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OfflineKonyap

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: orison]
    #25044041 - 03/06/18 09:12 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

the barter system lol

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Konyap]
    #25044084 - 03/06/18 09:38 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

the worst part about is she went through with it all for a measily couple doses of RC

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: thelanzii]
    #25044141 - 03/06/18 10:14 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Idk, this is a very complex situation when it comes to the psychology of it. My late ex girlfriend who passed last summer from a hydromorphone OD that may or may not have been intentional used to trade her body for drugs in the past. She went on to become a full time escort in the last year of her life. I had to change my relationship status with her because of that. I still wanted a relationship, but it was of the more distant not so involved type. She made her own choices, she was fully willing to do what she did, so I had no problem with that, but I did not want to end up hurt because I was in a 'normal' relationship with a woman like that. Over the last 3 years we agreed to be 'friends with benefits' who still considered each other boyfriend and girlfriend. I started spending less time with her, pursuing other women, but when we were together, it was like nothing had changed. 

I knew guys would take advantage of that, and I hate them for that. I only have respect for people who treated her well. But it was her body, her conscious choice. Something I had no control over. Men do not 'own' woman and should never, ever think like that. I had to 'loosen the chains' and distance myself emotionally in certain ways, but it still worked and once I did that, there was no heartache.

I know with her, that was one situation. I also know in other situations it's not like that and the woman in question is in a very bad place in life, or even worse, gets 'trapped' in the lifestyle, which a lot of the time, is straight up human trafficking.

I don't know the woman in OP's situation, so I cannot really offer any more insight without knowing far more details and probably having to actually speak with the woman in question.

But OP, maybe take another look at the situation, maybe it's not something you should be bent out of shape over, assuming that it was completely consensual. If you know more details that you're not sharing, and it's actually something other than what it appears to be, then maybe you are right and should find other friends.

I have zero respect for men who take advantage of women in shitty life situations. But if it's a straight up fair trade, then I see no problem with it.

Personally, I think that brothels should be legal, so women who choose to work that trade have a safe workplace and are not out on the street or being dropped off with sketchy and potentially dangerous men.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] * 1
    #25044162 - 03/06/18 10:26 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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i just found out the last 2 friends irl that i had were about to trade a girl drugs for sex. these were my last 2 friends after a decade of trying to "narrow down" my list of peeps into true friends. i just dobt know how to deal. im very lucky in that i have a happy family and wife/son but this truly breaks my heart to no longer have ANY friends at age 27. guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




Fuck DJ Alice. Listen to Steve Earle, he's a recovered junkie therefore he knows what's what.



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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Thundermuscle75]
    #25044330 - 03/07/18 01:07 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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Everyone has a right to decide who they want to be friends with. Otherwise you would be obliged to accept any asshole who said they wanted to be your friend.

I think the OP made the right decision. Those don't sound like the kind of friends you need when you've got kids.

Ichugwindex, I've been in a similar situation. Now I have a few friends who are zero drama. They are also parents trying to raise their kids. It sounds like your kid is young. Get involved with your kids school and you'll meet the kind of people you need in your life.



Just because you have kids that doesn't mean you need to stop doing anything.  Kids dont dictate your life


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Ant89]
    #25044360 - 03/07/18 01:32 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

They kind of do in a sense..


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Amanita86] * 1
    #25044374 - 03/07/18 01:42 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

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They kind of do in a sense..



  :yeahgoodadvice:


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
    #25044989 - 03/07/18 10:03 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Kids are extremely high maintenance. Doing your best to fulfill their needs sweeps almost everything else off the table.

You can either live a selfish life with you're selfish friends or do your best at parenting.

There just aren't enough hours in the day and their isn't enough energy to do both.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Thundermuscle75]
    #25045466 - 03/07/18 10:28 AM (6 years, 13 days ago)

Speaking of socializing vs parenting, I’ve noticed a lot of people will take precedence over their kids for a conversation. Like I remember going to the local park last year and a group was having a baby shower. The adults were all gabbing it up while their toddlers and preschoolers all screamed their heads off jumping around the jungle gym and almost knocking my own kids about.. we had to actually watch these kids because they’d need help and no one would be around. The one kept nearly falling off and they weren’t even making him wear shoes. I think he was “slow” too.

Idk how many times I can think of being around someone and they lose track of their kid because they’re talking to someone. It can obviously happen in a split second so it’s hard to judge, but at the same time that’s exactly why I’m so attentive. It’s just weird for me to see how desparate people are for an excuse to validate some laziness. “Can’t parent now, socializing.” It’s like on one hand their could be thinking of social etiquette, and on the other they’re just using someone else to sit on their ass. Either way I most assuredly judge someone more for taking the time for me, when they should be making sure their kid isn’t getting into trouble, but maybe that’s just me. :lol:

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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: larry.fisherman]
    #25045940 - 03/07/18 01:26 PM (6 years, 13 days ago)

I have to agree and disagree with you.

