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kintos
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: dr_gonz]
#5809220 - 07/01/06 09:29 AM (17 years, 8 months ago) |
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i have to admit i had a little bit of social anxiety and depression back in my early years in highschool there were times when i would get panic attacks, i eventually got over it by forcing myself to be social, i ended up gettng a job at a theme park where im around people all day and i pretty much have to be social but i never had symptoms as bad as you describe, try talking to your doctor
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: eligal]
#8180137 - 03/22/08 03:09 PM (16 years, 14 hours ago) |
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makaveli8x8 said: what you need to do is for one day and one day only do the EXACT OPPOSITE as you normally would.
it won't kill you dude. realize you have one life and only one life.
this life of yours has no bearing on others unless you allow it.
this is your life.
your life.
live it how you want to.
those people at the mall, they see you and forgot about you the second you disapear.
After you read this. I want you. TO go to the mall. And walk up to any bad bitch and talk to her. Just start talkin about any weird hobbies you have i don't care just talk, and keep talking about anything like your a fruckin crazy man who don't care about shit...you know them old people who just walk up to you and start talking...thats gunna be you for a whole day....
i just want you to walk up to hot bitches at the mall all day long and just talk to them like some old guy ok...don't hit on them or anything just try to carry on a converstation about anything that is interesting to YOU....pretend your talking to someone who cares about the same hobbies as you pretend EVERYONE IS YOUR BEST BEST BEST BEST FRIEND.
because they can be if you want them to be and who better to be your friend than some hot bitch who will ask you if you want frys with your shake??
but dude.....you have to TRY. or you will DIE a sad sad man. you could be walking home every single night smelling like you just won the bass tournament and might even have a few trophys to proof it.
i second this guy.
I recomend eating some MDMA. and i'll take some fryz with my shake please.
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: Felinor]
#8184195 - 03/23/08 06:26 PM (15 years, 11 months ago) |
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anxiety for me comes and goes
sometimes I feel great walking through a big crowd, or even being at the head of a room with a bunch of people staring at me
sometimes when I'm walking out in the park, my whole body will seize up when I cross paths with another person
sometimes talking at school and to strangers feels fluid and loose and enjoyable, and other times I feel out of place, and words are as heavy as anchors in my throat
I've gone through phases of severe social anxiety to periods of no conscious anxiety at all
In highschool I was scared to death of social situations, really petrified. I had no friends and I felt weak and fragile, like I would shatter if someone were to laugh at me or something.
In my late teens I was letting myself go. I remember a few adventurous nights where I felt like I was looking at myself, 'who I was', for the first time. And after that I've always had this solid feeling in me that everything is okay, that I like myself, even though life can hurt.
Anyways, coming out of that experience I found myself with a handful of good friends, and a beautiful girl. Those couple years were like one long summer of just hanging out, getting high, going to the ocean, playing music, and making love with my girl. I wish things could have stayed that way but life picked me up and shook me around again.
I realized I need money to live.. my mom wasn't going to support me. Had to start working. Forced out of my comfort zone. I got insecure again. It's funny how that feeling of 'highschool' comes back in waves.
I guess Im sort of in that phase again... The world is big again and I don't know where I fit. I guess I feel like the past decade of huge ups and downs have left me numb. Maybe I'm stabalizing I dont know.. I definately feel more calm, collected, and thoughtful about my well-being than ever before, but also disconnected from others, like people on the street have nothing to offer me anymore, where I remember always being curious of them.
wow I'm fucking rambling. what was this post about again
oh yea. STAY OUTTA MY BOOZE
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: Grav]
#9150413 - 10/28/08 07:34 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Grav said:
I found myself with a handful of good friends, and a beautiful girl. Those couple years were like one long summer of just hanging out, getting high, going to the ocean, playing music, and making love with my girl. I wish things could have stayed that way but life picked me up and shook me around again.
I realized I need money to live.. my mom wasn't going to support me. Had to start working. Forced out of my comfort zone. I got insecure again. It's funny how that feeling of 'highschool' comes back in waves.
