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EXDIM
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welp.. i found my dream girl, but
#25065758 - 03/15/18 12:52 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Without getting too much into detail, I've known this girl for about two years, but have been talking with her, innocently, no sexual stuff, increasingly over the last few months. And I'm realizing that she is the girl I have wanted my whole life. We connect very deeply on both a mental and spiritual level. Also, I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, but, we're both in relationships.
I don't know what to do, and probably won't do anything, but I just needed to vent about it somewhere. I'm really sad right now.
Edited by EXDIM (03/16/18 09:58 AM)
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ManianFH
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM] 4
#25067581 - 03/16/18 12:05 AM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Do the hard thing man. You might end up alone with no girlfriends, but even then you will have confirmation that neither girl was right for you. Best case scenario you end up with soul mate
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: ManianFH] 3
#25067988 - 03/16/18 06:48 AM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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First things first: you need to talk to your current partner about this, before anything physical happens between you and the other girl. You might think you are avoiding going out on a limb, or sparing her feelings by not talking to her about it, but your relationship stopped being honest the day you realized this and didn't tell her about it.
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basqueshaman
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM]
#25069104 - 03/16/18 03:47 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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EXDIM said: Without getting too much into detail, I've known this girl for about two years, but have been talking with her, innocently, no sexual stuff, increasingly over the last few months. And I'm realizing that she is the girl I have wanted my whole life. We connect very deeply on both a mental and spiritual level. Also, I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, but, we're both in relationships.
I don't know what to do, and probably won't do anything, but I just needed to vent about it somewhere. I'm really sad right now.
Your always going to be in the friend zone, why are you with your girlfriend if you want something else, its kinda sad to fuck someone who you dont want and pine for another. Your going to regret this when all is said and done. I feel bad for your current girlfriend. Oh well she'll find out sooner or later
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keyohnah
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: ManianFH]
#25069180 - 03/16/18 04:26 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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I agree wholeheartedly with mick. I'd end things with your girlfriend now and then go after this other woman.
Even if something seems seemingly impossible, it's worth the risk.
-------------------- "Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story."
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EXDIM
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: basqueshaman]
#25069739 - 03/16/18 09:34 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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basqueshaman said:
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EXDIM said: Without getting too much into detail, I've known this girl for about two years, but have been talking with her, innocently, no sexual stuff, increasingly over the last few months. And I'm realizing that she is the girl I have wanted my whole life. We connect very deeply on both a mental and spiritual level. Also, I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, but, we're both in relationships.
I don't know what to do, and probably won't do anything, but I just needed to vent about it somewhere. I'm really sad right now.
Your always going to be in the friend zone, why are you with your girlfriend if you want something else, its kinda sad to fuck someone who you dont want and pine for another. Your going to regret this when all is said and done. I feel bad for your current girlfriend. Oh well she'll find out sooner or later
Truth be told, we haven't been intimate in months.
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EXDIM
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM]
#25069740 - 03/16/18 09:35 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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I mean, I feel bad too, but I can't help how I feel. The situation is just sad and fucked all around. I realize that. I'm not a bad person though
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mndfreeze 
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM] 3
#25069745 - 03/16/18 09:37 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Just be honest with yourself and your current partner and end it. If you don't want to be with someone you shouldn't be with them, and you definitely shouldn't be sneaky, bury it, or otherwise lie/be dishonest about your feelings to yourself or to others.
The truth will set you free.
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keyohnah
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM] 2
#25069750 - 03/16/18 09:42 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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You definitely aren't a bad person. Feelings change, it happens. Just be upfront and honest about it. If I were with someone who had their feelings change, if they were honest about it then I would respect it. I may be upset if I cared about someone but I'd respect the honesty instead of the insult of being strung along.
It sounds like even if this other woman didn't exist, you wouldn't want to stay with the woman you're with for much longer.
What I will suggest is thinking about whether or not this new woman is a genuine connection or perhaps someone you're using as an excuse to leave something you already wanted to leave.
-------------------- "Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story."
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basqueshaman
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM]
#25070323 - 03/17/18 07:45 AM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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EXDIM said:
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basqueshaman said:
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EXDIM said: Without getting too much into detail, I've known this girl for about two years, but have been talking with her, innocently, no sexual stuff, increasingly over the last few months. And I'm realizing that she is the girl I have wanted my whole life. We connect very deeply on both a mental and spiritual level. Also, I'm pretty sure she feels the same way, but, we're both in relationships.
I don't know what to do, and probably won't do anything, but I just needed to vent about it somewhere. I'm really sad right now.
Your always going to be in the friend zone, why are you with your girlfriend if you want something else, its kinda sad to fuck someone who you dont want and pine for another. Your going to regret this when all is said and done. I feel bad for your current girlfriend. Oh well she'll find out sooner or later
Truth be told, we haven't been intimate in months.
Well deffinantely sounds like its time to make permanent decision,either break things off and go for what you believe is the perfect person for you, or perhaps try and fix whats not working
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: EXDIM] 2
#25070363 - 03/17/18 08:05 AM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Do right by your current partner and set her free, lest you keep building up karmic debt.
It ain't right hanging on when you know it aint right.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#25073294 - 03/18/18 01:47 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Be with you you love!
-------------------- "in sterquiliniis invenitur in stercore invenitur" In filth it will be found in dung it will be found
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EXDIM
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: Morel Guy]
#25073315 - 03/18/18 01:55 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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thanks for the advice, everyone
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#25073515 - 03/18/18 03:29 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: Do right by your current partner and set her free, lest you keep building up karmic debt.
It ain't right hanging on when you know it aint right.
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Re: welp.. i found my dream girl, but [Re: Scott Bennett]
#25075678 - 03/19/18 02:34 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Scott Bennett said:
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Jokeshopbeard said: Do right by your current partner and set her free, lest you keep building up karmic debt.
It ain't right hanging on when you know it aint right.
-------------------- Nothing says love like grannies prolapsed anus! quote]Urb said: I know... Its fucked up... Ill fix it minyana..[/quote]
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