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OfflineTimeTraveler
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Ending a Spiritual Relationship...
    #2526892 - 04/05/04 10:40 AM (13 years, 1 month ago)

So I've been dating this girl for about 8 months now, and for most of the relationship we have had a pretty strong connection. We share the same interests, we share the same spiritual viewpoints and we often find eachother finishing one another's sentences.
About 2 months ago she decided that she didnt want to be tied down in a relationship, so she broke up with me for about a week until she figured that the relationship is what she did indeed want, so we got back together. Ever since this breakup, I have been confused and reading all sorts of "signs" that tell me that maybe she really did want to break up. I am thinking that maybe i'm just paranoid because of the breakup, But i'm really not sure. I have confronted her once since then and asked her if it is what she really wanted, and if it wasnt then we should call it quits. So if i keep seeing these "signs" what should I do? Ignore them and try to continue the relationship? Confront her again and risk making a big deal of an issue that (possibly) doesnt exist? Any reply would be appreciated, this has really been bothering me to the point that the issue consumes my thoughts for days on end, and I feel I need some insight from as many people as possible to help me resolve this inner conflict. Thank you for reading.


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: TimeTraveler]
    #2527585 - 04/05/04 02:53 PM (13 years, 1 month ago)

What kind of signs? Thats really what it all depends on. Then I could try and tell you if your just paranoid, or if its real.


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: TimeTraveler]
    #2527668 - 04/05/04 03:08 PM (13 years, 1 month ago)

Yeah, I think the problem here is that you keep using the word "confront".
This and any significant relationship should be about open communication and trust.
It does sound like you care for her --- someone who didn't really care wouldn't even ask -- but it's not Ignore Or Confront. It's all - always - a process.
Be good to yourself and her.


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: TimeTraveler]
    #2527935 - 04/05/04 04:08 PM (13 years, 1 month ago)

Mm...what sort of signs is she displaying, if you don't mind?


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: MOTH]
    #2531111 - 04/06/04 12:42 PM (13 years, 1 month ago)

"Mm...what sort of signs is she displaying, if you don't mind?"

Well, Its really hard to explain. When we hang out, I just sense that sometimes she says things just to make me happy, like she says what I want to hear. Senses can be decieving though...

Valour: Good advice, thank you. I get so caught up in feeling like I'm losing her that I forget the essence of the relationship, which in my opinion is just sharing one another's time and company and enjoying our time together. Maybe it's me who is causing her to react in a way that I percieve as "off"? I have no idea,

But since I wrote this I have calmed down a lot about it, and had a talk with her and came to a few realizations, but feel free to keep the advice coming, I trust you guys. I really appreciate your responses, this forum is great.

Peace.


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: TimeTraveler]
    #2533565 - 04/07/04 01:36 AM (13 years, 1 month ago)

tell her your pregnant. she'll sit there like, "what the fuck are you talking about" then you say, "what?" and flop around on the floor like a fish out of water while urinating.

now, she'll think your going crazy and thats when you got her right where you want her.......while shes looking at you with that stunned, surprised, and scared look on her face, quick sucker-punch her on the lip.

dude, i swear to god she'll be cool then


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: TimeTraveler]
    #2533864 - 04/07/04 05:10 AM (13 years, 1 month ago)

If something is on your mind, you should express it. You don't have time to find out whether it is benign or malignant.


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Re: Ending a Spiritual Relationship... [Re: TimeTraveler]
    #2535656 - 04/07/04 04:46 PM (13 years, 1 month ago)

i think your very self-conscious and prolly over paranoid.
only you can help yourself, take control, talk to her about it.


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