I guess Im sort of in that phase again... The world is big again and I don't know where I fit. I guess I feel like the past decade of huge ups and downs have left me numb. Maybe I'm stabalizing I dont know.. I definately feel more calm, collected, and thoughtful about my well-being than ever before, but also disconnected from others
Wow this is strange because I've gone through exactly the same things
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J3illy
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: DoctorJ]
#9162927 - 10/31/08 03:56 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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DoctorJ said: I used to get this a lot. Its a sign of telepathic ability.
Your psychic abilities are so powerful that they are difficult to control.
Thats why being psychic sucks; you can hear all the negative shit these people are thinking about you. Kind of makes you want to lock yourself indoors and ball up in a corner, doesn't it?
Dude if you really believe this, you are schizophrenic..
And to the OP - you honestly need to go see a Dr. and get on some medication..
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: AA2277]
#10696185 - 07/17/09 07:19 PM (14 years, 8 months ago) |
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I am amazed by all the helpful responses in this thread! I have had social anxiety all my life, and I know nothing is going to change unless I try to change it, it isn't going to change itself, and it isn't something that changes over night either, and from experience I know it's hard, and it's going to be hard to get over my social anxiety but in no means is it impossible. Psychedelics have helped expand my mind, but in no way should marijuana and psychedelics and especially ALCOHOL be used as a crutch. I agree with the eating healthy and exercising tips, feeling healthy physically is a large part of feeling good, accept you are who you are and make the best of it, you only live life once, the time has come for us to stop giving so much a shit what people think about us, fear of being judged is fear and unacceptance of yourself, it's all you, and it's going to take all you to overcome your fears. If you are using drugs or alcohol as a crutch, STOP. It isn't going to help you, you can get all doped and alcoholed up and go out and socialize with people and maybe have a satisfying night but that is only going to make you rely on it more. Approaching this with a sober mind state is the best way, I'm sure if you relax and go out to a place and start conversating with someone and open yourself up a bit you will feel good about yourself and you might even gain a new friend and some good times up the road, and that is a step in the right direction. But believe me I suffer my social anxiety and depression, and I know it's not easy, well actually I should stop saying that, because it's easier then we think, what is easy and hard those words are especially used by people with social anxiety and linked depression because of motivational problems associated with it, getting over social anxiety and depression those words should completely removed from the dictionary IMO.
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: J3illy]
#10718485 - 07/21/09 11:57 PM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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J3illy said:
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DoctorJ said: I used to get this a lot. Its a sign of telepathic ability.
Your psychic abilities are so powerful that they are difficult to control.
Thats why being psychic sucks; you can hear all the negative shit these people are thinking about you. Kind of makes you want to lock yourself indoors and ball up in a corner, doesn't it?
Dude if you really believe this, you are schizophrenic..
And to the OP - you honestly need to go see a Dr. and get on some medication..
I don't think it's psychic ability. It's more a heightened awareness of other people's expressions and vibe. It's a normal mind process that everyone has but some people are too conscious of it. Instead of conversing with people you are constantly reading them.
I have had social anxiety for most of my life. I recently began using Wellbutrin and it definitely makes me more socially comfortable and outgoing. I really don't give a fuck about what anyone thinks anymore.
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The best thing is to take a multi-pronged approach. Get enough exercise, eat a good diet, avoid junk food and sugar, take a multivitamin and perhaps other supplements too and find activities. Sitting around by yourself is not going to help. Getting out and becoming involved in things that include other people will help.
As for drugs, pot doesn't seem to help with that but phenibut is good for occasional social anxiety. But you can't take it every day or very often or the effect wear off and you become dependent on it. Things that may help and don't produce dependence include inositol, l theanine, and a few other things. Fish oil helps many people in the long run but you have to take it a while. It's not take it tonight and feel it tomorrow.
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edit: on second thought, people who posted before me had good advice
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Wow! I totally understand what you mean there. I just did a post about anxiety then saw this one.
I don't converse with people, but read their facial expressions all the time. You say Mushrooms caused this, and this is what I've started to believe. Is there anyway to make this way of seeing things go away? maybe it would be handy to have them if I was a psychiatrist or whatever, but normal day life it starts to get very annoying.
