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i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys.
    #25042014 - 03/06/18 02:17 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Only hope can give rise to the emotion we call despair. But it is nearly impossible for a man to try to live without hope, so I guess that leaves Man no choice but to walk around with despair as his companion.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
    #25042018 - 03/06/18 02:22 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Only hope can give rise to the emotion we call despair. But it is nearly impossible for a man to try to live without hope, so I guess that leaves Man no choice but to walk around with despair as his companion.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 5
    #25042028 - 03/06/18 02:43 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Why is that such a big deal, why does it hurt you so? Most "relationships" are basically trading money for sex, dinners for sex, gifts for sex, jewelry for sex etc. This is in my view basically the same thing without pretense. If it is consensual, then what's the problem?

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 7
    #25042039 - 03/06/18 02:53 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: shadyy] * 3
    #25042051 - 03/06/18 03:08 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

So you cut ties because your friend bought a prostitute. That seems totally proportional


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Seriously_trippin] * 8
    #25042053 - 03/06/18 03:10 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Hey man.. what's more important in life.. a friend since you were a kid, or your self-righteous moral judgments on other human's free will? Priorities yo


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Shroomism] * 1
    #25042205 - 03/06/18 06:34 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Hey man.. what's more important in life.. a friend since you were a kid, or your self-righteous moral judgments on other human's free will? Priorities yo





In addition: dude, you do NOT want a few years of a friendless existence, trust me on that. You might get cabin fever and do something stupic like get addicted to opioids or do something desperate like jump off the Golden Gate bridge (which by the way all who survived the fall insisted they INSTANTLY regretted the split second they went over the rail.)


In any case you might want to shop around for some friends of stronger moral fibre.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Asante] * 1
    #25042241 - 03/06/18 06:58 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

are they turning some girl out or is this like jus a natural whore?

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
    #25042257 - 03/06/18 07:09 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I don't have any friends. You'll be goooood.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 2
    #25042271 - 03/06/18 07:18 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

The song you reference in the OP doesn’t say “you’re better off alone”, it asks “do you think you’re better off alone?”  That might sound nitpicky, but those are actually two very different things.  But I guess it’s a moot point.  Maybe you wouldn’t be alone if you stopped cutting ties to lifelong friends over silly stuff.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #25042278 - 03/06/18 07:23 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I dont get why you are willing to throw away solid friendships because they paid a woman for sex...

Grow the fuck up


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Ant89] * 1
    #25042292 - 03/06/18 07:38 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

all the replies here are pretty good

when you put labels on somebody such as "womanizer" or whatever, when you talk to them, you no longer see the person - you just see the mental label you've put on them. try to avoid labelling people. of course, it is your right to cut off friends and you owe them nothing at all.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Ant89] * 1
    #25042315 - 03/06/18 07:57 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I don't think this is black and white. While I don't think simple prostitution is wrong I don't think it's necessarily healthy to want a drug so badly that you'd sell your body for it. I find it likely that the woman in question is allowing her addiction to be used against her and that she probably wouldn't have sex for money generally but I don't know. So, I'd guess the OP's friends are behaving opportunistically.

On the other hand, I agree with the poster who mentioned "dinner for sex." Prostitution occurs on the daily within what is considered socially acceptable. Men shower women with gifts and affection for sex and women use the male sex drive against men to get what they want.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: pndmnm] * 1
    #25042334 - 03/06/18 08:17 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

^ that’s the vibe I was getting from it.  I assumed they were doing it in a more sleazy way than just a simple:

Girlfriend: will you take the trash out hun?
Boyfriend: if you the junk out :derfase:


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Amanita86]
    #25042347 - 03/06/18 08:27 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

You say this shit like they did this girl wrong, did she take the drugs? Yes. Did she put dick in her mouth? Yes.    That’s on her just as much if not more than it is them

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: NOUS333]
    #25042360 - 03/06/18 08:31 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Calm down timmy, I didnt say or put anything on anyone.  I explained how I understood a post, and considering op is cutting ties wouldnt that suggest some sort of sleazy element? 

You say that shit like you have a clue what actually happened..


