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Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships?
#25011992 - 02/21/18 10:17 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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There's only three positions that work for us and things are horribly stale.
Looking for ideas, I think I'm gonna try to wow her tonight.
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25012024 - 02/21/18 10:36 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Go fuck outside
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: 99.99]
#25012028 - 02/21/18 10:36 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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yeah I had been thinking about suggesting trying stuff in public places, good one
I kinda hate being the only one interested in exploring
Edited by Anonymous (02/21/18 10:37 PM)
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25012049 - 02/21/18 10:46 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#25012355 - 02/22/18 02:48 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: yeah I had been thinking about suggesting trying stuff in public places, good one
I kinda hate being the only one interested in exploring
Women tend to be more interested in the sensuality of sex, rather than the excitement. So in a good relationship I think trades and compromise is important. Step up your romance game and take the time to learn how to massage and touch in a sensual way. Then tradeoff by suggesting something your partner might go for.
The primary reason a lot of women end up wanting the same routine is comfort. If a woman isn't completely comfortable or particularly excited she won't be able to orgasm. If she becomes uncomfortable enough it kills her sex drive and sex becomes a trial to be endured rather than a moment to be enjoyed.
Consider what your partner is inclined to and whether to try to ease into new things instead of jumping into them.
It's really hard to give good advice based on 3 sentences of vague information.
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#25014152 - 02/22/18 06:43 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: There's only three positions that work for us and things are horribly stale.
This may be slightly off-topic, and, as CC said above, it's hard to give much advice based on the scant information you've provided (i.e. things that might help would be; how long you've been together, what said positions are, how regularly you guys engage in sex, how much foreplay, how strongly you feel for each other emotionally, etc, etc) - but, I'm curious - the only time I've ever felt that there were minimal positions that work well were the two times I've slept with a partner that was significantly overweight. It's definitely a very limiting factor, positions wise, IME.
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#25014843 - 02/22/18 11:11 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Get Kinky!
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#25014984 - 02/23/18 12:58 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: I kinda hate being the only one interested in exploring
If that's the case, then that's the real issue here. But the question is: are you actually the only one interested in exploring, or do you just not talk about it openly as a couple? To what extent do you communicate about sex? How long have you been together and has it always been the way it is now, or did you have more exploratory periods in your relationship? If so, how did that go? The times that your partner said anything about sexual desires, what direction did they go in? How open is your partner about their sexual desires, and how open are you about them? Whenever either party opens up a bit, what is the response of the other?
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25102871 - 03/30/18 05:50 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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lick her ass choke her
eat her pussy really well there is a 90 minute video on it on pornhub
watch adina rivers on youtube
do some tantric shit
fuck her feet
anticipation
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: thelanzii]
#25102901 - 03/30/18 06:02 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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EtherealMind said: lick her ass
eat her pussy really well there is a 90 minute video on it on pornhub
She wants it, she just doesn't know she wants it until you give it to her.
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25105647 - 03/31/18 10:00 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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kellyon said: Personally I think the easiest way is MAKE time for just the two of you. Go out more, do something new, etc. In our last trip my gf and I tried new girl erotic massage in Kiev, that was so arousing. Such new experience brought a lot of positive energy and passion into our relationship.
I'm at work and can't click that link. Describe more about this massage parlor?
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: mndfreeze]
#25105660 - 03/31/18 10:06 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Funny that folks started replying to this thread again as we just had two mindblowing nights in a row.
Star players included roleplay, a general air of creativity, tongue stuff, and having sex with very minimal thrusting. (is that tantric? felt surprisingly good, I was able to make her squirt whilst barely moving at all.)
She doesn't really open up about her fantasies or desires, I'm going to have to directly ask her again one of these days now that things are better again. She just seems to like what I bring to the table and expands on it in her own creative ways
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25107196 - 04/01/18 06:58 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: There's only three positions that work for us and things are horribly stale.
Looking for ideas, I think I'm gonna try to wow her tonight.
A lot of it is what happens before the sex. Like, when's the last time you guys tried finding something fun in your community, going out and trying it, and finding that you both enjoy it, have a great time, and then you might come home to find that the sex is better.
Or just doing something nice for her like changing her oil or something, might cause her to be more affectionate towards you. Or if she did something nice for you, you might begin to appreciate the sex for reasons beyond physicality.
IME, sex gets stale for one of two reasons: 1. It was a bad match in the first place 2. One or more parties in the relationship stop caring and putting in effort
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: thelanzii]
#25109705 - 04/02/18 10:18 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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EtherealMind said:
watch adina rivers on youtube
I love that chick. Good stuff. I found her a few years ago somehow related to sexual astrology or something. She and her husband have a great outlook on life and sex.
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: pachoo]
#25112103 - 04/03/18 08:41 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Everything you think about doing with other partners, just do with your partner...
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: Roflspammer]
#25112122 - 04/03/18 08:48 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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my mind goes to some wild places
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: thelanzii]
#25112185 - 04/03/18 09:12 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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Despite the fact that my girl and i have no problems talking about our fantasies and desires with each other, we've found that it's been a lot of fun since we both signed up for Tumblr accounts...
We each have an account where we reblog photos that we find sexy or a turn on or whatever and then every few nights we take turns looking at each others accounts together, to see what we've found.
It's totally non-judgmental and it's been cool seeing things that i never thought she'd find arousing.
We usually end up talking about the photos, which sometimes leads into some roleplaying, or talking about future possibilities, which usually gets us both pretty turned on... which leads to all sorts of fun
I think it'd be a good way for people who aren't as easily able to be open with each other about their fantasies and desires.
The big catch with it, is that it has to be non-judgmental... no saying "ewww, gross", or eye rolling or any of that. It should be understood that it's a method of communicating and that the whole point is strengthening the relationship.
Maybe it's not for everyone, but it's been fun for us.
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: locospacebean]
#25112193 - 04/03/18 09:15 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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yeah tumblr is my shit, that might be interesting
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Re: Tips on keeping sex interesting in relationships? [Re: locospacebean]
#25112399 - 04/03/18 10:40 PM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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locospacebean said: We each have an account where we reblog photos that we find sexy or a turn on or whatever and then every few nights we take turns looking at each others accounts together, to see what we've found..
This kind of thing has worked very well for me in the past also. Good call.
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#25132448 - 04/12/18 05:13 AM (5 years, 11 months ago) |
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