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Barnaby
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God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started.
#24924751 - 01/19/18 12:23 AM (6 years, 29 days ago) |
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For those who have used this service what have your experiences been like and would you recommend it? Went to a bar yesterday and their where women interested. Just mainly wanted to sing. It just seemed like a lot of work and yes, I am a lazy bastard.
Just enjoy good sex from time to time. Human contact instead of a fist fuck to put it from a NIN lyric.
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: Barnaby]
#24924818 - 01/19/18 02:41 AM (6 years, 29 days ago) |
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Fukin tinder, and tinderallas and tinderfellas.
Needs an app called coffee, where you just meet for coffee and see where shit goes, yknow like the old days where you fuck on the second date and whatnot instead of meeting them in their bed with your pants around your ankles.
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koraks
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#24924927 - 01/19/18 06:03 AM (6 years, 29 days ago) |
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Tinder works, but it's not magic. I've done the Tinder thing for a few months last year. Hooked up with a few ladies and talked to a couple of handful of women without meeting them. A lot depends on your profile and particularly your pictures. As a guy, be prepared to swype quite a lot of profiles to get a few matches. Obviously, less attractive looking women are easier to match. In my experience, the women in my area and around my age are about 50/50 looking for a fling or something serious. They're not always clear on their expectations and they probably often aren't sure about it anyways; they just see what comes their way. I find people on Tinder to be less committed to the dating game than on other platforms; interactions are more in an off-hand way, although I've had a few nice conversations and meetups nonetheless.
Overall can I recommend it? Sure, why not. It's a legitimate way of finding a hookup, a date or a partner.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: koraks]
#24925066 - 01/19/18 08:18 AM (6 years, 29 days ago) |
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What platforms do you prefer koraks?
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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koraks
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 2
#24925273 - 01/19/18 10:08 AM (6 years, 29 days ago) |
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I personally have a preference for FetLife, but it's obviously not for everyone. Also, it's not a dating site, although many people do use it for this purpose. I have met quite a few very nice people through that site, for dating and otherwise.
In the past, OKCupid used to be quite alright as well, but I'm not sure how well it works today now that many of the more valuable options have been removed or made paid-only (see who visited/likes you etc.) Like FetLife, it allows for much more profundity than most dating sites.
The advantage of both FetLife and OKCupid from my perspective is that the demographic matches my interests. Lots of kinky and openminded people. FetLife puts the emphasis on kink and I found that people there are very openminded when it comes to alternative relationship arrangements (various degrees of openness etc.), while on OKCupid people (around here at least) tend to be quite openminded in a more intellectual sense. The demographics overlap considerably, btw.
Tinder isn't too bad if you prefer not to spell out too much in a profile and/or are just looking for a hookup. With a few good pictures you can be on your way in a few minutes.
I've had a bit of experience with a few local dating sites around here as well, but I found most people on there a tad...well, boring, really. I haven't tried Plenty of Fish or Happn. I did give Whiplr a spin, but I think there are only men on there; the number of women in a 100 mile radius from me was like 5 or so 
In general, whatever platform you use, keep in mind that the men:women ratio varies from, say, 5:1 to 50:1 depending on the platform. You have to stand out as a guy to be successful. However, with some decent social skills and a few good pictures, it's not that hard to stand out. You'd be amazed how many guys are dimwitted, don't get the concept of a decent photograph and/or lack any conversation skills.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: koraks]
#24925385 - 01/19/18 10:55 AM (6 years, 29 days ago) |
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koraks said: You'd be amazed how many guys are dimwitted, don't get the concept of a decent photograph and/or lack any conversation skills.
LOL. I'm actually really not (anymore). The subject matter of this subforum is one of my favourite topics in real life too, and having discussed the topic at length with many women, I've come to realise exactly what you say above; most men, it seems, utterly fail when it comes to intimate relationships with women, both sexually and emotionally.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Barnaby
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#24927173 - 01/20/18 01:29 AM (6 years, 28 days ago) |
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You can put women in the same boat. Actually I have found that it is better, in a week and a half to sing karoke and dance and have sex then Tinder. It bores me and to me is a waste of time when women can see you more for who you are and not just a picture/s and having sex.
If you can sing and dance you are golden. Just takes some effort. It's not an escort service which is a huge waste of money and time.
Some music, this is bringing me down. Let's go on a journey, a journey throughout time and experience. Life is fun and so is sex. The clock is wise.