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Shroomism] * 1
    #25042364 - 03/06/18 08:34 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Hey man.. what's more important in life.. a friend since you were a kid, or your self-righteous moral judgments on other human's free will? Priorities yo




i mean do you realize the psychology involved with someone trading their body for drugs? to multiple people that they either dont know or they barely know? its barely consent in my opinion.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Amanita86]
    #25042372 - 03/06/18 08:38 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Calm down timmy, I didnt say or put anything on anyone.  I explained how I understood a post, and considering op is cutting ties wouldnt that suggest some sort of sleazy element? 

You say that shit like you have a clue what actually happened..



I was talking to the OP, not you.  Thought that would be clear.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #25042374 - 03/06/18 08:40 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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The song you reference in the OP doesn’t say “you’re better off alone”, it asks “do you think you’re better off alone?”  That might sound nitpicky, but those are actually two very different things.  But I guess it’s a moot point.  Maybe you wouldn’t be alone if you stopped cutting ties to lifelong friends over silly stuff.



i know that within the context of the song the implication is that you are NOT better off alone but when i hear the question "do you think youre better off alone?" right now it feels like the answer to that question is yes


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: NOUS333] * 1
    #25042379 - 03/06/18 08:45 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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I was talking to the OP, not you.  Thought that would be clear.



You replied to me, what was I supposed to think? :shrug2:


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 1
    #25042380 - 03/06/18 08:45 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Calm down timmy, I didnt say or put anything on anyone.  I explained how I understood a post, and considering op is cutting ties wouldnt that suggest some sort of sleazy element? 

You say that shit like you have a clue what actually happened..



I was talking to the OP, not you.  Thought that would be clear.



He's probably drunk
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The song you reference in the OP doesn’t say “you’re better off alone”, it asks “do you think you’re better off alone?”  That might sound nitpicky, but those are actually two very different things.  But I guess it’s a moot point.  Maybe you wouldn’t be alone if you stopped cutting ties to lifelong friends over silly stuff.



i know that within the context of the song the implication is that you are NOT better off alone but when i hear the question "do you think youre better off alone?" right now it feels like the answer to that question is yes




With your superiority complex I think it's beneficial for everyone involved that you came to this conclusion. The fact that you even managed to have 2 friends with your high horse soap box bullshit is beyond me.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Malcolm_Xtasy] * 1
    #25042386 - 03/06/18 08:48 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

He replied to me! :crankey:


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
    #25042391 - 03/06/18 08:50 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

It sucks to see people who you thought were your friends do some shit like that. Your an awesome person, and they don't deserve your presence. The right people will eventually come into your life, just keep positive and do what's right. Love you bro :heart:


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: HerbalPotion]
    #25042412 - 03/06/18 08:59 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

i don't understand why you think I'm on my high horse Malcolm_Xtasy. I know that nobody is perfect, That my own shit stinks. Do people say things like this because they have a dead moral compass?


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
    #25042429 - 03/06/18 09:07 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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i don't understand why you think I'm on my high horse Malcolm_Xtasy. I know that nobody is perfect, That my own shit stinks. Do people say things like this because they have a dead moral compass?



I think understanding reality and having a dead moral compass are two different things.

Some women just want drugs and men just want sex sometimes. I don’t see what the big deal is. If you want to talk about morality I think it’s the woman in this situation who’s got the issue. She was willing to allow your friends to do what they did. She asked for it. She could of said no she didn’t because she had no issue with doing it. It’s not a pleasant situation for your mind to comprehend maybe because you’ve never personally been in such a situation so you are just labeling everyone involved morally bankrupt. Well what if they went over your life and situations they’ve never been in and judged you based on what they think is right when they couldn’t possibly understand what was going through your head? I don’t think you’d pass the morality test either.  Everything is relative

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Amanita86]
    #25042445 - 03/06/18 09:14 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

But ARE you drunk? lol.

OP buy some drugs and give it to the woman. Buy your friends some professional prostitutes. Then you did the "right" thing and everybody wins.

Dead moral compass? Is i really that simple?