I agree that you have to pay attention to your kids. At times like kids pushing toddlers off the play structure you have to intervene.

But I mostly like my kids to learn to resolve conflicts with their peers and learn from their own mistakes.

So my kids run around without shoes if they want. I do too. I buy into this and don't care what the glaring parents at the park think.
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If my kids come to me to tell on someone, I ask them what they could do to get along with that person better. If they don't have a good answer I make a suggestion. By the time we get done with this discussion they have usually cooled off and are ready to move on to better things.

I rarely directly intervene.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Thundermuscle75]
    #25047849 - 03/08/18 03:44 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

Quote:

Thundermuscle75 said:
Kids are extremely high maintenance. Doing your best to fulfill their needs sweeps almost everything else off the table.

You can either live a selfish life with you're selfish friends or do your best at parenting.

There just aren't enough hours in the day and their isn't enough energy to do both.



Or you can live a healthy life and have friends and talk to them a few hours a day,hang out a few days a month And parent your child it isn’t either or and if you think it is you’re doing it wrong. A child with parents who have no friends don’t have an easy time in life understanding healthy relationships. It’s expected to have less time but my best friend of 15 years has a 2 y/o and we just played Diablo 3 for 2 hours after his kid and wife was asleep and fell asleep in time for work tommorow.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Patlal] * 1
    #25047858 - 03/08/18 04:05 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

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Patlal said:
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ichugwindex said:
i just found out the last 2 friends irl that i had were about to trade a girl drugs for sex. these were my last 2 friends after a decade of trying to "narrow down" my list of peeps into true friends. i just dobt know how to deal. im very lucky in that i have a happy family and wife/son but this truly breaks my heart to no longer have ANY friends at age 27. guess Alice DJ was right. I really am better off alone.




Men tend to lose friends as they get older. Many studies have shown this and it's only increasing because of social media. Every relationship becomes platonic. Old friends move to new cities for work. Some fuck up and you leave, then you fuck up and they leave. Most new male friendship develop through the social life of their wives. Single adult males are very lonely creatures.

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/people-lose-friends-at-age-25-study-says-a7043796.html

Try to enjoy your solitude. Be selfish. Do things for yourself by yourself. You'll realize that you'll enjoy that freedom. Sure having someone to talk to is nice, but luckily for you , you have a wife. Perhaps befriend the husbands of you wife's friends?





Most useful post I've read all week.  I KNEW it wasn't ONLY because I hate people more as I age.... :laugh:


to the OP.  I feel you on the moral compass. I think its a bit slimey to take advantage of someone who's in a bad situation, but there are also situations where both parties are getting what they want and its all OK.  Its really situational.  There is a big difference between someone addicted and in a bad situation being preyed upon, and someone who just wants to get high and doesn't have a sexual stigma.  I've known people on both sides of that and IMO, I'd probably distance myself from someone who took advantage of someone too, but not the latter scenario.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Seriously_trippin]
    #25048120 - 03/08/18 09:11 AM (6 years, 12 days ago)

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Seriously_trippin said:
Quote:

Thundermuscle75 said:
Kids are extremely high maintenance. Doing your best to fulfill their needs sweeps almost everything else off the table.

You can either live a selfish life with you're selfish friends or do your best at parenting.

There just aren't enough hours in the day and their isn't enough energy to do both.



Or you can live a healthy life and have friends and talk to them a few hours a day,hang out a few days a month And parent your child it isn’t either or and if you think it is you’re doing it wrong. A child with parents who have no friends don’t have an easy time in life understanding healthy relationships. It’s expected to have less time but my best friend of 15 years has a 2 y/o and we just played Diablo 3 for 2 hours after his kid and wife was asleep and fell asleep in time for work tommorow.




I agree. That was meant to be taken in context with my previous post.
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Ichugwindex, I've been in a similar situation. Now I have a few friends who are zero drama. They are also parents trying to raise their kids. It sounds like your kid is young. Get involved with your kids school and you'll meet the kind of people you need in your life.




By, no time for selfish friends I was referring to meth for sex weekends with crank whores. Consenting adults can do pretty much whatever they want with each other. But that lifestyle's hard to fit into a positive parenting regime.


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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Thundermuscle75]
    #25050156 - 03/08/18 05:59 PM (6 years, 12 days ago)

I lost like half my friends at 18
if one person doesn't chill with you it snowballs into like 5 people
lost the other half at like 24
they were all kinda shitty friends tbh but the other friends I have are to snotty to hang out with me most of the time so all that's left is the person that hangs out with me like 3% of the time and it fucking sucks
if you don't have a new car, house by 27 you're basically treated like a criminal by everyone, girls even get off on it they start doing that around 20/23

Edited by Konyap (03/08/18 06:01 PM)

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