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Roflspammer
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How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks
#25219694 - 05/21/18 09:44 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Just let me know how you get it going. I'm on a level where I just want to see which one of my friends that are girls want to bang as well. Seems strange just throwing it down-- usually I'm smooth as fuck but this is kind of hard to do because I also have to set the rules, which means acknowledging what I'm trying to do. Usually I just let things happen naturally, but I no longer have the patience for that. Let me know your tips and tricks
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer]
#25219711 - 05/21/18 09:52 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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I've always wondered this because people often bang people they used to be friends with but I've always been really worried that if a female friend of mine knew I wanted to bang her, she would never feel the same hanging out with me again. It could make things so awkward that she might not want to be friends anymore if she knew I wanted to have sex with her.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: triphead9428] 4
#25220544 - 05/22/18 10:20 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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look for the female friend who is less emotional - one who is a bit more matter of fact. then start hanging out with her a bit more and shell probably put it together that youre interested. if/when you guys hook up, let her know where you stand with relationships - youre into more of a friends with benefits thing - with or without monogamy based on what you guys agree with. you can try talking about it before you hook up, like if it comes naturally, but i feel like all my conversations of that nature always happened after sex.
definitely dont string her along though. let her know where you stand so she can decide what she wants to do and not be wondering where the relationship is. everyone deserves the truth, and women respect a guy who can speak it.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: ManianFH] 1
#25220624 - 05/22/18 11:11 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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mick said: everyone deserves the truth, and women respect a guy who can speak it.
That's some truth right there!!
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: ManianFH] 1
#25221361 - 05/22/18 05:33 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Also, be nice but always have an "edgy" side, like a naughty badboy whos also cool to hang out with. Mix regular jokes with sexual jokes.
And i should mention some of the emotional driven girls like this kind of stuff. They like the drama of it, and the excitment. Just in my experience with carefully observing my guy friends female friends.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
#25221918 - 05/22/18 10:30 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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LogicaL Chaos said:
Also, be nice but always have an "edgy" side, like a naughty badboy whos also cool to hang out with. Mix regular jokes with sexual jokes.
And i should mention some of the emotional driven girls like this kind of stuff. They like the drama of it, and the excitment. Just in my experience with carefully observing my guy friends female friends.
No problem with that here.
"You're such an asshole I fucking love it." "You're such an asshole I fucking hate you."
My issue is with the clarifying my intentions. For some reason I hate that-- and for some reason its been working out for me but I also know it's not the best thing to do.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer]
#25222885 - 05/23/18 11:04 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Roflspammer said: Just let me know how you get it going. I'm on a level where I just want to see which one of my friends that are girls want to bang as well. Seems strange just throwing it down-- usually I'm smooth as fuck but this is kind of hard to do because I also have to set the rules, which means acknowledging what I'm trying to do. Usually I just let things happen naturally, but I no longer have the patience for that. Let me know your tips and tricks
In my experience you go on a date or two, or three and then you say "Listen, I don't feel it this will go anywhere, but I'm open for some fun wink wink". They will understand and they will be honest. Be honest, be direct, be confident.
That's pretty much it.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer] 1
#25222906 - 05/23/18 11:15 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Being honest about your intentions is always the best way to go with any relationship. That way u dont mislead them in any major way.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer] 1
#25224205 - 05/23/18 09:13 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Honesty and being up front is definitely key. Neither party should end up feeling used, at least not in the bad way , when it comes to an end, and eventually it will come to an end.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: mndfreeze]
#25224363 - 05/23/18 10:43 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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if it hasn't happened already its not going to happen unless you run into some money or something
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Konyap] 1
#25230702 - 05/26/18 09:24 PM (5 years, 9 months ago) |
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I usually just whip out my dick, but that is because it is 2.5 feet long.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Patlal]
#25230802 - 05/26/18 10:30 PM (5 years, 9 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
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Roflspammer said: Just let me know how you get it going. I'm on a level where I just want to see which one of my friends that are girls want to bang as well. Seems strange just throwing it down-- usually I'm smooth as fuck but this is kind of hard to do because I also have to set the rules, which means acknowledging what I'm trying to do. Usually I just let things happen naturally, but I no longer have the patience for that. Let me know your tips and tricks
In my experience you go on a date or two, or three and then you say "Listen, I don't feel it this will go anywhere, but I'm open for some fun wink wink". They will understand and they will be honest. Be honest, be direct, be confident.
That's pretty much it.
Yeah you don't try to be the with your friends. You make New friends to bang.
Guys complain about the friend zone but they usually out themselves there by not being upfront at the start and not respecting boundaries when they're established. That's not to say more can't come from friendship but it doesn't work out that way as often. More often you lose a level of trust that way.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#25283964 - 06/21/18 06:47 PM (5 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25290312 - 06/25/18 03:21 AM (5 years, 8 months ago) |
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Got lucky to say the least. I knew one of my best friends for years. Well a decade. She posted on the face that she wanted a cuddle buddie. I stole my ma's car and came to her house. We played Mario Kart on the wii and had a great time. God I'm so in love with that girl it drives me nuts. Worst lay i've laid down
Gpd damn she is gorgeous.
Once and only time.
I'd want to love and date her.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer]
#25291272 - 06/25/18 04:30 PM (5 years, 8 months ago) |
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There's always pick up artist techniques. NLP, real social dynamics, shit like that.
The first step is destroy the concept of the 'friend zone' in your mind. Don't say it, just show it in attitude.
I'd suggest staying away from current female friends, but there might already be one that is down, you just never picked up her ques. Start listening a little closer.
I'd suggest go to bars or other social atmospheres and make 'friends'. If you do this part successfully, make sure to casually introduce your new 'friend' to your current circle of girls that are friends. They will take notice of your 'friend'. It's in girls nature to get jealous(chances are they have been been playing this same game with you). You'll notice a strange attitude towards you. A lot of sexual innuendos will come up when they interact with you. Take it from there.
A word of warning, this path will lead to drama and heartache. You will be known as a whore and you will be treated as such. They will pass you around like a joint. It's not the best feeling in the world, but that will be your reality.
If you can own it without to much of the human condition shining through, sex will become quite regular.
Hope this helps. Good luck. Have fun!
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer]
#25291290 - 06/25/18 04:41 PM (5 years, 8 months ago) |
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Roflspammer said: Just let me know how you get it going. I'm on a level where I just want to see which one of my friends that are girls want to bang as well. Seems strange just throwing it down-- usually I'm smooth as fuck but this is kind of hard to do because I also have to set the rules, which means acknowledging what I'm trying to do. Usually I just let things happen naturally, but I no longer have the patience for that. Let me know your tips and tricks
It's all about pulling out your dick out at the right time.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Patlal] 2
#25291408 - 06/25/18 05:32 PM (5 years, 8 months ago) |
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Sometimes it's just easier to be friends man.
They are gorgeous though. Hooking up means you'll probably just lose them. Happened to me a ton of times.
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Enjoywho]
#25443652 - 09/07/18 08:45 PM (5 years, 6 months ago) |
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Tip/trick: I let me dick think for a minute results: success
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Re: How do you get the ball rolling on a friend's with benefits setup? Tips/tricks [Re: Roflspammer]
#25444783 - 09/08/18 09:36 AM (5 years, 6 months ago) |
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Don't lay down good pipe.
I find I get 3 freebies before they fall in love and shit.
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