From one perspective, they wanted something and she wanted something and they traded. Are you upset with them because you think they got the better deal? What's the root of your disappointment with them? I'm seriously asking for details.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: NOUS333]
    #25042459 - 03/06/18 09:19 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I understand the perspective that this is merely a transaction but how do you justify turning it around to say it's the woman in this story that has the issue?

Sorry for the double post.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: pndmnm]
    #25042463 - 03/06/18 09:22 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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I understand the perspective that this is merely a transaction but how do you justify turning it around to say it's the woman in this story that has the issue?

Sorry for the double post.



I don’t think she has any issue at all I’m saying If op is going to place blame to the point of ending friendships, the blame sort of belongs on the woman.  She has the pussy. If it wasn’t for that one element which she is in full control of we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: NOUS333]
    #25042468 - 03/06/18 09:24 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Well that's one way of looking at it....


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    #25042470 - 03/06/18 09:25 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I personally wouldn't disown my friends for acting in such a way.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: NOUS333]
    #25042501 - 03/06/18 09:41 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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I understand the perspective that this is merely a transaction but how do you justify turning it around to say it's the woman in this story that has the issue?

Sorry for the double post.



I don’t think she has any issue at all I’m saying If op is going to place blame to the point of ending friendships, the blame sort of belongs on the woman.  She has the pussy. If it wasn’t for that one element which she is in full control of we wouldn’t be having this conversation.



she's on drugs dewd i bet i could get ur brain so strung on a fix m twisted round that u'd be begging for the wiener.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 4
    #25042507 - 03/06/18 09:45 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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i mean do you realize the psychology involved with someone trading their body for drugs? to multiple people that they either dont know or they barely know? its barely consent in my opinion.




Prostitution is one of the oldest professions in human civilization and if all parties are consenting, then it's really none of your business. But hey, whatever floats your boat man.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 3
    #25042525 - 03/06/18 09:50 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Quit being a cry baby. You should’ve threw down some doses and rain the train

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
    #25042554 - 03/06/18 10:07 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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From one perspective, they wanted something and she wanted something and they traded. Are you upset with them because you think they got the better deal?




Sounds to me like she got the better deal, Sex and drugs while they only got sex.

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i just found out the last 2 friends irl that i had were about to trade a girl drugs for sex. these were my last 2 friends after a decade of trying to "narrow down" my list of peeps into true friends. i just dobt know how to deal. im very lucky in that i have a happy family and wife/son but this truly breaks my heart to no longer have ANY friends at age 27. guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




Your last 2 irl friends and you are ready to disown them? Sounds to me like you need to get your priorities straight. Friendlist existences are not nice friend :hug:

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    #25042571 - 03/06/18 10:13 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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I understand the perspective that this is merely a transaction but how do you justify turning it around to say it's the woman in this story that has the issue?

Sorry for the double post.



I don’t think she has any issue at all I’m saying If op is going to place blame to the point of ending friendships, the blame sort of belongs on the woman.  She has the pussy. If it wasn’t for that one element which she is in full control of we wouldn’t be having this conversation.



she's on drugs dewd i bet i could get ur brain so strung on a fix m twisted round that u'd be begging for the wiener.




She also chose to start doing drugs. 

No excuse.

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Amanita86]
    #25042576 - 03/06/18 10:16 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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He replied to me! :crankey:



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    #25042604 - 03/06/18 10:26 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

well yeah they are some of my last friends but do you really want friends that take advantage of people/situations like this? I think the people that are viewing this as a simple transaction are missing some details here. Someone so twisted off that they are trading their bodies for drugs is in a bad mental state. I think the girl is in her mind at least being given an offer she cant refuse.


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    #25042614 - 03/06/18 10:30 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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well yeah they are some of my last friends but do you really want friends that take advantage of people/situations like this? I think the people that are viewing this as a simple transaction are missing some details here. Someone so twisted off that they are trading their bodies for drugs is in a bad mental state. I think the girl is in her mind at least being given an offer she cant refuse.



