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ichugwindex
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Patlal]
#25042647 - 03/06/18 10:40 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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thanks patial thats actually really halpful. Making new friends at this age feels weird for me
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] 1
#25042654 - 03/06/18 10:41 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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ichugwindex said: thanks patial thats actually really halpful. Making new friends at this age feels weird for me
Same here. When you're a kid they shove you in a place filled with kids and encourage you to socialize, then you have a history. Total strangers need to be approached and things have to click and all of that. It gets harder.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25042656 - 03/06/18 10:42 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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With a name like ichugwindex i dont even knmow if this is a BS post or not. But ill defend OPs decision.
When youre trying to build a successful life with a wife and child, which in my experience has been fucking difficult - having druggie friends in the mix only drags you down. I dont care so much about the prostitution, but it doesnt help either. I have learned that friends certainly do drag your ass down, or lift you up. when you find the ones that just being around improves your appreciation of life, it is amazing. When you are always dealing with sour, broke ass, prostituting drug addicts - that shit is lame and a waste of your time, and when you have a kid to raise - you have no fucking time.
I have removed myself as far away as possible from my friends who always have a negative story/impact on their life or the lives around them, I still have a lot of awesome friends, and am happy as can be with them. BTW new friends can be found all the time.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25042675 - 03/06/18 10:48 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Find busy friends.. they are the best. No drama, usually have tons of Adulting to do..
People with lives tend not to be as fucked up..
It's like night and day going from a non-college job to a college one. Everyone was cut throat in the non -college and talking shit, making piss poor life decisions. None of that since my degree.. everyone supports each other etc.
Look at the rest of their life.. if their shit is together that is usually the sign of a good friend.. plus when you get my age, friends are people you check up on, on facebook to see how their kids are doing.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: DMTGnome]
#25042688 - 03/06/18 10:53 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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I kinda just skimmed the thread but I feel like that can’t be the only reason, I feel like some responses are assuming otherwise and that seems silly. Awefully judgemental honestly, but it is pretty judgemental of you as well. Is it a bad thing to be judgemental though? I don’t think so, so long as it’s balanced with some kind of acceptance. You are who you hang around, that’s a big lesson we all learn growing up. It’s worth saying though that one or two interactions/actions won’t necessarily make a person. Sometimes people just do disagreeable stuff, even if they’re the best people in the world.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: larry.fisherman] 1
#25042727 - 03/06/18 11:05 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sup op. Interesting dilemma. I am wondering the details. What drugs, how much, where, was it a desperate situation? How about her regret, or their regret? Was alcohol involved, was it a party or like yeah ho, I got some crack for ya if you willing to work for it..
Those details will better clarify the situation.
Oh damn, been observing for a few years, and you pulled out my first post..
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex] 1
#25042745 - 03/06/18 11:12 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Trust your gut OP.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: lifeiswhatyoumake]
#25042753 - 03/06/18 11:15 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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lifeiswhatyoumake said: Trust your gut OP.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Pyroboy4206]
#25042766 - 03/06/18 11:19 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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it was meth they were going to give the girl to come over and have sex with them. I dont know if they actually went through with it but I assume they went through with it as they blocked me on social media when I tried to talk them out of it
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25042783 - 03/06/18 11:29 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Yeah well in that context in mind, it seems like you may have nothing to regret. As for making other friends, yeah that's a funny thing. At a new job? Idk. I kinda just roll with it. Than again my friends are typically not the best. Haha I bond with rejects, at 30..
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25042818 - 03/06/18 11:50 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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ichugwindex said: it was meth they were going to give the girl to come over and have sex with them. I dont know if they actually went through with it but I assume they went through with it as they blocked me on social media when I tried to talk them out of it
That changes a lot. Lol. Yeah fuck them I guess I should of asked what drug Sooner
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: NOUS333] 1
#25042825 - 03/06/18 11:54 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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OP, your are really not that old. Fuck those assholes, ignore them, forget them, open your heart to people and choose your values, right people who share those values will come into your life, just be patient and open to making new friends.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Psyche delics] 1
#25042833 - 03/06/18 11:59 AM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Psyche delics said: What makes you think people on this website aren't doing the same shit irl?
I've never personally done it but have had many friends both male and female have either done it or agreed to it.
Some females I've been friends with it had no qualms over getting paid for sex, addict or not.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25042860 - 03/06/18 12:17 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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ichugwindex said: well yeah they are some of my last friends but do you really want friends that take advantage of people/situations like this? I think the people that are viewing this as a simple transaction are missing some details here. Someone so twisted off that they are trading their bodies for drugs is in a bad mental state. I think the girl is in her mind at least being given an offer she cant refuse.
I’d look at it like this, those same guys who would vulture up and take advantage of a situation/person like that will not hesitate to do the same exact thing in some form should you ever be in a vulnerable situation. That is not the type I choose to interact with or call my ‘friend’. So while it may leave you lonely now for awhile, sticking to your guns will have you in a surrounding where people you can trust will be. I’d rather have no friends than sketchy untrustworty ones as the latter will leave you worse than they found you.
If that decision has it so some label me stuck up or ‘self rightious’ by some then so be it..
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Amanita86]
#25043193 - 03/06/18 02:28 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Lots of pussies in this thread
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Ant89]
#25043275 - 03/06/18 03:14 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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What makes you say that? Theres really no way to justify that behavior.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25043514 - 03/06/18 04:53 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Everyone has a right to decide who they want to be friends with. Otherwise you would be obliged to accept any asshole who said they wanted to be your friend.
I think the OP made the right decision. Those don't sound like the kind of friends you need when you've got kids.
Ichugwindex, I've been in a similar situation. Now I have a few friends who are zero drama. They are also parents trying to raise their kids. It sounds like your kid is young. Get involved with your kids school and you'll meet the kind of people you need in your life.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Ant89] 1
#25043754 - 03/06/18 07:05 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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Ant89 said: Lots of pussies in this thread
That's thought provoking. The lot of us just need to grow up and quit being pussies. I'd bet none of us ever even considered that.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: ichugwindex]
#25043996 - 03/06/18 08:47 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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too long did not read thread.
but I think what OP meant was that people who wouldask for sex instead of money, for drugs are basically low life pieces of shit, and that is why he is no longer friends.
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Re: i just lost my only IRL friends. I love you guys. [Re: Fiery]
#25044018 - 03/06/18 09:01 PM (5 years, 10 months ago) |
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I looked up some my childhood friends on facebook, and Im thankful we are no longer friends..
eventually you will find new friends and better ones.
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