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MushMaggot
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Still in Love
#24932482 - 01/21/18 09:19 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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Still in love with my ex, we were in a relationship for around 2 and half years she was my first serious love. I broke up with her when I had my first serious bout of depression, I couldn't even manage myself so I thought it was better to part ways then take her down with me. Its been about 4 years since then, she moved away to study roughly an 8 hour drive.
I have been in a couple of relationships since then and also just learned a lot more about my self in general and learned to deal with my depression.
We have had a couple of flings in the 4 years we have been a part and she feels like a soul mate if there is one. The more she matures the stronger connection I feel.
She still lives 8 hours away and I only get to see her when she comes home to visit. she has also confessed that she still loves me.
I dont really know what to do, all my friends and family are situated in my home city and I truly love where I live now. thinking about a long distance relationship but unsure, shes the type of women that I would wait for.
what would you do ?
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Jokeshopbeard
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Get her.
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basqueshaman
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If you want her and she still loves you and wants you back, you should deffinantely let 8 hours of driving keep you apart, i can tell you shes better off without you.
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MushMaggot
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True that was just unsure how to rekindle a relationship with her being away, I guess its time to pay her a visit
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Violet Wizard
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My suggestion would be get over her and find someone new. This relationship has ended and even though she may have confessed some time of emotion toward you it will not fit the sunshine you have in you mind.
The past is the past for a reason. You can say you ended it and it did not end on bad terms but the fact of the matter is 4 years is a significant amount of time. I assure you if you get back with her you will not be going to the past when it was like it was but rather some new future where neither are the person you were 6 years ago when you met.
Been through 2 long term relationships time changes a lot, including people.
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MushMaggot
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thanks for your replies! Yeah I thought about that, she seems like a better person now a lot more mature and all the things that I find attractive are still there.
I guess there is that perceived sunshine but I know there's cloudy days and the stormy days. Im just going to go with the flow if there is a big waterfall ahead thats okay
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myco myco unday
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If you think there is really something special there, try and find out. You don't want to look back 10 years from now and wonder what if. Most likely, it's gone and you are trying to rekindle something that can't happen, but the best way to find out is to try.
If you want to try, go visit her and talk about it. If there is something, go visit every other weekend. Work from that and see where it goes. An 8 hour drive is nothing for the right partner and you could eventually move there and still easily see your family and friends frequently. Don't let 8 hours be the difference.
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Xeny
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Nothing is what it once was buddy, you're trying to recapture those early precious moments when u fall in love with a girl and what not. I know it's hard to accept but you cannot get it back. I'm not saying it's a bad idea to start a new relationship with this girl, just saying it will never be the same again, and it might cheapen the friendship you have with her.
But we all know all to well advice doesnt mean shit for people in love, they don't want to be rational, they wanne 'go with the flow', or 'do what they feel'. Just an excuse to do stuff you know you shouldnt if you ask me.
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Plain
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Re: Still in Love [Re: Xeny] 1
#25017671 - 02/24/18 04:59 AM (6 years, 1 month ago) |
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Follow your heart always!
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