I guess I just grew up in an area with a lot of seemingly normal girls that would do this type of shit. Hell. There’s so many times I only got laid because I had weed. Just kind of how people are in my experience. Even if she’s in a bad mental state I still think you are over reacting. Your friends morality is their problem and between them and whatever higher power there may be. You are just a friend. Not their mother

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    #25042628 - 03/06/18 10:34 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

What makes you think people on this website aren't doing the same shit irl?


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    #25042630 - 03/06/18 10:35 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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i just found out the last 2 friends irl that i had were about to trade a girl drugs for sex. these were my last 2 friends after a decade of trying to "narrow down" my list of peeps into true friends. i just dobt know how to deal. im very lucky in that i have a happy family and wife/son but this truly breaks my heart to no longer have ANY friends at age 27. guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




Men tend to lose friends as they get older. Many studies have shown this and it's only increasing because of social media. Every relationship becomes platonic. Old friends move to new cities for work. Some fuck up and you leave, then you fuck up and they leave. Most new male friendship develop through the social life of their wives. Single adult males are very lonely creatures.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/people-lose-friends-at-age-25-study-says-a7043796.html

Try to enjoy your solitude. Be selfish. Do things for yourself by yourself. You'll realize that you'll enjoy that freedom. Sure having someone to talk to is nice, but luckily for you , you have a wife. Perhaps befriend the husbands of you wife's friends?


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    #25042647 - 03/06/18 10:40 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

thanks patial thats actually really halpful. Making new friends at this age feels weird for me


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    #25042654 - 03/06/18 10:41 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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thanks patial thats actually really halpful. Making new friends at this age feels weird for me




Same here. When you're a kid they shove you in a place filled with kids and encourage you to socialize, then you have a history. Total strangers need to be approached and things have to click and all of that. It gets harder.


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    #25042656 - 03/06/18 10:42 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

With a name like ichugwindex i dont even knmow if this is a BS post or not. But ill defend OPs decision.

When youre trying to build a successful life with a wife and child, which in my experience has been fucking difficult - having druggie friends in the mix only drags you down. I dont care so much about the prostitution, but it doesnt help either. I have learned that friends certainly do drag your ass down, or lift you up. when you find the ones that just being around improves your appreciation of life, it is amazing. When you are always dealing with sour, broke ass, prostituting drug addicts - that shit is lame and a waste of your time, and when you have a kid to raise - you have no fucking time.

I have removed myself as far away as possible from my friends who always have a negative story/impact on their life or the lives around them, I still have a lot of awesome friends, and am happy as can be with them. BTW new friends can be found all the time.


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    #25042675 - 03/06/18 10:48 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Find busy friends.. they are the best. No drama, usually have tons of Adulting to do..

People with lives tend not to be as fucked up..

It's like night and day going from a non-college job to a college one.  Everyone was cut throat in the non -college and talking shit, making piss poor life decisions. None of that since my degree.. everyone supports each other etc.

Look at the rest of their life.. if their shit is together that is usually the sign of a good friend.. plus when you get my age, friends are people you check up on, on facebook to see how their kids are doing.


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    #25042688 - 03/06/18 10:53 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I kinda just skimmed the thread but I feel like that can’t be the only reason, I feel like some responses are assuming otherwise and that seems silly. Awefully judgemental honestly, but it is pretty judgemental of you as well. Is it a bad thing to be judgemental though? I don’t think so, so long as it’s balanced with some kind of acceptance. You are who you hang around, that’s a big lesson we all learn growing up. It’s worth saying though that one or two interactions/actions won’t necessarily make a person. Sometimes people just do disagreeable stuff, even if they’re the best people in the world.

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    #25042727 - 03/06/18 11:05 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Sup op. Interesting dilemma. I am wondering the details. What drugs, how much, where, was it a desperate situation? How about her regret, or their regret? Was alcohol involved, was it a party or like yeah ho, I got some crack for ya if you willing to work for it..

Those details will better clarify the situation.

Oh damn, been observing for a few years, and you pulled out my first post..

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    #25042745 - 03/06/18 11:12 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Trust your gut OP.