I was thinking of maybe trying a mushroom trip again, either on my own or with a friend I'm comfortable with, which is quite rare so probably on my own (never done that before) in an attempt to change the way I see things...
What did you do to start thinking 'I don't care what people think of me' or whatever. As I say I don't care, but I think I actually really do. I more or less don't want people to find out I have anxiety and other 'mental' problems.
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social anxiety disorder blows... I can relate... unfortunately.
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: AA2277]
#10726241 - 07/23/09 10:30 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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i know how you feel. I get anxiety bad, I cant even talk on the phone. whenever I have to call someone my heart starts racing and mind blanks out. when im in public I always feel like im being watched. even when im in my room alone, I have the curtens drawn. when ever im caught off guard by someone asking a question in public I get real nervous and my heart races, sometime It gets to where I dont realize im twitching my fingers or bobbing my head up and down. I look like ive got epilepsy or some shit. Ive lost alot of chances with women because of my anxiety attacks. I rarely go out in public anymore, and when I do ive got a pear that goes with me. it eases my nerves having someone ive known for years talking with me in public. even when people look at me, I get real nervous and look a way or stand there. and when im standing there my neck gets real jerky and im always taping my fingers together in my pockets. dont get me started with women, if I like a girl I get real nervous and anxious, and that mixed with being shy and anxiety attacks.
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I found what helped me was instead of 'caring' what others people think of me, was to take the approach and 'tell' them what to think of me. I achieve these results by controlling myself from the clothes that I wear, my haircut, the way that I carry myself, the way that i speak, and the way that I am. I am mostly conscious of all these things.
Instead of just being an unrefined unpolished and awkward version of myself and afraid of how I will be perceived, I bring my inner-self into an exterior representation of how I want others to perceive me. So it's a mix of who I am deep down inside, with a 'scoailly' compatible version of me that can function nicely in almost all social situations.
By learning how to do this, I am able to speak whats on my mind, as long as I deliver it properly, with the right tone of voice, speed, and intention. All of these things, I am conscious of for the most part.
So what exactly is the purpose of controlling these things? You are able, for the most part, to be in control of what people are going to be receiving from you. What exactly they perceive from you is another question, BUT, you are able to reduce the discrepancies between what you want people to see in you, and what they actually do. Alot of times, I deliver myself a certain way that I want to, and I get great results from it. Almost as if the people that are listening to me, and perceiving me exactly as I had planned it. Diabolical, yes.
I have made great relationships because of this and have impressed many people. Usually older people receive me very well. My best friend is 35 years old and I am only 22. Before this, I did not how to put sentences together confidently enough. So I just never spoke. I used to be fucking quiet man.
That was in the past. This is now. And I am all about talking.
Make any sense?
The goal here is to be in control of yourself and your character. If you are afraid of what people think, it is because you are not in control of your mind, and if your not in control of your mind how are you going to be in control of your character?
You just have to mature to a point where you are in control of how you carry yourself and speak to others instead of just living by default and being afraid.
Start to imagine HOW you want people to perceive you, how you want to look and sound to others, and start executing.
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: AA2277]
#25213967 - 05/19/18 05:06 AM (5 years, 9 months ago) |
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Hi! I've read recently that some substances that have been considered as dangerous or even narcotic ones can help treating mental disorders. Let's take hemp for example. All teenagers know that marijuana is dangerous but if we take hemp oil, it turns out that it can be used as medication https://cbdreamers.com/cbd-oil-for-anxiety-and-depression to treat anxiety and depression. I wonder how it works and if there is curing effect at all. What do you think?
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Re: Social Anxiety [Re: Joisnut]
#25215859 - 05/20/18 04:55 AM (5 years, 9 months ago) |
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I hope you’re okay dude. I care about you and wish you all the best in facing such an overwhelming challenge. It must feel like utter hell. I can’t imagine how lonely you would feel. Just know that at least one person out there in this world cares about you and doesn’t think that you are abnormal. You’ve just been given an overwhelming challenge, and I’m sure it will take everything you’ve got to find a way out. Maybe try seeking help from other people who have had similar experiences.
Lots of love ❤️
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