM)
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koraks
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Run.
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pineninja
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Re: girlfriend problems [Re: koraks] 1
#25559510 - 10/23/18 01:07 AM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: Run.
Sounds like you're being used for her kicks.
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split_by_nine
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Re: girlfriend problems [Re: pineninja]
#25559517 - 10/23/18 01:17 AM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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dude.. that lady is a fraud.. things will get worse. mark my words
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pineninja
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Truth is you already know the answer OP. Go with your gut and heart not with your penis.
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Re: girlfriend problems [Re: koraks] 1
#25559536 - 10/23/18 01:38 AM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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I feel you deserve better. Youre a prize treat yourself like one
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Anonymous #1
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thing is we were kinda together for a bit a couple years ago and she used to be really attracted to me like 2 years ago. but i was a drunk asshole piece of shit back then and i pushed her away. she then met another man who was more sexually attractive and got into a relationship with them for about a year that was very sexual.
i ended up moving out of state and she ignored me for 6 months and i ended up moving on and working on myself and improving myself and then her new guy broke up with her and then she relapsed on heroin and became anorexic and started threatening suicide.
she gets back in touch with me and said that shes gonna kill herself if she can't have me back and so i tell her she can come live with me since she was in a really bad place and i still cared about her and was able to offer her a place to stay where she could be safe and get clean.
now i'm not really sure what to do because she's back in my life again and she thinks we're gonna get married and stuff and i don't really want to even though i proposed to her because she kept badgering me about it but i also don't want her to kill herself so i just really don't know what to do in this situation.
i really just hate feeling like i owe people something but in a way i also feel like i do owe this person something because i was a drunk asshole to them during a time when we both loved eachother but now i feel like we don't really love eachother and i'm just trying to make up for what a drunk piece of shit i was and it's costing me all of my life plans and goals and everything i'm getting sidetracked with my life and now i'm relapsing on alcohol so i'm not really sure what to do now
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pineninja
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I'll caveat this first up by saying I know nothing of your relationship but what I've just read, you know better than anybody right now.
But.
She's using you. You were not born obligated. It's one thing to help someone in a time of need. It's another to be emotionally blackmailed.
I think you need to hear this... I'm sorry if you dont.
You can help someone and not be in a relationship.
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Brother, i promise i have been in similar but obviously not the same situation, please you can not take care of anyone until you can take care of yourself. You have needs and deserve to be happy. You sound so genuine and i promise if you take care of yourself things will workout. And u think that may mean helping her find her own place. But do not live your life for someone else. You deserve to be happy by whatever means
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The other human beings were probably just better at sex than you
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GTFO. The old ill kill myself routine sucks. But, and i hate to say this, she doesnt really love so she wont end herself over you. You became to nice and youve been taken for granted. It happens, plenty fish and all that.
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Recently had my own relationship fall apart cuz of similar reasons. Really played into a lot of my insecurities about not being physically up to snuff for this world but life goes on. If you focus on yourself and try to focus on your good qualities youll find someone new. Just make sure you clearly communicate what you want with them from the get go
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Re: girlfriend problems [Re: koraks]
#25560900 - 10/23/18 05:11 PM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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koraks said: Run.
Yep. I know it's all fucked up and it hurts OP, but you need to put yourself first.
The fact that you don't is probably why she's lost respect for you.
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just stop talking to her. when she calls you and asks whats up tell her you dont want to be in a relationship anymore.
then go hang out with some friends or something and forget about her until you find a new chick.
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Re: girlfriend problems [Re: ManianFH]
#25562188 - 10/24/18 02:37 AM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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Stop being the bitch. I say that with love brother. Fuck her like you mean it and/ or leave her.
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Re: girlfriend problems [Re: Cody2C]
#25564959 - 10/24/18 10:42 PM (5 years, 5 months ago) |
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Dude read that to yourself. She fucked someone else, became a fucking heroin addict, lost her man (what self respecting man would choose to take on life with a relapsed addict. Absolutely no potential for growth if you can't handle your own health) and then came back to you for care while she's down. This isn't an attack on you, this is judgement.
You can fix yourself, but not with her around.
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split_by_nine
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i know it seems like the girl is a problem but she is still a human person and deserves to be happy and healthy. i hope the girl and OP can find solace after these hard times.
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you should find a woman who wants to tear your clothes off when you walk though the door. Passion is important, probably one of the most important if not the most important thing in a relationship. I say leave. Life is too short to waste on someone who cant show proper attention and affection.
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1. Heroin 2. Threatened to kill self 3. Came running back to what she feels is the sub par option in her life
Well i know what the common sense answer is... And why she doesn't want to bone you. You're a pushover
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Seriously bro, i dont wanna hurt your feelings, but find some self respect. If a girlnod mine ever compared our sex to sex she'd had with other men she'd be out th door before she finished speaking. Yeah id miss her, probably even consider ringing her again when i felt alone, which we all do, but talking like that to your current partner is deeply offensive and a certain finisher. Women are everywhere bro. Go find one and learn to enjoy the chase. Cheap and cheesy one liners which make them laugh are a winner. Good luck bro
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