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    #25042753 - 03/06/18 11:15 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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    #25042766 - 03/06/18 11:19 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

it was meth they were going to give the girl to come over and have sex with them. I dont know if they actually went through with it but I assume they went through with it as they blocked me on social media when I tried to talk them out of it


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    #25042783 - 03/06/18 11:29 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Yeah well in that context in mind, it seems like you may have nothing to regret. As for making other friends, yeah that's a funny thing. At a new job? Idk. I kinda just roll with it. Than again my friends are typically not the best. Haha I bond with rejects, at 30..

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    #25042818 - 03/06/18 11:50 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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it was meth they were going to give the girl to come over and have sex with them. I dont know if they actually went through with it but I assume they went through with it as they blocked me on social media when I tried to talk them out of it



That changes a lot.  Lol. Yeah fuck them  I guess I should of asked what drug Sooner

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    #25042825 - 03/06/18 11:54 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

OP, your are really not that old. Fuck those assholes, ignore them, forget them, open your heart to people and choose your values, right people who share those values will come into your life, just be patient and open to making new friends.

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    #25042833 - 03/06/18 11:59 AM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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What makes you think people on this website aren't doing the same shit irl?




I've never personally done it but have had many friends both male and female have either done it or agreed to it.

Some females I've been friends with it had no qualms over getting paid for sex, addict or not.


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    #25042860 - 03/06/18 12:17 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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well yeah they are some of my last friends but do you really want friends that take advantage of people/situations like this? I think the people that are viewing this as a simple transaction are missing some details here. Someone so twisted off that they are trading their bodies for drugs is in a bad mental state. I think the girl is in her mind at least being given an offer she cant refuse.




I’d look at it like this, those same guys who would vulture up and take advantage of a situation/person like that will not hesitate to do the same exact thing in some form should you ever be in a vulnerable situation.  That is not the type I choose to interact with or call my ‘friend’.  So while it may leave you lonely now for awhile, sticking to your guns will have you in a surrounding where people you can trust will be.  I’d rather have no friends than sketchy untrustworty ones as the latter will leave you worse than they found you.

If that decision has it so some label me stuck up or ‘self rightious’ by some then so be it..


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    #25043193 - 03/06/18 02:28 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Lots of pussies in this thread


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    #25043275 - 03/06/18 03:14 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

What makes you say that? Theres really no way to justify that behavior.


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    #25043514 - 03/06/18 04:53 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

Everyone has a right to decide who they want to be friends with. Otherwise you would be obliged to accept any asshole who said they wanted to be your friend.

I think the OP made the right decision. Those don't sound like the kind of friends you need when you've got kids.

Ichugwindex, I've been in a similar situation. Now I have a few friends who are zero drama. They are also parents trying to raise their kids. It sounds like your kid is young. Get involved with your kids school and you'll meet the kind of people you need in your life.


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    #25043754 - 03/06/18 07:05 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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Lots of pussies in this thread




That's thought provoking. The lot of us just need to grow up and quit being pussies. I'd bet none of us ever even considered that.


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    #25043996 - 03/06/18 08:47 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

too long did not read thread.


but I think what OP meant was that people who wouldask for sex instead of money, for drugs are basically low life pieces of shit, and that is why he is no longer friends.

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    #25044018 - 03/06/18 09:01 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

I looked up some my childhood friends on facebook, and Im thankful we are no longer friends..

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    #25044041 - 03/06/18 09:12 PM (6 years, 14 days ago)

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    #25044084 - 03/06/18 09:38 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

the worst part about is she went through with it all for a measily couple doses of RC

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    #25044141 - 03/06/18 10:14 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Idk, this is a very complex situation when it comes to the psychology of it. My late ex girlfriend who passed last summer from a hydromorphone OD that may or may not have been intentional used to trade her body for drugs in the past. She went on to become a full time escort in the last year of her life. I had to change my relationship status with her because of that. I still wanted a relationship, but it was of the more distant not so involved type. She made her own choices, she was fully willing to do what she did, so I had no problem with that, but I did not want to end up hurt because I was in a 'normal' relationship with a woman like that. Over the last 3 years we agreed to be 'friends with benefits' who still considered each other boyfriend and girlfriend. I started spending less time with her, pursuing other women, but when we were together, it was like nothing had changed. 