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24927682 - 01/20/18 10:13 AM (6 years, 28 days ago) |
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Anonymous #1 said: Fukin tinder, and tinderallas and tinderfellas.
Needs an app called coffee, where you just meet for coffee and see where shit goes, yknow like the old days where you fuck on the second date and whatnot instead of meeting them in their bed with your pants around your ankles.
Hell yeah!! I fucking second this shit!
Match.com and eharmony.com are too complex! But Tinder is just like click meet fuck. They need an in between app just like the good old days where you go meet up have coffee and just like you said see where it goes maybe the next day you fuck maybe not ever maybe not for a month you just see where it goes. What happened to all the old school times? good old days
It sucks now. Make that shit. Make coffee.com and I will use that shit
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chibiabos
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#24929373 - 01/20/18 02:42 PM (6 years, 28 days ago) |
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There's already an app like that. It's called IRL.
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triphead9428
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: chibiabos]
#24930269 - 01/20/18 09:23 PM (6 years, 27 days ago) |
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I've given up on Tinder. Most over-hyped app I've ever seen. I've had 40 matches so far and am no closer to getting a single date from it. I have much more success in real life than Tinder because its so hard to establish a connection on there.
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Kryptos
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Re: God, why are there so many anon's about sexuality? Tinder, just started. [Re: triphead9428] 2
#24930327 - 01/20/18 10:00 PM (6 years, 27 days ago) |
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triphead9428 said: I've given up on Tinder. Most over-hyped app I've ever seen. I've had 40 matches so far and am no closer to getting a single date from it. I have much more success in real life than Tinder because its so hard to establish a connection on there.
Tinder requires you to be methodical, almost salesman-like. It really brings out the numbers game of dating. For a long time I treated it like Real Life (tm), by swiping on girls I was interested in, by reading profiles, by trying to tailor my openers, all that. I never got farther than 2-3 messages.
So I made a few changes.
1) I no longer think, I swipe right. Literally just open the app, and pretend you're making it rain. The goal is maximizing matches, you can choose who you message later. 2) I no longer bother reading profiles. I have a single opener that I use on everyone, and I repeat the same 7 corny jokes in the same order for everyone. Only I know it's the same jokes, and the repetition makes delivering the jokes much easier. Most of the time, their answer doesn't even matter. Just trust the jokes. 3) After repeating my seven jokes, I usually stop responding until the next day, where I blame tinder for losing messages or not giving me alerts or something and ask for their number.
After switching to this system, I got more numbers in a week than I had in my previous two years on tinder. (Which admittedly isn't much, compared to my more conventionally attractive and people-skills-having guy friends, but is quite a bit above the average of all the guys I hang out with)
As far as openers and jokes go, that's up to you. Personally, I use a soft-science play on words for my opener, because (a) it's more accessible than some arcane math/physics/engineering jokes and (b) it's a thinker, so you automatically come off as intelligent. It's also a good gauge on the relative intelligence of the other person, based on their response. Maybe a third of my matches, it sails right over their head, and I usually just ignore them because I like smart girls. As far as jokes go, I started with a list of about 30 that I got from random internet lists, which I whittled down to the seven that seem to get the most favorable response. Some are smart, some are rock-fucking dumb. Make sure you have a spectrum, because sometimes a joke that makes the other person cringe and wonder if you maybe got dropped on your head as a baby can actually work wonders in starting conversation.
The main point of salesman tactics is repetition. Sure, in the movies the "good salesman" is the guy that can with Sherlock Holmes level intuition tailor a perfect pitch to a potential customer, but this isn't movies. The greatest salesmen I've ever met (and worked with, in the past) literally said the same thing word for word to every customer. Repetition breeds confidence, because you're mechanically repeating a well-rehearsed set of phrases. The customer doesn't know this, and just assumes you're a silvertongue. That's the impression you want to give off. Basically, you're becoming the human equivalent of a clickbait "you WON'T BELIEVE what HAPPENS NEXT!" 'article'.
That's the biggest flaw in tinder. It's a glorified game of hot or not, and as a result most people spend about 3 seconds deciding if they'll ever talk to you. Clickbait works here, because of the lost time fallacy that most people keep falling for.
Man, writing that out made me feel slightly dirty. That's what happens when society decides to make eBay but for genitals ubiquitous.
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