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Adas
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She seemed interested, now won't contact me?
#25000735 - 02/17/18 08:30 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hello my shroomy friends,
I will describe to you my situation a little bit, and I don't even require help as much as I would like to hear your theoretical explanations.
So over a month ago I met this super beautiful girl on a train. There was a problem on track and we had to exit, that's why we started talking. We talked for about 2 hours before I exited at my station. It was very nice, she was super friendly and cool.
Then I thought I'd never see her or talk to her again, but she found me somehow and added me on social media. She seemed super interested in communicating with me. So we arranged a Skype call a few days later. But she didn't contact me, so next day I texted her. Then she said she was busy at work, so maybe Saturday.
Long story short, some 2 weeks later we finally got to make the call. It was enjoyable, but could have been better. As we were talking she was constantly texting someone and sometimes overheard what I said. After this we only texted a few more times, and that was mostly about a TV series. Our last conversation was a week ago, and it ended with my message that she didn't respond to. Every conversation just felt like she wanted it to be over ASAP.
I should also mention she works 2 jobs so she is super busy, plus lives in bad condition so it doesn't help her mental state. And she lives super far away from me.
But my question is - why the shady communication? I barely know anything about her - she didn't seem to want to disclose very much about herself. Have I fucked up somewhere? Is she just too scared to open up to me for some reason? It's frustrating as fuck to me, because obviously I fell in love with her like a stupid teenager. And trust me when I say I fell HARD. It would be much different if we could meet in person at least once a week, but that's not a possibility.
Thanks for any ideas.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas] 1
#25000770 - 02/17/18 08:53 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Who knows?
She could be a typical troubled young lady. She could have a few boyfriends. Who knows?
The FACT is you have to protect YOU.
Don't be emotionally involved investing all of your hopes for woman in general.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Morel Guy]
#25000792 - 02/17/18 09:01 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yea man. Easier said than done, right? Especially for me. Thanks for the reply anyway.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas]
#25000826 - 02/17/18 09:17 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would just stop trying so hard to talk with her. Sometimes if she knows she has you then she doesn't want you. Just don't say anything to her for a few days and see if she says something first.
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Anonymous #1
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Thats retarded and you should not fuck with a girl like that.
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Ask yourself if this is a good indication.
She's causing you discomfort and questions this early, is a bad sign.
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Thanks man, and that's what I'm trying to do. I'm trying really hard not to bother her, and I think I'm successful. Maybe she will text me again, maybe not. I'm not gonna push it.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#25000844 - 02/17/18 09:22 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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So he should let her fuck with him instead? Seems a bit unfair. Plus its not fucking with her if she isn't interested. It then becomes doing her a favor.
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Morel Guy said: Ask yourself if this is a good indication.
She's causing you discomfort and questions this early, is a bad sign.
I guess I like danger. Lol.Quote:
dont trust midgets said: So he should let her fuck with him instead? Seems a bit unfair. Plus its not fucking with her if she isn't interested. It then becomes doing her a favor.
He probably meant I should stay away from such girls.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas] 1
#25000854 - 02/17/18 09:26 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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If you are lucky she's just stressed from having her shit together and has no time or energy for boys.
That would be a great sign.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas]
#25000858 - 02/17/18 09:27 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Adas said:
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dont trust midgets said: So he should let her fuck with him instead? Seems a bit unfair. Plus its not fucking with her if she isn't interested. It then becomes doing her a favor.
He probably meant I should stay away from such girls.
You re probably right. Sorry anon.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas] 3
#25000923 - 02/17/18 10:03 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Given that she has 2 jobs and you don’t know much about her, who knows how chaotic her life may be. There may be some really heavy shit going on in her life that’s making her distance herself. She could also feel the same way as yourself, but considering how far away she lives maybe she’s apprehensive to make any kind of emotional investment. Perhaps she’s just got out of a bad relationship (or maybe she’s still in one) and was excited to talk to you at first, but then upon 2nd thought she realized she wasn’t ready to make time for this or doesn’t want to risk getting hurt again.
There are an infinite number of variables that could be at play here- I.e. she could have family members who aren’t well. She could be emotionally, psychologically, or physically ill herself. She could be scared of being hurt. Maybe she’s struggling with the side effects of some medications, is bipolar, or has a drug problem. She could have felt that she gave you some mixed signals and she feels it would be wrong to lead you on, hence the lack of interest on skype and her distancing herself. Some women want what they can’t have, and maybe you’re not a big enough challenge for her. Who knows, some women are crazy (obviously this doesn’t just apply to women). People in general can be crazy and do weird shit that doesn’t always make sense. Some may be immature and enjoy playing games.
Because you don’t really know this woman, you certainly don’t want to just assume that you did something wrong. After all she sought out contact with you, and from the sound of it all you did was attempt to maintain this contact. And falling for her like that so quickly isn’t always a good thing- she may have sensed this, and given that she’s a beautiful woman maybe she’s all too familiar with this and sensed trouble, whether it was on your end or hers. Regardless, I think it’s pretty rude to be constantly texting someone else while video chatting with you. I personally wouldn’t contact her unless she puts forth the effort to contact you, and expresses genuine interest in getting to know you. Take care friend
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: TheMilkMan84]
#25000936 - 02/17/18 10:10 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thanks for the wonderful, complex response my friend Greatly appreciated. I feel like I'm slightly detaching from her emotionally these last 2 days maybe. Getting my mind more "level", in a sense. I'll just wait and see.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas]
#25000949 - 02/17/18 10:14 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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It's not good if a woman or anyone gets you rattled and unbalanced. That's how hustles work. Even if it is a good hustle, but are there good hustles?
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Morel Guy] 1
#25000968 - 02/17/18 10:22 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Should have asked to meet up at a bar got her drunk and smashed that ass like the hulk
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas]
#25001053 - 02/17/18 10:56 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't have any really sage advice but this sounds a lot like me in the past, investing too much too early. Electronic communications make it worse I think.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: basqueshaman] 2
#25001170 - 02/17/18 11:44 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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basqueshaman said: Should have asked to meet up at a bar got her drunk and smashed that ass like the hulk
Because that's what your mom would do?
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas]
#25001191 - 02/17/18 11:52 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just quit hitting her up, nobody can know what pushed her away
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Morel Guy] 2
#25001203 - 02/17/18 11:59 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Morel Guy said:
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basqueshaman said: Should have asked to meet up at a bar got her drunk and smashed that ass like the hulk
Because that's what your mom would do?
If it was my mom she would straight up ask for cash. My mother's a whore, i accept it, its her choice not mine.
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Re: She seemed interested, now won't contact me? [Re: Adas] 2
#25006733 - 02/19/18 09:26 PM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think you chased a little too aggressively and scared away the wildlife
Might have made yourself unappealing by appearing desperate or attached or emotional or whatever the fuck goes through a girls head
She was enamored by the mystery of you after your chance meeting, maybe there was a little fire in her loins aftrr your meeting, but after you both started talking on a more consistent basis it lost intrigue
Anyway, honest advice is get her out of your head during the day and at night trying to fall asleep, and definitely stop jerking off to your fantasy of shoving your cock down her throat as her beautiful doe eyes stare up into yours perfectly with no gag reflex, begging you to come
Go get the next one, maybe in a week or two shell think about you amd hit you up
If not fuck it who cares somebody else has their cock down her throat
Edited by stzacrack (02/19/18 09:27 PM)
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