I knew guys would take advantage of that, and I hate them for that. I only have respect for people who treated her well. But it was her body, her conscious choice. Something I had no control over. Men do not 'own' woman and should never, ever think like that. I had to 'loosen the chains' and distance myself emotionally in certain ways, but it still worked and once I did that, there was no heartache.

I know with her, that was one situation. I also know in other situations it's not like that and the woman in question is in a very bad place in life, or even worse, gets 'trapped' in the lifestyle, which a lot of the time, is straight up human trafficking.

I don't know the woman in OP's situation, so I cannot really offer any more insight without knowing far more details and probably having to actually speak with the woman in question.

But OP, maybe take another look at the situation, maybe it's not something you should be bent out of shape over, assuming that it was completely consensual. If you know more details that you're not sharing, and it's actually something other than what it appears to be, then maybe you are right and should find other friends.

I have zero respect for men who take advantage of women in shitty life situations. But if it's a straight up fair trade, then I see no problem with it.

Personally, I think that brothels should be legal, so women who choose to work that trade have a safe workplace and are not out on the street or being dropped off with sketchy and potentially dangerous men.


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    #25044162 - 03/06/18 10:26 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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i just found out the last 2 friends irl that i had were about to trade a girl drugs for sex. these were my last 2 friends after a decade of trying to "narrow down" my list of peeps into true friends. i just dobt know how to deal. im very lucky in that i have a happy family and wife/son but this truly breaks my heart to no longer have ANY friends at age 27. guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




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    #25044330 - 03/07/18 01:07 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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Everyone has a right to decide who they want to be friends with. Otherwise you would be obliged to accept any asshole who said they wanted to be your friend.

I think the OP made the right decision. Those don't sound like the kind of friends you need when you've got kids.

Ichugwindex, I've been in a similar situation. Now I have a few friends who are zero drama. They are also parents trying to raise their kids. It sounds like your kid is young. Get involved with your kids school and you'll meet the kind of people you need in your life.



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    #25044360 - 03/07/18 01:32 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

They kind of do in a sense..


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    #25044374 - 03/07/18 01:42 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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They kind of do in a sense..



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    #25044989 - 03/07/18 10:03 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Kids are extremely high maintenance. Doing your best to fulfill their needs sweeps almost everything else off the table.

You can either live a selfish life with you're selfish friends or do your best at parenting.

There just aren't enough hours in the day and their isn't enough energy to do both.


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    #25045466 - 03/07/18 10:28 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Speaking of socializing vs parenting, I’ve noticed a lot of people will take precedence over their kids for a conversation. Like I remember going to the local park last year and a group was having a baby shower. The adults were all gabbing it up while their toddlers and preschoolers all screamed their heads off jumping around the jungle gym and almost knocking my own kids about.. we had to actually watch these kids because they’d need help and no one would be around. The one kept nearly falling off and they weren’t even making him wear shoes. I think he was “slow” too.

Idk how many times I can think of being around someone and they lose track of their kid because they’re talking to someone. It can obviously happen in a split second so it’s hard to judge, but at the same time that’s exactly why I’m so attentive. It’s just weird for me to see how desparate people are for an excuse to validate some laziness. “Can’t parent now, socializing.” It’s like on one hand their could be thinking of social etiquette, and on the other they’re just using someone else to sit on their ass. Either way I most assuredly judge someone more for taking the time for me, when they should be making sure their kid isn’t getting into trouble, but maybe that’s just me. :lol:

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    #25045940 - 03/07/18 01:26 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I have to agree and disagree with you.

I agree that you have to pay attention to your kids. At times like kids pushing toddlers off the play structure you have to intervene.

But I mostly like my kids to learn to resolve conflicts with their peers and learn from their own mistakes.

So my kids run around without shoes if they want. I do too. I buy into this and don't care what the glaring parents at the park think.
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If my kids come to me to tell on someone, I ask them what they could do to get along with that person better. If they don't have a good answer I make a suggestion. By the time we get done with this discussion they have usually cooled off and are ready to move on to better things.

