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Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me
    #25189736 - 05/07/18 02:11 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Long story short, i was dating someone and the sex started consensually. We agreed to withdraw, i was big on condoms at the time and didnt have one at the moment. "You don't have a condom? That's ok, i dont care"

So she was on top of me and i said i was about to come and tried to get out from under her and i said no, and she pinned me to the bed and forced me to come inside her. We now have a kid and she didn't want the nuclear thing and has made it impossible to see my kid. I'm sick of the abuse. I am being defamed on instagram and i know i am in for 20 more years of bullshit when this paternity case finally starts to flow in the courts. She needs to answer for what she did. I was fine not saying anything until the pregnancy came up and i've only recently been able to put my feeings aside to some degree and make the report.

She knew i grew mushrooms, i have no equip anymore nor did i ever show here anything in fruiting. even if she saw something like the tubs, all it was was mycelium. I could say that was oyster mushrooms easily. I'm worried about that and her further defiling my name by making up that i tried to abuse her in retaliation for me coming forward. At best, nothing happens and i just piss her off more, and fuck myself in this paternity case.

It is not right what she has done to me in all of this and i really just want my rights as a father now, that's all i care about. And if it turns out the child is not mine (unlikely) then i can just drop everythinng and leave it all behind.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404] * 1
    #25189747 - 05/07/18 02:14 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I made an appointment to talk to an advocacy center for assault victims on tuesday of next week. They will be able to tell me more as well.

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    #25189794 - 05/07/18 02:35 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: EastBayRay]
    #25189799 - 05/07/18 02:37 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

It's definitely not a troll.... and i know it's going to be hrd to prove. But i shouldn't just let her do all of this shit to me right? I should at least stand up for myself right?

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    #25189842 - 05/07/18 02:58 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: EastBayRay] * 1
    #25189844 - 05/07/18 03:00 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I will definitely tell my child the truth when it comes to it.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404]
    #25189895 - 05/07/18 03:33 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I dont think it would be too little or too late if it's true.  Some cases of abuse dont get reported for multiple years, and you not immediately reporting it does't make the act right. I have friends who have dealt with a similar situation, as have I but the girl miscarried.  Luckily the ones I know documented everything that happened and also told the judges and proper people all the bullshit the female was doing.  It;s really tough for the guy in these cases, but I have see the outcomes when perseverance and diligence is applied.

Women that give a man no say in conception will most likely pull out any and all tricks, so be prepared to answer any allegations she will throw your way.  Mushrooms in your past are irrelevant, but she might try to paint you darker to the courts.  Good luck.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #25189908 - 05/07/18 03:39 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

That’s fucked up. I’m here for moral support


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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Citizen X]
    #25190021 - 05/07/18 04:45 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

People are telling me i can't fight it. I think they're right

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404]
    #25190045 - 05/07/18 05:05 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

At least talk to those ppl that may be able to? You were forced


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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Citizen X]
    #25190068 - 05/07/18 05:23 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

What's it going to help? Who us going to fight this?

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404]
    #25190094 - 05/07/18 05:40 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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I made an appointment to talk to an advocacy center for assault victims on tuesday of next week. They will be able to tell me more as well.



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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Citizen X]
    #25190098 - 05/07/18 05:43 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Oh yeah i dunno what to expect except access to therapy and hopefully to be calmer and more able to deal with all of this going on. I can't really handle what's going on in my world at the moment.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404]
    #25190116 - 05/07/18 05:54 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I hear you. I wish I had something better to tell you


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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404]
    #25190134 - 05/07/18 06:02 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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What's it going to help? Who us going to fight this?





It's going to help an overall decision that could be made down the road involving custody.  I personally feel if you feel violated and it sounds like she more than violated you, I would have it documented because bitch sounds crazy, and the best defense is a good offense,

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #25190398 - 05/07/18 08:02 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

It says there is an an anonymous post here but i don't see it? I only have one person on ignore, and i don't know how anon posts work into that.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404]
    #25190410 - 05/07/18 08:06 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I thought you could see anon posts from blocked users?  Tell 404 I miss him and I hope he stays strong.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #25190431 - 05/07/18 08:14 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

You are vandago.


I have to talk to sa victim advocacy before i start down this road. I have no legal support at the moment and not one person can really give me a solid answer. There are no clear right answers. All i know is my actions so far since the baby was born were for him, not any pettiness or beef i have had with the mother.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: 404] * 1
    #25190800 - 05/08/18 02:54 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

If she put holes in a condom or something you might have a case, but the 'pull out' method is not even close to being a form of contraception, and it was irresponsible of you to not use proper protection if you weren't prepared to have a child.

So own what you did there and move on.


The next point is that it sounds like pride might be getting in the way of you doing the right things here. Your ex undoubtedly sounds like a dick. However, you need to do everything you can to get on for the childs sake. Even if that means pretending to apologise.

Work on you too man. But do that as a separate project.

I really do wish you the best.

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Re: Worried about reporting somone for sexually assaulting me [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #25190861 - 05/08/18 05:14 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

I know it was irresponsible, i am well aware of it, i'm also aware that it does reduce the chance for pregnancy, by some 80% and that i told her no about something and she did it anyway.
I am not sure pride is getting in the way of anything here at all.

Also, not being prepared or prepared for a child isn't the issue. Our interpersonal relation is the issue here.

I have already tried reahing out from a different number and no dice. So i am likely going to have to fight for my rights in the courts.

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