I rarely directly intervene.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Thundermuscle75]
    #25047849 - 03/08/18 03:44 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

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Kids are extremely high maintenance. Doing your best to fulfill their needs sweeps almost everything else off the table.

You can either live a selfish life with you're selfish friends or do your best at parenting.

There just aren't enough hours in the day and their isn't enough energy to do both.



Or you can live a healthy life and have friends and talk to them a few hours a day,hang out a few days a month And parent your child it isn’t either or and if you think it is you’re doing it wrong. A child with parents who have no friends don’t have an easy time in life understanding healthy relationships. It’s expected to have less time but my best friend of 15 years has a 2 y/o and we just played Diablo 3 for 2 hours after his kid and wife was asleep and fell asleep in time for work tommorow.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Patlal] * 1
    #25047858 - 03/08/18 04:05 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

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i just found out the last 2 friends irl that i had were about to trade a girl drugs for sex. these were my last 2 friends after a decade of trying to "narrow down" my list of peeps into true friends. i just dobt know how to deal. im very lucky in that i have a happy family and wife/son but this truly breaks my heart to no longer have ANY friends at age 27. guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




Men tend to lose friends as they get older. Many studies have shown this and it's only increasing because of social media. Every relationship becomes platonic. Old friends move to new cities for work. Some fuck up and you leave, then you fuck up and they leave. Most new male friendship develop through the social life of their wives. Single adult males are very lonely creatures.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/people-lose-friends-at-age-25-study-says-a7043796.html

Try to enjoy your solitude. Be selfish. Do things for yourself by yourself. You'll realize that you'll enjoy that freedom. Sure having someone to talk to is nice, but luckily for you , you have a wife. Perhaps befriend the husbands of you wife's friends?





Most useful post I've read all week.  I KNEW it wasn't ONLY because I hate people more as I age.... :laugh:


to the OP.  I feel you on the moral compass. I think its a bit slimey to take advantage of someone who's in a bad situation, but there are also situations where both parties are getting what they want and its all OK.  Its really situational.  There is a big difference between someone addicted and in a bad situation being preyed upon, and someone who just wants to get high and doesn't have a sexual stigma.  I've known people on both sides of that and IMO, I'd probably distance myself from someone who took advantage of someone too, but not the latter scenario.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Seriously_trippin]
    #25048120 - 03/08/18 09:11 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

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Thundermuscle75 said:
Kids are extremely high maintenance. Doing your best to fulfill their needs sweeps almost everything else off the table.

You can either live a selfish life with you're selfish friends or do your best at parenting.

There just aren't enough hours in the day and their isn't enough energy to do both.



Or you can live a healthy life and have friends and talk to them a few hours a day,hang out a few days a month And parent your child it isn’t either or and if you think it is you’re doing it wrong. A child with parents who have no friends don’t have an easy time in life understanding healthy relationships. It’s expected to have less time but my best friend of 15 years has a 2 y/o and we just played Diablo 3 for 2 hours after his kid and wife was asleep and fell asleep in time for work tommorow.




I agree. That was meant to be taken in context with my previous post.
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Ichugwindex, I've been in a similar situation. Now I have a few friends who are zero drama. They are also parents trying to raise their kids. It sounds like your kid is young. Get involved with your kids school and you'll meet the kind of people you need in your life.




By, no time for selfish friends I was referring to meth for sex weekends with crank whores. Consenting adults can do pretty much whatever they want with each other. But that lifestyle's hard to fit into a positive parenting regime.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Thundermuscle75]
    #25050156 - 03/08/18 05:59 PM (6 years, 12 days ago)

I lost like half my friends at 18
if one person doesn't chill with you it snowballs into like 5 people
lost the other half at like 24
they were all kinda shitty friends tbh but the other friends I have are to snotty to hang out with me most of the time so all that's left is the person that hangs out with me like 3% of the time and it fucking sucks
if you don't have a new car, house by 27 you're basically treated like a criminal by everyone, girls even get off on it they start doing that around 20/23

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